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writes:hi i know this might be a stupid question but me and my wife have been together for 17 years, close friends all our life and married for 7 years. Is it normal for me to feel that way i do for her becuase loads of other poeple who have been together as long as us arent like this. We've always been really close and hardly ever argue apart from the little things but recently we've been closer than ever and i mean a lot closer. I'm always thinking about her and can never get her out of my head it even sometimes distracts me from work but i try not to let it. It hasn't stopped me going out without her or anything like that. I sometimes ring her at dinner etc when im at work if possible which i never used to do and she does the same. For some reason we are even closer than when we first started going out together. Is this normal? sorry if it sounds stupid but i really want to know. Thanks.
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reader, travelgal  +, writes (21 March 2007):
 I think that's wonderful! I hope to have a relationship like that when I grow up (I'm 22, but hey, I am still a kid when it comes to relationships)! Seriously, I really think that's romantic that after all these years you feel even CLOSER to your wife; many people who have been together and married for that long are divorced! My parents are like that- especially my dad. He'll call my mom numerous times a day for no reason at all- just to talk with her. And they've been married for 27 years.
So, yes, I think it's perfectly normal, even though that's not how it is for most people! Don't worry about what others think, as long as you still love and cherish your wife, and she feels the same, then there is absolutely nothing to worry about.
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reader, NuttyGooner +, writes (5 March 2007):
 Hey! That's a great post, nice to see a happy relationship on here from time to time!My other half's parents are like that (I find post-it's they leave each other every once in a while when making a round of tea etc), and the dad is always calling up when he's not at home and they have been together for nearly 30 years.That's something I aspire to! lol!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (5 March 2007):
 Normal? Not even. You're exceptional! It sounds like you have a solid, wonderful, loving relationship between you and your wife. I hope I'm so lucky 17 years from now.
xxIndia
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reader, forgetmenot +, writes (5 March 2007):
 awww :) i'm glad you posted this. Nice change from all the relationship woes
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (4 March 2007):
 Looks like you're doing very well in your relationship! Maybe you should join this site and give advice to others;-)
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (4 March 2007):
Looks like you're doing very well in your relationship! Maybe you should join this site and give advice to others;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): This just means that your marriage is as strong as ever, which is good. Just because you have been together for 17 years doesn't mean that the romance should be out of your relationship. Most couples who have been together for as long as you two have might not be like that because they have been together for a long time and have now settled into a routine where they give up the romance and settle for being more like friends than lovers. This is mainly because they have teenage kids and are feeling too old to get romantic.
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reader, kenny +, writes (4 March 2007):
 I think this is really nice, you have been married 17 years and are still very much in love, its almost as if you are still in the honeymoon period.
It perfectly normal to feel like this, and i think its brilliant that you are both still very much in love after nearly 20 years.
It great that she's always on your mind, and you ring her a intervals during your working day.
I think this is how a marriage should be, and i hope your love continues like this for a very long time.
Good luck
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reader, here_2_help +, writes (4 March 2007):
 Yes it is I mean your wife is lucky that you are still like this. You should let her know how you feel honastly there in nothing wrong with this in faact thi sis really good for your reletionship that you feel closer together then further apart it nice to know you still Love her.
hope this helps xxx
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