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writes: i kissed a married guy with kids and enjoyed it, it was after he had an argument with his wife outside the pub, and she punched him in the face. He told me he was gonna leave her and we kissed i would have done more but my friend pulled me away, i feel kind of guilty but not really is there something wrong with that??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006): The best way of working out whether or not you did something wrong is to imagine how you would feel if you were the wife and you found out your husband kissed another girl. Maybe you'd want to beat the hell out of her?
This is a good sign that what you did is wrong - when you know your actions cause unhappiness in someone else.
Putting yourself in other peoples shoes is probably the best way to decide on whether or not something is right or wrong. All the best.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (31 August 2006):
 Is there something wrong with that? My dear of course there is, the man is married, and you both kissed each other, the only woman he should be kissing like that is his wife. Please dont get any more involved with this man, its not a healthy idea. Take care. xXx
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reader, stina  +, writes (31 August 2006):
 You kissed a MARRIED man and you need to ask someone if there's something wrong with that? Fight or no fight, leave that man alone. While his wife should not have punched him in the face, that whole thing has NOTHING to do with you so you shouldn't use that as an excuse to have *any* sexual contact with that guy. And even if he said he was going to leave her, he hasn't left yet and he was standing in front of the PUB so he very well could have been drunk and not meant one word of what he said. Regardless, leave him and his wife alone.
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reader, chunkymunky +, writes (31 August 2006):
 everythings wrong with that. My father had an affair so i know what its like to be on the recieving end of it, think about this guys children if you were to persue this 'relationship'. Years on, you would be out of the picture and their memories so unpleasant. Im sure things cant be easy in their marriage, but you should step aside and let them sort out their problems. Dont get involved.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (31 August 2006):
 Yes there is something wrong with what you did. Plenty of things. Here's a few:
- You did something that would be really upsetting to his wife. Why do your feelings matter more than hers?
- You kissed a random man outside a pub and would have done more. Not a man who in any sense cared about you.
- You helped damage their relationship. And their family
- You showed no respect for the institution of marriage
Ok so that all sounds pretty harsh. You just kissed a guy!
Actions should be judged by two things;
- Intent.... what did you intend to do? Nothing particularly worthy about your intentions here it seems like. Intention? 'to get some action' by the sounds of it. Certainly not out to make the world a better place for anyone other than yourself.
- Consequence... what results stemmed from the action? In this case you really scored low. That unfortunate woman now has the image of you with your tongue in her husbands mouth to deal with. Nice xmas present from you.
What the action is itself is almost meaningless. The same action can be wonderful or terrible depending on context. George Bush can push a button to save a thousand lives, or kill a thousand lives. Each is the same action: pressing a button. Same with a kiss... the kiss doesn't matter, it's the circumstances.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006): YES, there's something wrong with that!!
The man is MARRIED. Which means, hands-off! No matter what his problems with his wife, and whether he told you he was going to leave her (he was probably miserable and very angry at that particular moment), you should not have kissed him, let alone "done more" (although I expect you did enjoy it).
You said your friend had to pull you away. What the heck did you think you were doing? Do you want his wife to punch YOU in the face? She sounds like someone who very well might, if you mess with her man.
Use some sense and do the right thing, and leave well enough alone. Go find yourself a guy who is not married, does not have a girlfriend, and who is single!
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