How can we tell her parents the "right way" that she is pregnant???
Q. Hi.. my gf is now 6 weeks pregnant, her parents didnt even know i exist... we already want to tell them the situation to ease our burden and Im willing to accept the responsibility... Our problem is.... How to tell her parents? I mean the right ...
A. 13 September 2006: I suggest you go visit them and tell them the whole story. Let them know who you are and how you feel about their daughter. It sounds like you love her and are happy about what's happening (which is wonderful!), so just let them share.
All t... (read in full...)
I dont know what career to select.
Q. hi. i am doing my graduation. but i dont know which career i have to select. i am very good interested in dancing because i know that i can dance better.i also won the prices for that. but this career is not like as per my middle class family ...
A. 12 September 2006: The best advice I've heard for careers is very simple...
"Always try to do what you are best at, and what you enjoy".
In the end, getting fulfilment from your work is the most important thing. If you know you are doing a good job, then the en... (read in full...)
How can I best use my Rampant Rabbit ?
Q. I bought a rampant rabbit vibrator the other day but can't seem to get the hang of it. Could anyone with one offer some advice about how to have an orgasm with this thing?! Thanks...
A. 12 September 2006: Being a man I confess I've not used one! But I just typed "how to use a rabbit vibrator" into Google and found a lot of helpful sounding articles. I suggest you try this and read a few of them.
I have to check one thing though.... you did remember... (read in full...)
It cant maintain an erection and is really upset, we are out of ideas!!!
Q. help. im nearly 20 and my boyfriend has just turned 28. we've been together for 9 months and still havent had sex yet. we get down to doing it it and he cant get a hard on! this is only a resent thing but he's really upset and i've ran out of ideas! ...
A. 12 September 2006: I agree with the comment below. Not being able to get an erection can quickly become a vicious circle... not getting an erection one time creates fear that it will happen again, and that fear then makes it happen again, and so on.
Taking as much ... (read in full...)
It cant maintain an erection and is really upset, we are out of ideas!!!
Q. help. im nearly 20 and my boyfriend has just turned 28. we've been together for 9 months and still havent had sex yet. we get down to doing it it and he cant get a hard on! this is only a resent thing but he's really upset and i've ran out of ideas! ...
A. 12 September 2006: Have you tried viagra? It can work wonders for this kind of thing... (read in full...)
I need advice on anal sex..my bf likes it and I want to do it properly for him.
Q. My bf attempted to give me anal for the first time, but i ran into a few troubles. I know it's meant to hurt at first but we actually had to stop because it was so painful. I know this is really gross but I have what I assume is a skin tag in that ...
A. 11 September 2006: The advisor section in this site is very good for this subject...
http://www.puckerup.com/... (read in full...)
Why does wife's sexual past still bother me after 10 years?
Q. Why does wife's sexual past still bother me after 10 years?...
A. 10 September 2006: Your situation is not unusual. This question comes up here often. I suggest you search back to see some of the previous answers. This thread is one of them:
http:... (read in full...)
I went away and my boyfriend has gotten my mate pregnant!
Q. hi, ive just been on holiday for 2 months to celebrate my mom and dads engagment party. when i came back i found out my best friend was pregnant with my boyfriends baby. they said sorry and my boyfriend said he still loves me and keeps sending me...
A. 10 September 2006: DrPsych is right. An essential ingredient of friendship is trust. These two people are not trustworthy. I think the two of them deserve each other. And you deserve much much better. ... (read in full...)
I dont like the way he checks out other girls!
Q. I can't help but notice my b/f noticing other girls--especially when driving---i understand guys will look..i really get that..girls look too..but i really don't do it that much or at all if with him. Glancing with eyes is ok i guess--i cant expect ...
A. 9 September 2006: Almost all men look, but at different times and in different circumstances.
Will I sometimes look at a woman when I'm walking down the street alone? Yes. But will I do it when I am out with my girlfriend? Very rarely, and never blatantly.
You ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to use this guy to make babies? Trapping him as a father?
Q. I am a confident, intelligent, and independent 21 year old woman. I work full time, i am also a part-time university student (finishing my degree in 6 months). I own my own car and have recently moved out of my parents house and have had no troub...
A. 9 September 2006: Wrong, very wrong. To mislead someone over so significant a matter is utterly un-justifiable.
You need to think about why you have your 'dislike for monogamous relationships'. Your future children deserve a family, a father, and to provide ... (read in full...)
Is there somebody for everybody? I'm 36 and never had anyone to call my partner. What's wrong?
Q. Is there somebody for everybody? Or is this just a fairy tale? What's wrong with me? I've kissed my share of frogs but no one turned into a prince. They all remained amphibians, happily jumping around in the mad. All my friends are married with...
A. 9 September 2006: Think about who you are meeting and how you are meeting them. Whilst you can just be having bad luck, to a certain degree I believe we make our own luck. ... (read in full...)
I s sex on the first night wrong?
Q. i just wanted to know everyones opinion... do you think sex on the first night is wrong?? ive been talking to alot of people about this and everyone has mixed views, I'm not sure what exactly guys look for? do they all look for a quick shag on the ...
A. 9 September 2006: There is no absolute right or wrong when it comes to this.
Personally I don't like it or do it, really because I think you have no idea who you are having sex with... you've only just met them. That would make sex on a first date with someone ... (read in full...)
Can you really be in love with two people at the same time?
Q. Is it truly possible to be in love with two people at the same time? or is that just something people say when they're afraid to admit how they truly feel, or are scared to say they don't love their partner anymore? I always thought that it wasn't ...
A. 7 September 2006: Perhaps another way of putting it is to say that you can temporarily love two people, but that it is an unstable situation, and cannot last. That you (or your emotions) will have to decide one way or the other. It's not sustainable.
I was 'in love... (read in full...)
I've been internet dating, I met a guy that I've dated for a while but im not attracted to him, how can I tell him ?
Q. i have a bit of a problem,ive been single for about 10 months now,and started internet dating.met a few guys,but one of them who lives quite near to me,wants more than i want from the friendship,we get on great and i think alot of him,but im just ...
A. 7 September 2006: I'm going to tell you what you don't want to hear.
The best way to tell him is directly, face to face. Be honest. Tell him the truth. If you know why, tell him why you aren't attracted to him. Don't be mean or make it critical, but he can benefit ... (read in full...)
How can you have friends that are girls without getting grief from your wife/girlfriend ?
Q. Hi, Here is a good question. If you're a guy and like me, you tend to get along with girls as friends. How can you have them as friends without getting into grief with your wife/girlfriend over it. Seems impossible to me. Sure I know yo...
A. 7 September 2006: Yes it is possible. But your relationship needs to be secure enough, and you need to have established strong trust between you and your partner. If your girlfriend or wife is giving you a hard time about your female friends, then that is a sign that ... (read in full...)
Can you really be in love with two people at the same time?
Q. Is it truly possible to be in love with two people at the same time? or is that just something people say when they're afraid to admit how they truly feel, or are scared to say they don't love their partner anymore? I always thought that it wasn't ...
A. 7 September 2006: I don't think its possible. At least not in a true sexual partner love way. I see an aspect love as the desire to be in a deep connected relationship, the kind that you can only maintain one of at any time.
It's possible to have a crush on more ... (read in full...)
He says he doesnt trust me, and hes really insecure, hes making my life a misery but I dont want him to dump me! Please help!
Q. Sorry if this is long.....I have been dating my bf for almost a year, we are very serious, and seem to be madly in love, however he is very insecure and has jealous rages and we always argue. I go to university and im 20 and he works and hes 25...
A. 7 September 2006: A few things about jealousy...
- It is irrational. Who you are has nothing to do with this, it is all about him. It is likely some sexual / relationship insecurity. Do not feel that you have done something wrong, do not feel it is your fault. A... (read in full...)
I'm torn between 3 guys!
Q. I'm torn between 3 guys!!!!! guy # 1: this really perverted but nice guy that goes to my school, we went out once last year....but it didnt really work out, but this time he really actually seems to like me more! and hes actiucaly putting effort i...
A. 7 September 2006: Seems like Finchy is recommending the guy that's the least perverted!
I have to say the use of that word in all 3 descriptions is interesting. You neglected to say whether you see 'perverted' as a good or a bad thing. But you give the impressi... (read in full...)
Can someone try and help sort through this mess in my head.. Im scared of making the wrong choice with the wrong guy!! (very long)
Q. Hi, First of all I am just warning you that this could possibly be the longest letter you have ever received but I wanted to tell you every little thing so you have the perfect picture. I was hoping you could help me make a decision as I ca...
A. 7 September 2006: Best thing you can do is see no men for a while. You need to learn to be happy and feel complete when single. The trick to being able to hold down a relationship with someone else is to be able to hold down a good relationship with yourself first. ... (read in full...)
I'm torn between 3 guys!
Q. I'm torn between 3 guys!!!!! guy # 1: this really perverted but nice guy that goes to my school, we went out once last year....but it didnt really work out, but this time he really actually seems to like me more! and hes actiucaly putting effort i...
A. 7 September 2006: Now all you need is a 3-sided coint to toss...
It sounds to me like you might enjoy having these men fight over you more than actually having just one of them? Maybe if you wait longer you might have 4 men chasing you? I wonder what the World re... (read in full...)
Im hesistant to have sex as hes a big guy, how can I bring up this topic ?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a little over a year now. We have talked about sex and different precautions, but I am still hesitant because I am a virgin and he is not a small guy(6'4" and everything is proportional). How do I bring up the topic ...
A. 6 September 2006: Everything isn't proportional. Don't know where you got that idea from.
I suggest you just express your fears to him. He'll understand and be gentle. By sharing your feelings with him you'll bring the two of you closer, as well as help you feel... (read in full...)
I have a bit of a problem with my penis, Im worried it will cause probs in my relationship...
Q. This is quite embarrassing for me. But i'm getting increasingly worried and anxious about it. I'm 16, I have been going out with my girlfriend for 11months nearly. Our relationship is great, and things are great as they are, but we have yet to ...
A. 6 September 2006: Your foreskin should be able to be pulled back to expose the head of your penis. The foreskin is very stretchy, it may feel tight but you can pull it back. If you find you really can't do it, you should see your doctor. There are various reasons why ... (read in full...)
Im all confused, I confessed how I feel and he was cool with it, hes like we are more than mates, but insists im just mates material!
Q. Help! Im in a dialema, I have met a wonderful guy about two months and have been speaking to him everyday since, we meet up at least twice a week and have loads in common an get on amazingly. Thing is he only wants us to be friends, after being ...
A. 6 September 2006: One recommendation: don't have sex with him. It's important that if you do want a relationship with him, you get it on your terms. That doesn't mean having sex with him in the hope that he'll fall for you, and find out nothing has changed other than ... (read in full...)
How do you compliment guys, looks-wise?
Q. This is going to sound like such a stupid question, oy. How are you supposed to compliment guys, as far as looks go? When a guy says you are beautiful or gorgeous, what do you say back besides "Oh, thanks." ? I always feel stupid saying "Thank...
A. 6 September 2006: Look like an orange and white fish? But I am one. On the internet, no one knows you're a fish...
The romantic compliment that I have received that was the most significant to me was that I made someone feel 'safe'. Doesn't sound like much maybe, b... (read in full...)
I'm 17 - she's 15. Illegal?
Q. Hi, I was wondering what is classed as ilegal in the UK with an under 16 year old??? I'm 17 and she is 15! we are really love each other and want to get more physical but don't want to break the law! Please can you tell us what is ok? THANKS....
A. 6 September 2006: Breaking the law is a highly subjective thing. For example:
- In Nazi Germany it was illegal to protect a Jew. However, I think we all can agree that breaking the law in this case would have been a good thing. Hence, it cannot always be said tha... (read in full...)
How do you compliment guys, looks-wise?
Q. This is going to sound like such a stupid question, oy. How are you supposed to compliment guys, as far as looks go? When a guy says you are beautiful or gorgeous, what do you say back besides "Oh, thanks." ? I always feel stupid saying "Thank...
A. 6 September 2006: Just don't use the word 'hot'. That word is soooo over-used at the moment! Besides, it's the sort of thing Paris Hilton would say, and if you want to sound like her you might as well just go jump of the nearest bridge ;) Hot is a good way to ... (read in full...)
Strippers, porn...what's wrong with women saying that we will not accept this rubbish in our relationships?
Q. I just read a post about a woman who was upset her partner is going to a strip show...I was appalled to see the advice that'''oh you should trust him' 'all men do it etc' To me this womens feelings are completely justified and she is demonstr...
A. 5 September 2006: I have read Pornified too. It's an eye-opening book. I'd recommend it as a present to any man you want to wean off porn.
I think that as a man the key to stopping porn is to understand the damage it is doing to you. Not to your partner or your rel... (read in full...)
Strippers, porn...what's wrong with women saying that we will not accept this rubbish in our relationships?
Q. I just read a post about a woman who was upset her partner is going to a strip show...I was appalled to see the advice that'''oh you should trust him' 'all men do it etc' To me this womens feelings are completely justified and she is demonstr...
A. 5 September 2006: I don't see porn viewing as related to 'difference in sex drive'.
My experience has been that when a couple is in touch with each other, then sex happens just fine. When a couple is not relating well, then one or the other (or both) start to... (read in full...)
Do all girls in the end cheat, and can I really trust them ?
Q. before i start propperly My friend has just got out of a 3 year relationship and before that he was in a two year relationship with another girl - and he is 21. Anyway last nite i was talking to him and he said to me that all girls want sex as much ...
A. 2 September 2006: I'm pleased to tell you that your friend is wrong. A sample of two girls is not enough to draw conclusions about half of the human race (fortunately).
You are onto a good thing by the way, the wanting to have sex only with someone you care abo... (read in full...)
We ended our physical relationship, we live together, still love each other, how can we date others when there is this connection ?
Q. Living together after a 9 year relationship breakup - HELP!! This is a followup question to a previous discussion because my partner and I did decide to officially break up after a 9 year relationship. We still love each other dearly, but as best ...
A. 1 September 2006: Simple answer: you can't!
How will your future date feel about being with someone who still lives with their ex, and remains together in harmony with them, and emotionally connected? Anyone with a shred of self esteem will stay away. And rightly ... (read in full...)
What is the average penis size?
Q. what is the average penis size?...
A. 1 September 2006: The comment below sums up pretty much all the common misconceptions men have about penis size in one short post. Quite impressive sir!
"It just seems to me that if something is bigger and thicker then it must feel better?"
Why? That is the ment... (read in full...)
What nicknames do guys like to be called?
Q. What nicknames do guys like to be called? Girls get called names like babe and sexy etc. But what do guys like to be called? Thanks...
A. 1 September 2006: Main thing in my opinion is make it unique. A special person deserves a unique name.
I could tell you what my gf call me, but then I'd have to kill you... (read in full...)
What is the average penis size?
Q. what is the average penis size?...
A. 1 September 2006: Well there's lots of research done on this.
Most of the surveys are done by men measuring themselves. The average comes out around 6 inches.
However, the more reliable ones are done by researchers doing the measuring. Funnily enough, the aver... (read in full...)
How do you cope when you see someone your partner has slept with before? This is really bothering me. Help
Q. How do you cope when you see someone your partner has slept with before? I see them all the time, as there are lot's of girls my boyfriend has had one night stands with, and it kills me. I cause trouble with him or just ignore him after I've seen ...
A. 1 September 2006: This question comes up very frequently here. So know that you are not alone! Also know that the advice 'just get over it, the past is the past' doesn't seem to do it for them either. This is the longest set of responses, you might find some ... (read in full...)
When I try and contact him the phone cuts off.....
Q. I am going with a guy who is 21 i am 22 i have not heard from him for nearly three weeks and when i try to phone him it cuts off please tell me what to do as im really worried about him ...
A. 31 August 2006: If you are calling a land line and it cuts off whilst ringing then try another way of getting in touch. He may just have not paid his phone bill.
But if it stops ringing before being cut off, or if you are calling a mobile, then he's probably... (read in full...)
Worried about his sexual past and think I should end the relationship.....
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now but I think the time may have come to end it. He is a wonderful boyfriend and would do anything for me, only problem is his past. He's slept with so many women, all one night stands, and I often have to see ...
A. 31 August 2006: I could have written your post, other than a few minor differences. I too have been together with my girlfriend one year, and am struggling with the same thing. I'm 33 so I guess I can tell you it doesn't get any easier as you get older :( It hasn't ... (read in full...)
I tried dating and sleeping with other guys to get over my ex bf...nothing works! Help me!
Q. I cant get over my ex boyfriend, i tried dating other guys, sleeping with other guys, going out every weekend but its not working he is in my head everyday everynight. I took peoples advice and tried to move on as he obviously is as he wasnt ...
A. 31 August 2006: What Pete said! Please take the time to read and understand what he is trying to say.... (read in full...)
I tried dating and sleeping with other guys to get over my ex bf...nothing works! Help me!
Q. I cant get over my ex boyfriend, i tried dating other guys, sleeping with other guys, going out every weekend but its not working he is in my head everyday everynight. I took peoples advice and tried to move on as he obviously is as he wasnt ...
A. 31 August 2006: Sleeping with other guys is a good way to not fix your problem. Not only are you not giving those guys a fair chance if they happen to want a relationship with you (some just might...) since you are in rebound mode, but you're just hitting yourself ... (read in full...)
Things are not the same since I cheated, I really regret it, I love her!
Q. I cheated on my girlfriend a good while ago and I am very sorry. I was going to tell her but I couldnt get up the courage. Eventually one of her friends told her. She didnt talk to me for a while but after a while she gave me one more chance things ...
A. 31 August 2006: Demonstrate every day that you love her and care about her. Be open and honest about your feeling towards her. Nurture and support her. Be a safe place for her. Be real.
If you do all these things then gradually her trust will return. But show her... (read in full...)
He's going to see strippers at a bachelor's party and just the thought of it, is making me lose my mind! Help!
Q. My boyfriend has been invited to a bachelor party this weekend. He said that everyone swore up and down to him that there wouldn't be any females there. His sister just said today that there will be strippers. I can not handle even just the thought ...
A. 31 August 2006: You need to let him go.
You need to get over it.
You need to trust him.
If you insist he doesn't go, you will be showing that you don't trust him.
If he feels that you don't trust him, he will trust you less.
If he trusts you less y... (read in full...)
I'm a 23 year old virgin with a 5.5 inch penis. I feel shy about having sex...help!
Q. i am 23 old virgin and i have 5.5 inch penis .should i feel shy from having sex ? i feel shy :(...
A. 31 August 2006: Men are to penis size like women are to body size.
Men always think their cocks are too small.
Women always think that their bodies are too fat (or too thin, or too something)
Hence telling a man his cock is too small is like telling a ... (read in full...)
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