Are we missing out on our life together?
Q. I feel really weird asking this but I really need some advice. I've been at my sales job for 4 months and going through a lot of personal issues. I work on 100% commission and the last few months have been rough money wise. I live with my bf and ...
A. 24 January 2012: Thankyou for the thoughtful response. I do want to mention that in my free time I care for my son (toddler) and help him out with his home business to be closer to him. Also the bills he has were bills he paid alone before I came into picture. ... (read in full...)
Why am I so jealous of this girl? And how can I stop this, it's ruining our relationship!
Q. I've been with my bf for 3years. Since we started working a year ago,i became very jealous of a certain female coworker of his. They're always together during work hours, sometimes hangout in groups of 3-4 after work, text occasionally. They went ...
A. 12 January 2012: Perhaps a good way to get rid of your jealousy is to get to know your bf's friends better - including this girl. Perhaps after a conversation with her you'll find she's just naturally friendly and perfectly in love with her fiancé. Your bf will ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my personal trainer and I am a married woman. My marriage is dead. How can I tell if my trainer is serious?
Q. I have been training with my personal trainer for a year. At first I looked at him as only a trainer but recently I have been feeling differently about him. We have become good friends and there is a chemistry that has developed between us. We shar...
A. 18 December 2011: I would be very cautious moving forward with the trainer. I had a personal trainer who used to flirt relentlessly with me knowing I was married. Would he have taken things further? Absolutely. I was lonely like you in a dead end marriage but I also ... (read in full...)
Guy is drunk texting me at 3am... I like him...Should I go?
Q. So I have a crush on this guy who also happens to be my coworker and its apparent he likes me back. And recently he started drunk texting me to come over at 3am so I can keep him company. We've only been talking a few weeks, so I ended up telling ...
A. 18 December 2011: My answer to you will be that if you have a crush on this guy and want to eventually date him then you should ignore his calls or text him back that he should find someone else to drunk text. You will get no respect from him by going over at that ... (read in full...)
I already have a child, I don't need my boyfriend to be another one!
Q. Let me start off by saying that I am a single mom taking care of a 2 year old. I'm going through divorce and trying my best to look good so I don't lose my child. My soon to be ex will have a lawyer but since I can't afford one, I won't. This is ...
A. 13 December 2010: Thanks for the response. I'm worried because my ex seems to always get his way. I'm unemployed and he makes six figures. I'm struggling to provide but he can comfortably. Where I win is my family's love and support system but with him hiring a high ... (read in full...)
We opened up and shared dark secrets, although his might have been better off left in the closet!
Q. Well, I am 19 years old. I have a wonderful boyfriend who is 21, and we have been dating for 2 years, and altogether I've known him for about 5 years. Recently we opened up and told "dark secrets" He told me about how he use to be friends with this ...
A. 3 December 2010: You have a wonderful boyfriend who's willing to share something most men wouldn't admit. If he was gay he would prob keep this secret to himself. The other side of the coin is that he may have told you to gage your reaction. Either way, move past it ... (read in full...)
I have secretly been in love with my best friend's husband for 20 years.
Q. I have secretly been in love with my best friend's husband for 20 years. I have never told anyone this and I have never acted upon my feelings. Recently I felt that he may have feelings for me too! He hasn't directly told me so or made a pass at me ...
A. 1 December 2010: It would be so cruel to cheat with a married man. Worse if you're cheating on your best friend of 20 years! This is not an option. Her husband is like your brother. Replace the thoughts you have about him and when he reaches to touch you recoil his ... (read in full...)
I really want to have sex, but I don't want to rush into things!
Q. I've been going out with this guy a month now, and he's the best thing that has ever happened to me. he is lovely, caring and he is just a sweetheart. to celebrate our 1 month anniversary, we gave each hand jobs. it was great! but now i real...
A. 1 December 2010: There are always going to be great guys and yours does sound special. 3 months is not enough time to know If he's the right one though. This is a big decision for you that you can't undo. Ask yourself...What type of girl do you want to be? Guys lose ... (read in full...)
What's your take on this?
Q. My common law spouse works for an organization which he was a manager and is now working in another department which is up there in the ranking. One day I went on the computer and he had left his yahoo open. He was receiving work e-mail through his ...
A. 30 November 2010: I would stay quiet and monitor things closely. If there is no reason to distrust him I wouldn't keep treating him like he's done anything wrong. Their shouldn't be any more work "misunderstandings" and you might want to stop by and have lunch ... (read in full...)
Can someone who's cheated, have a healthy relationship with the person they cheated on?
Q. Can someone who has cheated on their partner have a healthy relationship with the person they cheated on? Specifically if they never confess that they cheated to their partner? Can they marry that person and have a good, solid marriage, by withhold...
A. 30 November 2010: I would say that if you're the one keeping a secret you must already know the burden you feel for not telling your partner the truth. Even if you never cheat again you will always think of the incident and feel terrible for it. The fact you asked ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps referring to the issues in my life as "baggage"1
Q. I'm going through a tough time right now and need some advice. I am In love with a man who constantly refers to the things going on in my life as baggage. To break it down these are the things he has issues with and how I'm dealing with them. Firs...
A. 28 November 2010: I have sat down countless times and told him how things will change. I've painted a life of how good things could be because I used to believe I could overcome all of this. My car payment is hard on me being unemployed but I'm still paying it. My ... (read in full...)
Do I tell her that I know about her cheating, and that I'm OK with it?
Q. I have a strange situation that i can't talk to anybody about and I dont know what to do. I have been married for a few years now, to a gorgeous woman. I however, am not the best looking man in the world. I have always been self concious about m...
A. 24 November 2010: I worried about you. What has been going on? Have things gotten better?... (read in full...)
I find it tough to find attractive women who fancy me! Should I lower my standards??
Q. Hi guys can you help? I'm 32 (embarrassed that a guy my age is even on here) and feel I'm getting on now and need to find a decent girlfriend. I’ve been single for 2/3 years now but to be honest girlfriends have always been hard to find. (before ...
A. 24 November 2010: I came across your post and wanted to ask if you've had any luck. Much like what has been said before I suggest you try to talk to women who may not be as attractive as you like but seem nice. I'm not saying to lower your standards but I think this ... (read in full...)
I read his email, found out he cheated and now he says he doesn't trust me!
Q. My boyfriend was away on course for 2 months in a different city. He was drinking a lot, very stressed and meet an old female friend he know 6 years ago on the course. When he arrived home, he very distance too me. My gut told me something happen .I ...
A. 24 November 2010: I agree with what people are telling you. It's hard to hear and it hurts but this guy doesn't deserve you. He should be begging your forgiveness but instead he's ignoring you and being insensitive. Why? Because he has someone on the side. He is not ... (read in full...)
I seem to want more than she does in a relationship, any suggestions?
Q. I am a male, and i have been seeing this beautiful, great women for about a year. Our relationship has been purely sexual since I first started seeing her which has been fine by me. I see her about once or twice a week, and she is just an amazing ...
A. 10 November 2010: This wonderful girl might have had a bad history of ex boyfriends and could possibly be only attracted to "bad boys". You sound like you are too sweet for her and she might be worried that if if doesn't work out the friendship will be over not to ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of my husband's new "friend"?
Q. My husband left 2 weeks ago. I told him I didn't think there was anything he could do to fix the marriage and it was over. The next day he packed and left. 2 weeks in and I know I made the WRONG decision. I want him to come home more than ...
A. 10 November 2010: I'm sorry but I think everyone is right, this is out of your control. The other "friend" is a nice diversion for him without any emotional baggage so that is why he is interested. Rather than showing him your needy side I suggest you pick yourself ... (read in full...)
My husband is living with his mistress but says he loves me
Q. Hi. My husband has moved out and in with his mistress. He met her on facebook and had an online relationship with her for several months before meeting in person. I found out shortly after, but he did not end the affair and now lives with her, has ...
A. 3 November 2010: I'm in the same situation you are in right now but i'm the mistress. From my pov I'll tell you that my boyfriend told both me and his wife the same thing. I loved the guy and it was wrong to get involved with him but I finally had enough after a ... (read in full...)
Do I tell her that I know about her cheating, and that I'm OK with it?
Q. I have a strange situation that i can't talk to anybody about and I dont know what to do. I have been married for a few years now, to a gorgeous woman. I however, am not the best looking man in the world. I have always been self concious about m...
A. 3 November 2010: I think you are cheating yourself the most by not loving and respecting yourself. A relationship is more than having a trophy wife. It doesn't matter that you don't consider yourself the most good-looking or the best lover out there because someone ... (read in full...)
I am 15, want to be with 24 year old online guy and feel depressed!
Q. I am 15 yrs old. i am in love with a guy he is 24 we met online...i hate my life no one loves me i don't have any friends i am always depressed my parents hate each other my dad is having affair...i can't talk about my problems with my mom bcoz she ...
A. 22 October 2010: After reading your post I want to add that a person that truly loves you will not treat you this way. Not answering your calls, being unavailable for 3 weeks to a month. All of these things are unacceptable. It's probably hard for you to understand ... (read in full...)
How do I catch the attention of a guy I hardly even see?
Q. Okay basically, there's a guy at work that I like. The thing is, I work at a sports stadium so if I ever want to see him then it's on match days. But the stadium is so big that I hardly do get to see him. I know what bar he works in (a lil bit of ...
A. 22 October 2010: He sounds like he's a bit shy. If he makes the effort to smile and be touchy feely then there is some interest on his part. He prob doesn't like over aggressive girls so what I would do is wait to "bump into him" next time and after exchanging ... (read in full...)
Raised my stepdaughter as my real child up until I caught her having sex
Q. I am 44 and have been happily married for 10 years. I have no children of my own, but my wife has a daughter from a previous marriage. I love her to death and raised her as my own since she was 6 years old. She is now 16, turning 17 in 2 months ...
A. 22 October 2010: I read your update and was a bit disturbed by your daughters behavior. Please take what I am going to say next with a grain of salt. I believe your step daughter might be aware of her effect on you. She is young and discovering her sexuality. She ... (read in full...)
Raised my stepdaughter as my real child up until I caught her having sex
Q. I am 44 and have been happily married for 10 years. I have no children of my own, but my wife has a daughter from a previous marriage. I love her to death and raised her as my own since she was 6 years old. She is now 16, turning 17 in 2 months ...
A. 16 October 2010: I think the one thing you are not doing because of your guilt is being a father to her. What I mean by that is that if i was younger and lounging around in a towel or skimpy outfits my parents would have had a talk with me. You need to refocus your ... (read in full...)
I am married to a man who lies about everything!
Q. I don't even know where to start, but here it goes; I am married to a man that constantly lies about EVERYTHING- and he breaks every promise that he makes. Each passing day I can feel my sense of self-worth and self-esteem grow weaker and weaker, ...
A. 16 October 2010: I am very sorry to come across your post. You sound like a very caring sweet person, your husband does not deserve you. I think he is being emotionally abusive with everything he is doing. He may say that he wants you but his actions are proving ... (read in full...)
My teacher is creeping me out!
Q. Ok, im just a little confused. One of the teachers at our school acts really weird around me. He just sees me in the hallway, stops me and starts asking questions about my life. When i walk past him in the hallway he says hey really weird to the ...
A. 19 September 2010: If your school has a counselor I think you should report it to them. It's a bit less intimidating telling a stranger than your parents sometimes. Either way it needs to be addressed. Does this teacher behave this way with everyone else? Does he stop ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is depressed about cheating on his wife and leaving her for me
Q. I'm very confused about my boyfriends feelings for me. We didn't start in an ideal way, we were both married and left our spouses because we knew after a couple of months that we wanted to be together. He is currently living with me, everything ...
A. 18 September 2010: I want to clarify that I have not lived with my husband for over 2 years and he is aware I am dating but will not give me a divorce. My friends say he was abusive and are happy I am with a man that treats me well. My bf and his soon to be ex filed ... (read in full...)
My virgin girlfriend wont have sex with me
Q. Im a virgin and so in love with this girl who is also a virgin,recently i talked to her about having sex but she wont give in,she belives in no sex before marriage and it rilly bothers me coz she is only 16years.she lets me touch her private parts ...
A. 18 September 2010: Her first experience will be memorable and forcing her to have sex before she's married will carry with her for the rest of her life. It will affect every relationship if you force her. If you truly love her you will wait until she is ready. She has ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is depressed about cheating on his wife and leaving her for me
Q. I'm very confused about my boyfriends feelings for me. We didn't start in an ideal way, we were both married and left our spouses because we knew after a couple of months that we wanted to be together. He is currently living with me, everything ...
A. 18 September 2010: Ask Older Sister you are correct in some if the things you say but are still judging me based on what 80% of the population is like. Both he and I remained friends for awhile before deciding to move forward with divorces and starting a relationship. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is depressed about cheating on his wife and leaving her for me
Q. I'm very confused about my boyfriends feelings for me. We didn't start in an ideal way, we were both married and left our spouses because we knew after a couple of months that we wanted to be together. He is currently living with me, everything ...
A. 17 September 2010: I also wanted to add that his friends and family have come to me and told me that his wife was abusive with him verbally and physically in front of them and that they are glad to see him so happy. He has commented that I am more compatable in a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is depressed about cheating on his wife and leaving her for me
Q. I'm very confused about my boyfriends feelings for me. We didn't start in an ideal way, we were both married and left our spouses because we knew after a couple of months that we wanted to be together. He is currently living with me, everything ...
A. 17 September 2010: Thanks for the responses. Overwhelmingly my friends have warned me that he might still leave me. I was curious if other people thought this as well given the circumstances.
I know my letter was long but I do want to point out the positives. 1. his ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband only last a minute or two?
Q. My husband has always had a problem with sex. He very seldom wants to have sex and when we do, it only last about a minute or two. We have no financial worries that could be depressing him and we get along great! We only argue whenever I bring up ...
A. 17 September 2010: Your husband might feel better about sex and have more confidence in himself if he knew he was pleasing you. Perhaps you need to explore more foreplay and show him how much you enjoy his touch. If he sees that you're satisfied he might not feel as ... (read in full...)
Soon to be ex wife wants a farewell f*ck but I have a girlfriend!
Q. I am about 2/3 the way through a divorce with my wife of 20 years. I have been separated from her for 4 months now and seeing someone else who I care about very much. This woman was an affair that turned into a committed relationship. My wife and ...
A. 9 July 2010: I am currently in the same situation as you. I have left my husband for a married man and he has left his wife as well for me. We are currently living together,simultanously going through divorce. I can tell you that the hardest thing i am currently ... (read in full...)
I commited a crime and might go to prison. When should I tell my boyfriend?
Q. I started seeing this guy 2 months ago. We have an intense relationship. We have emailed and talked for hours every day since we met. It's not all sexual, sometimes we just have fun and hang out. I commited a white collar crime out of depression. ...
A. 19 April 2010: Thankyou to everyone that responded. After reading your responses I summed up the courage to tell him what I had done and gave full disclosure. He responded in a kind and caring way, held me when I cried. He said it doesn't change how he feels about ... (read in full...)
For my daughters sake.., should I settle?
Q. I met someone new. My husband and I were having problems. I was 8 months pregnant and he decided it was best for me to go live with my parents out of state. I don't want to get into the specifics of the problems but it did not involve cheating in a...
A. 22 March 2009: I want to thank the people who were kind of enough to respond. Your answers have given me some strength to face and possibly make tough decisions but I know that in the end my daughter will be happy and well adjusted if I am. Thankyou ... (read in full...)
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