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writes: I've been with my girlfriend for not that long and just started to have sex, but she doesn't shave. It doesnt bother me that much but I would prefer it if she did shave. How can I approach this problem? Reply to this Question
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reader, Inutashy  +, writes (28 February 2011):
 My bf just asked me to shave it, didn't say he didn't like it or nuttin just asked. When I asked why he said he heard it felt beta n so I did n no I keep it shaved almost all the time. If she gets offended just say it's not that you don't like the hair, but it's fun trying new things. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): couples usually tell everything to each other.
there are couple of ways to ask her to do that without hurting her feelings if she got offended by it.
you can ask her if something is bothering her about you.
like hair u can shave for her or a sex position she wants to try. then u get the chance of asking her if it's ok to shave her area. but remember. be honest about it.
or you can play like a game for each other which is more fun but some couples don't like that and they think it's embarressing or so. which is u guys can shave for each other which is more fun this way. like she can shave your penis and the area around it and you can shave her hair.
i have tried the second choice and it was more fun this way.
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reader, ?ian?  +, writes (13 September 2008):
Same, ive got a gf, and she is 15 in 2 months and im still 14, and i want to try and convince her to us see eachother naked and do oral, but shes a shy girl, and very innocent, so i think her reaction on letting me see her naked would be bad. What can i say to a shy 15 year old girl?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008): If your talking about hair down there . Well if you shave for her then maybe she will shave for you. I mean that's the right and fair thing to do. But it can be pain full if you do it by yourself because you can cut yourself. so make it kind of like a game she shaves you, you shave her everyones happy and if you don't like it the hair will grow back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): so yeah
im pretty younge and me and my girlfriend came to the conclusion of me and her having oral sex with eacother instead of actual penetration. my obsticle is that when i do go down on her, its a little hairly. not like, bush hairy, but enough hair to limit my pleasure, which says a lot due to the fact that going donw on her is my fantasy. so how should i ask her about this. keep in mind that she i 15 and im 14... so we cant just convers about this kind of stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): after reading this answers, i decided to ask my GF if she would shave for me,(i was on the phone with her as i read the answers n stuff btw, lol) she said it didnt bother her n that she would do it XD. i also asked her if she's done it b4 n said "i guess". it just it depends on how the girl takes it...and the way you tell her, i suggest being straight-forward but try not to make it sound to serious because her feelings would get hurt, and if she says no or w.e just accept her the way she is. good luck man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): It's easy. tell you girlfriend that you think it would be sexier if she shaved. Body hair is masculine. Now the real trick is if she takes the hint. If she doesn't then you need to have a conversation about why she is unwilling to be sexy for you. If she is unwilling to fulfill you sexually, go find a woman who will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): In the exacty same spot mate, i did the good old "what would you say if i shaved" and got her on the subject and said id prefer if she did, she seemed to take the hint but the next time we had sex, same old bush
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): Man i am in the same situation....here i am dating this girl and i take her panties off for the first time and bam suddenly i feel like George of the jungle....out of all the girls i have been with she is the absolute first like this and let me tell you i will not adjust...and to the girls that posted on this too bad...listen i am a guy and i am very well groomed...i expect my girl to do the same and if she has a problem with that well...see ya lata...the approach i decided to take was to be honest yet add a little finness perhaps a lil joke here and there....but if its something you can't stand like me than something has to be said
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2007): troubled fellas, i have this problem licked (pun 100% intended). i was in this situation once or twice myself.
after you've had sex and it was one of those times when you both gave each other feedback throughout, ask if she thinks it would have been better for her if biyou'd/b/i shaved.
regardless of the reply, most women will follow by asking if you think it would be better.
suggest that if she had less foliage, she'd enjoy oral sex better and you'd be able to perform better down there by being more aware of what you're doing.
even if meant to ask if you wanted to shave yourself, you can pass it off as a little misunderstanding and it's win-win.
if she doesn't spring the follow-up query, take the hint that she isn't open to depilatory habits and either love her as she is or man up and have a sit-down about it. anyone who loses a relationship over this needs a check-up from the neck-up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2007): are you guys serious? no not face, not legs, pubic hair. i'm with a girl now and she's the first one from my experience that hasn't shaved completely. to me it's kind of a turn off? i don't. i'm thinking of asking one of her close friends to talk to her about it. keep us updates
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): Wow it seems im not the only one in this boat -
so yea been going out w my gf for like a year now, and shes dead set against it... sometimes a nice little surprise to me she does it, but then in a week or so its back again.... we've talked about it and she's well aware that its better w.o (to the guys that dont know how to approach it - ask her if shes ever had done it and go from there), im not dead set on it but it being there deff kills some of the want per se. any suggestions on how to make her understand that i take it more seriosly than a lil joke?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2006): I am in the same situation here, Yes we are talkin abowt that little ares south of the boarder and no we are not talkin about there beards. My GF and i have started having sex and she does not shave at all. Im not really too fazed, but i think it would be better if she did wax or shave. Im not too sure how to ask or hint to her but i realy dont want to insult her or make her feel uncomfortable in any way. Thanks all
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2006): Dude I hear ya. I have the same problem. Sex is great but I don't like to play around down there. I was thinking about maybe leaving some porno mags around with shaved girls so maybe she would GET THE HINT. It's 2006 right...haha?
Let me know if you ever figure this one out.
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reader, bonym +, writes (30 August 2006):
 I have just read what Dr Pete said about facial hair, that had me in stitches!!!!
To the question poster: surely you are not talking about facial hair, are you? xxx
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reader, bonym +, writes (30 August 2006):
Well I assume that you are talking about hair in the region somewhere south of the border? Correct? Well, shaving leaves bumps, waxing is best, no bumps, just nice clean smooth skin!!!! Just be a bit tactful if you are going to tell her, you can koke about things, but dont hurt her feelings by being too upfront. Good luck. xxx
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reader, Yos  +, writes (30 August 2006):
 It's ok to ask, but don't push it on her if she acts unenthusastic. Its a little bit too porn star for some people
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): Are we talking facial hair here?
To be honest, I'm sure there arn't many who like a beard on a women. I think you should be open and honest and tell her the beard has to go.
Good luck pal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): I was in a similar position and took it easy, when she trimmed one day i said how nice it was. She said shall i take more off and i said yes would be nice and so she did. I kept praising her and how nice it was and then one night after a nice eveing out we went to bed and when i took her knickers off she was bare, had been waxed for me. I is brilliant and she likes it as well. So give it a go
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2005): Maybe you should just ask her if she's shaved before. if she has maybe she has a reason she doesn't anymore. if you ask her about it im sure you're more likely to get information that will be useful, maybe you will get lucky and she will ask if you want her to shave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2005): dont say anything! it will hurt her. i would b hurt and annoyed if my boyfriend said that to me! really, dont tell her to do that!
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reader, QOTU +, writes (19 November 2005):
 :-S Eeeesh...
Pubic hair enhances one's orgasm! KEEP IT!! O_O
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reader, not again +, writes (19 November 2005):
where do you want her to shave? legs, arms, bikini line?
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