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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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My parents beat me, and now I try to push my husband to beat me. What can I do?
Q. Hi, I just need a little advice or whatever that can help me with this. I grow up in a disfunctional family. Im used to get beat from my parents physically and emotionally. Believe me its really hurt. It planted in my heart and in my soul. My eye...
A. 22 May 2012: Telling your husband to hit you is about regaining control you lost as a child, saying to yourself you can handle it because it is your own choice. It may feel good for a while, release stress, but at the end it does not teach you how to be more ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend watches LIVE porn. How do I deal with this?
Q. Hello, I have just found out that my boyfriend watches porn. I have had a look on this site and at some porn related questions, and some people say it's fine and all men do it, and some people say they should stop in a relationship. My problem i...
A. 22 May 2012: You decide your own rules. He is free to do all this while he is single but when he is with you, he can't, in front of you or in secret. ... (read in full...)
How can I move to Canada?
Q. Hi, I live in pakistan but I have a girlfriend that lives in Canada. I want to move to Canada but I am only a 19 so it is difficult to find a way to come here. Is there anyway I can move to Canada without being sponsored, or having a high enough i...
A. 22 May 2012: Your girlfriend needs to have an income of $50000 a year to sponsor you. If you don't have an advanced degree you want to have a valued skill such as truck driving. You land as an immigrant and you apply for a permanent residence card. After 3 ... (read in full...)
I don't want him to think I'm needy. I feel second best. So how do I get through my issues with him?
Q. Hello Can anyone offer any advice? I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months. At the start of our relationship he was a little bit of a jack the lad. He had this beautiful girl texting him, just as friends apparantly always had lots of kiss...
A. 21 May 2012: You have to be firm and tell him that contacting ex lovers is off limits to you. You don't need someone who violates that boundary. How is that needy? Sucking it up does not make you a confident secure person. He lied to you and as they were just ... (read in full...)
Despite everything he did, I want him back. Is there still a chance?
Q. On another note, do I still have a chance with my ex? We were together for 2 years and 4 months. I broke it off in October because he was an ^^^^le to me. He'd do drugs and drink and wouldn't let me hang out with my friends. He's a college fres...
A. 21 May 2012: A chance for a talk, a hug yes but a full reconciliation no. You have to prepare yourself for full blown anger in your face that he hadn't been able to show you while you were apart. He is going to ask you everthing about that new guy, did you love ... (read in full...)
Why does my G/f contact her ex everytime we fight? What is he trying to prove by buying her a first class ticket? What does she still want from him?
Q. Ok, so my girlfriend and I have been together for a year. Before that she was with a guy for a year and lost her virginity to him. Which im a little jealous of but oh well. She broke up with him because she said she got bored with him and never ...
A. 21 May 2012: She has no intention of being in a serious relationship with anyone so she would give any excuse to create distance for men. The rich guy is boring, but has money. You have passion, but do not appreciate her enough. That seems to give her to license ... (read in full...)
My wife has guy friends and our sex life is terrible! should I give up?
Q. Hello All! Need some help with this one. My wife of 4.5 years wants to be able to spend the night at guy friends house. Heres the story, Throughout our relationship she has always had a close guy friend. Usually guys that will dote on h...
A. 21 May 2012: Tell her you are going to serve her the divorce papers if she went to stay at her guy friend. She can be social with people in your town. She has to learn to adapt to the community and realize that she has more talent than her sexuality, well that's ... (read in full...)
I'm not looking for a serious relationship, any advice?
Q. Hi all, So I don't know dating rules and am a naturally horny person. I don't have a lot of self control if I'm attracted to someone. This does not mean I can't say no but if I like the person and he's hot to me, I'm very sexual and "fast" to many ...
A. 21 May 2012: He is not a scumbag. When neither of you are looking for a serious relationship it means you see each other when you happen to have free time together, and you don't get your feelings attached so that you don't get impatient of waiting for him. He ... (read in full...)
Both of us are upset about our break up. Does he really love me if he puts his religion before me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been attached for half a year now. We started off as colleagues 3 years back and he has been courting me since then but we just got together recently. The reason why I did not accept him earlier is because of his reli...
A. 20 May 2012: I grew up Catholic and I could tell you no one sitting church really knows what went on on Jesus' Passion day, and what happens after death. You can recite the Nicene's Creed thousands of times. It does not mean you are converted. You can say you ... (read in full...)
Is it that he is not comfy with me? Or am I trying to read too much into what he is saying?
Q. hi i have read that sometimes when boys and girls say something it might not mean the literal stuff.. so i want to know that my guy keeps sayin that," you are too good for me.. at times i feel like dont deserve you..." so is this just trying to f...
A. 19 May 2012: If you speak Hindi and then translate this into English it could be out of context. There are two possibilities. If your relationship is good it can mean that everything is perfect now and he is afraid to do something to mess it up and lose you. Or, ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to his wife? Or just break with him? He has lied all the way
Q. I am in a relationship with a married man who is 20 years older to me. We met at work. He got transferred to our office from another branch. Initially we never really spoke much to each other, probably just say a good morning when we would pass by...
A. 19 May 2012: A person who has cheated since the first year of marriage only thinks for themselves and use people as tools. Some therapists refuse to treat narcissists and psychopaths who are thought of as incorrigible. He only said he is a horrible person to ... (read in full...)
Is this fair? our relationship is over because I cheated over tens years ago!!! help!!
Q. How do I handle the fact of the man I have loved for 14 years wants to leave because of some things I did over 10 years ago. Even after him telling me that he love me and we were going to get through this together. Now it's I am inconsiderate, I do...
A. 19 May 2012: I don't think he woke up one morning and then decided he had to go back ten years and dig up past sins and punish you. It's possible that he never got over your cheating and is suffering inside, at the same time feeling stupid that it was 10 years ... (read in full...)
Will or can this affect my long time health? I don't have a regular girlfriend.
Q. I am 18 years old.i don't have any girlfriend till now. i am in a habit of hooking daily , i want to ask that is regular hooking affects our health or not. i tried to control it because i thinks it is affecting my health and i am not been able to c...
A. 19 May 2012: I think hooking means masturbation. Western psychology says it is healthy to release. Taoists say that you lose your vitality, your nutrients when you release your sperm too much, and that you should eat more red meat to rejuvenate lost nutrients ... (read in full...)
Her mother has heard my wife is escorting, how should she discuss this her mother?
Q. my wife has been working as an escort since 2009 and is quite satisfied with what she does. it causes no problems in our marriage. we are financially stable now and invest 75 percent of everything she makes. she pays her taxes and even lists her ...
A. 19 May 2012: A few more concerns for your wife. What's the longevity of an escort career and does she have enough money to invest in something that grows continually? What would her response be if her mom says she wants nothing to do with her unless she quits? ... (read in full...)
My wife had sex with 10 guys by the time she was 19 Is that normal?
Q. I am 35 and my wife is 34, and she has had sex with 11 men in her life including me. That might not sound like a massive number of partners relative to her age, but the other 10 guys were all between the ages of 15-19. From 19-30 she was with one ...
A. 19 May 2012: Yes women can walk away after sex and not get attached. Either they are in the mindset for casual fun, or they are seeking revenge. There is nothing abnormal about it. The notion that women must always be emotionally attached after sex is perhaps ... (read in full...)
Is it worth it to be friends with her and will she ever really stop drinking?
Q. Hi, I had a 6 month relationship with a woman who had an alcohol problem. I helped her get through it, took her to the hospital for detox, and she promised never to drink again. We went through the withdrawals twice since I knew her, and she said ...
A. 18 May 2012: Are you willing to wait indefinitely for her to stop drinking? You were ready to move on and then you heard that her new boyfriend is a bad influence and suddenly you want to rescue her again. Her having a boyfriend should be the ultimate closure ... (read in full...)
Is it up to me to keep his morals in check?
Q. Hey! I am predominantly lesbian, and slept with my first man last year at the age of 27. I didn't have any sort of romantic interest in him, it was just a lust thing. Anyway, he's okay, and we became sort of friends-with-benefits - hard, because ...
A. 18 May 2012: I guess she meant that it's hard to trust people because everyone is so quelle salade. They don't mean what they say and they present a false self to get what they want. She realizes that not many people understand the meaning of open relationships ... (read in full...)
Am I insecure? I don't trust my girlfriend who is a dancer!
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for 8 months an we have a good relationship she is a dancer an has been for about six months she says she hates her job an trust me when I say so do I!!!! We have known eachother for years she has been ingaged 3 ...
A. 18 May 2012: One minute you are in love and later you want to break up, because of a text? It depends on the message of the text. It's okay if: "Hi whaddup?" "It's hot today." or anything casual. Here telling him she has a boyfriend sounds a bit jumpy.
Not okay... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to want sex most times we see each other?
Q. Hello, wondering whether I can get any good advice. I'm 37 and my girlfriend is 36. We've been together 8-months and we're definitely at the in love stage. I've just one little worry... Due to our work patterns we usually only get to see each othe...
A. 18 May 2012: You are male, not female. This is not something a lesbian would write about.
There are people who falls asleep even standing up! You have to make sure the day time activities won't lead to crashing at night. Good for you for pleasing her. At her ... (read in full...)
My wife had sex with 10 guys by the time she was 19 Is that normal?
Q. I am 35 and my wife is 34, and she has had sex with 11 men in her life including me. That might not sound like a massive number of partners relative to her age, but the other 10 guys were all between the ages of 15-19. From 19-30 she was with one ...
A. 18 May 2012: 5 years, 2 guys a year on average. It's a very young age to be having sex but nothing too extreme. It's possible she had an issue when young, but it's also possible she is perfectly normal. We can't as strangers on the forum judge this.
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I've been interested in my friend for over 3 years and our mutual friend asked me not to tell her yet, only for me to find out that he's been having sex with her!! I feel so betrayed by both of them!
Q. I have been interested in a girl for over three years. I've never looked at another woman the same way. We are very good friends and we share a mutual friend. The reason I never said anything to her was because I discussed it with our mutual friend ...
A. 17 May 2012: The reason why your male friend was not honest was part selfishness, and part being coward, not wanting to screw up the friendship. The truth had to come out somehow. If I were either one of them I would feel bad about continuing this casual ... (read in full...)
Is he in love with me or her?
Q. My bf and i were apart from eachoder but started calling me the day i finished writing my exams, and he declared his love for me that he still has feelings for me and we got back together. Lately, he's been asking me of my sis whom he saw her pics. ...
A. 17 May 2012: It could be that you two broke up because he likes your sister. He declared his love for you only so that you won't accuse him, and he will still be in touch with you to get with your sister. He is timing it so that it won't look like he's quickly ... (read in full...)
Her mother has heard my wife is escorting, how should she discuss this her mother?
Q. my wife has been working as an escort since 2009 and is quite satisfied with what she does. it causes no problems in our marriage. we are financially stable now and invest 75 percent of everything she makes. she pays her taxes and even lists her ...
A. 17 May 2012: You braced yourself for financial trouble, for bedroom problems, so how bad could a mother-in-law be? I don't think it's fun to keep your mouth shut if her mother keeps banging at this issue. Everyone knows what an escort is. The tension would keep ... (read in full...)
Since my parents argue all the time I've decided that I'll never be able to have a family of my own
Q. Okay. Im from a family where parents always quarrel with one another, and there s nothing i can do about it. So ive been looking at my future alone the other day and something just came up in my mind that i cant have a family because having a family ...
A. 17 May 2012: Some people repeat their parents' lives while others rebel against whatever their parents' did and become totally the opposite. You can make anything a learning experience. Couples can argue day in and day out. Behind the bedroom doors they could be ... (read in full...)
Am I insecure? I don't trust my girlfriend who is a dancer!
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for 8 months an we have a good relationship she is a dancer an has been for about six months she says she hates her job an trust me when I say so do I!!!! We have known eachother for years she has been ingaged 3 ...
A. 17 May 2012: You are somewhat insecure but this insecurity is just to protect you if something goes wrong. If you have trust issues then a stripper surely is not a good fit for you. You need security and stability in a relationship and she is not giving that to ... (read in full...)
How do you truly know if this is the person you should spend the rest of your life with?
Q. Hi i was hoping to get advice on how do you know if the person you are with is The One!! i'm in a relationship, in fact living with my boyfriend for the past year and a bit. we have talked about the future, marriage, family etc i do love him and ...
A. 16 May 2012: If you feel insecure, then you should not think about long term yet. I also feel that if you could develop financial independence sooner you worries will lessen. Usually if you have to question it means you are not ready. If you ever have a chance ... (read in full...)
I ended it, so why do I feel sad that he's moved on?
Q. On another note, Im a junior righ now. I had an ex bf who I dated for 2 years and 3 months. We broke up this school year. He's a freshmen in college. I broke up with him because he did drugs and drank, plus, I was starting to fall for another guy ...
A. 16 May 2012: If he wants to mess with you, I am not sure if you can called that moving on. He wants to appear to be moving on but for both of you it's still hard. He's still bitter about the way things ended and wants revenge. You have to take things slowly and ... (read in full...)
Is this abuse or just a bad temper?
Q. How can you tell if your being emoitionly and verbely abused by your partner? my bfs bestfriend wich is now also my bestfriend asked me how do i put up with the abuse but i dint know i was? My boyfriend does call me names some times and yells at me ...
A. 16 May 2012: There are many speculations on how alcohol affects the baby, the most serious problem being fetal alcohol syndrome besides low birth weight. Not every drunken mother gives birth to one with that, but alcohol certainly does not do any good. He is ... (read in full...)
I still love him very much but if he doesn't want me then why the messages?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I split up over a month ago. It was a mutual breakup saying we were just not working out. We loved each other a lot and have made it clear that we still love each other and that we had something very special. We decided to try ...
A. 16 May 2012: Don't read too much into the texts. It is impossible for him not to think of you on Mother's Day because you have a son. He knows that a relationship won't work out but he still wants to see how much you are thinking about him, but talking to him. ... (read in full...)
Am I being insensitive? Does Facebook really mean that much to people?
Q. Hi, I a bit of a corner here. I will give you a bit of background so you know what's goin on. First started going out with my boyfriend 4 years ago. Back then his brother was a laugh, you could chat to him an he was really open and friendly at ...
A. 16 May 2012: Your story is a bit hard to understand. I believe his girlfriend hates you because he likes you and only got with her so he could move on from you. She resents this but loves him. Because they are brothers it means that you have to see each other a ... (read in full...)
I still really love him and would love us to get back together, but I can't stand this not knowing.
Q. My ex who I was with 6 months ago is now back on the scene we met up and had a drink and he give me the distinct impression he wanted to get back together. We split up due to him being a work aholic. He said he's realised what a waste of space he's ...
A. 16 May 2012: You should get back together because you are happy with each other and you come to know that he will make more time with you, not because it hurts not knowing and because you miss that feeling in the relationship. Really, what does this man have ... (read in full...)
Turns out my FWB was married and lying to me! He doesn't know I know. What now?
Q. Hi everyone I have just founf out my fwb is married with children and now I feel so guilty I have ended this with him but still see him every day as we live in the same place I know what fwbs all about but I had fallen in love with him and now I ...
A. 16 May 2012: I would simply stop talking to him, block him. You are not in a position to lecture him about karma and how to be a good man. To deal with a guilt simply do some good deeds like volunteering. ... (read in full...)
Is it up to me to keep his morals in check?
Q. Hey! I am predominantly lesbian, and slept with my first man last year at the age of 27. I didn't have any sort of romantic interest in him, it was just a lust thing. Anyway, he's okay, and we became sort of friends-with-benefits - hard, because ...
A. 16 May 2012: You won't feel so good having sex with him wondering how hurt his girlfriend would be, and she will find out one day. He lied to you so that you could visit him. That already was immoral. He was lying twice, to you and to his girlfriend. You should ... (read in full...)
I'm so sad, how can I understand his decision to break up with me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We've had some issues, but nothing out of the ordinary. It was a serious relationship, and we loved each other very deeply. We had talked often about getting married, where we would like to live ...
A. 15 May 2012: I am in the stage of my life where I have no patience for people who don't know what they want. Either you are in a relationship or you are not. I have suspicion that your now ex boyfriend was faking a relationship with you and all that sweet talk ... (read in full...)
Two girls, good friends, If I ask the one I like out, I think I'll upset and annoy the other one!
Q. Hey, there are these two girls that like me (im not trying to be big-headed or anything) and the problem is that they are good friends and and don't think I could go out with one and not upset and annoy the other and I do like one of them. Any ...
A. 15 May 2012: You could be walking into a love triangle. Potential problems I see is that the one who is left behind would complain that you are stealing her from her, and might even flirt with you to test how attractive she is, do stupid things to break up you ... (read in full...)
Do we try again or will I only end up hurt all over again?
Q. Dear reader, I split up with my partner 5 months ago. We split up due to me not being able to handle is busy work schedule. He worked long hours and we sometimes spent many days and even weeks apart we didnt live together and this wasn't how ...
A. 15 May 2012: I don't know why he works that much. Is it a busy business he owns? Is he a workaholic? Does he have bills to catch up on? Elderly parents to look after? Does he have people helping him? Even if you get married can you face that the only time you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is spending his inheritance money and hasn't even bought me a bouquet of flowers!
Q. Ok so my bf and I have dated 2years in which was long distance. Recently he moved in with me. Hes 18 I'm 17. He's originally from were I live. When he was 1 his mom left his dad and moved 4 hours away. So his dad lives here. He's been living with me ...
A. 15 May 2012: I am sorry to say he is your roommate and you are his stepping stone to adepting life in your city. At least he is not spending the money on Xbox, sports games, and alcohol. He is watching his money and he has to make sure he could still pay rent. I ... (read in full...)
He grabbed me too hard and I fell over, but he thinks this was ok because some guy was pretending to hump me behind my back. Was it ok for him to do that?
Q. Apologies in advance for being long winded and thank you for taking the time to read this. I really need some advice. This weekend my boyfriend, and I went to his friend, 'M', BBQ. While he went around talking to his friends, I mostly hung out ...
A. 14 May 2012: Why did B try to hook you up with her brother? All of you were drunken and your boyfriend was reacting to the primal fear of being cuckholded and alcohol helped him unleash that passion. Your boyfriend did apologize. If he were sober he could have ... (read in full...)
I feel like my wife is making more time for her mother than she is for us!
Q. My wife and I got married in No. of 2011 and recently bought our first house. Life is good. However recently Ive felt that things have changed with her. Im 31, shes 27, weve been together almost 3 years (we met in college but didnt get together ...
A. 14 May 2012: I believe siblings should share bonds with parents equally. Her mom is not the reason you are not having sex. If it weren't her mom it would be something else. Her mom is just a tool for her to avoid dealing with the real issues. You are just seeing ... (read in full...)
I get excited by dumping women and crushing them emotionally... what can I do to fix it?
Q. I'm married and I have a baby. I'm also very happy in my marriage and my wife is good looking etc. Yes, I've gone to prostitutes for a few years now, but only to get a physical release to substitute porn. Though, in recent years I've for some ...
A. 14 May 2012: There is no mention of how happy your wife is. You are happy but I am sure your wife is not. You are aware that you are different from other people but you don't really feel what you do is wrong. The first step to getting help is acknowledging what ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has a SIGNIFICANTLY lower sex-drive than me
Q. I've been dating this woman for 3 years, and I love everything about her very much. All except one thing, she has an extremely low sex-drive. Where I would be content with 1-2 times a week at LEAST, we're currently having sex every 6-7 weeks, and ...
A. 12 May 2012: I don't believe she has low sex drive and then jumped into casual sex and had more times than she could count. She could be exaggerating or even lying to piss you off and to let you know that the sex issue is not her problem but yours. If she ... (read in full...)
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