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writes:ok well ive been gd m8s with this boy 4 about a year now and 2 days ago we started seeing each other. I really like him but hes 16 and im 14 and I know he will want to go further with me and I dont know how to tell him how much i like him but not want to go further with him right now. How can i tell him without offending him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2006): Dude, dont do it! Youll soooo regret it and when I was 14 i would have FREAKED if someone wanted to go furthur. It'll be hard to do this and embarrassing but everyones right, just come out and say it.
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reader, ogga +, writes (30 August 2006):
Im 15 and my gf is 14, and she made it plain in the first week we werent going to do anything for a while and im cool with it, just tell him straight out, and if he really likes you he wont mind.
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reader, bonym +, writes (29 August 2006):
 My dear if your boyfriend truly loves and cares for you he will not be offended if you tell him that in this moment in time you are not ready to take things further. So please just tell him straight. Take care. xXx
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reader, Yos  +, writes (29 August 2006):
 You just need to come out and say it. It's not easy, but it really is the best way. You'll find you'll be glad you did. You'll be happy that you said it and feel good about yourself, and he will respect you for coming out and saying it (even if he doesn't really want to hear it). It's a strange thing about boys, but they respect you more if you don't give it up for them, and if you give it up then they can stop respecting you. They don't like it at the time, but it really helps in the longer run.
Sometimes the best way to deal with something is to confront it head on.
If he is a little offended, it won't last long. You will both end up much more offended if you don't say it and you end up only stopping him when his hands are down your pants and his clothes are all over the floor. Or even worse, if you don't end up stopping him.
As for trusting him... that's great! But remember, almost no teenage boy is really 100% trustworthy when it comes to sex. When your body is telling you to have sex so insistently, it's very hard to not give in.
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reader, kat14 +, writes (29 August 2006):
 i am 14 i have been old with older boys and i just make it clear I say there something i been worried about i wanna wait till im at least legal till i have sex. so far every guy has understood and said that it isnt what its cracked up to be anyway. I dont advise having this talk face 2 face tho try msn or text.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut i do trust him :S
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reader, chazx +, writes (29 August 2006):
 Hi babe first of all if you have only been going out with him 2 days and he already wants to go further then i dont think this relationship is going to go anywhere he is obviously only in it for the sex 1st u are only 14 years old and shouldnt even be considering it.2nd dont get pushed into something you dont want to do.3rd if you really like him and he really likes you then he will want to wait.just say look as much as i care about you and i want this to work i dont want to go any further than holding hand and kissing or whatever just say you dont want to do anything like that you need to learn to trust him and you have to be sure he is the right guy for you before you do anything with him so just tell him u want to wait till your ready and atm your not.babe i hope this helped my sister is 12 years old and her boyfriend is 14 so 2years gap and she has had the same problem so i just think babe be careful and let me know what happens.thank you charlotte xoxox
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