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writes:i have this problem when im having sex with my boyfriend.We lost our virginity together, but he has hmm some people tend to call it "bad aim" basically he doesnt always get in me, but don't get me wrong when he does the sex is brilliant. i dont want to embarass him by saying anything..Is there anyway i can manipulate it so he does, or any positions to recommend? Reply to this Question
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reader, chachacha +, writes (8 March 2007):
I agree with the others..........
Your guy needs to have a part in this - he shouldn t start "thrusting" until he s sure that his penis is in the right place. He either needs to use his own hands to be sure, or having got roughly in the right place, he should WAIT for you either to use your hand, or for you to wiggle into place and only when you, say, pull him towards you say with your hands on his bottom, should he then slowly thrust himself into you.
However what worries me is your comment that you don t want to embarrass him by saying something. Good relationships are based on good communication and you should only be having sex with someone that you feel really comfortable with. You have to be able to talk about things, particularly sex.
I would endeavour to talk to him about this, maybe one day when you re relaxing and watching TV or something, and just say how much you enjoy sex, and doesn t he find it frustrating, like you, to get going. (he surely notices too if he is thrusting emptily between your legs rather than inside you! he can t be that ignorant!)
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 Hey sweetness,
Well... it's pretty hard to find the right hole! I can only imagine being a guy... you just need to reach down and help him out a little bit (I'm sure he won't mind the assistance). As for positions, if you're on top, that gives YOU the power to aim.
My boyfriend of a year and a half still has trouble "aiming", but usually I'll just reach down and guide him in myself. He doesn't get offended because it's routine now! It's the easiest way (and the least awkward) way to go about things.
I'm sure you won't embarrass your boyfriend... it's probably even more embarrassing for him when he's fumbling around down there trying to figure out where to put his little friend!
Good luck, sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, cd206 +, writes (8 March 2007):
 The only thing you can do is guide him in until he knows you well enough to find that place by himself. What you're probably too young to realise though is that most guys have bad aim when it comes to sex with a new partner. It takes a while to know their bodies well enough and it's not like it is in the movies when you just slide together, except in exceptional cases! Help him out for a while. He'll just used to you soon enough. And don't forget to keep sex safe!
CD
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