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*sd123
writes:I have somewhat of a problem. I haven't been in any real relationships and I recently met this new guy, he tells me how much he likes me and how he thinks I'm nice looking, but I mean we've literally only known each other for days. I don't want to rush things but part of me feels like he is trying a little to hard. I appreciate the attention but I can't figure out why I feel, so nervous about the whole idea of dating in general. There have been a few times when I found a guy I really liked but it didn't work out. Either because I was just to shy to say what I felt or in another case I was reluctant date this one guy who was interested. I ended regretting not making a move, and I don't want to make the same mistakes. What should I do about the new guy???
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reader, IamJess  +, writes (15 July 2012):
 You know when you like someone and want to take it further, and if you don't get that feeling then why waste yours and his time? You will eventually find someone you really do get that spark with, and you'll just know, you won't even have to question it like you are now. I mean, go on a date and stuff and see how things pan out, and if you feel like you do or would be able to like him and then think if you could see yourself in a relationship with that person doing stuff like that all the time - then it should be right, and then you can try and move on with things, but don't feel like you have to get attached just because you haven't before and regretted it, its not the same thing.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (15 July 2012):
 It doesn't sound like you like this guy too much. Don't go on a date for the sake of having a date. Feeling nervous about dating is normal. It is unknown territory. If you don't have a male figure in your life besides your father, like brothers, uncles and cousins then it would be hard to figure out the opposite gender. When you are with the right person it should feel very natural. First you have to figure out what kind of guy you like, what kind of guy would want to commit to you and what you can offer to a guy. Of course it is hard to know everything when you are young and inexperienced but this is what dating is about. At least you have some broad ideas and perferences in a guy, superficial things that you find attractive first.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (15 July 2012):
You might want to ask him what he likes about you.
It shouldn't be about your good looks only; there must be something more or else he's just being shallow.
If he's shallow you run a risk of getting hurt again.
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