He said 'Good Girl' as i was giving him oral.
Q. I have several problems that I am not sure how to deal with. Firstly, I am concerned that I am getting too intimate with my boyfriend too soon (I feel this was the problem in my previous relationship even though we had known each other for year...
A. 28 July 2007: If you told him you had reservations he's way out of line but if you just went ahead with things without saying you want to get to know him better before you get heavy then just be open with him. Tell him that the "good girl" thing weirded you out ... (read in full...)
Update: Is six to eight bottles of alcohol a weekend-every weekend too much?
Q. i posted a question to you yesturday asking if 6-8 bottles of alcohol a weekend,every weekend was too much. firstly i would like to thank everyone who replied to my question,your advice was very much appreciated. i shown my husband the question i p...
A. 18 July 2007: I'd be inclined to think that's a reasonable amount but clearly you're uncomfortable with it so maybe you guys could have a compromise of maybe one weekend a month or so where there isn't drinking.... (read in full...)
Is it true that even psychologists abuse their patients/clients for the sake of making their own credit rise?
Q. Is it true that even psychologists abuse their patients/clients for the sake of making their own credit rise? IS it possible to trust anyone for that matter in this world?...
A. 18 July 2007: I'd say the odd few are a bit twisted but we're talking very rare. I've seen various psychologist and psychiatrists over the years and while I haven't always seen eye to eye with them, they've all been professional with me. The psychiatric nurse I ... (read in full...)
Can asexuals have successful romantic relationships with sexuals?
Q. Can asexuals have successful romantic relationships with sexuals? Hi, I’m a 25 year old guy, still a virgin, and asexual. I was just wondering can asexuals have successful romantic relationships with sexuals? If they can, can you give some exampl...
A. 30 April 2007: I'm not sure that starting a relationship with a sexual would be a good idea. I get that the temptation is there given that it seems so difficult to meet another asexual, locally who you're compatible with and the odds seem against you but you could ... (read in full...)
This might sound silly but I have been married 17 years and I feel my wife and I are closer than ever. Is this normal?
Q. hi i know this might be a stupid question but me and my wife have been together for 17 years, close friends all our life and married for 7 years. Is it normal for me to feel that way i do for her becuase loads of other poeple who have been together ...
A. 5 March 2007: awww :) i'm glad you posted this. Nice change from all the relationship woes... (read in full...)
I have this fetish about being attracted to fat women. How do I lose this way of thinking?
Q. I'm a 21 year old male. I've always been attracted to fat girls. The main trouble is, it's more than just a preference, I'm completely obsessed with the thought of them getting fatter, outgrowing clothes, getting stuck, breaking chairs usually e...
A. 23 February 2007: Sorry Marty but it doesn't look like any of us here have much wisdom to share on this one. I hope you find the courage to talk this over with a therapist and can come to a soloution that makes you happy and comfortable with yourself :)... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel so sad over a celebrity passing away?
Q. Is it normal to feel so sad over a celebrity passing away? I have actually, physically, cried that Anna Nicole Smith died =.(. I'm glued to the TV and am so upset on what a joke the media and stupid people have made of her death. Doesn't anyone ...
A. 16 February 2007: I think it's normal enough. I felt a wave of sadness when Steve Irwin died. He was an amazing man and did incredible conservation work. The other thing was he always seemed just so, I dunno... invinsible. If this is your first experience with death ... (read in full...)
Why do I hate the taste of toothpaste? Is their something wrong?
Q. I brush my teeth twice a day, but for the last couple of months it has been weird. Every brand of toothpaste I use starts to taste disgusting. This happens with toothpaste I have used for years. It tastes like I am brushing my teeth with handsoap...
A. 12 February 2007: yeah if it keeps up talk to a doctor. One of the main ingredients in most soaps is also in most toothpastes.... I dunno, it's probably not that but I'm just throwing the idea out there. You could give a natural toothpaste in a different flavour a ... (read in full...)
I can't contain myself in a relationship w/ one girl, but I want to get married and have a family. Should I do it?
Q. I am confused about certain instincts i have. Like i think it is next to impossible for me to contain myself in a relationship with one girl, no matter what the theories on love. Every now and then i find some girl that i sexually desire and this ...
A. 12 February 2007: By the sounds of it you're not ready for commitment. Don't enter into a situation involving children until you know what you want, you have to be a bit selfless about things if you're going to have kids. Maybe in another few years you'll have met ... (read in full...)
I have this fetish about being attracted to fat women. How do I lose this way of thinking?
Q. I'm a 21 year old male. I've always been attracted to fat girls. The main trouble is, it's more than just a preference, I'm completely obsessed with the thought of them getting fatter, outgrowing clothes, getting stuck, breaking chairs usually e...
A. 12 February 2007: Hey there :)
I think you're on the right track with the therapy idea. You're obviously bothered by your fetish and want to get a handle on it so it's not taking over your love/sex life so much. It'd be uncomfortable at first but once you find a ther... (read in full...)
Would he always see me as the ugly duckling?
Q. Ok so I used to like this guy in highschool- and unfortuantely the word got out and he found out.. I havent seen him in a few years.. I look entirely different and now have emotional intelligence and experience here in college... But..If I happen to ...
A. 2 February 2007: Not always but it's impossible to know what he'd think. If he actually felt you were stalking him at any point he'd be at least wary of you even if you're a total knockout now. It'd be foolish not to be wary of someone who's been obsessive about you ... (read in full...)
Why are they scared?
Q. why do most women fear good looking men, and refuse to go on a date with them....
A. 17 January 2007: What? To be honest I've never seen or heard of it happening. I suppose it could happen. I just haven't noticed it. I've never had a problem going for the guys I want ... (read in full...)
Would my man be embarrassed to receive roses at work?
Q. I want to send the man I love a bunch of roses, just cos im a bit of a soppy romantic and want to suprise him. However he is at work all day and so if I sent them to his home he wouldnt get them. Do you think it would be too embarrassing for him to ...
A. 17 January 2007: Well the way I see it, real romance is about being thoughful towards the person rathar than flowers and poetry and the like. So you could send him a gift that's more suited to him personally and that hasn't got any girly conotations like the flowers ... (read in full...)
If your partner was cheating...would you want to know?
Q. if your partner was cheating would you want to know?...
A. 15 January 2007: I would want to know. A relationship is pretty empty if there isn't honest communication going on and only when that honesty starts can you look at what you have together and decide whether or not it's worth it. Even if I believed I loved someone ... (read in full...)
Guys: Has he stopped loving me since we started to have sex?
Q. I'd like to hear what some guys think. My bf and I have been together about 2 years now. we never said i love you all the time the way some couples do, but usually when one of us said it, the other would say it back. Maybe not every time (it ...
A. 13 January 2007: If everything else is as good as ever and you're both still putting in the effort then I'd say things are fine. Telling him about your insecurities needn't stress him so long as you tell him exactly what would help solve the problem. (him reassuring ... (read in full...)
My new guy keeps going on about how great I am but it's making me uncomfortable!
Q. Hey, I like this guy, we get on well, he's hot we're dating... but....he really likes me. This may seem like an odd "problem" but it kinda freaks me out that he's just so open about it. He's always overdramatically going on to people about how great ...
A. 12 January 2007: just take it slow and be careful. Guys who are really full on before they've had a chance to know you properly can be frivolous with their emotions. It could be genuine but only time will tell. Take things slow and don't get in too deep too soon and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dreamed about doing "it" with another girl!
Q. Hiya, my boyfriend of a long time has just told me today he had a dreamed about doing it with another girl, a girl he was once with. that kinda worried me, but he assured me that he'll never do that. The girl lives abroad by the way now. so ya, it ...
A. 3 January 2007: eek eddie, that's scary. But to the OP a dream is just a dream. I've had dreams about guys that I wouldn't really be into in real life. Dreams are weird. I read somwhere that the person you dream about is just a symbol for something else. It's not ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and it will be financially very hard for us to have a third child. My bf said he wouldn't leave me, but he would be angry if I didn't get an abortion. Help!
Q. Hi, Im new here and i was just looking for some help. Iam 20 and i already have 2 children one 5 and one almost 2.. i just find out im pregnant and i thought i knew what i was gonna do (abortion) but now im not sure... my boyfriend has always been ...
A. 3 January 2007: I'm going to begin by saying I'm pro-choice but I think that abortions can be incredibly difficult emotionally on the mother (possibly the father too but I've only ever discussed this with women who've had abortions and have never had the ... (read in full...)
I get jealous whenever i see women who are airbrushed
Q. Why am i so jealous and insecure? Im 22 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. Hes a good man and will do anything for me and vice verca. Ive suffered from jealousy and insecurity now for many years, however i am better than i ha...
A. 31 December 2006: What everyone's said so far is great. I just wanted to add that you're boyfriends probably a reasonably intelligent, free thinking guy. He's as aware as you are about all the airbrushing and special lighting and the hours of hair and make up that ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't she want to have full sex with me... after two whole years!?
Q. Dear cupid, why doesn't my gf want to have full sex with me? i am a 21yr old guy and my gf is 20, we have been going out for nearly 2 years and get on great except with sex. we have being doing oral and masturbation and nearly everything except for ...
A. 31 December 2006: There's a lot of different reasons that she mightn't want to and you really won't know unless you talk to her. She might regret having gone so far with her ex. For some people it takes having sex for the first time (or first few times) to come to ... (read in full...)
I'm a 19 yr old virgin - am I missing out!?
Q. I've been really depressed for the past few years due to my lack fo love life. I'm now 19 years old, and only had my first kiss a few weeks ago, and that was only a one off snog when out on the lash. I'm still a virgin, and when my friends, who ...
A. 30 December 2006: First of all forgive me but I'm not sure if you're a guy or a girl cos of what pete said but I think you're a guy and am going to answer as such. So sorry if I'm mistaken :)
You're not missing out. It's not like you're never going to do it. It m... (read in full...)
I gave some guy random head and I feel like a slag now. Is this normal?
Q. hi im nearly 18! im still a virgin and i have been sexually active once before!! until last night i gave some random head and he fingered me! and today i feel like such a slag and kinda depressed and dirty! is this normal! or will i always feel like ...
A. 26 December 2006: It's normal enough to experiment sexually with guys at some point. Most people do it at one point or another. We get curious. There's peer pressure. It can feel kinda nice.
But you're probably not going to feel great screwing around with stranger... (read in full...)
How do I stop taking coke before it destroys me and my family?
Q. i have a problem, i have started taking coke, not often, but i have and i love it, but i know its wrong and it would completely destroy my family if they knew... i want to stop but i dont know, its not a regular habit...
A. 25 December 2006: Well really you have to make a 100% decision to completely quit or not and at the moment you're kind of telling yourself it's okay cos you're not doing it all the time or anything. Until you make a real decision to quit you'll just make excuses to ... (read in full...)
Could my dad be a paeodophile?
Q. I kow this sounds ridiculous but is my dad a paedophile? He goes away 1 or 2 nights a week for business, always interested in what I do and in his past he had to look after his younger siblings as his parents were nice people but not good parents. ...
A. 23 December 2006: Well nothing you've said suggests that he is. If that's all you're going on then I doubt that he is.... (read in full...)
I love my GF, but Im really bothered about her past sexaul partners, how can I get past this ??
Q. I have been with my girl or almost a year. Im in love with her so much, but it really bothers me about the guys she has slept with beore me and she is my 1st girl riend. What should i do to get over this?...
A. 23 December 2006: hi there :) What you're feeling is completely normal. I'd say most people go through it at some stage. In fact there's a lot of posts about just this. Here's one that's along a similar vein that I replied to recently ... (read in full...)
He keeps going on about his friend who is a model and its making me insecure!!
Q. okay I've been with this guy for a few weeks, but I he's not making me really happy. He keeps saying how gorgeous his friend who is a model is. She just got a lay out in maxim. I feel really bad when he says "She's gorgeous!!". He's also made ...
A. 23 December 2006: Honestly I'd dump him. If he's being this much of an ass so early on it's just going to get worse. Do you guys really get along that well in anyway or are you just feeling lonely? I think you'd be selling yourself short by staying with someone who ... (read in full...)
I feel very uncomfortable that he 'pays for everything!' Am I being silly?
Q. Just read a "question" on her about some girl and her sugar daddy that repulsed me. Anyway it made me want to seek advice about my situation regarding the politics of money and dating. I'm 18 and dating a 25 year old. We've only just started see...
A. 21 December 2006: okay cool :) Insisting doesn't always seem to work though lol I think maybe I'll ease into it by buying drinks and the like and buy tickets for something that I know he'll enjoy some evening we plan on going out together soon. Thank you both for the ... (read in full...)
I thought I could get over this insecurity but I still can't get over my bf's past! Help?
Q. No matter how hard I try I cant get over my bf's past. This is a long post, but please take the time out to read it. I was a virgin when I met my bf (we met when I was 18, he was 24), he had been with five other women. I know too much about his past ...
A. 21 December 2006: I've just started a relationship with a similar age gap. He's 25 and I'm 18 and a virgin. It's early days yet so we haven't really talked about sex or our pasts a whole lot yet and we're just enjoying being together for now but I'm pretty sure he's ... (read in full...)
Can guys be with female friends they don't find attractive?
Q. was browsing some old questions and in some of the ones about infidelity there were male posters saying that men don't have female friends that they wouldn't sleep with/find attractive.... now I don't really believe that could really be true but ...
A. 18 December 2006: cool :) I thought as much. Just nice to get other peoples perspectives. I think the people who were originally suggested otherwise were just really insecure about their partners friendships rather than purely shallow... (read in full...)
How can I make 'it' sensitive again?
Q. Up until 2 months ago i hadnt had a girlfriend in a long time. So in order to relieve sexual tension i masturbated. Me and my girlfriend only started to have sex a couple of weeks ago and ive found it hard to feel it when my enter her. I heard that ...
A. 18 December 2006: honestly if I was your gf and worryinging that I didn't do it for you, if you told me in the honest plain language that you've just told us here, I would be more likely to understand and not feel rejected and want to do whatever I can to make sex ... (read in full...)
Am i gay or bi or what?
Q. i am really confused, i only fancy gay or camp men, i only watch male gay porn, but women sometimes really turn me on, is it because i like what they are doing or because i like them? can i ever be straight if i cant fancy straight blokes? there are ...
A. 14 December 2006: well maybe you could enjoy a relationship with a bisexual guy in the future but right now it sounds like maybe it'd be best not to pursue anything til you've sorted out what you want a bit more. What do you find off putting about straight porn that ... (read in full...)
Condoms are ruining our sex life! What can be done about it?
Q. Hi, Me and my girlfriend are both 20. Shes my first sexual partner and 3 months into our relationship im still getting nervous problems. I always go soft when the condom is brought out. I dont know why! Its really annoying me and even upsetting m...
A. 14 December 2006: Also tell her that it's about the condoms cos just telling her it's not her might leave her thinking that it is until you tell her what it's actually about. Reassuring her of her utter foxyness is always a good thing. Just out of curiosity... is it ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a woman sheds a tear after the first kiss?
Q. Here's something I've never experienced before...a grown man at that! What does it mean when a woman sheds a tear after the first kiss? This happened to me the other night and it's thrown me completely! Can anyone answer that?...
A. 14 December 2006: Ah too bad. Maybe it's for the best. It's hard to know what the tear meant and it could've been just the tip of the iceburg. Good luck with finding the right lady :)
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Should the ladies cum first? (or after)
Q. I would like the ladies input on this one. Whenever I have sex, I like to ensure that my lady comes, either by manual or oral stimulation. I used to be a big believer in "the lady comes first" and then we'd have full sex. Now I'm not so sure....
A. 14 December 2006: I don't think she has to EVERY time but all too often if the lady doesn't get to go first she doesn't get to at all. For those times it's just not happening for her though, don't let it be too big a deal and just enjoy yourselves... (read in full...)
Tell me--is this guy just being cheeky or is he actually a sleaze?
Q. I met this really cool guy a few weeks ago but we've only spoken a few times. Then out of the blue he asks if I want to meet up with him. I agreed and asked him to arrange something but instead he made really obvious cheesy chat up lines about sex. ...
A. 14 December 2006: I'd say go with your instincts on this one. He could be just joking around and colourful humour's just his way of flirting... but then again just don't rush into anything with him and take the time to get to know him and you'll know soon enough ... (read in full...)
I feel ashamed of my body since he's been looking at porn - I feel this could break us apart
Q. Pornography - How do I cope, I can't compete Found out my fella has been using pornography when he stays in hotels.....this comes after an event 2-3 years ago when I found out he had been looking at porn on my computer.....nearly tore us appart t...
A. 14 December 2006: I don't think you need to compete with the women in the porn. I think in a way it's just watching people have sex that's the turn on and not necessarily the people themselves. They might not be the sort he'd even find attractive if he met them.
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Does it hurt the first time you get fingered?
Q. Hi, I'm 17 and I have never been fingered. I was woundering does it hurt the first time you get fingerd?...
A. 13 December 2006: not if he does it right but he's not a mind reader so you're going to have to talk him through it. If something's not comfortable, tell him it's not. If something feels good, tell him about it. You can also direct him with your hands to help find a ... (read in full...)
We are both 18 and virgins and I don't actually know what to do when we have sex!
Q. ok im 18yrs old and been with my gf a while now and are both are ready to have sex but we are both virgins and she doenst know im a virgin and just dont know what to do???...
A. 13 December 2006: well definately talk to her openly about the fact that you're also a virgin and about not being sure of what to do. The fact that you're posting this and asking is at least a good sign that you want to do it right and make her feel good but until ... (read in full...)
How do I go about finding someone who is also a virgin???
Q. Hi, I've been looking for someone who shares a similar sexual history as myself. I am a virgin and want to meet a girl who is as well. In fact my desire to be with another virgin is the primary reason I have waited. I think it would be a bit h...
A. 13 December 2006: I used to want to lose my virginity to another virgin. Now I don't mind so much. I just would like it to someone I'm in a loving respectful relationship with. But then again I suppose my reasons for being a virgin aren't religious and I don't know ... (read in full...)
Would this be classed as no longer being a virgin??
Q. if you break your hymen without doing sexual intercourse are u still a virgin ?...
A. 13 December 2006: Yeah, you're still a virgin by most peoples standards. I used to think that virginity was just til you're penetrated with a penis but in a way I don't anymore. I don't feel that rape counts and I don't think lesbians who've never had sex with a man ... (read in full...)
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