She's gonna think I'm hitting her up only for sex
Q. Im a student at university and everyday i study in the library because of exams. and theres this girl who i think is really nice that i see there and i would like to get to know her. but recently a group of ppl in the library put on a porn video and ...
A. 1 May 2009: Kinda funny and a good way to start a conversation with her.:)... (read in full...)
I have worked so hard on it, then we broke up. When do I give it to her?
Q. Recently my girlfriend and I broke up on good terms. During our relationship we both made strong commitments about love and the future. About a week later after the break, we were hanging out and everything went really sour. The reason is that the ...
A. 6 March 2009: In my opinion..no contact. She has asked that you do not contact her. Make her miss you. If she is the one for you, she'll be calling sooner or later and wondering what's wrong, why haven't you called her?
In regards to the book...don't give it ... (read in full...)
How can I gain more confidence for when I meet her?
Q. For some reason (dunno if it was a good idea or not) I registered on match.com a few months ago. Anyways, I got a message from someone on there saying they were interested, and she gave her email address. It was 12 days after she'd sent that ...
A. 3 March 2009: There is no way we can give you advice on how to gain confidence before meeting this gal. You just have to be yourself and if your weight gain is an issue..then it wasn't meant to be. Like SatinDesire said, there's plenty of fish in the sea!
Good ... (read in full...)
I found another woman's panties in my boyfriend's glove compartment!!!!
Q. I was driving with my boyfriend to his apartment. I stopped at the durg store to buy some condoms but when I got back to his car I found someones elses panties! He knows they must of been there before but how could I not see them??? Then worst of ...
A. 3 March 2009: Huh? Sooooo, what did you tell him? I'm thinking you told him to shove those panties up his bum right?!? Give him his walking papers..Now!
Ok, and what did he say after you saw the panties?... (read in full...)
My ex husband and I are wanting to try again... How do I break this to my boyfriend?
Q. I was married for eleven years and now have been divorced from him for just a little over year, and I have been dating a guy for a year. I don't want to hurt the guy that I have been seeing, but I have been having a constant host of feelings, ...
A. 3 March 2009: Also, after he gets over the hurt..He'll be thankful for your honesty.... (read in full...)
My ex husband and I are wanting to try again... How do I break this to my boyfriend?
Q. I was married for eleven years and now have been divorced from him for just a little over year, and I have been dating a guy for a year. I don't want to hurt the guy that I have been seeing, but I have been having a constant host of feelings, ...
A. 3 March 2009: Well there is no easy way to tell him. Just sit him down and tell him what you just told us...That you care about him and the last thing you want to do is hurt him. But you still have strong feelings for your ex-husband and want to give it a try! ... (read in full...)
Should I be upset or is this texting just not serious?
Q. My Husband is a OTR truck driver and got a text from a girl that said "no one loves you more than I do, pass this on to 5 people you love." He says that this is not serious that it is more like a game and people just text stuff like that. Should I ...
A. 16 February 2009: It's just a chain text! You pass it on to other people. Sometimes it says something dumb or other times it's something romantic..like letting you know someone cares. You can easily tell it's been passed on to others if the text starts off with ... (read in full...)
Will she forgive me and give me another chance?
Q. Can anyone help... my wife and I recently split up because I was drunk one night and ended up in bed with a man, the thing is I can't remember how I got there. Since we have split up I've told her all the truth, that I have been having these gay ...
A. 11 February 2009: Well, yeah I understand why she'd be devastated. Not only did you wake up with another man, but you're confessing to her that you might be gay.
I strongly suggest that you both go to couple's counseling. This might help a whole lot. That way you'... (read in full...)
No time or privacy for masturbation!
Q. It's a shame, I live in a very small house with paper thin walls, 95% of the time whenever I'm home there's someone else home in my family and I never feel comfortable about doing anything while theres people in the house or next room. It's like I ...
A. 11 February 2009: Do this in the shower. I think most guys will agree.... (read in full...)
I'm doing all the legwork in the relationship!
Q. Hi, I'm 20 years old and have been with the love of my life for about 7 months now, we have a terrific past with each other before dating and now that were finally together its been the happiest times of my life. Before we were head over heels for ...
A. 11 February 2009: I am a student and work full-time. My bf just works. Communication is the key to any relationship. So, I suggest you sit down with her and tell her how you're feeling.
After awhile it's not that you're bored of that person, it's just that you... (read in full...)
Pretending to be the ex during sex?
Q. What do you think about a husband asking his wife to play like he is her ex, while they are having sex?...
A. 5 February 2009: Weirdo! The past is the past. Why would you want to pretend like you're having sex with an ex rather than your current boyfriend/husband?!? Yuk! And that's why the ex is no longer in the picture. ... (read in full...)
DearCupid had over one million people visit the site in January!
Q. I have just peeped at our visitor figures for January 2009, the month just gone, and I'm excited to see that DearCupid passed 1,000,000 (yes, one MILLION!) unique visitors/month for the first time. According to Google Analytics we had 1,040,812 ...
A. 3 February 2009: Bravo!!
This site is brilliant and it has helped me out soooo much! I started by asking for advice and now I try my best to help others with my own advice. I hope I have been of some help!!!
Thanks so much And keep up the good work!... (read in full...)
What are the side effects of the morning after pill?
Q. What are the effects on your body after taking the morning after pill? Does it make you throw up or anything?...
A. 30 January 2009: The most common are: headache, nausea, painful breasts, and irregular vaginal bleeding. Also, stomach discomfort, pain, and backache. ... (read in full...)
How on earth do I get back in contact???
Q. I'm kicking myself at the moment. I have been on a four day training course, where I meet a lovely guy, we exchanged the odd word here and there but I was too shy to start a conversation as I would have got tongue tied. I often caught him glancing ...
A. 30 January 2009: Yeah, I don't think the training company can release that kind of information...confidential.
But, you could still give it a try. ... (read in full...)
Women who date younger men are known as cradle-robbers or cougars, but what are women dating older men called?
Q. Random question: Women who date younger men are known as cradle-robbers or cougars, but what are women dating older men called?...
A. 30 January 2009: Gold diggers. ... (read in full...)
Break my heart over and over...
Q. Hello, I love her. But she does not love me. I think she just liked me as a friend. She broke up with her boyfriend a time ago. But still loves him. We've seen eachother from time to time and I thought she liked me. She flirted, she was smilling ...
A. 29 January 2009: It's weird but you really can't control who we fall in love with. Sometimes a jerk, or someone who doesn't love us back in the same way. Anyways, I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt you. She probably just saw it on her part as a friendship. And now she ... (read in full...)
I was wondering is there a chance there could have been sperm on his penis from the first round?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were having sex today, we used contraception and I'm going on the pill when my next period is due but anyway we were having sex and he came and everything that was round one. Round two we were having sex and the condom ripped ...
A. 29 January 2009: Better to be safe than sorry. Go get the morning after pill. ... (read in full...)
Is cyber sex just as bad as physical cheating?
Q. Hi, i have a problem i am in a happy relationship i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he works away in the week i only see him at weekends. I have been chatting to this guy online but i also now him, everytime we talk after a while it ...
A. 29 January 2009: Yes, I consider this cheating. The fact that you're posting this tells us that you're feeling somewhat guilty. So, yes I would stop the chatting online.
Think about this..you're explaining to that person what you'd be doing to them if they wer... (read in full...)
Both cheating on our spouses for 7 months but never had sex!
Q. I have been having an affair with a man that is 17 years older than me. We have been seeing each other for 7 months and have not had sex. We have very passionate kissing sessions with lots of petting and that is fine with us both. We are both okay ...
A. 29 January 2009: Simple...because the majority of relationships end up having sex in the beginning stages. Most people feel that you need that connection early on to find out if you're truly a match or not. ... (read in full...)
Who knows... is she or is she not?
Q. Hi there I had been dating my now wife for 3 months and I asked her to marry me, 1 year later this came true. I am happy and everything is going well. The problem I have is that last year about 8 months into our relationship we went through a bad sp...
A. 27 January 2009: I wouldn't mention anything unless you have evidence..Otherwise, things can get ugly and she'll just accuse you of being insecure. If this happened awhile ago, just let it go! But if it's happening now, then sit down and have a grown-up ... (read in full...)
A question for the guys about long distance hookups.
Q. Here's a question for the guys please... If you had a one night stand with a girl that lived over 200 miles away, what would be your motivation for staying in contact with her through online chats?...
A. 27 January 2009: It's obvious...In case he's in town again he can just stop by for some fun! ... (read in full...)
Is there a chance this could work for us again...?
Q. Me and my ex husband were married 6 years and we ended it with a nasty divorce, for the first 5 months after we were enemies, after that we started to get close and closer. It's been almost 4 years and we have never slept together and we have become ...
A. 26 January 2009: I think time will tell.. But don't wait for him! If he's messing around with all these gals then you go out and have some fun. Don't sit around and wait for him to decide if he's going to take you out tonight for dinner or a movie. Make yourself ... (read in full...)
Is what we're doing considered dating?
Q. I would really appreciate it if I can get another point of view about how people define dates. I've met this guy under platonic circumstances, he made it clear that he is currently busy with graduate school and not looking for casual sex. In a...
A. 23 January 2009: I was wondering the same thing a few weeks ago. And sorry to say this but 'no' it would just be hanging out as friends. I could be wrong, but he made it clear that he's not looking for casual sex, yet he's a busy man.
Who knows, maybe after he... (read in full...)
I think she feels that she's under pressure to keep me interested...
Q. Here it is. I met a girl on the internet last summer(bet you've never heard that one before), and almost instantly we clicked. After a little while we exchanged mobile numbers, and got texting and talking to each other. I tell her that I love ...
A. 8 January 2009: I know how she feels..by you responding and letting her know that you like it. That relaxes her a bit so you won't think of looking anywhere else, and have something to look forward to when you come back home.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Are we too old to have children?
Q. Hi I'm new to this, I'm 37 and my girlfriend is a little bit younger. We have not been together long and I know one day she wants children. Are we too old to have children? I don't want to my children to think their dad is old, but I'm not...
A. 7 January 2009: Hi there, I suggest if you both decide that you want to have children whether now or in the future..just go to the doctor and get checked out. Make sure both of you are ok to have children, then plan it! A few friends of mine had children in ... (read in full...)
Perfect first date, horrible aftermath. Help!!
Q. I am fifteen, and recently went on my first date with a really nice guy from school. I have known him for almost 5 years, and have liked him on and off, but never told him as I thought he was waayy out of my league. then, last week, we went out to t...
A. 6 January 2009: He still likes you, but guy's ask a girl once and then wait for her to make the next move. They don't want to seem like they're begging or anything, so they become a little distant. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to say "I love you" yet, but he gets mad when I don't.
Q. I have a situation this boy that I talk to on the phone, he says that he loves me but i don't say it back to him n he gets mad when I don't say it. I don't think that we know eachother that long to say that to eachother. He says he don't mean it, he ...
A. 6 January 2009: Since you're asking for advice on this one..I think you don't feel it, so don't say it. "I love you" is not just something you say to anyone. Let him get mad all he wants, but he'll respect you more if he knows that you mean it maybe later on down ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him back or wait for him to do it
Q. My ex got in contact with me after 5 months and now I am confused. He has never been one to talk about feelings and admits it himself, he says he has trust issues. We met up for a drink and he was treating me very well like we were together again, ...
A. 27 December 2008: I think that you should wait until he asks you. Since he ended things. It looks like he still has feelings for you as you do for him..but wants to start things off slow with a few dates and take it from there. ... (read in full...)
I'm confused. What does :P mean?
Q. hi thanks for taking the time to read this what could my friend mean when he said to me that "you wont be single for ever and the fact we enjoyed fooling around together is proof of that!!"? i told him i was confused and he said "i hope you unde...
A. 10 December 2008: He means..both of you fool around but in the long run it might turn into something more serious. By ":P" he means sticking his tongue out. ... (read in full...)
What does it mean to have "game"?
Q. When someone asks "do you have game?" or when one says "I've got GAME" what does this exactly mean? I know sometimes it can be said in quite a conceited way, usually said from one to the opposite sex, but what does it exactly mean??? Thank you!...
A. 10 December 2008: When you are a smooth talker..and get your way at something. Also, a player. ... (read in full...)
Was our date a failure or does he really want to see me again?
Q. Hello, please help me read this situation: I was on a date with htis guy saturday night. It was more likea friendly recoinnaissance, nothing sensual or romantic, just pally pally and witha bit of sublte flirting. Before meeting me up i felt ...
A. 8 December 2008: My opinion: We sometimes makes asses of ourselves on the first few dates and the other person might start to wonder if we're even interested in going on a second, third date..and so on. But maybe not aloof..but just shy. I say you keep in touch thru ... (read in full...)
Why is sex such a big deal?
Q. Why is sex such a big deal?...
A. 4 December 2008: Yes, it's become a BIG deal! ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend so much, but I've never been sexualy satisfied by him.
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and in that time i have never been sexually satisfied. I love him but he just cant seem to turn me on. i has been my first and only. He tries so hard so i just lie and fake it. I have tried to be honest in ...
A. 4 December 2008: Well, I suggest you try using sex toys to give yourself pleasure..or playing with yourself if you're into that.
You said you wouldn't think of looking for someone else..but try talking to him about it. He probably won't mind it. Plus, it might sp... (read in full...)
Now that I've lost the weight he wants me back!
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago because I got fat. Now I've lost weight and he wants me back. I think if he loved me he would have stayed with me when I was overweight, so I'm hesitant. Should I get back with him? I love him, but am ...
A. 3 December 2008: Nope!
Just how you said no to all the fatty foods..tell him Hell No!
Congrats to losing the weight and get rid of Shallow Hal!... (read in full...)
Is it okay to be friends? She wants us to be friends!
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me 3 days ago. She says she doesn't want the responsibilty of a girlfriend. She says she doesn't want to see me and she is too busy and needs to concentrate on school. She says we can be friends. Do you think we can be ...
A. 3 December 2008: Yeah, I agree with Asked Angel..you can stay as friends only if both of you are over each other. Otherwise, it's just hard and you must go your separate ways. ... (read in full...)
Is he interested or just friendly?
Q. Here's the story. Met this guy at a live music venue, 5 weeks ago. I was with someone else but we managed a quick excited chat (I liked what I saw, he surely seemed like he liked what he's seen too). Had to go earlier but we exchanged a pat on the ...
A. 26 November 2008: It sounds like he's interested. Just go with the flow and have fun! Just be yourself and things will turn out great, no pressure. And yes, fancies you. ... (read in full...)
Is kissing considered cheating?
Q. Is kissing cheating? Just how bad is it to kiss (make out with) someone else when in a VERY serious relationship?...
A. 26 November 2008: Yes kissing is considered cheating from my point of view.. Kissing can lead to so many other things...sex!
You just don't go around kissing people..there has to be some kinds feelings and/or attractions towards that other person. ... (read in full...)
Men: why do you ask about a woman's past if you're just going to judge her for it?
Q. Men: Why do you ask about a woman's sexual past if you are going to (intentionally or otherwise) judge her for it and hold it against her? ...even when she has never been unfaithful, she has always been honest with you, she is with you and doesn't ...
A. 19 November 2008: I agree. 'Don't ask, Don't tell.'
In my almost (4) month relationship things were going smooth..he asked and asked and I was like, Why?!?
So, I said a little here and there to shut him up and he said way too much. I handled it quite good.
... (read in full...)
Where are all the decent men who don't lie? Do they exist?
Q. Where are all the decent men who don't lie? Do they exist? If they do where would they be or how do I find them?...
A. 14 November 2008: 1. No
2. No.
3. No, Sorry. ... (read in full...)
Is there a possibility you can be in love with two women at the same time?
Q. I have been married for 3 years and have two young children, I have seen an old friend recently that I have had feelings for, for a very long time, I had forgotten all about these feelings until she came back into my life. I have never talked to ...
A. 12 November 2008: Honestly, I feel that it is possible to be in love with two people at the same time, but in a different way. You may like one thing about one person and another thing from the other.
I say that you sit down and really think about what you feel... (read in full...)
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