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writes:My boyfriend wants to try bondage and im a bit nervous. What do you lot think about it? how do i really start it off? do i have to get into charcter? sorry i aint got a clue. Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve +, writes (9 March 2007):
 My advice to you would be to sit with him first of all and ask him exactly what he expects of these bondage sessions. Don't just jump in there. Talk about it first. Go on the net together and let him show you the kind of things he means. Ask him to tell you a fantasy that he has about bondage so you can see where he's coming from and what he expects from you.
There's no right way or wrong way to do this. The best way to find out is to ask him staight exactly the kind of things he would like to do to you or you to him. ASK HIM!
Eve
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (9 March 2007):
 Heavy bondage you might not want to jump into. Why don't you start with light bondage, like tying each other up (with soft scarves and not too tight)? Then, you can gradually get more into it. As for "character", you don't really need to get into character for some light bondage. It's not role play and you're not being a dominatrix or anything... enthusiasm is all you'll need.
Also, "Anon" mentioned something that I think it really important. Come up with a safe word that you can use if you're starting to get uncomfortable.
Just remember to be as open as you can with your boyfriend. Lots of talking and just have fun experimenting. Don't make the event too serious... these things are most fun with both of you are giggling.
Have fun, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, chachacha +, writes (8 March 2007):
Why don't you ask him? He's the one that wants to try it and so you ought to find out what he has in mind. If you can't ask him, then you probably shouldn't be doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): P.S. Addendum to "If you can't be good - Be Careful". I highly recommend that if you are willing to participate in this, make sure he does NOT take pictures. It is amazing how these things always turn up after a break-up and they can have severe consequences on your future happiness if the guy puts them on the net.Cheers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): Hi dear, Whether or not you want to try this is absolutely up to you, two consenting adults and all that. Never let anyone pressure you into anything that you are not comfortable with sexually. If you are interested, try it out slowly. He probably is just talking about being tied up - make sure the knots aren't to tight the material isn't chaffing. Know where the scissors are incase the knots get stuck! Not a scene you'd like someone else's help getting out of. If he really wants role playing, make sure you have a code word other than "Stop" "No" or "Yes" incase either one of you is uncomfortable and wants to stop - like "Green" - dicuss it before-hand and make sure you both know it. Be good and if you can't be good - Be Careful!
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