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writes: Okay my bf,off and on, and I got a job unexpectedly at a dinner near our homes, about 13 miles away. I road in the car with him and he and I got the job. They asked him to start right away and I didn't, so he left me first for a hour waiting for him after my interview, came out and told me he started."Sorry they want me to start, call your dad or someone to pick you up." Now I was out there for three more hours with little to no money, I couldn't get a hold of anyone and I'm pissed!!!!(but at least he handed me a cell phone..so.. We got there at 2:pm I finally got a ride around 5:20pm with my Dad, who was really upset my bf left me there like that.I'm upset that he didn't ask if he could ride me home first or at least made sure i had a ride before he left me. He puts me and the job at the same level of importance and says he was worried about me, but was afraid to lose the job, of a very "important dishwasher."Now, this was not a planned interview or a job stop, so he hadn't planned on getting this job and they weren't planning on having him there to work, so am I wrong in being super upset for this. I mean this is the last straw for our relationship, so I'm taking time to decide what I want to do and just how big a deal this was. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2007): Thank you both for your advice. I'll take everything into consideration, but like I said the job stop was unplanned on our trip out to town, so I was going. to be with him for the day, I didn't think I would have to find another ride on the way back to our house.
He's constantly being inconsiderate, maybe I'm being to harsh on him and being way to needy. I don't know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): How old are you two? You both sound quite young. I bet he didn't know what to do in this situation.Taking the job and then thinking about you after is par for the course with some young people. It is up to you now if you finish with him. I would of been as mad as hell, but i wouldn't of put myself in this situation either. You should of sorted the lift situation out before you went for the job.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): How old are you two? You both sound quite young. I bet he didn't know what to do in this situation.Taking the job and then thinking about you after is par for the course with some young people. It is up to you now if you finish with him. I would of been as mad as hell, but i wouldn't of put myself in this situation either. You should of sorted the lift situation out before you went for the job.
Take care
xx
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (14 March 2007):
 Hi sweetness,
If I were you, I'd be a little ticked off, but I can certainly understand why your boyfriend decided to work. He had just got the job and wanted to make a good impression on them. It would be hard to tell brand new employers who just hired you, "can't today." - it looks so much better if you're enthusiastic and ready to work right away.
I don't think this should be a reason to end a relationship. It was not the best move on his part and I can realize how you were put in an inconvenient place, but I also can understand how he wanted to make a good impression. Even though it's just a dishwashing job, a job is a job right?
If you're upset with your relationship, why wait for a reason to end it? If you really are waiting for one final straw to break the proverbial "camel's back" - for me personally, this incident wouldn't be that straw.
Use your best judgement, sweetness.
xxIndia
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