150 girls or less!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and, except for my problems with his past and the number of one night stands he's had, everything has been fine. Today, we were talking about it and he said I'm being silly and I'll never find someone ...
A. 24 August 2006: My best friend has slept with about 150 women. The thing is, he's really very nice, and it is in a way a tragedy. Like watching a train wreck happening in slow motion and you can't do anything about it.
He had a son early, and then was left by ... (read in full...)
Girls Gone Wild!!
Q. Ok back in 2004 I was on the show girls gone wild in Miami, Florida. I loved it. Being with girls, having sex with girls. But now that I don't see them that often as I used to, How do I find a girl to get with? There it was so simlpe because every ...
A. 23 August 2006: Lesbian bars and clubs.
Most of the girls on girls gone wild are not lesbians, or even bisexual. It's probably one of the worst places to meet a lesbian in fact!... (read in full...)
Handy Work!!
Q. hi all i was just windering if anyone could tell me how to toss a lad off i don't ave a clue what to do.... plz help xxx...
A. 23 August 2006: Each guy tends to like it a bit differently. The best thing you can do is to put your hand on his penis, then use your other hand to put his hand over yours, and then say "show me what to do". The two main variables are speed and pressure, but then ... (read in full...)
Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?
Q. Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...
A. 23 August 2006: Congratulations :) Your toaster is in the mail. ... (read in full...)
Why do I fall for attached men, what is it that is missing from my life ?
Q. why am i involving myself with married men.just over a year ago i had a affair with my second cousin,i finished it all and it all became very messy,i told my long term partner what i did,well we decided we both didnt love each other anyway and ...
A. 23 August 2006: There's a book you might benefit from that talks a lot about how people sabotage their relationships. It covers how people get into relationships with unavailable partners, often because it is a way of avoiding long term commitment and all that ... (read in full...)
What a boy wants
Q. hi im 13 and i am just learning about boys and how basically all they think and care about is sex and women. i am now really upset cos thts all boys want :( so they have no respect for girls tht means :( i hate it! i hate tht that is all they care ...
A. 23 August 2006: It is sad but true. I think boys generally grow out of this around the age of 30, although I know plenty of 50 year old men who still behave like that unfortunately :(
Broadly speaking, men will behave as badly as the women around them let them... (read in full...)
I'm in Amsterdam and having trouble sticking to my no sex before marriage belief!
Q. Hi I am in my late 20s and am still a virgin. I have been able to control myself till now as i neither had any girlfriend nor any great desire to lose virginity before marriage..It is getting difficult day by day and staying in Amsterdam (Sex c...
A. 23 August 2006: Just avoid the red light district. You might be keener not to go there if I tell you that most girls there are not working strictly speaking 'from free will', but are from Eastern Europe and thought they would be doing something entirely different ... (read in full...)
Will I regret it if I go... further... with my boyfriend?
Q. okay i have a question (obviously). my boyfriend and i love each other very much and i trust him deeply. lately we have been going further than we used to (physically speaking) and while in the moment i'm okay with things i am not sure if i should ...
A. 23 August 2006: Don't do it if you're not comfortable. This is really important. You'll really regret it afterwards if you let your boyfriend push you into something you don't want to do. That regret can stay around a long time... my girlfriend tells me she still ... (read in full...)
What wrong..he can't get erect to satisfy me? Is it me or all this porn he watched?
Q. Hi there, I have just started seeing someone who i really like. Last weekend we had sex for the first time at his place, it was great, although he didn't cum. We then drove back to mine, and altough we were really "into it", he wasn't errect. The ...
A. 23 August 2006: Chances are it was just performance anxiety and nerves. It can also happen due to drinking, stress, tiredness, any number of minor reasons. I wouldn't make it anything about you, and as Dreammaster said below it sounds like you reacted in exactly ... (read in full...)
Do you think my BF will still go to the bachelor party I wanted him to avoid?
Q. Hi--i am the one who wrote about the bachelor party and how i had an argument with my b/f about it and how he would still go. That argument was about 2 weeks ago or so. The wedding is not this weekend but next weekend and still no party has been ...
A. 23 August 2006: If there is one you need to let him go. By trying to stop him you are...
- Showing that you don't trust him
- Showing that you don't mind if he looks bad to his friends (by not showing up)
- Showing that you don't mind him being less of a... (read in full...)
Too young to love
Q. I know 8 months is nothing but my boyfriend is 8 months younger. He is amazing! So, IF you are older than your boyfriend than tell me your story and tell me about it to make me feel better. I'm just used to being with older guys so please help! ...
A. 22 August 2006: My girlfriend is nearly two years older than me. She's the best match I've ever experienced in my life, better than I even hoped was possible and certainly better than I deserve. ... (read in full...)
I can't get my girlfriends past sex life out my head
Q. Hi - hope you can help. Have been going out with my girlfriend for 5 months and just found out that she has been a lot more sexually active than I - sleeping with at least 14 different partners (she is 32). I think this is a lot personally, I am ...
A. 22 August 2006: Also bear in mind that it is unlikely that you will feel any woman you talk to about this will really understand you (including your girlfriend). That is not to say that women don't struggle with their partners pasts, they do, but in this area men ... (read in full...)
I can't get my girlfriends past sex life out my head
Q. Hi - hope you can help. Have been going out with my girlfriend for 5 months and just found out that she has been a lot more sexually active than I - sleeping with at least 14 different partners (she is 32). I think this is a lot personally, I am ...
A. 22 August 2006: Read the thread Dr Pete has linked to.
In the mean time, as bad as you feel, try your hardest not to take it out on your girlfriend or to make her feel bad. That can cause real damage to your relationship. When you feel these feeling getting ... (read in full...)
I'm supposed to be getting married, but I have feelings for someone else!
Q. I have a partner of 3years and we are due to get married next July. I love him to death but there is a guy at work I think is really nice n gorgeous and he is a bit older than me and married. We get on so well and flirt alot. Do i tell him how I ...
A. 22 August 2006: Woah! Where do you think your marriage will go if you are considering being unfaithful whilst you are engaged?
You need to ask yourself a very serious question: do you really love your fiancee and do you want to marry him? If you do, put all idea... (read in full...)
For a year all it has been is sex with him but now I'm starting to like him!
Q. I'm seeing this guy but all it is is for sex. We have been seeing each other for a year now but i am starting to like him now. The problem is we have been on one proper date but i wanna know how to find out if he realy actually likes me or not. ...
A. 22 August 2006: It seems like almost every no strings attached sex only relationship comes to this sooner or later. One person ends up wanting more. The other aunts are unfortunately right, it is hard to move from this to a 'normal' relationship.
There are lots... (read in full...)
I was clingy and paranoid so she ended it with me but she said there is a second chance in the future!
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me for being clingy and paranoid every now and then, but i've stopped being clingy and paranoid now. After that I asked my her for a second chance to prove myself to her and she said that she DOES believe in second ...
A. 22 August 2006: DreamMaster is right here I'm afraid. It sounds very much like the girl lost respect for you, and your behaviour after (basically showing lots of deference) isn't going to have done you any favours.
I'd recommend giving her up. You'll show her... (read in full...)
16 dating 32
Q. i am a young girl i am only 16 and going with a 32 year old and dont no what to do its got really seriouse be asked me 2 be his fiancee and i said yes cos wanted to but now i not to sure i only young plus he is wanting to marry me and all that its ...
A. 21 August 2006: Don't get married so young. Marriage is a HUGE decision, and at your age you really don't have enough life experience to make that decision. I don't mean to sound condescending or negative, but at your age you are right in the middle of working out ... (read in full...)
Do other people interlock fingers during sex?
Q. I recently slept with a male friend of mine (we aren't going to be dating, just messing around) but I've never had sex before this and was wondering if it's normal for a guy to hold your hands during sex. He was on top, and kept interlocking his ...
A. 21 August 2006: Normal? I wouldn't worry about that being abnormal, I'd spend your time thinking about the normality of "...we aren't going to be dating, just messing around, but I've never had sex before this".
That's really unfortunate. It sounds to me like you... (read in full...)
I can't help masturbating. Am I doing any harm?
Q. hey guys I have a problem. I'm 16 and whenever I'm alone for more then an hour I have these really strong sexual urges and I have to masturbate to get rid of them. I think sex is the only way I'm gonna get it out of my system, but am I causing my ...
A. 20 August 2006: It's fine. As a male, I can assure you that there are plenty of boys your age out there that are masturbating even more than you are.... (read in full...)
I mess up all my relationships! When I get too close I cease up-what should I do?
Q. I don't know whats wrong with me. I'm 16 years old, and I have had 3 relationships in my life. Each lasting no longer than a month. From then, each and every time I have come close to a relationship, I always mess up. Like, I cease up and don't know ...
A. 20 August 2006: True closeness and commitment is hard. It's perhaps the hardest thing in a relationship. Don't worry too much about your experiences so far... they are very normal and natural. Just see each relationship as a learning experience, and make sure you ... (read in full...)
If I turn up at a bar alone, will I be sending out the wrong message?
Q. I am newly single and am in my forties. I am not ready for another relationship and want to have fun for a bit. I would like the hit the bars but have no one to go with. Must of my friends are married and are in relationships. Do guys draw ...
A. 20 August 2006: I'd suggest that there are much better venues to meet new people than bars. Not only will plenty of people draw conclusions about you if they see you alone in a bar, but the majority of people you meet will probably not be what you are lookingfor. ... (read in full...)
How can I get past this porn issue, he says its a time filler, I think its taking over!
Q. Hi, Its the porn issue again. Normally Im cool with it, but ive got myself upset about it. Ive know for a long time that he looks at porn, it didnt really bother me and he knew that at times i was a little fed up with it, felt like he was viewing ...
A. 20 August 2006: "...the porn does not reflect our relationship its just stuff that i do when im bored and your not here. So how can I get it in my head that thats the case..."
The thing is, porn is effecting your relationship. So getting that thought into you... (read in full...)
My moral standard is incompatible with that of my boyfriend
Q. I am a very pure and innocent person and am celibate (restrain from sexual relations). Having just promised to celibacy recently my very close boyfriend of a year and a half and I have been disagreeing on things. The vulgar media today really ...
A. 19 August 2006: Morality... the beliefs we have that we feel other people should have too, even if they happen to disagree.
The bit that stuck out for me was this:
"The vulgar media today really bothers me"
Now it's 100% fine that you have issues with the... (read in full...)
His mobile tells the tale and I'm worried he's cheating...
Q. Me and my bf have been goin out for 9 months, but he is quite funny when it comes to his mobile phone, he never keeps it out, its always in his pocket and lately keeps it on vibrate. About 3 months ago, i found texts on his phone from another gir...
A. 17 August 2006: It doesn't look good.
You should ask him some questions, and he needs to answer them honestly and directly. Don't let him wiggle out of answering (he might try):
- who is she?
- how do they know each other?
- what is their connection? E... (read in full...)
Any ideas how I can orgasm through penetrative sex?
Q. I find it really hard to have an orgasm when I have penetrative sex. In fact, I have only ever come once doing this. I find it hard to come at all in front of someone so this was the only time. I want to start getting out of sex what my partner ...
A. 17 August 2006: I'm afraid it takes a night of drinking for me to repeat it... (read in full...)
I thought "what happens at camp stays at camp"... but now I think I did the wrong thing :-(
Q. well, i cheated on my bf while i was at camp. it was for the last week, and i deffently dont have feelings for this guy anymore. me and my bf almost never get to see each other durring the summer, and its hard on me because i love him soo much. so ...
A. 17 August 2006: That's good advice from the other aunts. Just make sure to remember how you feel now, so that if you are ever tempted again in the future, you'll know what the consequences can be. We all have to learn stuff in life, the trick is to try to not need ... (read in full...)
Any ideas how I can orgasm through penetrative sex?
Q. I find it really hard to have an orgasm when I have penetrative sex. In fact, I have only ever come once doing this. I find it hard to come at all in front of someone so this was the only time. I want to start getting out of sex what my partner ...
A. 17 August 2006: Most women won't orgasm via penatrative sex alone. Very very few will (except on rare occasions). The g-spot works for some people sometimes, but its a now and again thing, not an everyday thing.
If you're not climaxing with your partner there co... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she doesn't see how lucky she is!
Q. Sorry this may be long, I hope you read it though and have suggestions. Basically I was in a relationship for three years, we had ups and downs, but always managed to sort things out I think cos we had such a strong love. However she fell pregnant...
A. 16 August 2006: Perhaps with some time she'll change. It would be a great shame to deprive your child of a close family to grow up in. But give her as much time as she needs (weeks, months, longer). You should try to support her as much as you can since that will ... (read in full...)
Married 23 years and hubby wants a threesome! Should I do it?
Q. Ive been married for 23 years and now my husband wants to have sex with me and another girl he says he would like to watch us suck each others pussy and then have sex with each as the other helps should I or should this be a no no ...
A. 16 August 2006: Do you want to do this? If you don't, then really really don't do it.
For some people it can be fine. But for many others, it can cause a chain reaction of jealousy that can be really damaging. Only do it if you know your connection to your hus... (read in full...)
I like my new boyfriend, but everyone wants me back with the ex!
Q. Need any advice quick because my family don't want to know about my situation. Went with a guy for couple of years and he was my first love so obviously it was really special but he didn't treat me the best because he was drinking alot and out with ...
A. 16 August 2006: It sounds to me like you've already made up your mind that you want to stay with your current boyfriend, and are just asking here hoping that people will agree with your decision?
It's a very natural response from parents to have a problem ... (read in full...)
How can I help my girlfriend climax during sex?
Q. Im having a bit of a sexual problem with my girlfriend at the mo. During sex, she cannot feel me inside her. We both have put this down to my penis being too small or her being to wide and deep. I normally have to stimulate her with my fingers or ...
A. 16 August 2006: What you are experiencing is normal. Most women won't climax from intercourse alone, you need to use your fingers or find some other way of stimulating the outside of her (mainly her clitoris). It is nothing to do with your penis size or her being ... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend seem to put me down all the time ?
Q. My ex girlfriend used to like commenting on guys she sees on telly whenever shes with me. Like, 'oh im so sorry, but ive got to tell you that this guy is absolutely gorgeous!!'. I usually just go, 'yea, he is' but am recently asking myself why the ...
A. 16 August 2006: Have you asked her to stop? My girlfriend used to do this and I realized I'd rather she kept it to herself. So I just said "Please don't tell me how attractive you find TV and movie actors when we're watching them, I don't really like to hear it". ... (read in full...)
I'm having sex with my ex, and I don't know what it means!
Q. My ex and I recently broke up. I was heartbroken and wanted him back bad. He told me he cares about me but just cant be in a relationship right now. He said he wants me in his life and wants me to be a close friend. So, i tried to do as he wants. I ...
A. 16 August 2006: Have nothing more to do with him, especially not sex. It sounds like he's feeding you a pack of lies. You are doing yourself no good at all, your self esteem will end up in the trash if you don't get over him and move on.... (read in full...)
Not sure if the baby is my guys, or one of the guys I slept with in between!!...
Q. i'm 19 and have a one year old son. I broke up with my partner last year in December as he was violent. Although we were'nt together we continued to have sex. But unknown to him i have slept with other men. Now i have just found out i am ...
A. 15 August 2006: You could get a paternity test.
Your partner probably doesn't even need to know, that is, if the first child is his. If the first child is his, a clinic can probably tell you if both your children have the same father. But if your partner isn't th... (read in full...)
Why can't I get my girlfriend's past sex life out of my head?
Q. Hey out there, I'm going crazy. Well I'm having trouble with my girlfriend's past. She has had sex with 15 other guys and had sexual relations with at least 6 more. I try not to bring it up but it comes up in my head a lot, to the point where I get ...
A. 15 August 2006: I agree with you Wendy. Women can suffer in a similar way. But I do think that men and women are a bit different when it comes to how jealousy effect us, and it makes a difference here.
What I said before is from a male point of view, I'll nev... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she doesn't see how lucky she is!
Q. Sorry this may be long, I hope you read it though and have suggestions. Basically I was in a relationship for three years, we had ups and downs, but always managed to sort things out I think cos we had such a strong love. However she fell pregnant...
A. 15 August 2006: I'm glad you read what I wrote the way it was intended :)
Yes its easy to accept someone by saying "You're screwed up, but I accept you anyway". But instead it has to be "To me you're not screwed up, you are wonderful". I've done the same thing to... (read in full...)
Why can't I get my girlfriend's past sex life out of my head?
Q. Hey out there, I'm going crazy. Well I'm having trouble with my girlfriend's past. She has had sex with 15 other guys and had sexual relations with at least 6 more. I try not to bring it up but it comes up in my head a lot, to the point where I get ...
A. 15 August 2006: It was this thread that brought me to this site. Time to post.
I have had the same problem as the original poster since the beginning of this year. Everything was great in my relationship until my girlfriend told me how many previous sexual p... (read in full...)
I chatted to strange women, and my wife found the emails!
Q. My wife and I are a month apart in age and after being married for almost 19 years (december), I made a very foolish mistake. I turned to the computer and tried to find someone I didn't know to fullfill a missing part of my manhood. My wife and I ...
A. 15 August 2006: WoW. Those are some bitter responses. Hell has no fury like like a woman scorned.
Personally I don't think a moments weakness (and it was only email...) does not merit automatically walking out. The person saying just leave is giving you bad advi... (read in full...)
He only started wanting to see me after he got a girlfriend! What is he thinking!?
Q. Well there's this guy i like... *original start, eh?* and well, i know him mainly through MSN, we talk nearly every night. i knew OF him before, he went to my school, but i never spoke to him. he's 2 years older than me, he's 17. anyway, he's bee...
A. 15 August 2006: Well, it's good that you are so sure he would never cheat. I have to say, from your original post, I'm not so sure! Teenage boys are experts at saying one thing and doing another (and most men keep that habit a long time...).
If you think you can ... (read in full...)
I chatted to strange women, and my wife found the emails!
Q. My wife and I are a month apart in age and after being married for almost 19 years (december), I made a very foolish mistake. I turned to the computer and tried to find someone I didn't know to fullfill a missing part of my manhood. My wife and I ...
A. 15 August 2006: Ouch! You two are in a terrible situation. It really does sound like you are truly sorry, and sexual performance issues in a marriage can place a huge strain on you. At least it was only emails, with no other contact.
I don't know if any of these... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she doesn't see how lucky she is!
Q. Sorry this may be long, I hope you read it though and have suggestions. Basically I was in a relationship for three years, we had ups and downs, but always managed to sort things out I think cos we had such a strong love. However she fell pregnant...
A. 15 August 2006: I think you might be distorting reality a bit here.
In your post you excessively praise yourself and put her down. I'm hoping that you don't do that in your relationship with her (or did that), but my guess at her behaviour is that you perhaps ... (read in full...)
He only started wanting to see me after he got a girlfriend! What is he thinking!?
Q. Well there's this guy i like... *original start, eh?* and well, i know him mainly through MSN, we talk nearly every night. i knew OF him before, he went to my school, but i never spoke to him. he's 2 years older than me, he's 17. anyway, he's bee...
A. 14 August 2006: What is he thinking?
Perhaps that he can keep his girlfriend and have you on the side? Either he can have you 'in reserve' in case it doesn't go will with his girlfriend, or that he can perhaps be unfaithful to her with you. You might make it ... (read in full...)
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