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A lot of people ask if I'm from India... just to clear things up, I'm not. I'm not Indian, I just really liked that song by Aerosmith when I first made this account. I've never been to India. I'm not even an Aerosmith fan, really, but I really liked that song at the time.
I've been with my fella for 14 years, married for 10. We have two cool daughters and a pretty cool life that involves lots of adventure, art and laughter.
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Can someone's looks change as they get older? Say between 13-16???
Q. dear readers i would like to know can some-ones looks change as they get older e.g. from 13-16 ?? as i am noticing changes in my looks, sometimes good looking sometimes bad :(:( tld by girls and do the good looking ones sometimes turn no...
A. 15 March 2007: Go look at some pictures of your parents! You'll see how much looks can change. Look at pictures of them as teenagers, then them as college students and adults... bodies mature and faces change!
Every boy should know the secret to great face car... (read in full...)
Am I being a hypocrite???
Q. Dear Cupid am I being a hypocrite? I am 19 years old and dating a 45 year old man (3 wonderful weeks). Our relationship is very healthy and happy and wonderful and I couldn't ask for better. My younger cousin Elise is 18 and has been dating ...
A. 15 March 2007: Whoa.
If you were going to turn 20 in three months, you could say you were nearly twenty. But you're not. You've got more than halfway to go, so let's not charge the bullet on that one! You're still 19. And you've got a long wait.
So, you... (read in full...)
His story sounds pretty far fetched to me, what do you think?
Q. i dont know why i get suspicious and i probably shouldnt my b/f was driving home and called me and it was about 10:30 at night..he arrived home b/c i heard him speaking to family members in the house..i said i would call later on...i called ab...
A. 14 March 2007: Hi sweetness,
I don't think the story sounds far-fetched. I don't know your boyfriend, granted, but couldn't it be that he was just sleeping? Maybe he hung out with his family for awhile, then fell asleep? When he woke up in the middle of the nigh... (read in full...)
I have two guy friends that like me, the Prom is next month and I'm confused.
Q. I have this problem. I think two of my friends like me. One I have known for most of my life, but I only think of him as a friend. He likes teasing me, but in a funny way. The other guy I have only known for three years. Last semester he went to a ...
A. 14 March 2007: At your prom, you DON'T want to go with someone who will potentially annoy you or make prom not-so-great. Go with the guy you can have fun with, and have a wonderful time!
xxIndia... (read in full...)
My male friend or my long term bf..which one is best for me?
Q. In the last 8 months I have spent alot of time socializing with my friends and have started to have feelings for a male friend. He is intelligent, funny and more on my wavelength than my boyfriend of 2 years-who is perfect but we don't have much in ...
A. 14 March 2007: Hi sweetness,
It sounds to me like you've already made your decision. Read over your question. You've told us all about how great your male friend is, and not much about your current boyfriend. Sounds to me like your mind is already made up and y... (read in full...)
Why don't I like girls any more???
Q. Why Don't I like girls anymore? I just don't know what has happened to me, over the last couple of months i have just lost all interest in girls. I have always been really interested in girls and had a high sex drive almost constantly, but ...
A. 14 March 2007: Hi sweetness,
Don't start worrying. I seriously, seriously doubt that you're gay or else your sex drive and interest never would've been for girls in the first place. Finding some men handsome? Well, I think no matter what ANYONE says, nearly e... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to change your eye color to look more attractive?
Q. I have brown eyes, and something about me just hates it! They look pretty on other people, but I have always wanted light colored eyes, so I wear contacts all the time. But now I wonder if I find some one are they going to be really disappoi...
A. 14 March 2007: Hi there sweetness,
"Wrong" is a strong word. Tons of people wear different colored contacts. Some for fun, some because they think it looks better. All though I've never seen you before, I'll bet you're pretty with blue eyes, green eyes or brown... (read in full...)
He left me stranded for hours...am I over reacting to be upset with him?
Q. Okay my bf,off and on, and I got a job unexpectedly at a dinner near our homes, about 13 miles away. I road in the car with him and he and I got the job. They asked him to start right away and I didn't, so he left me first for a hour waiting for him ...
A. 14 March 2007: Hi sweetness,
If I were you, I'd be a little ticked off, but I can certainly understand why your boyfriend decided to work. He had just got the job and wanted to make a good impression on them. It would be hard to tell brand new employers who just... (read in full...)
Why didn't he answer his friend? Was he too embarrassed?
Q. hello. at school 2day me and my bf were hugging each other as usual :P we have been together for 2 and a half months. well his mate came up to us and said 'are you 2 in love?' and we just didnt really say anything. and then he asked my bf if h...
A. 13 March 2007: Hi sweetness,
CD always has great advice.
If your boyfriend hasn't told you that he loves you yet, he probably doesn't want the first time to be in school in front of his friends. How embarrassing for him!!
You've only been together for t... (read in full...)
I'm going on holiday in 4 months - how do I tone up - the mile a day run isn't working!
Q. Hey. I'm going on holiday in four months, and would like to tone up for that. I run for a mile every other day, and do a 30 minute bike ride for the days I'm not running. Everyday, I do 100 sit ups, squats, leg excersises, tushups, etc. However, ...
A. 13 March 2007: Here's an idea, just for the chocolate.
What I do when I've got intense chocolate cravings, is I'll buy a little bag of Hersey's Kisses and limit myself to three a day. I'll pop one in my mouth and just let it meeeellltttt.... It does the trick fo... (read in full...)
Was I too rough? She said it was the best sex she'd ever had!
Q. last night i had sex with my ex and i will admit it was very rough she kept moing saying it was amizing and it felt fantastic eventually she had to keep stoping cause her clit was hurting to much and she did bleed a little bit but i dont no whether ...
A. 13 March 2007: Hey there,
Some chicks like it rough. Just make sure when you get rough you check in with her and make sure she's doing alright. If she said it was the best sex ever, it probably was! Congratulations for that! Just make sure you're properly... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to tell my boyfriend that I don't think it's right him accepting phone numbers of other women?
Q. Is it wrong for me to tell my boyfriend that I don't think it's right him accepting phone numbers of other women? I have found a couple phone numbers and I wasn't too happy about it. I don't think it's appropriate that he accepts these since he is ...
A. 13 March 2007: Hi sweetness,
I think it's perfectly okay for you to ask him not to accept these numbers... or at least not hold on to them! I don't know your boyfriend. Perhaps he's only accepting numbers from aggressive women to be polite, but I think you can ... (read in full...)
I could never imagine me and my boyfriend getting married and stuff, is this a bad sign?
Q. hi me and my bf are 16 and have been with each other for 2 and a half months so far! well i have heard that you are with the right person if you can imagine getting married to them and living together etc... well i cant imagine me and my bf gettin...
A. 13 March 2007: Hey sweetness,
You're sixteen years old. Are you looking for a guy to marry already?!? Right now you should be having fun and dating different kinds of people so that you can know what you are and aren't looking for in a life partner.
It's no... (read in full...)
One of my breasts is bigger than the other, is this normal? What's wrong with me?
Q. i'm almost 16. my one breast is bigger than the other!! why is it like this? wat caused this? will they eventually be the same size when i have grown up properly??? what's wrong with me! my bras feel uncomfortable and i think its noticeable ...
A. 13 March 2007: Hey sweetness,
I work with naked girls. Really, yes, I do... and let me tell you, none of their boobs look the same and most of them have two different sized breasts. Some are really emphasized and some are less obvious, but no pair of boobs ar... (read in full...)
We hug all the time but have only kissed once, we've been together 2 and a half months. Do I have a guy who respects me here?
Q. hi i have a bf that i have been with for about 2 and a half months. we hug all the time and have only kissed once! do you think he wants to do more, example, get off with me, do sexual things etc? cos he doesnt try anything like that. he d...
A. 11 March 2007: Hi there,
It sounds to me like you have a guy who respects you a lot. I don't think the guy is GAY, I think he might have some tact. Not all guys have to stare at girls racks just to prove that they're straight. It seems like he's a nice guy who ... (read in full...)
I slept with him in order to make him like me, now it's even worse than before!
Q. hiya im 16 and female .. i really liked this boy and he didnt really like me so i thought i would sleep with him in order to make him like me...a day after he didnt talk to me.... we havent spoken for weeks..we spoke more before we had sex...what ...
A. 9 March 2007: Hi sweetness,
Well, you've learned a valuable lesson in a hard way here, doll. Sleeping with a guy is NOT a good way to make him like you... at all. First off, you need to learn that a guy should like you for you before you give him the honor of... (read in full...)
My bf wants to try bondage. What do you all think?
Q. My boyfriend wants to try bondage and im a bit nervous. What do you lot think about it? how do i really start it off? do i have to get into charcter? sorry i aint got a clue....
A. 9 March 2007: Heavy bondage you might not want to jump into. Why don't you start with light bondage, like tying each other up (with soft scarves and not too tight)? Then, you can gradually get more into it. As for "character", you don't really need to get into ... (read in full...)
Going to see him in 2 weeks... I need some fantastic suggestions on how to make this the most memorable experience for both of us. Any ideas?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been in this long distance relationship for about a year now. I'm going to visit him in about two weeks and I am so excited. I bought a bunch of lingerie to make sure that we have a time that both of us will remember for the...
A. 8 March 2007: Bring a camera and take lots and lots of pictures together. Tons! Of all the things you do together and of the two of you... save little mementos and then when you're back at home you can make a scarpbook or a photo album of your time that you spent ... (read in full...)
Does a Brazillian wax hurt badly?
Q. i think my boyfreind really wants me to shave down there! does a brazillian wax hurt badly?????...
A. 8 March 2007: Sweetness, oh Lord. Yes it DOES hurt.
First off, you are really young and I think you should REALLY, REALLY wait for a while until you're going towards third base with your boyfriend. However, you did ask a question and I'll answer it for you.... (read in full...)
Could it be I'm going to have a holiday romance?
Q. hiaa your all problary going to think im nuts by the end of this question but i really wanna know!! Anyway the other night i had this really werid dream that i met a boy and he was really cute and sweet. And im going on holiday in May and could i ...
A. 8 March 2007: Hey girl,
I'm no pyschic, but even if I was... you're looking for someone AWFULLY specific!! If it was that easy to find a guy, we'd all know the name and age and location of our soulmates!!
I sure hope you have a holiday romance and that... (read in full...)
How can I manipulate his penis so he can "aim" better?
Q. i have this problem when im having sex with my boyfriend. We lost our virginity together, but he has hmm some people tend to call it "bad aim" basically he doesnt always get in me, but don't get me wrong when he does the sex is brilliant. i dont...
A. 8 March 2007: Hey sweetness,
Well... it's pretty hard to find the right hole! I can only imagine being a guy... you just need to reach down and help him out a little bit (I'm sure he won't mind the assistance). As for positions, if you're on top, that gives YO... (read in full...)
Having dreams that my bf is cheating on me! What does this mean?
Q. i keep having dreams that my boyfreinds cheating on me.....is that normal i wake up crying and can barely breathe i just want them to go away...does this mean hes really cheating on me?...
A. 7 March 2007: Hi sweetness,
I don't think that having dreams about cheating means that he's cheating. It could be that you're paranoid about him cheating, or maybe he's given you a reason to suspect he is... but dreams and just dreams. The last weird dream I ... (read in full...)
I want her to dominate me and spank my butt!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a wonderful relationship with a wonderful woman. we truly enjoy each others company in and out of the bedroom. The problem is, I have this fantasy/fetish that i would like my lover to dominate me! I would love it for her to wh...
A. 7 March 2007: Hey sweetness,
I loved all the other advice given to you. Here's my two bits... maybe you could ask her if it would be okay if you loosely tied her up with a scarf. That's a little intro... and then you could ask her if she'd tie you up with the... (read in full...)
Been feeling that our relationship is dying, I feel like he is taking me away from friends and family! Any advice?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years, for the past two months i have been feeling that the relationship is dying, I feel like he is taking me away from friends and family, and I do not know what to do. To make it worse I have ...
A. 7 March 2007: Hey sweetness,
My mother always told me, "when you're in a relationship, your world should become BIGGER not smaller.", and it sound sliike to me... your world is shrinking in size, yes? Your friends and your family should be a priority right no... (read in full...)
Can anybody help with baby names??
Q. I need some suggestions on baby names. I`m due at the end of the month and its a boy! I want something different but not CRAZY different! HELP!...
A. 6 March 2007: Hey (again),
A month from now, or when you decide, please follow up! I can't wait to know what you named your baby!! Hooray for babies!
Love,
India... (read in full...)
Why does he feel so uncomfortable when I try to get intimate with him?
Q. Hi! I am a 41 year old single gay male and about 3 months ago I met an amazing guy (37yrs) and we hit it off right away. He was in a long term relationship with a women for 3 years and with guy before that. All aspects of our relationship is ...
A. 6 March 2007: Hey sweetness,
It sounds to me like this guy isn't 100% comfortable with his relationship with a man again. If he's just gotten out of a 3 year relationship with a woman, it might be a little hard for him to return back to men. Emotiona... (read in full...)
Can anybody help with baby names??
Q. I need some suggestions on baby names. I`m due at the end of the month and its a boy! I want something different but not CRAZY different! HELP!...
A. 6 March 2007: Ooooh, congratulations!!! How exciting!!
I liked a lot of the names suggested here. I'm sort of into cowboy names, myself. Dain, Jesse, Shane... I also like the names Luke, Micah, Malakai, Joel... Marsalis...
I met a guy named Mosaic the... (read in full...)
I'm confused, I think I might be a lesbian! What's going on with me?
Q. pls help! 4 some reason i think i could be a lesbian. I dont have feelings for any girls at all and in fact i have a boyfriend who i love a lot. But i keep finding myself looking at other womens body parts.. like their breasts. Maybe i am just loo...
A. 6 March 2007: Hey sweetness,
Just checking out other girls doesn't make you a lesbian. I'm pretty straight, but it doesn't mean that sometimes I don't look at other women. Girls are foxy too! And breasts, well... sometimes it's hard not to look. And yeah, so... (read in full...)
Can you get an STI if you've never had intercourse?
Q. Very silly question. Can you get a Sexually Transmitted Infection if you havent had sexual intercourse? I have smelly discharge and a few have said i may have a SDI, but all i have even done is been fingered. I have not been muffed and have never ...
A. 6 March 2007: Hey sweetness,
It sounds to me like you have BV, Bacterial Vaginosis. I'm not doctor, however. Really, REALLY, I'm not a doctor, but you might just have an infection or something. If you go in to see your doctor, he or she can give you some ant... (read in full...)
I met this guy online, he said sex is necessary in a relationship and if we don't have sex first time then he has no choice but to give up! Does he just want me for sex?
Q. I am a 20-yead-old girl in Asia and I met this 25-year-old guy from Europe on the internet in the end of 2005. After some talks on MSN and phone he asked me to be his gf and I agreed. I know it sounds stupid since we haven't met but my feeling is ...
A. 6 March 2007: Hey sweetness,
His "requirements" are positively bogus. He's giving you an ultimatum ("have sex with me by the second time we meet or it's over"), which is out of line, not fair, and a little creepy. It doesn't sound to me like you're comforta... (read in full...)
I am 'smothering' this relationship...how do I get a grip on my behaviours?
Q. ok , because of how heartbroken i was when my marriage of eight years ended , i decided not to fall in love again , now five years after i made myself this promise , i have found that i have fallen in love , thing is i think im smothering the woman ...
A. 6 March 2007: Hi there,
My advice is a little weird, so you can take it or leave it...
First off, I think it's great that you've found love again. Congratulations!! That is a wonderful thing for you, and I hope you find happiness in this relationship.
... (read in full...)
Is it weird to be excited by being seen having sex??
Q. Is it wierd to be so excited about being seen having sex? I m now to bored to do it in private. Also, are there laws against it in a parked car on your own property??...
A. 5 March 2007: Hi,
It's not weird to be excited about doing it in public. It IS exciting! Maybe getting caught... the rush of things... it's very exciting. However, Martini does touch on an excellent point. If you ARE caught, you can getting arrested for publ... (read in full...)
I'm going on holiday next week and will have my period! How can I still go swimming while on my period?
Q. heya well im 13 and im going on holiday next week but ive realised that i will be on my period that week and im worried that its going to ruin the holiday!! As i love going swimming in the pools and on the beaches but does anyone no how i can stil...
A. 5 March 2007: God bless Tampons!!!
Don't do pads! It will only get messy and... well, just bad. Realllyyy, reeeaallly bad.
Enjoy swimming!
xxIndia... (read in full...)
I'm going to meet his mum and sister properly for the first time. How can I impress them both?
Q. next month i am meeting my bf mum and sister properly for the first time. his sister is in her mid 20s and we are going to move into the spare room in her flat later this year. how can i impress both of them as i am very shy and some times been ...
A. 5 March 2007: Hey there,
Can you boyfriend tell them ahead of time that you're a little shy and that you don't talk much? If he just tells them, then they won't think you're being rude. They'll know that you're not much of a talker. If you're looking to impre... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Had DearCupid changed your life in a positive way? I want to hear your stories...
Q. Has DearCupid changed your life in a positive way? If so, please let me know. Either post here (anon if you prefer) or send me a private mail. Sometimes when I'm coding at midnight or tinkering with an errant database, or wondering wh...
A. 5 March 2007: Dear Andrew,
This site is really... well, really something. Even though I've never asked any questions, this site makes me feel better about myself. It makes me feel like, even though I'm just cruising the web, I'm still helping people. It's gre... (read in full...)
This might sound silly but I have been married 17 years and I feel my wife and I are closer than ever. Is this normal?
Q. hi i know this might be a stupid question but me and my wife have been together for 17 years, close friends all our life and married for 7 years. Is it normal for me to feel that way i do for her becuase loads of other poeple who have been together ...
A. 5 March 2007: Normal? Not even. You're exceptional! It sounds like you have a solid, wonderful, loving relationship between you and your wife. I hope I'm so lucky 17 years from now.
xxIndia... (read in full...)
I'm 16, and I've been offered money to do a dominatrix/fetish photo shoot.
Q. I'm 16, and I've been offered money to do a dominatrix/fetish photo shoot. I signed up to a free modelling site a few months ago (perfectly legitimate, not porn type stuff) and this guy has contacted me through that. I told him I was 16 and that I ...
A. 4 March 2007: Hi there,
I'm relatively sure that if you're completely covered up and if it's just sexy shots, I think you're alright. And anyway, if he is breaking the rules, the police will come down on HIM not YOU. But being sexy and domineering, I'm pretty s... (read in full...)
What will people say about our age difference? I'm really worried. Please help.
Q. i'm again in a bit of confusion, same guy, i'm 14 he's 18, but he's 'straight-edge' so he's anti-drug, anti-drink, and (although it may sound sad) anti-premarital sex. i'm still star struck for him and he feels the same way but, again, its the age ...
A. 4 March 2007: I didn't read your first question... however, who cares what people think? If you guys are both on the same level and you really, really like each other, well - go for it. When you're twenty and he's twenty four, well that doesn't sound so bad, does ... (read in full...)
If you had the chance to spend one night with Angelina Jolie... would you?
Q. I have a question that I'm dying to ask. I have a notion that almost everyone with eyes and a libido would love to have sex with Angelina Jolie. I know I would!!! Anytime. Any day. Any way. Oh yeah. So, here goes, if you had the chance to spend ...
A. 3 March 2007: I would have sex with Angelina Jolie. She's Angelia Jolie!! I'd be a fool not too! Then I could tell everyone that "yes, I had sex with Angelina. Yes, it was great. Oh yes, she loved it... you could hear her a mile away."
I would be everyone... (read in full...)
Why was I so emotional about the whole thing?
Q. helloooo im 16 and me and my bf have been together for 2 months now. we are both leaving school this year to go to college. we were discussing what colleges we are both going to and we found that we are going to different ones! :( for some reaso...
A. 2 March 2007: Hey, there's nothing wrong with being upset! I'd be upset too... if you really like the guy, it seems pretty normal to get upset that you two will be going separate ways next year. I don't think he thought you were a wimp, and I think you're being ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's better to start college off with a relationship or without one??
Q. Hey, everybody. So I've liked my guy friend for awhile now and he feels the same way towards me and things might get to the point where we may start dating sooner or later, but the problem with this is next year, we are both going off to college ...
A. 1 March 2007: Hi again,
After reading YorkieKrazed's advice, I agree with that too. I still stick with my advice, but some relationships can be really great and are worth sticking with right through college. Whatever your heart tells you, sweetness.
xxIndia... (read in full...)
Do you think it's better to start college off with a relationship or without one??
Q. Hey, everybody. So I've liked my guy friend for awhile now and he feels the same way towards me and things might get to the point where we may start dating sooner or later, but the problem with this is next year, we are both going off to college ...
A. 27 February 2007: Hey sweetness,
In my (very personal) opinion, I think it's best to start college like a fresh start. A slate wiped clean. A whole new you! Middle school and high school everyone knows you as SOMEONE. In college, you're surrounded by complete... (read in full...)
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