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writes:last night i had sex with my ex and i will admit it was very rough she kept moing saying it was amizing and it felt fantastic eventually she had to keep stoping cause her clit was hurting to much and she did bleed a little bit but i dont no whether i was just fucking too hard. is it a good thing that i made her hurt our am i doing somthing wrong she said it was the best sex shes ever had
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (5 May 2007):
I would recommend that if she really likes it rough that the two of you go down to one of those toys of adult stores and ask the staff for some help finding information on the subject. Discuss this in depth with her and pick a "safe word". The safe word is something that won't come up during regular sex, like "Gargamel", and when said, the rough play immediately ceases. Otherwise, the game continues until you're done.
But keep in mind that rough play is and can be dangerous if not done properly, and books aren't as good as finding a real live human to double check information against.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (13 March 2007):
 Hey there,
Some chicks like it rough. Just make sure when you get rough you check in with her and make sure she's doing alright. If she said it was the best sex ever, it probably was! Congratulations for that! Just make sure you're properly communicating just in case it gets a little too carried away for her.
(oh yeah, and because you did it super hard, do it gently tonight. Her cooter probably needs a little healing time...)
Enjoy, sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, Yos  +, writes (13 March 2007):
 Sounds like she's telling the truth. Some girls do really like rough sex, although it's usually a 'mood' thing, very few like it rough all the time.
In my experience, it is more about 'dominance' than 'roughness'. Meaning that some women respond to the feeling of being completely at a mans mercy and overpowered by 'masculinity'. One part of this is the feeling of not having to worry about what to do, since the man is being dominant and taking complete charge. All she has to do is let go, which can be incredibly liberating and erotic. However this really works best when you have a lot of trust between two people: to take someone right to their limits you have to trust that they'll stop if things get out of hand.
My recommendation is to get back together with her and go buy a whip ;)
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reader, mum2be +, writes (13 March 2007):
You need to trust your gf. If she said it was great, believe her. If you are really worried about it, try having slow, sweaty, passionate sex, and ask her which she prefers.
SOme girls do like a bit of rough, and if you both enjoyed it, then carry on as you were!!!!
all the best
(have fun)
xxx
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