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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Ive been seeing a guy for 5 months and he gets upset with me most of the time. After a week he looked through my phone and facebook messages as he has been cheated on in the past. He found messages on facebook, about 4 guys asked me out even though it said i was in a relationship so he got really jealous and says he cant trust me although i told these guys no. Besides this he goes nuts if my phone has no signal if i dont text in work. He puts me down over my parenting skills and wonders why i get upset. He took me and my kids out yesterday and had a tantrum because we didnt pose for a photo. The kids were having too much fun and wernt interested. They did just expect me to buy them loads of things which annoyed me but he made me feel useless when he criticised me over it so i snapped. we argue like this over everything its like he loves arguing. the worst thing is i know we do have loads of fun when we drink. im extremely attracted to him and ive never ever had such amazing sex with anyone. i honestly passed out when he gave me an orgasm once. even when i kiss him i get the most intense feeling and he said he does too. am i really selfish for staying with someone bevause of that? it makes me feel bad knowing tha I'm just with him for that. how can i try to stop the arguments? he is such a fun and interesting person sometimes and we click. he could be my best friend but then my enemy. he was in the marines for years and so many bad things have happened to him. his arms are full of scars, he has burns evrywhere from an explosion and so many of his friends have died. should i try to make things work? One day he did lock me in the bathroom after we had argued and broke my phone i have bruises from him too. I am quite laid back and sometimes he takes that as me not caring. He gets upset if i dont sit right by him on the settee sometimes which i found silly but then he went mental cos i laughed at him. I find him bizarre sometimes which probably doesnt help as he thinks im mocking his feelings
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 July 2012):
 It is as rare to have a great male lover as it is to have a woman who can receive this pleasure. It will be hard for you to let each other go. Tell him you like the sex very much, but not everything has to be that intense in a relationship. Breaking things and hurting you are definitely not acceptable. Tell him if he doesn't get therapy for his PTSD or whatever, then a healthy relationship would not work and you will just treat him as a sex machine, now is that what he really wants?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (16 July 2012):
 Why waste any more time on this relationship? If the only good thing is the sex?
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