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*oxocutie
writes:Hello everyone sorry if this is long but please take time to read this, i am 22 years old and have been in a relationship now for 4 years, in the begining we fell in love and it felt like magic but we used to fight alot mainly because he doesn't talk much, i dont know but he is cold most of the times,whenever i cried and begged for his attention and fighted with him , he would always tell me that i over react and i need to understand him that it is because of his studie......i have confidence issues and i think we both lack how to communicate well. well after two years i moved to another city because i got admission in university, he got so insecure that he got mad when i replied him late, when i fell asleep and not calling him, i dont have guy friends and he dont want me to have girl friends too.....he would always be cold to me and saying that you must be really enjoying but in reality i was just stressed about my studies.....i never ever stopped him from having fun, hanging around...he woould all day just sit , watch movies , play games but wont talk nicely to me or call me..... I on the other hand havent really had any fun in university because i am finding my subjects too hard.....he would never understand this , he would just cry and make me guilty that he too was studying , living in hostel.....why didn't we grow apart ? ....it is mainly because i always ended up understanding his situation ? then why can't he support me ? i had my final exams and i literally thought i would flunk because he would torture me with his sarcastic and cold behaviour.. He is too possesive and insecure and i never make him jealous because we are in LDR but i dont understand why he is so unappreciative of me....he fights with me when i call... I always apologize to him for making him feel neglected and explain to him but he is too resentful , he starts from A to Z whenever we have a fight...its just draining me.....i cried so much i dont know what to do????!!!! I just came home for vacations and he was ignoring me completely ? he would never reply, talk to me or just return my sweet messages and when confronted he would start from the start......i stopped talking to him, i was angry at him.....and now its been more than a week no message from his side...... Please help!!!!! I am dieing everyday and i am thinking he just doesn't love me anymore because he has too much resentment .....what do i do ?? plz help!!!
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reader, cute angel +, writes (15 July 2012):
 I am glad I could help:)
Good luck x
Ps:remember your in charge of your life and noone else can control you..take care
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reader, xoxocutie +, writes (15 July 2012):
xoxocutie is verified as being by the original poster of the question@cute angel......Thanks for removing my confusions and taking your time to answer ...
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reader, cute angel +, writes (14 July 2012):
This just doesn't seem right!in an LDR it is very important for the guy to be understanding and considerate,he cannot make demands like you cannot have girlfriends,or boyfriends that is soo unfair especially when he is having his share of fun..
Your an educated girl you shouldn't be tolearting any of his crap,what's important right now is your studies,finish studies get a job and support yourself cuz I totally doubt your boyfriend would..instead of being supportive and help you get thru your exams and tough life as a student he's making your life miserable each day and you still want to stay in such a relationship?
Why??don't you want a man who is caring loving?don't you want a man who respects you?don't you want a man who let's you hang out with friends..these are the basic things that your boyfriend is not letting you do,so basically he is controllying your life and your the puppet..
If your really want to still remain in this relationship then talk to the guy tell him 'hey I like you and that's the sole reason I'v been doing everything you asked me to just to keep you happy but have you ever asked me if I'm happy..or do you even care about me?all I want to know is can I depend on you and stay in this relationship knowing you'l hold my hand and walk me through tough times rather than ordering me around,I need to know now,so that I don't make a wrong decision'..
Huni you'v got to be bold and frank to this guy or 5 years from now your going to regret why you never spoke up and suffered..
Good luck x
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (14 July 2012):
 You are not getting anything from this relationship. The lack of contact at least gives you some space from the fighting, and to think about whether to continue this. In a long distance relationship, there is no present moment. And if you don't have future plans, you always go back and fight about things you can't change. You are not doing anything together. You run out of things to say, and then his mind obsess about things that aren't there. For him, it is better to argue than to have nothing to say, as silence feels like death, and it will drift you guys apart. Fighting can also be looking for a way out, provoking you to break up with him because LDRs are so miserable. LDRs are more difficult when you are not financially indepedent and you have to wait till you save enough money to visit each other, or you ask your parents' permission to visit him. Your relationship might not be practical. If he doesn't contact you ever, let it be. You didn't really lose anything because you don't see each other enough anyway.
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