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writes: I just found out my boyfriend is telling all his friends about our sex life. I dont know what to do! Should i end it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2006): wow thats just freaky, id either shut him up the easy way( talking to him about it) or the hard way( no more sex life)
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (26 August 2006):
 I love the way you write Martini *wink wink* :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2006): Actually this is quite new to me - to dump someone because s/he share their sex stories to their friends? Wow, I must really be inexperienced in the economics of love. [wink]
You know instead of coming here to ask strangers whether you should leave him for this 'problem' you have, you can just talk to him about it. If he persists to tell others, then you can draw your own conclusions then. Otherwise, I find this to be a very trivial matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2006): i know the feeling oh too well my partner fair does she dont tell her work colleges about our sex life (i dont think she does) but she fills them in every other aspect of our relationship.But when i saw her work mates she said we tell eachother everything.I know how you feel :(
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reader, bonym  +, writes (25 August 2006):
 Sweetie,I would say to you as simple as that, dump your fella, but you do need to have a good talk with him, its wrong of him to blurt out private details to his mates, its disrespectful and childish. I would talk to him about it and tell him that you dont expect your privacy to be public knowledge. Good luck and all the best. xXx
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (25 August 2006):
 Your sex life should be kept private it is something special for you and your lover to share, not the rest of the world. He obviously has no respect for you and your privacy. You should talk to him and tell him that you don't apprieciate your bedroom antics being broadcasted to the whole world. He should see is mistake and if he really is a decent bloke he should stop what he is doing. Thing is he is a bloke and they do like to brag. You must talk and brag about your boyfriend to your girl mates but in a different way. like my boyfriend took me here and my boyfriends got the coolest car, just an example. Well boys wouldn't find eachother cool if they were sat there saying my girlfriends got the nicest house, or things like that so they talk about sex. Something they are all interested in. Its wrong I know but boys will be boys. So ask him to respect your privacy or to find some other girl to talk about. Goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2006): If your boyfriend is discussing your privart sex life with his friends then you know what this means don`t you. He`s only getting you for what he can.
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reader, layla +, writes (25 August 2006):
 i would'nt say you should end it with him i would say that you should tell him not to tell his friends because you feel uncomftorble with it. i think that if he cant respect how you feel you should end it. good luck i find it hard when boys brag about poeples sex lives.xx
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reader, camille +, writes (25 August 2006):
 You can't say all boys brag, because that's generalisation and stereotyping. I never talk about my sex life because I love my boyfriend and I feel it would be disrespectful to share the intimate part of our relationship with anyone. People ask and make jokes and want me to join in, but I just say that's not something I talk about. I know many many of my male and female friends that happily do talk about it. That said, I too used to, about people I didn't love, so it's not even a gender or age reason necessarily. However, there are 2 of you in the relationship, so I think you're entitled to privacy. Tell him straight out that you don't want him to discuss your sex life and if you choose to stay with him and hear he does it again, dump him!
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reader, b3x +, writes (25 August 2006):
 If there is one thing ever in the world a couple should keep to themselves its this area. I have never told any of my mates about my sex life, call me old fashioned but I take having sex with a partner really seriously! To me its not like 'wham bam thank you mam' But something really special. Peoples views differ on this area though, for example my friend tells me everything about her sex life and it just doesn't interest me! Maybe your boyfriend is trying to make out that he's some macho guy as he wants his mates to know his is having sex. As I know she wants me to know that she's doing all these 'things'If this bothers you, I do think you guys should talk about this. I wouldn't go to the extreme of ending it, but if this does carry on and it really gets to you, why would you want to be with someone who disscusses something really personal to you both?Talk to him about it though, make sure he knows that this really gets to you and its private, what do his mates have to do with anything you guys do behind close doors? Its on a need to know basis this area and in my opionion his mates DONT need to know!
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reader, Yos  +, writes (25 August 2006):
 Hmmm. My experience has been that most girls talk about their sex lives with their girlfiends in intimate detail! Boys rarely do it, and when they do, the level of detail tends to be much lower.
Have you asked him to stop? He may not realize you have a problem with it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2006): Only dump him if it bothers you. If it doesn't then there isn't really an issue, but since you're asking the question then obviously you are not comfortable with the situation. Ask him to stop and if he keeps on doing it than he's a jerk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2006): I would only break up with him if you have told him not to tell his friends. He's a boy, boys love to brag, and if he doesnt know hes doing anything wrong then its unfair to dump him. Just ask him not to. And if he likes you enough to stop, he's a keeper. If you find out he's carrying on, he's not.
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reader, hannieseds +, writes (25 August 2006):
Hey there,
Not cool, not cool at all. I guess some women wouldn't mind her boyfriend telling his mates about their amazing sex life, but I for sure ain't one of them! I don't even talk to MY friends about our sex life because it is private!!!
How did you find out he was telling his friends? Did one of them comment to you about something? Have you tried talking to your BF about how uncomfortable you are about this?
It could be that his past girlfriend(s) didn't mind him spilling about their sex life details, so perhaps he thought you wouldn't mind? Just a thought...
But if you are not happy with it, you must talk to him and tell him that! He should immediately stop it right away and assure you he understands why and that he won't do it again and how sorry he is for hurting you.
If he says he doesn't see what the big deal is, then for sure, get rid of him if he won't stop something that is hurting his girlfriend! Not cool! xxx
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