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*lexda1nonly
writes:Is it me or her ? Ok my gf and I been dating for a while now. We started out fine till when she started acting sneaky i call it. I cant see her every time we plan on seeing each other. She always makes up an excuse, the first time was she had to bail out her brother from jail. Second time was she had food poison and had to go to the hospital. Third time she had to go to the hospital to get surgery because she had a bad tumor and has cancer.I asked her many times if i can go with her to her chemotherapy sessions. I really like her but she can't seem to make time for me. The fifth time we were goin to go to six flags her sister texted me from her phone saying she fell asleep because she took her medication. She didnt text me back till late that afternoon saying she just woke up. Its hard for me to see her because her brothers are so over protective she has curfew. Idk do you guys think i broke up with her cause of this. I asked if shes seeing someone else she says she is not but to me it seems like she is. There are times when i call her and text her she wont respond till 9pm that day sayin she was sleeping when i tried contacting her early that day. When i broke up with she texted me sayin she was gonna kill herself and her sister texted me that morning she was at the hospital. I dont know if she did it to get my attention or what but i never had proof she crashed cause i told her many times to send me pics of her car and she says she did already. She just got a new job she is a RN at a clinic she told me she starts at 9 am but leaves at 7 am to work. One time i caught her sayin she was late and j told her how were u late if u get there at 7 30 am and she said late to be early. Im like wtf idk if i should take her back because she begs me all the time to give her another chance to try and give me quality time even now she still wont. I have her facebook password and all and I dont see no clues she is cheating was cheating on me. But if she was don't you think she won't care to get back with me? :/
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reader, alexda1nonly +, writes (25 July 2012):
alexda1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso i started talking to other woman and i dont want to do the same things she is doing because im not that type of guy.I do want to be with her but not this way.I always have to beg her to come see me and a relationship should not work that way i think it should just happen without making plans right?
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reader, alexda1nonly +, writes (25 July 2012):
alexda1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah ima just move on...Her ex sended me a message on fb that shes not who i think she is and that he wont get into details :/ why would he say that? Last time i called her at night and she wouldnt answer her phone but she can text me sayin it.. she also ignored my calls like 6 times and then turned off hervphone she called back saying her phone had died when i clearly called and it would ring 2 or 3 times and it would go to vm :/ hard to believe. She claims shes a good woman and she dont cheat.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 July 2012):
 Even if she's telling the truth you two are broken up...
and she is rather drama laden.
I too think that there is a bit of story telling going on...
I'd cut my loses and move on.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (17 July 2012):
 I have to agree with Tisha that there is some creative storytelling goign on. Up to you what you want to do. If you feel it would help you move on to tell her how you feel...do so. But, it may be better to just go no contact and move on with your life.
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reader, alexda1nonly +, writes (17 July 2012):
alexda1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell right we are broken up but she wants me to take her back and i told her i wanna talk things out in person. So she's planning on coming to talk it out cause she said she really likes me and does not want to lose me. She is an RN she use to work night shifts all the time which was one of the reasons it was hard to see each other and now she works evenings.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 July 2012):
 A nurse who has a bad tumor and cancer undergoing chemotherapy feels well enough to go to an amusement park? She's a nurse who works evenings but has a curfew set by her brothers? And before that she worked nights?
I'd say move on. Someone is being very creative with their story-telling. Time to drop it.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (16 July 2012):
What concerns me is that while going through a very traumatic thing in her life (cancer), she doesn't seem to want any support from you. I find that very concerning. I know that different people deal with traumatic events differently, but it seems like she would want you in her life, particulary when going through cancer treatments and having surgery.
I can understand her not being herself when going through the cancer and taking her medicine for it, but once again, she should still be able to call/text/email you to keep in touch. A friend of mine at work had cancer and had to go through the same thing as your gf. We gave him time, of course, but he communicated with us frequently as he missed all of us as friends and he missed being able to do his job. It would be hard for you knowing she has cancer, but not being able to see/communicate with her. Getting herself healthy is the main priority, but not talking to your bf? Weird.
I would talk with her and tell her exactly how all of that made you feel. Tell her you wanted to be there for her and she shut you out making you feel like you were worthless. I would only get back with her if she agrees the communication is going to improve. It has to if your relationship is going to survive.
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reader, alexda1nonly +, writes (16 July 2012):
alexda1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell right we are broken up but she wants me to take her back and i told her i wanna talk things out in person. So she's planning on coming to talk it out cause she said she really likes me and does not want to lose me. She is an RN she use to work night shifts all the time which was one of the reasons it was hard to see each other and now she works evenings.
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reader, alexda1nonly +, writes (16 July 2012):
alexda1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell right we are broken up but she wants me to take her back and i told her i wanna talk things out in person. So she's planning on coming to talk it out cause she said she really likes me and does not want to lose me. She is an RN she use to work night shifts all the time which was one of the reasons it was hard to see each other and now she works evenings.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (16 July 2012):
Have a serious talk with her about the things that are upsetting you. There comes a time when you have to sit a person down and actually talk about the relationship instead of talking to siblings, making assumptions, and playing phone tag. I do agree with you that if she really cared about you, she would contact you. So, talk with her first, see if she still wants a relationship with you, and go from there.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 July 2012):
 It's hard to believe anything you wrote here. If she had cancer why did she agree to go to six flags. If she had cancer how could she be dating other guys? If you are her boyfriend how come you couldn't even visit her at the hospital? I don't even believe she is an RN. I would say she and her sister are both playing a game to see when you would get the clue that she doesn't want to see you anymore, but they want to see how long they can fool you with whatever gruesome stories they can come up with. That's actually very low of them. It would have been kinder for her to just stop picking up the phone.
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