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A lot of people ask if I'm from India... just to clear things up, I'm not. I'm not Indian, I just really liked that song by Aerosmith when I first made this account. I've never been to India. I'm not even an Aerosmith fan, really, but I really liked that song at the time.
I've been with my fella for 14 years, married for 10. We have two cool daughters and a pretty cool life that involves lots of adventure, art and laughter.
I adore: positivity, theater, llamas, fromage, sweatpants, earrings, and sitcoms. That just about sums it up... |
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What else could cause her to be dry tonight after 3 days no sex?
Q. Ive been dating this girl for about 6 months, I lost my virginity to her about 5 months ago. Anyway, she has been really into me and we have a good time together but she has been really weird lately. Every time we have had sex she is always very w...
A. 28 April 2007: Hi sweetness,
Maybe she's just got a lady problem that she's embarressed to tell you about. Now, I'm not sure what that problem is... but I assure you, masturbation or sex with another won't make her dry up. As Floraltempotations said, that wil... (read in full...)
Basically i feel that she deeply wants me to please her, or care for her, but that is not possible as she is quite nasty and forceful.
Q. hello, I am a 24 yrs old single guy, currently staying with my uncle and aunt. My aunt seems to be a dominating woman and she is trying to teach me things i don't really agree with. Basically i feel that she deeply wants me to please her, or c...
A. 28 April 2007: Hi there,
I don't think you'll like my answer very much and for that, I'm sorry. Pretty much, I'm thinking that for as long as you're living under her roof, you're just going to have to bear with her. To tell her off would be rude, as she is openi... (read in full...)
How do I find the clitoris?
Q. This might sound like a strange question, but How do I find the clitoris? I know there's a sort of a bump at the top of the vagina area that is really sensitive, and I'm pretty sure that the clitoris is supposed to be able to stick out just below ...
A. 28 April 2007: All though I could attempt to tell you the exact location, I think what you really ought to be doing is looking up female genetalia online. A picture is worth a thousand words, so I looked up a picture for you. This is a great diagram, it's not a ... (read in full...)
Is it true that if you are on the pill for a long time...you won't have kids, once you stop taking them?
Q. Is it true that if you are on birth contol pills for many years you cant have kids once you stop taking them? I have been on the pill on and off for about 2 years. If I go a lot longer will I still be able to have kids when I want to? ...
A. 28 April 2007: Oh my, YES, you will be able to have babies. Birth control pills do NOT in any way cause infertility. Don't worry, sweetness.... not at all.
xxIndia
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Do women shave their private parts for anything other then sexual reasons ?
Q. Are there other reasons women shave down south besides sexual reasons?...
A. 27 April 2007: I started shaving "down there" because it was more comfortable! All that hair was just getting itchy and icky. And, I do love getting sexy pairs of underwear, and less hair enhanced the experience....
Of course, I'm not COMPLETELY bare, but [ret... (read in full...)
I recently found out that my girlfriend bragged about our sex life to her small group of friends.
Q. I recently found out that my girlfriend bragged about our sex life to her small group of friends. I was shocked... I don't know if it was a bad shock or a good shock. Probably a little bit of bad shock, but mostly good. Its just, I have never ...
A. 27 April 2007: Oh MY, sweetness. Girls talk to their girl friends all the time about sex. My girlfriend's and I, that's our favorite subject. I know my girl friends know all about my sex life.
It's not a bad thing, it's really not. Not even close! Just somethin... (read in full...)
How do I stop staring at their tits?
Q. I'm almost 14 and I'm really pariniod about being called a pervert. When girls wear tank tops and stuff I intentially notice their breasts first, but the second I realise what I'm looking I blink a bit and hope no one saw and just try to act ...
A. 26 April 2007: Hi sweetness,
You are NOT a freak. Everywhere in everyplace in the world, men are staring at breasts... especially at the age of 14. Oh my, you are NOT a freak!
There's no shame in glancing, but staring is usually construed as rude. Just make ... (read in full...)
I want a baby but im only 14 years old!
Q. Please help me! I want a baby but im only 14 years old! My boyfriend is 16 and we want to be parents already! I feel ready for some reason! What shall i do!!??? Please please help me....
A. 26 April 2007: Hi sweetness,
I totally understand the feeling of wanting to have a baby. As other aunts have told you, you really are too young and a baby will do a toll on your body (you'll never have the figure you have now again) and a baby is EXPENSIV... (read in full...)
Ladies, would you reject your guy for the pain you feel while having sex with him?
Q. This is a question to all women in general as to whether you would reject your guy for the pain you feel while having sex with him? Or in milder case, would you blame or criticize him?...
A. 25 April 2007: If my boyfriend accidentally hurt me while in the bedroom, I wouldn't "blame" him. Mistakes happen! However, if my boyfriend caused me pain and when I vocalized my pain he didn't STOP, then I'd be angry. Rejection is a heavy would, but depending on ... (read in full...)
Football mad to win the girl of my dreams
Q. Do you guys think it's OK or am I getting obsessed? I'm kinda worrying about this obsession. I'm quite a loud and funny person and always make my mates laugh. There's this girl I really fancy. Well at lunchtime about 20 boys play football on the ...
A. 25 April 2007: There's no problem showing off your skills for a girlfriend. Make sure you don't drive you friends NUTS by hogging the ball or by overdoing it... otherwise, there's nothing wrong with trying to impress a girl with fancy tricks.
And hey, keep pra... (read in full...)
Does too much wetness in a girls vagina gross guys out when they finger you?
Q. Does too much wetness in a girls vagina gross guys out when they finger you? I'm talkinga bout a 16 year old boy....
A. 25 April 2007: According to my boyfriend, "no!!!!". When a girl gets wet, it means her boyfriend (or whoever is on the other end of things) is doing something RIGHT.
I don't mean to sound like a Mom, but aren't you a little young for this kind of action? ... (read in full...)
He made this comment when I was giving him a handjob! What did it mean?
Q. I was giving my boyfriend a hand-job today and he smiled and said "if you carry on like that you're going to tip me over the edge" any ideas on what he meant? x...
A. 25 April 2007: He was loving it and you were about to "tip him over the edge"... a.k.a. drive him crazy! Give him an orgasm!
Good job, it was definitely a compliment.
xxIndia... (read in full...)
My bf and I are planning to live together..so how do we manage the finances and who pays for what?
Q. ok, so now things are getting serious with my b/f of 4 months. We've kinda touched on the subject of living together. I have never lived with someone before, and I dont know how to act or what to do. I desperatly need advice on how to manage the ...
A. 25 April 2007: This is stuff you really need to be talking to your PARTNER to rather than us. This is VERY dependent on your own individual financial stances and how your family situations are. How many kids do you have, how many kids does he have?
Befor... (read in full...)
If I don't like strip clubs, does that mean when I get a girlfriend, I won't like any sex games?
Q. OK I know this sounds weird but I need to know. I´m single, 19, and there was a strip club near my hotel in Amsterdam. I thought about going in but I was too shy to do so. If I don´t like things like strip clubs, does that mean that when I get ...
A. 24 April 2007: Hiiii sweetness,
Oh my, NO. Lots of men don't care for strip clubs, and let's face it - they're a particular taste. They aren't personal, it's just a bunch of strange women throwing their breasts in your face and wiggling around to get money ou... (read in full...)
Does a lot of 'wetness' from a woman's vagina, gross guys out?
Q. Does haveing alot of vaginal secretion when a guy fingers you, does that gross guys out? And how can you temporarily get rid of some of the "wetness"?...
A. 24 April 2007: The wetness is a great thing! Guys love it! It means that you're getting turned on, and it's a great natural lubricant. Sometimes, you can get reeeaaallllyyy super wet, and maybe you'll want to keep a box of baby wipes or tissues by your bed just in ... (read in full...)
Ladies, do you like your man's genitalia...shaved, trimmed, or manly as possible??
Q. Shaved, trimmed, or manly as possible? Wondering if girls prefer a guys pubs to be shaved, trimmed or all together hairy, personally I always assumed shaving it all off was the gently thing to do for a chick. That and doing so makes your penis...
A. 24 April 2007: Hi sweetness,
To each their own! Every girl has different taste... it's like asking people if they prefer girls with short hair, medium hair or long hair. Personally, I prefer a close trim. I don't like it completely shaved, but I like it pretty c... (read in full...)
Ladies, what sort of birth control (besides condoms) do you use?
Q. I am 18 years old and in a relationship that is starting to turn very serious. I am making an appointment with my University’s health office to get myself some sort of birth control, but I’m unsure of what I should get. My school offers : the ...
A. 24 April 2007: Hi there, sweetness...
I've been on the pill for a little while, but I JUST went in the other day and decided to try out the Nuva Ring. I like the pill, but I'm a little forgetful and remembering to take the pill everyday is, well, a task. Al... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for normal people to masturbate?
Q. I just want to know is it normal for people to want to masturbate? Is their anything wrong with it aslong as it doesn't become excessive? I must admit I'm 14 and I find myself wanting to sometimes, I do it privately is this wrong? Chee...
A. 23 April 2007: Hi there, sweetness...
So normal, it's incredible! Masturbation is a perfectly healthy and wonderful way to explore sexuality. Not to mention, it's the safest sex you can have!
Check out this website: http://www.jacki... (read in full...)
Worried that my friend will change more than her clothes!!
Q. My friend has always had her own style, and she's used her figure to her advantage. (She's got super skinny legs, and then a large belly). But recently she's been copying of another girl we know, buying all the same clothes as she has, and whilst t...
A. 22 April 2007: Maybe all go shopping together and find her things that would look really great on HER figure. Or, go pick up a fashion magazine with suggestions of clothes that flatter figures (seventeen, cosmo, teen often have articles like this), and go over it ... (read in full...)
I want him to keep his goth look but he won't do the same as me! What should I do?
Q. Dear cupid, We are a gothic couple that has been together for 8 years and just engaged! Problem is when I met him he use to color his hair black, and be really into his "look." Now he is not and has not been in a couple of years. I personally thi...
A. 22 April 2007: Hey sweetness,
Did you marry him for his "look"? Because there are plenty of men out there who are rocking the 'Goth' look, and who I'm sure would be happy to marry you. Since you're in love with this guy, don't you want to marry him for HIM? Sur... (read in full...)
I'm 10 years old, am I too young to date?
Q. I am 10 . Am i too young to date?...
A. 20 April 2007: Hey sweetness,
I think ten is a little young only because you'll be dating for the rest of your life... why rush it? Dating isn't as much fun as it looks like. Dating is hard work! Dating can be lots of fun, but dataing can sometimes make you sad.... (read in full...)
I'm a pregnant 17 year old and my BF wants to keep the baby, but I'm just not sure!
Q. I'm 17 years old and found out i am pregnant 4 days ago, i have been with my partner for 5 months and are very happy, he wants me to keep the baby but i am not to sure, my family is telling me to get rid of it. How will i realise what I actually...
A. 20 April 2007: Hi sweetness,
This is partly your partners decision, but mostly this should be YOUR decision. It's your body and your life. An abortion is a perfectly acceptable way to handle things, as is adoption. If you decide to keep your baby, that's w... (read in full...)
My husband displays no affection towards me whatsoever and I'm almost ready to leave! Help!
Q. i get no affection from my husband, should I stay or go? I have been married for nearly 3 years now and imtiamy has always been an issue for us. My husband will not touch me, hug me or kiss me, occasionally he allows me to hug him but wont hug...
A. 20 April 2007: Hey sweetness,
This guy sounds like he'd rather be a hermit. Three years with little to no affection? You're stronger than I am, darling. I would've been out of there a long time ago, or at least given him a stroooonnnggg talking to.
Was he ... (read in full...)
We agreed to go ahead with the 3some, but every time it crops up my wife finds a reason not to go ahead!!
Q. Alright, so I read some other similar questions but not exactly the same. My wife and I are both legitimately intrested in a threesome, and (she being bisexual) we are agreed it should obviously be a woman. The problem is everytime I find someone ...
A. 19 April 2007: Hey sweetness,
She sounds like she's not really into this and doing it for you. However, if you think she's REALLY excited about this then the only solution I see to this is letting HER pick a girl to do it with. She can make all the arrangem... (read in full...)
My partner quit smoking but his moodiness is really getting to me! Any advice?
Q. my partner whom i have been with for 3 years is giving up smoking, its only been 4 days and he is very moody. sometimes calling me awful and hurtful names and yelling at me and having a go at me over small things that no one would get mad about. t...
A. 19 April 2007: Hi there, sweetness,
Isn't quitting a bitch? Yep, yep, the mood swings, the snapping... I've been there before. Quitting smoking is very, VERY hard... it's an addictive and when you try to stop, you start to crave. And when you start to crave an... (read in full...)
Will sperm that is in contact with the outside of my vagina..cause a pregnancy?
Q. if sperm is not actually inside the vagina but just in contact with the outside of it, is there still possibility 2 get pregnant, also baring in mind that im still a virgin. i realy appreciate the help:(...
A. 18 April 2007: Hey there, sweetness...
You can absolutely get pregnant from sperm being on the outside of your vagina. Those little guys are good swimmers, and you're moist enough down there for them to have something to swim through.
As Rhythmandblues m... (read in full...)
How can I stop smoking during pregnancy ? Any tips?
Q. Hello, Yesterday I discovered I am pregnant, (great news) I am a smoker and am looking for advice on how to stop!! I’ve been told I can not have any nicotine replacement as this can caurse spin-bifida… is this true, and how do I stop? Thank You...
A. 17 April 2007: Hey sweetness,
When I quit smoking I would eat a lot of popcorn - pop one kernal in at a time - or little lollipops. Whenever I had a craving, I'd do something different with my mouth and usually it would help.
I think you just need to prioriti... (read in full...)
Condoms the 1st and 2nd time..no condoms the 3rd and 4th time! I am terrified I'm pregnant. ANy advice?
Q. i need help! i had sex yesterday..first and second with condoms..3rd 4th without a condom..im soo scared that my bf cum inside of me..and it have to be week before i get my period. i think im suppose to get my period around the 20th or 23th..and now ...
A. 17 April 2007: Four times in one day! Pretty impressive.
Anyhow, enough with the jokes. You should know better than this! You used a condom the first two times, what happened?!?
You CAN get Plan B from Planned Parenthood if you have one around... look i... (read in full...)
Do you think she slept with this other guy before me when she was 14 ?
Q. I found a picture of my girlfriend and her boyfriend when she was 14. He was acting like he was going to grab her breast, and she didnt look like she minded too much. She was put on birth control at about this age because of her devastat...
A. 17 April 2007: Reeeaalllly doesn't seem like it, sweetness. A picture where he appears like he's about to touch her breast? First off, that doesn't suggest that they're having SEX. Maayyybbeee that he's felt her up before, but that's not sex. It's really not. OR ... (read in full...)
How long do you think you should be in a relationship for before proposing?
Q. How long do you think you should be in a relationship for before proposing? I've been with my girlfriend for five years and it's been fantastic apart from the occasional row over nothing and her having a one night stand near the beginning of the ...
A. 16 April 2007: Hey darlin',
Five years! Wow! Most couples don't wait that long (all though most couples probably should). That much time together, you should be able to tell if you guys would make good life partners or not.
If you love her and she loves yo... (read in full...)
Guys, do you find it really unattractive when girls have a gap between the front teeth?
Q. Hi, I'm a teenager with a gap between my teeth. I was wondering if guys find it really unattractive when girls have a gap between the front teeth. Does it make even pretty girls look ugly in a guy's opinion??...
A. 16 April 2007: Hey sweetness,
I know tons of girls who have little gaps and they are still KNOCKOUTS. Firstly, it gives you character - personality. It makes you distinct. It's quirky, and it makes you you. I know I'm not a guy, but if I was, I would think th... (read in full...)
I want to try anal sex-what's a good lube to use?
Q. I don't how to put this so I'll be frank. I've wanted to try anal really badly for ages. He isn't very enthusiastic but has agreed to try it. What lube should I used etc? And his penis is quite large (10") could this be a problem?...
A. 15 April 2007: KY is great lube... make sure you use quite a bit. TEN INCHES?? My my! Make sure you really eeeaaasseeee into things. That's an awfully big adjustment your body is going to have to make! I'd make sure he never goes to deep! That could do... ... (read in full...)
I love him so much that we have sex 3 times or more, per week! So, is something wrong with me?
Q. I love my BF so much, everytime he comes by me he gets me excited, so we can end up having sex 3 days in a row or more every week. So is something wrong with me....
A. 15 April 2007: NOTHING is wrong with you. You are so very normal, it's unbelieveable. So your boyfriend gets you hot - that's wonderful! Three times a week sounds normal and healthy to me. Even if you two were doing it 25 times a week, I'd still say you were ... (read in full...)
After our date, I told him I just wanted a friendship and he wasn't interested! Any ideas whyhe doesn't want this?
Q. Thank you in advance to anyone who answers. I went out on a date with a guy that I thought I really liked a couple of months ago. We did get hot and heavy a bit on that first date...I could see that he seemed to really like me. For some reason I got ...
A. 15 April 2007: Hey sweetness,
I loved Shawn's advice!
It sounds like to me that this guy isn't interested in friendship because it will lead him on. If he really likes you, he's going to want to BE with you, not torture himself by getting coffee with you ... (read in full...)
Our first time together he couldn't stay erect! Now I haven't heard from him! What gives?
Q. Dated a man for couple of months, finally had sex with him, while having sex he could not stay erect, believe me I tried everything, I had to finish him off orally, and that was 5 days ago have not heard from him since?? ...
A. 15 April 2007: Hey sweetness,
Alot of guys get first time jitters. Doesn't matter how long you've been together, the first few times, sometimes nerves get to you. He's probably really embarrassed, or at least that's what it sounds like from what little you've w... (read in full...)
I'm male and 19 and I masturbate 2 times a day. Is this too much?
Q. I'm a 19 year old boy who is single. I masturbate once or twice a day (sometimes I don't) but is that too much especially at 19?...
A. 13 April 2007: That sounds pretty normal for me, sweetness. I'm not a guy so I can't exactly compare numbers with you, but I doubt you're doing it anymore than any other guy.
xxIndia... (read in full...)
I'm used to circumcised men, so what do I do with a guy that has a foreskin!?
Q. Hello I am an American woman who has become involved with a British guy, and he is uncircumcised. Since I'm from the US, it's common for a guy to be circumcised. I don't have any sort of problem with it, but I'm nervous that when it comes to or...
A. 13 April 2007: Hey sweetness,
I have ONLY seen an uncircumsized penis, and I for one, love them! The foreskin rolls back and it shouldn't be painful - but ask him about that. Some men have a tight foreskin and it hurts a little when being pulled back.
Talk... (read in full...)
Did he only say I was good at it to be nice, or did he really mean it ?
Q. Hiya The other day I made out with this guy for the first time. It wasn't my first time making out, but it was my first time with him. Anyway when it was done he said stuff like "You've definitely done that before" and "You know how to kiss prop...
A. 13 April 2007: Hey sweetness,
Maybe he was ticklish or a little nervous! If he told you he enjoyed it, he probably did. If he didn't enjoy it, first off he probably wouldn't of said anything. It sounds like he's having fun with you... next time he giggles ... (read in full...)
Whats the most subtle way to clean up semen after we have engaged in intercourse ?
Q. Hi, just a quick question...i was wondering if say you sleep with a girl on the 1st night of meeting her or after a couple of dates and we don't use a condom, what is the most suttlest way of after having sex and ejaculated in her to like clean it ...
A. 13 April 2007: Keep a box of tissues or some baby wipes right next to your bed. Get softttt ones because the "hoo-haa" or the "cooter" or the "lady bits" can be pretty sensitive. So don't get that crappy generic brand box of tissues that feels like cardboard! You ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and still a virgin, but feel as though I'm the only one!
Q. hey im just after alittle advice, im 15 i have always been quite popular at school and i have had many boyfriends(not to be big headed) but all my friends have rushed into bed with guys and many of them have slept with 4,5,and 6 boys. they call me ...
A. 13 April 2007: Hey sweetness,
I was just like you in high school. I was popular and had boyfriends and everything, but I didn't want to have sex. I just wasn't ready and I kinda wanted to hold out for someone special. I didn't want to wait until marriage... (read in full...)
Im just naturally thin, and no matter what I do I cant gain weight! Is there anything I can do ?
Q. hey all. i am a 16yr old 5'4 girl who wears a UK size 6 or 4 (i have been thin all my life) and am finding it extremly hard to find clothes to fit me. i eat everything so i dont understand why i am so thin. when i was younger it wasn't such a big ...
A. 13 April 2007: Hi there, sweetness.
I was exactly like you. Skinny as a rail because my metabolism was so high. I could burn through pasta, bags of chips, anything and still not gain any weight! When I got older, however - artound 19-20, I started filling ... (read in full...)
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