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A lot of people ask if I'm from India... just to clear things up, I'm not. I'm not Indian, I just really liked that song by Aerosmith when I first made this account. I've never been to India. I'm not even an Aerosmith fan, really, but I really liked that song at the time.
I've been with my fella for 14 years, married for 10. We have two cool daughters and a pretty cool life that involves lots of adventure, art and laughter.
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Do you think it's better to start college off with a relationship or without one??
Q. Hey, everybody. So I've liked my guy friend for awhile now and he feels the same way towards me and things might get to the point where we may start dating sooner or later, but the problem with this is next year, we are both going off to college ...
A. 1 March 2007: Hi again,
After reading YorkieKrazed's advice, I agree with that too. I still stick with my advice, but some relationships can be really great and are worth sticking with right through college. Whatever your heart tells you, sweetness.
xxIndia... (read in full...)
Hey everyone! What sort of compliments do women like to get? I need to know so I can charm the ladies in conversation.
Q. hi! i wanted to know what knid of compliments women like and can anyone give me some ideas of stuff to come up with in conversation with this girl i like?...
A. 1 March 2007: I agree with CD, the best kinds of compliments are actually true. Even if it's really little (i.e. wow, you've got great hands.), it's still always so nice to hear.
What I like to hear most, however, is that I smell nice. If a guy tells me I sme... (read in full...)
He is right for me in everyway but I don't want to have sex with him! Will this come in time?
Q. I have the most wonderful male friend who is right for me in everyway. I know he would love to take things further but for me, there is no sexual spark which is very important to me. Does it come in time or this destined to be only friends? I ...
A. 1 March 2007: Hey sweetness,
Well, before I answer this question I have to know... have you kissed him yet? Have you done ANYTHING with this guy, or is your relationship so far COMPLETELY platonic?
xxIndia... (read in full...)
Do you think she likes me? I'm totally confused by her actions.
Q. Hello, I wonder if anyone could help please. I have known a girl for three years, each year we have become closer and closer but we are not going out. All my friends have told me that she likes me and I have noticed especially over the last year, ...
A. 28 February 2007: Hey sweetness,
The way you tell it, she's definitely into you. Since she can't have a relationship for another year, I think your plan sounds great. Get to know her better and improve your relationship on an emotional level. Get to knooowww... (read in full...)
I'm sticking with it for now to avoid being on my own, what shall I do?
Q. Help! My partner and I have been together for nearly 5 years. We used to have a good time together but over the last 6 months my feelings have changed and we've really drifted apart. I have a son who's 11 from my previous marriage and he has two ...
A. 28 February 2007: Hi there,
It sounds to me like you've lost interest. However, you've been together a long time... maybe you're hitting a dry spell. Some couples go through a year or two or even more of dry spells, but the magic comes back. Only if you work at ... (read in full...)
When we argue I'M always the one who's wrong. He also doesn't want to marry me. Does he think I'm not good enough?
Q. i have been with my fiance for 3 years and he cant be honest with me, he refuses to accept any kind of blame if we argue and im always in the wrong, he thinks im trying to change him but im not, just trying to make him grow up an to stop thinking ...
A. 27 February 2007: I think "anonymous" didn't mean LITERALLY. Yeah, he says it, but he really doesn't show it in any way, shape or form. That is why there isn't any mention of love here. If he doesn't treat you like he loves you (and it doesn't sound like he does), ... (read in full...)
He doesn't trust condoms and I don't like taking medication including birth control pills. How can we combat this?
Q. when my boyfriend and i are messing around to the point of possible sex, it always ends because he doesn't trust condoms and im not on birth control. he has asked me before if id think about going on it, and i have thought about it, but the more i ...
A. 27 February 2007: You know, I think you should go to your local clinic.
I really do. Tell them exactly what you wrote here, that you don't trust condoms and you're wary of taking medications and they can talk to you really thoroughly about your options. I'd sugg... (read in full...)
My girlfriends relationship with her mum really annoys me, its so childish!!!
Q. I really hate my girlfriend and her mums relationship with one another. They are far too close and irritating. Whenever Im round my gfs house I get uncomftable when her mum comes in because they are giggling and jokey and try and embarass me. ...
A. 27 February 2007: Hey sweetness,
Thank God that your girlfriend and her Mom have such a great relationship. That's really rare, and it's really awesome! Would you want a girlfriend who hated her Mom or always fought with her? I think it's really cool that they hav... (read in full...)
Does anybody know something I can do in bed to really impress my boyfriend??
Q. Does anybody know something I can do in bed to really impress my boyfriend!! We have fantastic sex I just want to do something different that will really blow him away!! Any of you ladies or gents out there got any useful tips!! ...
A. 27 February 2007: Have you dressed up for him? That can be a total switch up. Totally unexpected and fun. You don't have to role play, necessarily, but that doesn't mean that wearing a sexy nurse outfit or a French maid outfit can't be hott (oh yes, two t's).
... (read in full...)
Do you think it's better to start college off with a relationship or without one??
Q. Hey, everybody. So I've liked my guy friend for awhile now and he feels the same way towards me and things might get to the point where we may start dating sooner or later, but the problem with this is next year, we are both going off to college ...
A. 27 February 2007: Hey sweetness,
In my (very personal) opinion, I think it's best to start college like a fresh start. A slate wiped clean. A whole new you! Middle school and high school everyone knows you as SOMEONE. In college, you're surrounded by complete... (read in full...)
For the agony AUNTS - I like this girl but do you think she'll be put off by a little acne?
Q. Question for the girls: Do you care if a guy has a little bit of acne? I mean if a person always has a few pimples and when they go away briefly it looks like the skin is not smooth but a bit rough? Is it really the person's personality that...
A. 27 February 2007: Totally doesn't matter. When I look back at the picture of boyfrieds from high school, I see some acne... I do. But at the time, I didn't even notice it. I just adored those guys for who they were on the inside. They were fellow actors, one of them ... (read in full...)
How do you "jack off?"
Q. Ok im a bit embrassed by asking this question but how do u jack off? i dont know how and i think all guys should know how to. sorry if this sounds stupid ...
A. 27 February 2007: Hey sweetness,
On of the Agony Uncle's posted this great website once: http://www.jackinworld.com and it's great for people who want to know more about masturbation. I think you're a little young for all this, but hey - you're curious and ther... (read in full...)
He heard I was divorced and gave me a call! I haven't heard back..so why did he do this?
Q. A man I dated and was in love with a long time ago called me up on Valentines Day to tell me he remembers very intimate details about me, such as how I smell, feel, talk, etc. and that he can't get me out of his mind. He would not give me a reason ...
A. 27 February 2007: Unless he SAID explicitly that he was going to call you again (in which case, I have no idea how to answer this question), my bet is that he's waiting for you to call him. By calling you and laying out all his feelings for you, he put the ball in ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to discuss with her and I want to be open with her and honest.How can I fix this?
Q. I have this amazing girlfriend who I love so much and we have been together about 3 weeks and I'm having a couple of issues that I'm scared to discuss with her and I want to be open with her and honest. But when we are like around each other we ...
A. 27 February 2007: Well, sweetness... first thing I'd do is talk to HER. Some people aren't very good at talking, so they aren't ones to strike up a conversation. Sometimes they need a gentle push into "talk mode". So if you try talking to her, and when I say talking, ... (read in full...)
What is the connection between the French Maid and Sex?
Q. I Was Just Wondering what The Connection Between The French Maid And Sex ? I Would Find It Really Helpful For A Quick Responce A I Wanna Giv My Boyfriend Somethin he Will Never Forget thank you x...
A. 26 February 2007: Ooooh!!! Have fun, girlfriend!!... (read in full...)
My ex has a girlfriend but he's being so nice to me. Does he still love me?
Q. My ex cleaned his sick off my car today. However, he said he wanted to clean it inside and out, checking the oil and doing the tyre pressure. He then offered to do my weekly shopping! He's got another girl, but we did flirt and pretended we hated ...
A. 26 February 2007: Yes, I answered your original question. Isn't this the guy who you decided you were better than and used to treat you like crap??
Aside from that, if he's got a girlfriend I wouldn't screw around with it. If anything, it sounds like this guy is h... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel my friends get just too much for me....
Q. i know this is going to sound like the most selfish problem in the world but its really getting me down. I love all my friends to bits and would do anything for them but im constantly the one they all turn to when they have a problems. I am ...
A. 26 February 2007: You are NOT, repeat NOT selfish.
I can understand why you're so distraight about this problem. You sound like a really great friend, and your friends clearly really trust you. I'm sure you don't want to break that trust with them or suggest ... (read in full...)
Guys... can a man masturbate while sleeping and NOT realise it?
Q. the other day I woke up to find my boyfriend masturbating next to me. we had had sex earlier on that night so i could'nt understand why he was doing this. I spoke to him about it and he denies all knowledge of it happening. he claims that if he ...
A. 26 February 2007: Dude, YES. I read about it somewhere... sometime... guys can totally masturbate in their sleep. Most men don't finish themselves off, but I suppose they can. I'm not sure. I know my boyfriend does when he's sleeping. He never finishes, but he ... (read in full...)
What is the connection between the French Maid and Sex?
Q. I Was Just Wondering what The Connection Between The French Maid And Sex ? I Would Find It Really Helpful For A Quick Responce A I Wanna Giv My Boyfriend Somethin he Will Never Forget thank you x...
A. 26 February 2007: What's the connection?
Well the outfit is totally hot! Look at it! It's pretty freakin' sexy, yes? And you know... guys love French chicks. They have that sexy accent, they have names like Bridgette.
But mostly, it's the hot, hot, hot outfit.... (read in full...)
Would you kiss a girl or man who does oral sex in her/his past? a question for male and female.
Q. open question would you kiss a girl or man who does oral sex in her/his past? a question for male and female....
A. 26 February 2007: Yes, I certainly would. To me, th epast is the past. Now if the guy I was kissing had done oral sex with like, hundreds of people, I'd be a little wary. That's gross. But if it was just a few people, whatever. That's alright. Provided he brushes his ... (read in full...)
Shes Fakeing A Period The Day before i met her what does it mean
Q. Shes Fakeing A Period The Day before i met her what does it mean? i'm meeting my new girlfriend tomoz (27th) first time shes staying over shes 16 shes had sex she told. she put of comein over for a whilie and tomoz seems to be day shes willin 2 st...
A. 26 February 2007: Three weeks! She totally could be having her period right now. Sometimes it comes early. So she might not be lying toyou.
If she is lying to you, then yes - it's probably because she's nervous and doesn't actually want to have sex with you! May... (read in full...)
Is my fiancee behaving inappropriately towards these teenage girls ??
Q. I want to know if my fiance is being inappropriate. My fiance is 33 and I am 24, but I never really thought the age difference was a problem. However, he talks to girls on myspace (that are his friend's younger sisters) and they are 15. I think it ...
A. 26 February 2007: Hi there,
What a sticky situation. I'm worried that YOU'RE worried that this might not be a safe relationship. If you go into this feeling a little worried about his tendencies, I think you might want to consider backing out. It is a little w... (read in full...)
I need different sexual positions to spice up our love life, any ideas?
Q. ive been with my fiance since i was 13 and im now 21 and we have had regular sex since then but i want to try something different maby different positons and things!!!! buti dont want to say anything to him as he might think im getting bored help? x...
A. 26 February 2007: Hey sweetness,
You know what book you absolutely HAVE to get?!
The Cosmo Kama Sutra. It has (and I quote) "77 mind-blowing sex positions" - and also, it's Cosmopolitan, so it's gotta be good. It's hard cover and amazing and only $12.48 on a... (read in full...)
Just wondering if anyone have a different definition of "fiance" other than those who got engaged.
Q. This past weekend, I spend my weekend at my boyfriend's. I had dinner with his family (parents, siblings, cousins). My bf's parents start introducing me to others as my bf's fiance. Me and my boyfriend is really close and we are seriously looking ...
A. 26 February 2007: Hey sweetness,
I know no other definition. I think CD hit it right on the nose. Did your boyfriend mention that you two were thinking about living with each other to his Mother? I know some people who just are old-fashioned thinkers will jump to ... (read in full...)
Why do I seem attracted to older guys?
Q. i have a problem...i'm only attracted to older guys! i'm 17 and it seems like people that are 23 and older grab my attention...the oldest crush i had was 38. i have no idea what to do because im in high school and i want to have a relationship ...
A. 26 February 2007: Hey sweetness,
Well, everyone knows that girls mature faster than boys. Older men are probably more at your maturity level at this stage of the game, and guys who are your age just aren't doing it for you. Alright, that's okay.
If you hold o... (read in full...)
How can I tell my parents I want to be a pornography actress without them blowing a fuse?
Q. i no this sounds weird but i would love to become a pornography actress and im choosing my opitions as i type this but i dont no how to tell my mum and dad with out them putting me in a bording school or in a high up castle with a dragon for a ...
A. 25 February 2007: Hey sweetness,
I am QUITE familiar with the sex industry, I have dabbled around it and around the people who work in it. It's a really, really, really harsh world.
However, I do think 'rhythmandblues' tore into you a little bit, I don't thi... (read in full...)
Do other girls around my age masturbate?
Q. im 14 do other girls around my age masterbate? thank x...
A. 25 February 2007: Hey sweetness,
Oh Lord, yes!!! Tons do. Millions do! You're very, very normal. Have fun getting to know yourself, doll!
xxIndia... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents that my sister's having a party while they're away even although they've told her no?
Q. I found out that my sister might be having a party. Now I don't now all the details (where, how many are going etc.) but me and my parents are out that weekend and there are guys older than me, who might be going. My parents say she can't have a ...
A. 25 February 2007: Hey there,
I'm stuck between telling your parents and not telling them... I don't know your sister. Is she a real wild girl? If you're scared about these older guys being there, why don't you attend as well? If you're there, you'll feel a lot bett... (read in full...)
How can I get this guy to leave me alone?
Q. I broke with my ex boyfriend 6 month ago, but we remain friends. recently he shared with me that he moved with his new girlfriend. This news was irritating me. I spoke this week with him that I needed space, that there is no need for us to be ...
A. 24 February 2007: Okay, I didn't respond to this post, but just reading the update made me happy. Free at last!! Hooray for you!!!
Liberation, doesn't it taste sweet?
Enjoy the (this time for REAL) single life. It's pretty kickass!
xxIndia... (read in full...)
Should I give her an ultimatum or just stick it out?
Q. Hi Im a single guy and would like some advice. On 04/12/06 I started chatting with a girl nearby in a chat room. Anyway we hit it off instantly and after a couple of weeks she asked to meet me. However I still haven’t met here. Every time we ...
A. 24 February 2007: Well, she's avoiding you, that's for sure. It's possible that maybe there's something she doesn't want you to know, but maybe she's just really nervous about actually meeting you. Maybe she's a little scared, or maybe she knows that your ... (read in full...)
My tatoos have little bumps in them which have just appeared, is this normal or is it just me being paranoid?
Q. I was just wondering, I have 2 tattoos one that i had done 1st June 06 and the other in July 05. Are they meant to pop up slightly like little bumps or is it just me ?? ta ...
A. 24 February 2007: Before you go to a doctor, I'd go to the tattoo place. Any tattoo place will do, just go in and ask them if it's normal. Mine is sort of puffed up a little bit. I have an outline of a heart and if you run your fingers over it, you can definitely ... (read in full...)
After puking in my car, my ex told me 'he loved me' but was drunk! I want him back..what can I do?
Q. i split with ex 10mths ago and have slept with him twice. I saw him 2nights ago when there was a leaving party. I didn't drink. I spoke to him and said i was sick of the way he treated me. I was better than him and I won't ever let anyone treat me ...
A. 24 February 2007: Stick by your guns, girl! You said that you were sick of the way he was treating you, that you were better than him and you won't let anyone treat you the way he did again. Well, girl... DO IT. Don't let him have the privilege of seeing you again. ... (read in full...)
Is this a trust issue or am I just being paranoid?
Q. i have been going out with my boyfriend for five months now and i feel as if my bofriend does not tell me most simple things like where he is going or with who? i knw this makes me sound like a paranoid person but i feel it isn't such a hard thing ...
A. 24 February 2007: Hey there,
Since you've been going out for five months, your boyfriend probably just assumes that he doesn't need to tell you these little things, because you know all of his friends, you know what he usually does, etc. I think he thinks you trus... (read in full...)
I don't seem to be attracted to males or females. Is this normal?
Q. please help, i am a 17 yr old 'straight' girl. i do go out with boys but never find myself attracted to any of them. i thought about if i could be a lesbian but i am not attracted to girls either....it appears i am not particuarly attracted to ...
A. 24 February 2007: Hey girl,
I've been there. Pretty much all I can tell you is that someone special will come along and you'll be attracted to them. I promise you, you will. Until I was 19 I had never really been physically attracted to anyone. I would kiss peo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend raped me and I don't know what to do about it, I feel so dirty.
Q. Help me please i thought he loved me im 14 and my 15 year old boyfriend Raped me :'( i havnt told anyone what shud i do i thought he loved me, He was walkin me home and he suggested we go the long way round so we have longer to talk and then he ...
A. 23 February 2007: Sweetness,
NO ONE will get angry at you for not being strong enough. I know you're plenty strong for having written this out and posting it on this website. If you tell your parents, they know you and they know you're strong. They'll know what to ... (read in full...)
We broke up so is it okay to still have sex with him?
Q. me and my bf broke up....is it wrong to still have sex with him if we are "just friends"...
A. 23 February 2007: Is it wrong? No. But if you're going to break up for REAL, and start seeing other people, well... this arrangement can feel reeeeaaallllyyy crappy after awhile. Someone's feelings always get hurt. If you're trying to get over this guy, don't sleep ... (read in full...)
I'm 20-she's 16. I want to date her but am wondering if the age gap is too much? What do you all think?
Q. Im a 20 year old college student (second year) and I have a huge crush on 16 year old (sophomore in high school), who is good friends with my sister. We are both Catholic and don't believe in pre-marital sex. I dont drink or do drugs, and I am a ...
A. 23 February 2007: Hey there,
Absolutely. Absolutely you two should be together. You both sound like two people who have a lot in common and seem to really like each other. You sound like such a sweet guy, and she sounds like a doll. Your parents already get alon... (read in full...)
How do I meet Mr Right? Where am I going wrong here?
Q. I'm desparate to meet Mr Right. I keep going to bars and clubs and am so desparate for people to fall for me that i always end up drinking too much and having sex with whoever i meet in the belief that they will want to continue seeing me. Guess ...
A. 23 February 2007: Hey sweetness,
Isn't it annoying how when we're looking all over for the right person - he's never around, but then as soon as you give up hope and start just living your life again, he shows up!! I think the less you desperately look for Mr. Righ... (read in full...)
Is Mom's answer to my question, right or is she just keeping my hopes up?
Q. A while ago I asked my mum "how do you know if you have found the right person?" (in other words someone you have fallen in love with and want to spend the rest of your life with them) and she said you just know it's right. Is she right or is she j...
A. 23 February 2007: Oh, Mom's always know. How come it seems like I don't know anything, but eventually I'll be a Mom and I'll need all the right answers!! I hope they sell a book or something.
Your Mom is right. That special someone will give you a feeling inside o... (read in full...)
I'm 5 foot 3ish and weigh 133lbs, am I fat?
Q. Help! I am 5'2/5'3ish and I weigh 133 lbs. I feel like I'm fat. It's getting out of control, I think about not eating and I've thrown up a couple of times.. ....
A. 23 February 2007: You're not even CLOSE to fat, sweetness. You're young and probably under a lot of pressure to be thin as a rail and unhealthy... but you've got no reason for that. Starving yourself and throwing up is not healthy, it's not going to make you feel ... (read in full...)
Guys, how would you feel to be asked out??
Q. hi there..a question for all you guys??? how would you feel if a woman asked you out??? im 27 years old, met up with a guy , but not sure if he is interested...should i ask him out first? he seems shy though......
A. 22 February 2007: "If she was a real bow-wow"... oh my god, ponungalungb, you freakin' kill me. This terminology will now be added into my vast lexicon. Oh man...
xxIndia
P.S. I know you don't want a girl's opinion, but I say you go for it and ask him out!! Gi... (read in full...)
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