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I came to this site in desperate need of relationship advice and found myself wanting to help others whenever i can.
People may think im young, but im mature. Family issues have taught me to be dependant on myself and mature quicker then other people around me.
I have learnt from past experiences with men and made many mistakes im only just learning about now. I have lived with low self esteem and no self confidence due to the way i was raised and how my parents treated us but i have now learned to depend on myself and be confident and love the person i am. |
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I'm too shallow to overcome her sexual past
Q. My girlfriend of 9 months has slept with lots of partners and i am finding it hard getting over it. I am 20 and she is 18. She has slept with 9 people before me. Her first was when she was 14, she's slept with someone who was 21 when she was 15,...
A. 2 August 2010: My boyfriend was the same as you are now.. He thought about my past every day and blamed me for it. I could acknowledge i had done stupid things in my past but there was a reason for it and i had grown from it.
The most important thing you say ... (read in full...)
Does she deserve another chance?
Q. This might take abit long. Me and my girl have been dating for year and a half, and she recently started a new job 3 months ago. But the past week shes been acting a bit strange. She was suddenly dressing up for work. Few days ago she had a ...
A. 23 June 2010: how long have you been treating her like this? Knocking drinks out of her hands, throwing her bag pushing her, are you serious? Im sure this isnt the first time. Yes, what she did was wrong but you need to control yourself. Yes, you have the right ... (read in full...)
Confused and conflicted because I want someone that's off limits!
Q. Hi there. I have this *little* conundrum. There's a guy I work with who I've known for about 2 years or so. I haven't liked him for the whole time I've known of him, but in the past three months or so I've found myself attracted to him more than...
A. 19 April 2010: focussing on the fact that he has a child on the way and a partner should change your feelings for him, if you continue to focus on the things you like about him you will just keep liking him. if he continues then just tell him you want him to ... (read in full...)
Been lying to everyone I care about my job
Q. I've been lying to everyone about what I do for work. Not where I work but my position. I've told everyone my position is slightly above what it is. It's my first full time job out of uni and it's really down the bottom of the barrell and I th...
A. 19 April 2010: you have to tell your boyfriend for sure. no one expects to have a high level job straight out of uni! thats the whole point, you get experience in the industry and then work your way up.
im sure people will be understanding if you just tell the... (read in full...)
He's going to visit a nude beach -- should I be worried?
Q. I have a friend I've been involved with for 3 years. He told me not too long ago that he and some of his boys are going on vacation in Jamaica, and that he plans on going to the nude beach there. The way he was talking about it he's been wanting ...
A. 19 April 2010: i have to say i would not like this either... voice your opinion to him about it, but don't tell him he cant go, the decision will be up to him no matter what. if he is decent enough and you tell him it will really bother you then he should ... (read in full...)
Confused and conflicted because I want someone that's off limits!
Q. Hi there. I have this *little* conundrum. There's a guy I work with who I've known for about 2 years or so. I haven't liked him for the whole time I've known of him, but in the past three months or so I've found myself attracted to him more than...
A. 19 April 2010: And if they break up, they will still have the baby. the child is never going anywhere. so this man would never truly be yours anyway, and you would always come second. i know this because my boyfriend has a daughter. i would not wish it on anyone ... (read in full...)
My fantasies, wont somebody support it?
Q. I have lot of fantasies, many wild fantasies, but I enjoy it. I tell this to my wife too and she does not complain. Some of my fantasies involve me with some of my close female relatives. Having a threesome or foursome including me and my wife wit...
A. 17 April 2010: honestly, i would be disgusted if my husband was having sexual thoughts about relatives. ... (read in full...)
Do guys get erections over any girl, ... or just ones they like?
Q. Hey there, Just wondering, when I've kissed boys they've all got erections afterwards. Do guys get erections with any girls or just ones they like???...
A. 17 April 2010: they don't necessarily have to "like" the girl. they will find the girl attractive sexually yes. and not necessarily just looks, maybe they have an attractive personality. ... (read in full...)
If I didn't know she was married at the time I flirted with her and felt her up, could that get her thrown in jail on an account of prostitution?
Q. Last March, a 21-year-old girl I met let me come down to come see her. She was my girlfriend, and this was the first time I was meeting her in person. However, I broke up with her a week after we met because she was teasing me and all of that and it ...
A. 17 April 2010: are you kidding? she did not have sex with you and you did not pay her so how is that prostitution? no you definitely cannot get her put in jail cos she flirted with you when she had a husband.
don't you mean adultery?
why would you want t... (read in full...)
Friend is complaining about the hair style I gave her
Q. Hi, I don't know if anyone will respond to my post but I just feel so angry! Back in January a girl I used to work with asked me to cut her hair (I had qualified in July as a level 2 in hairdressing ). Now I had cut her hair once before and she...
A. 15 April 2010: people will always blame the hairdresser if the style doesn't suit her. dont worry about it, the style may have no looked good on her but you did what she wanted!... (read in full...)
I confronted him about another girl and he spat on me and shoved me down the stairs. How do I move on from this?
Q. I am not sure how to get over this so im asking for everyones opinion. I just recently broke up with my ex saturday because I confronted him about texting this girl and deleting messages from her. he got all pissed off kicked me out of his house ...
A. 15 April 2010: Oh no honey this sounds terrible :-(
i'm sorry you didn't get away from that loser earlier! its going to take time to move on, you were together for a long time. just make sure you remember the horrible things he did to you, don't look back on ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wont speak to me over a facebook message from I guy I don't even know.
Q. My boyfriend has fallen out with me cos last week (friday) on facebook a lad i had never talked to before he just sed it was a random add. he sent me a facebook chat message saying "you look F*****G amazing you Gorgeous babe" my boyfriend was stood ...
A. 15 April 2010: did you reply to the guy who said that? would you be pissed if a girl said that to your bf? i think he is overreacting and taking this way out of hand. if you didn't flirt with the guy then you haven't done anything wrong.
did you delete this guy... (read in full...)
We have not met yet so would it be unreasonable to ask him to remove other girls from his facebook?
Q. a guy i've been talking to thru internet and texting for a month says he loves me and wants to meet me so we r meeting in a few wks. i know he is who he sez he is cos met him thru a friend. on hif facebook. he has 500 friends. i'd say he knew bout ...
A. 15 April 2010: you are another one of those 450 girls. you haven't even met so yes you are another one of those randoms on his list.
sigh, he does not love you. how can you love someone you have not met? and known for a month? sorry not true.
and yes it wo... (read in full...)
This is the last thing I want...but I feel jealous of his 3 year old daughter!
Q. I NEED HELP!!!! Seriously!! ok, im 21, and my bf is 23 Ok im gonna try n not make this too long.. But My situaton, me and my fiance are getting married next year, and we currently just got house together and its me, him and his 3 year old daughter...
A. 14 April 2010: i think you are handling this really well and dont feel too bad about the jealousy because its natural you want to have him to yourself. Congrats on the engagement! Hope you have seriously thought it through because you still seem to have doubts. ... (read in full...)
Why do men turn to protitutes?
Q. this may sound like a random question, but why do alot of men visit prostitutes? most of them are dirty crack addicts who are really ugly and are tramps, and why would men want to do that if they have a pretty girl at home who is willing to do ...
A. 7 April 2010: it is pathetic to have to pay for sex. there is no excuses for it. even if you have had no sexual contact with a female, why on earth would you want your first experience of sex to be with someone who does it over and over again each day with ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend makes fun of my boobs
Q. My boyfriend has this obsession with boobs. He is constantly grabbing mine. In the beginning, when we were first dating.. he grabbed mine and said "These are D cups". He claimed to be an "expert" in boobs. The last woman he was with before me ...
A. 7 April 2010: he has a problem with a c cup? are you kidding! thats not little, its normal.
he is probably hoping you will give in and want implants too like his exes.
this guy sounds like an arrogant jerk honestly. does he have a six pack, ripped arm... (read in full...)
Will I regret losing the chance to get back with my ex?
Q. Before I start, please don't judge me too harshly. I love my boyfriend more than anything, and I cannot imagine my life without him. I want to spend the rest of my life with him and I would never leave him. The only thing is he was my first time, ...
A. 6 April 2010: well good your taking advice on board.
its ok to fantasize, and thats normal seeing as though you have only been with your boyfriend, but make sure you keep it at just a fantasy.
you would regret doing anything with the ex and definitely feel ... (read in full...)
Why do men turn to protitutes?
Q. this may sound like a random question, but why do alot of men visit prostitutes? most of them are dirty crack addicts who are really ugly and are tramps, and why would men want to do that if they have a pretty girl at home who is willing to do ...
A. 6 April 2010: i don't know the sings but why - they are pathetic. pretty simple really. they are losers, and really they are worse then the prostitutes themselves because they are the ones paying.... (read in full...)
Will I regret losing the chance to get back with my ex?
Q. Before I start, please don't judge me too harshly. I love my boyfriend more than anything, and I cannot imagine my life without him. I want to spend the rest of my life with him and I would never leave him. The only thing is he was my first time, ...
A. 6 April 2010: if you want to be with your current boyfriend, you have to cut all ties to the ex, not even have a friendship. this is so unfair on your boyfriend, he is doing nothing wrong and you are behind his back rekindling with your ex?
if you can't cu... (read in full...)
Should I tell him that she cheated?
Q. I am in the trickest, most childish situation i have been in, in a long time. Im 19 years old and ive been best friends with two girls for a very long time. One is a childhood friend and has been there since birth, and the other i met in highschoo...
A. 6 April 2010: rather then going to the boyfriend, i think you should go to the girl.
don't betray your boyfriend over this, in the end it has nothing to do with you.
if she is a real best friend, she would come to you for advice anyway.
don't feel bad,... (read in full...)
I need him back! I felt pressure and lied to him...
Q. hello im alex, my boyfriend was looking through my phone and saw a picture of an old guy in my saved recieved pictures. he asked why i saved it and i said that my pictures automatically save, he knew that they dont though. he hates lying but i felt ...
A. 29 March 2010: im confused.. there was a picture in your received pictures on your phone of an old guy? do you mean an old lover or an actual age old guy?
what difference would it make if you saved it or not? it was still in there. why did you say they automati... (read in full...)
I gave my guy friend some relationship advice and now my boyfriend thinks I'm cheating on him
Q. ok i really love this guy and hes my boyfriend but then a couple of days ago i talked to another guy and he told me about his relationship problems and gave him advice and he is only a friend that i gave advice to and my boyfriend doesn't believe ...
A. 29 March 2010: what? you are supposed to meet for the very first time?
you are 13-15, you have never met him
you don't love him.... (read in full...)
What can be done about my hair?
Q. Ok, this isn't a relationship question but I'm so upset that I can't stand it. I'm upset about my hair, that I'm just crying my heart to pieces as I write this. I'm in tears because I'm so miserable and I need help. It looks shit ugly and I'...
A. 29 March 2010: get a new job! if you hate it so much why stay?
maybe teaching isn't for you!
at least you have a qualification, honestly you really need a new one if you cant even afford clothes.
you cant stuff your hair much by doing it yourself.. what... (read in full...)
Is he not texting me first anymore because he wants to see if I'm interested enough to start the conversation?
Q. A few weeks ago, I went away to visit a friend and I met a guy. He lives about an hour and a half away from me, but we hit it off really well. We ended up just walking around and talking for the whole time I was there, and it was awesome. There were ...
A. 17 March 2010: Maybe you should try calling.. texting is very impersonal and can easily be misunderstood. maybe he is seeing if you are serious or not. just call him.. if you text then you have to worry about replies etc and it is so annoying texting someone ... (read in full...)
Didn't want to appear clingy, which backfired
Q. So me and this girl are getting rather serious. Today she asked the question "If i kissed another guy would you be jealous" I didn't know what to say. So i decided to say "No i wouldn't mind" because I didn't want to appear clingy. But now she is ...
A. 17 March 2010: would you have been jealous?
don't play games! if you would have you should have said "yes i would be jealous.. i don't want to be with other people and wouldn't want you either"
Just tell her straight up now, i said that because i didn't... (read in full...)
Loose? Or control issues?
Q. Ok...I have visited this site on several occassions with the same dilemma...my boyfriend complains about sex with me. He says that my vagina and anus are loose and I do not feel the same way I did when he met me one year ago. The anus I can ...
A. 17 March 2010: He is extremely insecure.. saying you are cheating because you are not how you were at the beginning but he wants sex all the time?
He has no right to call you a slut, he is saying you used to be tighter - shouldn't that make him feel good? th... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong here or is this due to his insecurities?
Q. My boyfriend is very insecure.. we are fighting at the moment because i went to my brothers place for dinner and he said to me "you were probably out with some guy having a quicky" i thought this was disrespectful and said to him i dont want to a...
A. 12 March 2010: Thanks for the replies.. we have been together for over 2 years, he is in therapy but i dont see it changing, well if it is it is changing very slowly..
we just talked about it over and over again for 2 hours and he maintains that i am doing ev... (read in full...)
Had sex with my step brother then he got mad when he found out I was a virgin!
Q. Ok I am not here so people can say rude things I am just need a little advice form OPEN MINDED people. My step brother is 10 yrs older then me. (We have the same dad). I am 18 and he is 28. He recently moved back home because him and his gf broke up...
A. 11 March 2010: He is probably feeling bad that now when people ask you who did you lose your virginity to you will be saying "my brother"
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My wife wasn't honest about her sexual past and now I hate her
Q. Hi, I and my wife came in contact 5 years ago. At that time she had a boyfriend. It was a strange relationship; we both got attracted towards each other. In the beginning she was treating me only as a friend. Finally she broke up with that boy and ...
A. 11 March 2010: I have been through this with my partner.. i felt at times like i needed to with hold things from him because of the way he handled things. he scared me and would emotionally abuse me when ever he found out about my past.
i didn't keep things f... (read in full...)
Uncomfortable about going to a strip club with my boyfriend
Q. Tonight my boyfriends roommate texted me asking if I wanted to go a strip club with them and a few of their friends. He said my boyfriend wouldn't go unless I went too. It was already too late for me, so I said no, but he still wants all of us to ...
A. 11 March 2010: I agree with Fatherly Advice and Yos on this one. his friends are pushy and arrogant. They want your boyfriend to be immature like they are, they want to push him to go, if you have told your boyfriend he can go without you and he said no, he must ... (read in full...)
I hate the idea that my girlfriend was using birth control with her ex, I wish she had used condoms with all of her ex's!
Q. Hi. I need some good advice on how to deal with my own thoughts. Last night my fiancé asked me what kind of protection I would use before with my ex girlfriends. I told her I always used condoms. Right now my fiancé is on birth control. So she is ...
A. 11 March 2010: It was her boyfriend.. it would be different if it was some random guy but she obviously thought he was worth it.
Word of advice - don't ask her anymore about it. DONT ask how many times, where etc trust me my boyfriend is EXACTLY the same as ... (read in full...)
How do I feel better about myself and stop thinking about my ex's new girlfriend?
Q. How do I feel better about myself? I get really depressed when I think of my ex's girlfriend. I feel I'm terrible, worthless. I am so depressed! Please tell me what to do?...
A. 11 March 2010: well first, don't stalk their social networking sites. EVER, you will just obsess over it. Don't contact him. Go out with friends, spend some time round people who have a positive impact on you.
Enjoy being free to do the things you love doing. Y... (read in full...)
He's not my type but already I'm crazy about him! Should any of this really matter?
Q. I've been talking to a guy in my city for a long time now, we know the same but we've never actually hung out before. He asked me the other day if I wanted to go see a movie and I said yeah. My best friend told me that he's NOT my type so I ...
A. 11 March 2010: no it should not matter. who is your friend to try and tell you who you should and not go on a date with?
you shouldn't be with someone because of the clothes they wear or how they look, obviously sexual attraction is hugely important but you can ... (read in full...)
It feels like she does not want a future with me but she cant seem to let me go either
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years. i live in my flat and she lives with her parents. For the first year and half most of her friends knew about us (but not her parents)and things were great as I felt really close to my girlfreind...
A. 11 March 2010: the only reason you broke up was because you were falsely accused of theft at work? i don't think so.. it seems like there is some other reason you aren't telling.
it sounds like you hurt her ALOT. now she can't trust to open up to you or tell her... (read in full...)
I gave him my number 2 weeks ago but he still has not called! How can I get to know him more without making things uncomfortable?
Q. I've been an assistant manager at the same store for about 5 years now. Recently, a new pharmacist started at my store. I almost immediately felt chemistry between us. We definitely flirt, but keep it very innocent since it is work. Even some other ...
A. 11 March 2010: Maybe he has a girlfriend, doesn't want you to have his number because then you will contact him when she is around.
if thats true then he is a player, he has a girl but wants someone to flirt with when she isn't around.
i don't see why he would... (read in full...)
What is the 'secret code" in finding a girlfriend???
Q. Dear Cupid, I am having a lot of trouble finding a girlfriend. I have to admit I am very shy going up to a complete stranger and asking her on a date. The only girls I have the courage to talk to are the ones that i meet at classes or in sh...
A. 10 March 2010: i liked what vocals and rhythm said, that was cute. Yes! be yourself!
you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want YOU FOR YOU!
don't worry so much about the urgency of finding a girl.. one day you will and she will be with you because... (read in full...)
My partner cheated and I could do with some advice
Q. I feel it might help me to write on this forum to ask for advice. I have been with my current partner for almost 6 years and we have a 14 months old girl when I discovered she cheated on me. We are not married as both did not want to, but have be...
A. 10 March 2010: Its not your fault she cheated.. you may have neglected her but we are responsible for our own actions, and reactions. she made the decision to cheat, she could have came to you with the problem but she chose to be with another man. this is not fair ... (read in full...)
I cant sleep! Does anyone have any advice?
Q. Basically i cant sleep at all. The doctor reckons its aniexty and ive been put on calming pills, which dont work. I could take louds of sleeping pills and still lie awake. Some nights i do sleep. its totally random. But i feel tired but my mind will ...
A. 10 March 2010: change your diet.. it really does help you sleep! don't drink energy drinks at all if you do.. they really stuff up sleeping habits and are just generally not good for you.
tea always calms me at night, i usually have chamomile or herbal tea at nigh... (read in full...)
Do I let my ex see my son after all the chances I've given him???
Q. I've been apart from my ex for 1 year now we have a 2 and a half year old son together and my ex has cared more about partying and drinking instead of seeing his son even when we were together.iv given him plenty of chances to see his son and he ...
A. 10 March 2010: Yes you let him see his son, he is making the effort now. his actions were not justified before, but he didn't know what to do, he wasnt around his son and didnt know how to be a father, but now he wants to learn how so give him a chance. the boy ... (read in full...)
Would you stay with someone who has issues and try to repair things or leave?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I'm really hoping for some help because my situation is distressing me and I'm lost and need guidance on how to proceed. I was in a long term relationship since 2003 then we split up in Spring 2008 but spoke to each other ...
A. 3 March 2010: Is he seeking professional help? If the answer is no i would say yes you are fighting a loosing battle. I know this because of my boyfriend of 2 years. He has all the problems you listed, anger issues, insecurities, ALOT of these strange issues that ... (read in full...)
This is the last thing I want...but I feel jealous of his 3 year old daughter!
Q. I NEED HELP!!!! Seriously!! ok, im 21, and my bf is 23 Ok im gonna try n not make this too long.. But My situaton, me and my fiance are getting married next year, and we currently just got house together and its me, him and his 3 year old daughter...
A. 17 February 2010: i really feel for you here, im in the same situation, although my boyfriend has part time custody. it is a hard situation, and i haven't found it easier the past 2 years, but the daughters mother is very hard to deal with also, and you are lucky you ... (read in full...)
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