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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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He's neglecting me... Just want someone to talk to
Q. I'm 32 and my bf is 36. We've been together for over 5 years. We broke up for about 6 months due to him neglecting me. During our BU, he contacted me EVERY week, the entire 6 months.... EVERY week for 6 MONTHS! Now you'd think in that time he'd have ...
A. 20 December 2014: I understand not being able to express love, as an emotional zombie. If you equate love to music, he's totally tone deaf. However, give and take is just something intellectually easy to understand. A person can go through the motions only for so ... (read in full...)
Is he interested? If so, what do I do?
Q. There is a guy I am interested in who lives near me and we surf at the same break almost everyday. Whenever we see each other, he paddles up to chat to me. He seems a bit shy at first, but most of the time he makes good eye contact, smiles a lot and ...
A. 19 December 2014: I think you should just ask him to coffee and talk in a more personal setting. Shy men don't want to risk with gorgeous women. You may think that gorgeous women have a line up for men pursuing them but men are more nervous than you think. Vain men, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loses interest in a girl if she puts out too soon.
Q. So my boyfriend has this "thing" where he loses interest in girls if she puts out too soon. I know this because we were friends for a long time before dating. And he would meet a girl, he seemed interested cause he would even tell us, "I met this ...
A. 19 December 2014: Our opinions are formed when are brains hear the message again and again. Such as girls who put out soon do not respect themselves, they are desperate and are only having sex to get love and suck out resources from men. It can be hard for him to ... (read in full...)
I am boring my husband, how do I get the fun back?
Q. Hi cupids, I'm after some advice on how to "re-attract" someone's attention. My husband and I have been together for 17 years, married for 5 years. We have 2 beautiful sons. The problem is that I feel like he is not interested in me anymore...
A. 19 December 2014: I doubt it's because you are boring. You are willing to have fun with the kids and watching them grow is one of the most amazing things in life. I think he is stressed about the money situation so that makes him hate the hype of Christmas even more. ... (read in full...)
We've not dated or had sex but he said he would leave his wife for me!
Q. Hi guys, I'm in such a pickle and I wish I didn't have this to worry over right before Christmas. Me and my partner have been together for six years, happy years and I love him dearly. My partners boss is 14 years older than myself and ...
A. 19 December 2014: Many guys his age are having mid life crisis. Last time I read a post written by a guy like this and how he's ready to leave his wife and family too for a strikingly beautiful young girl. It's more of a fantasy. You may want to interpret your eye ... (read in full...)
Am I being too judgemental, can people change and grow?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for 6 weeks. He is very loving, contacts me everyday and says he thinks I'm the one. We had a talk about his past and it turned out his previous relationship 18 months ago was with an engaged woman. She was a co worker ...
A. 18 December 2014: If he's your age then I doubt there's more growth for him. I imagine the reverse situation where I am attracted to a man who's arranged to be married to another woman. No, arranged or not, love or no love, the marriage institution still needs to be ... (read in full...)
Does this mean that he stills care about me? Is he angry still?
Q. About a month ago I found out that my ex got engaged. I was devastated, cry the whole night, and was depressed. I wanted to contacted him but I decided not to let my emotions drive me to insanity. He cheated on me so I broke up our engagement and ...
A. 18 December 2014: You are thinking, if only you forgave him and let him repent, then he would have married you. No, no, no. He's been taking advantage of your feelings and if you take the bait and contact him he will further take advantage of that. You will become a ... (read in full...)
My wife's day is filled with pills, potions and quackery!
Q. Until a couple of years ago we were the average happy middle aged couple but then things began to turn for the worse. My wifes day is now spent worrying unrealistically about her health. She imagines every spot, pimple or ache is serious and needs ...
A. 17 December 2014: When a person does that she is looking for attention. She is missing something in her life. She is looking for illogical solutions to a problem that can be solved if she looked within and finds out what makes her happy.
If she has low self este... (read in full...)
Annoyed with his manipulative ex
Q. Let me start this by saying that my new boyfriend is wonderful. I'm 34 years old and have never met anyone so perfect for me in all of my life. He goes out of his way to do things for me. This weekend I had to be away for a business trip and he ...
A. 17 December 2014: Your boyfriend wants to help her partly because he has a good heart, and I think the other part is about stroking his ego. If she constantly calls him while you are on a date with him, that's disrespectful and he should have not picked them up. ... (read in full...)
He seems into me when he's had a drink, but he was sober when he asked me to the cinema... what's going on?
Q. Ok I'm really confused... I met this really nice guy online, it started off really slow then we went on a date and we kissed and stayed up late talking, he then stayed at mine, nothing happened just kissing - it was great! We went on another date ...
A. 15 December 2014: He's still into you, he just didn't want to have sex so soon because he wants to get to know you better. When he's sober he still has the desire for physical, it's just that the alcohol lowered his inhibitions. You just met him, so to do more than ... (read in full...)
On the last day of class I developed a crush. !
Q. i developed a crush on one of the guys in my PE class on the last day of class, which is awful timing, since I probably won't see him again. I friended him, though we have no mutual friends, and he surprisingly accepted. We were taking waterpolo, ...
A. 13 December 2014: You can try to go out with him outside of class. It won't be creepy because you have one common interest, you just want to find out if you have more. The overwhelming sensation comes from not knowing what to expect and putting him on a pedestal. The ... (read in full...)
I've heard rumours heis cheating, and now I have found condoms.
Q. My boyfriend n i have been togather for 7 years. Throughout the yrs iv herd rumors, but thats all. Two different times we went to have sex he couldnt get hard. Then a week later i found a condom unused in his stuff in our bedroom and we dont use...
A. 13 December 2014: Having a used condom with a recent expiry date is a more convincing sign of cheating. An unused condom could suggest he is on the way to cheating but not yet. If he uses condoms for a strange reason like masturbating he would have told you so.
H... (read in full...)
If he wants to break up I accept, and if he just wants to be friends that's okay, but I really want to get back together with him.
Q. So I had this thing with this guy, I'm not really sure what to call it. The first day we met, we hit it off immediately and we were holding hands by the end of the night. He got my number and texted me and we hung out the next day with a group of ...
A. 13 December 2014: Not everyone is the same but he acted like he was rebounding from a previous break up and not knowing what he wants in life. Or someone who's scared of intense feelings and not want to get involved besides some odd moments of flirting and passion. ... (read in full...)
I only contacted him because of the baby
Q. i tried posting this yesterday but i can't find anywhere. My situation, i contacted my ex bf to inform of our baby. he wanted a dna test so i was just following up to see when/how, if he had found any info about getting a test done, etc. He said he ...
A. 13 December 2014: As I remember you and him were casual. He's had weeks to think about it, probably some days trying not to and being "busy." He's putting this all on you so you won't look at him as some heartless, cold person who balks at the idea of being a father. ... (read in full...)
Am I just being a paranoid wife or is there something going on?
Q. Okay I have been married for ten years to a military member. Moved around many times and recently moved to California 5 months ago. I am a stay at home mom for my autistic daughter and have had a hard time finding work due to limited schedule. My ...
A. 12 December 2014: I think something is going on because getting mad is a way to control you and to stop you from questioning him. So what a surprise is busted? He could have just smiled with you and give you another surprise. You should not let that go even if his ... (read in full...)
Why does this man give me the silent treatment? Why not just tell me what is wrong?
Q. I have been seeing this man for 3 years now. A few months ago he got really upset with me and wouldn't talk to me for a month. Finally, we talked and began seeing each other again. Now, the same silent treatment is happening, and he has blocked my ...
A. 12 December 2014: After three years you are just "seeing" him? A month of silence is not acceptable. I would question where you stand in the relationship, or whether he is married and hiding you from his wife. For a taken man, any woman on the side has the potential ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to read her -- does she want to be friends or what?
Q. Hello there I need help regarding a girl I was pursuing about a year ago at my university. Background In three months, we became really close and went on few dates. We were talking three four hours a day and meeting as well at campus. Then,...
A. 12 December 2014: The kind of response you want to, "I find you attractive and want to take things to the next level." is "thank you I think you are attractive too." Anything less than that is a no. She's had a year. Maybe she's wanting to see if in a year's time the ... (read in full...)
He told me about his past to try to seem "more desirable"
Q. I have been seeing a guy for 5 weeks. He already tells me he thinks I am the one and that he is falling in love with me. He has a female co worker who he sits next to. However after a drunken work party he came to visit me, he was drunk andsta...
A. 12 December 2014: For a person to say you are the one and he is falling in love, it only has meaning when two of you are getting official and exclusive with each other. Otherwise he is just saying it in hopes that you will open up and sleep with him. You refer him as ... (read in full...)
She wants to be with me but feels guilty about dumping her boyfriend
Q. I started hanging out with this girl whom I knew had a boyfriend of 1.5 years. In our talks, I found out that he had been nice to her. However, had a tendency to look at other girls on the internet and that crushed this girl. She tells me that she ...
A. 11 December 2014: You have to separate your passion from realizing the true person she is. How does looking at girls online even compare to having an actual, physical affair? If she feels justified getting back at him like this, using you as a means to prove her ... (read in full...)
My fiance's ex wife and adult children have been very abusive toward me
Q. My fiance has 3 daughters in early 30s all with huabands and kids. They have been so a abusive verbally to me and finally have begun treating their father the same he has just cut off any contact with them. Now they are accusing me of breaking...
A. 11 December 2014: I myself can handle not having relationships with any possible step children. I just pretend they don't exist. Your fiance though, has to risk them never coming around to accept dad having a new wife. He cut off contact and did that out of love for ... (read in full...)
Maybe I am overthinking things!
Q. Hey everyone :) I really need some good advise here.. And tbh you all have given really good ones so far.. So here's my story.. It might be a little lengthy but I hope you'll take the time to read it and hopefully understand me :) I've been with...
A. 11 December 2014: No you are not overthinking things. He doesn't want to spend Christmas with you. This is not about him stressed out or needing space. Something about the relationship is not right and he'd rather not tell you directly. Some guys feel it's easier to ... (read in full...)
He is trying so hard but my trust is gone
Q. Hi everyone. I'm in a horrible situation and I would like some advice please. Me and my boyfriend of 5 years had a horrible year last year, I went through a stage where I didn't think the relationship was for me and broke his heart and walke...
A. 10 December 2014: You are having doubts because you feel he only puts effort so you won't leave him again, so he won't have to re-experience the pain of another break up. He only realizes what love is when he loses it. It makes you question whether his love deep is ... (read in full...)
He isn't willing to spend New Years with me and his friends because his ex will be there. Am I overreacting?
Q. Dear Cupid, Going to try and keep things to the point. I am 22, the guy I am involved with is also 22. We are not in a relationship but that is what we're working towards, there have been a few hiccups in our situation which is why we aren't o...
A. 10 December 2014: I am one of those who would be uncomfortable to see any exes. So for me it's easy to relate to him. If he can't enjoy himself it won't be fun for you either. Without you there he can sort of avoid her but if you went there, then he has to worry what ... (read in full...)
How much angry behavior is too much?
Q. How far is too far? My husband got really mad this morning. I'm a house wife and I'll admit I'm not the best at keeping up with everything. I had two loads of laundry in baskets on the floor this morning. I had folded one load and just needed ...
A. 9 December 2014: It's sad reading this. I think the broken ornament kind of signifies a broken marriage too. I admit there are days when I was late for work, felt rush and swore some. You said he was doing this constantly and seems to be blaming it on you. He didn't ... (read in full...)
Why am I never good enough for more than dating or them wanting sex?!?
Q. Why am I never good enough for more than dating or them wanting sex?!? They don't get the goodies, but that seems to be the only thing men want from me. I'm an attractive woman and get told this many many times by men and women alike. I'm good-...
A. 8 December 2014: Maybe you have the idea that if you don't put out soon, then it means the guy will love you in order to have sex. It works for some guys but you have to realize online, many guys had been starved for a long time and they can't afford to wait months ... (read in full...)
I'll never be his perfect trophy wife -- I think he's settling for me
Q. Hi guys it is my first time writing on this so here goes... Ive been seeing this guy for around 6 months now and its been very rocky... our personalities clash on so many levels but we cant help but feel what we do for each other... we rece...
A. 8 December 2014: He's running his mouth too much and although he's being honest he has no clue on the effect it has on you by comparing you to his ex. To let him know what he sounded like, it's like telling him you've had big dicks before but as far as relationships ... (read in full...)
I don't match his preferences so I'm leery of dating him
Q. I met man online and we have become very close . The only concern I have is that he is a self confessed 'leg man' . Being that I am only 5 foot and my breasts are by far my best physical assets I feel like I would be starting a relationship already ...
A. 8 December 2014: I am 5 feet also. Being short doesn't mean not having good legs. Kylie Minogue is short and she had been voted for having the best legs one year. There is nothing wrong with liking legs but if a guy makes an emphasize on that I would feel that his ... (read in full...)
I love him... But I feel like I want to be single again?
Q. I'm currently in a relationship, we've been together just under 2 years and have a flat together. He's my first serious relationship and I love him to bits... However I get this feeling that I want to be single again now... He means the world to...
A. 6 December 2014: You need to figure out what you've been missing doing that does not involve seeing other guys if you want to keep the relationship. Because I don't think that if you love him you would want to risk it and date other people and lose him. For the ... (read in full...)
I'm 31 weeks pregnant I love him with all my heart. But now he's not interested. Can I get over this?
Q. Hi, Sorry in advance for the essay but I really need to know how to cope with my situations. My ex and I met online nearly 2 years ago, neither of us wanted a serious relationship but we ended up falling in love anyway, we got engaged and he mo...
A. 6 December 2014: The break up wasn't something you did or because you moved back with mom. He loves you, you are a good person but he is not going to give up his sports and his friends which are more of a priority. He realizes to become a family he has needs to be ... (read in full...)
She says I make her feel like no one ever has, but she has a boyfriend.
Q. Alright so i'm going to do my best to make this as concise as possible. I met this girl from another country on the other side of the world via the internet. She is a very social person and is almost always out and about but she is also insecure and ...
A. 5 December 2014: You got too carried away with those words, "you make her feel like no one ever has." When in fact she probably kept dating the wrong guys locally. Whether she's been neglected, cheated on or she just needs extra attention. Online she had been ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has become so lazy and its driving me crazy!
Q. We have been together for half a year. We agreed that we would get engaged 2 months ago, but he eventually cancelled things because his family was not home at the time. We then rescheduled our engagement to Christmas Eve. We decided 5 months...
A. 4 December 2014: You are hurt and may be inclined to think he does not love you enough, or you are not worth that kind of love in order for him to be so lazy. Only he has the reasons why he is being this way. Maybe he has medical issues he is hiding. I would look ... (read in full...)
Should I see him just for sex or find someone else?
Q. I am a 28 year old female. I got sick of being a virgin, so recently I went on a few dates with an older man, and we had sex. It was great, I enjoyed our time together so much. It hurt the first time, but the next time was perfect. However...
A. 4 December 2014: If he wants a relationship then it's kinder to let him go. If he does not press for one then you can both enjoy yourselves. Also talk about what a relationship means because it can mean different things for two people. Being the older guy I doubt ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend got another girl pregnant and I don't know what to do
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and the relationship had its ups and downs.last month I found out that he impregnated another girl and I don't have a child with him because I was using the contraceptive I was not ready to give him a ...
A. 4 December 2014: He's not going to give her up and you should stop allowing yourself to be mistreated because he had proven himself to be a cheat, liar and an abuser. You could have charged him with physical assault. Now if you break up with him you may need a ... (read in full...)
Where can this relationship go if he wont be honest and commit
Q. i met a guy on a dating site 3 months ago and had some dates we both came off the site but recently hes gone back on he hasnt told me this, i just found out. he said he wants to see me again and likes me then tells me (what i think is rubbish) he ...
A. 4 December 2014: So he only talked about the future to make you loosen up and hopefully have sex with him? If he's broke then there is no point in asking for a commitment unless you offer to pay for dates and movies.
Men who can't afford relationships but go on d... (read in full...)
I won't let my ex take my daughter for a weekend if I don't know where he's taking her
Q. Hello, I have a situation I would like to hear the opinions of others on and I appreciate any advice in advance. My ex and I have been separated for seven years now, you would think after all this time we would be settled in a schedule wi...
A. 4 December 2014: I think it's within your legal rights to know where the father lives. When you fill out forms for your daughter's school there is a parent section and the school needs to know the father's information. You could have made compensations for his car ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't wan't to spend time with my family
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about two years now. He has a child and every other weekend he brings his kid to his parents house so they can see his child. Since I am in school and only see him on the weekends, I will normally visit his ...
A. 4 December 2014: I wonder if it bothers your mom because she is seeing the unfairness that you are working harder than he is in the relationship. Does your boyfriend has long term intentions? Maybe your mom sees that his unwillingness to visit her as a sign that he ... (read in full...)
Should I Care About My Lack of Title With Special Guy?
Q. I am a single mom who is on disability due to my advanced rheumatoid arthritis. After some bad experiences dating several years ago, I decided to focus on my kids since dating was a hassle. Despite my R.A., I am quite attractive, and am able to ...
A. 1 December 2014: You should not let your disability cause you to settle with a guy who won't give you the full package. You should consider yourself as a prize for your ability to love and care. Just because you are not working does not mean you can't get a decent ... (read in full...)
We rushed in too soon but is he backing out now? Was he ever serious? How should I approach this issue?
Q. I have less than 16 days to do something about this relationship. Please help. I met a guy on a double date five months ago. We hit it off and we talked everyday even though he moved back to the UK the day after we met. I did caution him that...
A. 30 November 2014: First you have to find out if you are pregnant. If you are not then go on birth control. He has trust issues. I don't know how he came up with the figure 70% that he knows about you but I have to say you know very little about him. Don't get all ... (read in full...)
Is my dentist being professional? Am I expecting too much?
Q. I was hoping someone could help me shed some light on this situation as it's completely baffling me! Last year I started a teeth straightening treatment and I was reccomended the same orthodontist by a work colleague and an old school friend wh...
A. 29 November 2014: One thing about positive remarks online is that it brings him more customers, and he may not have time to effectively schedule them all or he may not have a trusted colleague he can refer some of them to. He got busy and was not able to deliver his ... (read in full...)
Good sex versus Bad sex. Why is she so unwilling to try to oral?
Q. I'm writing this for guidance. I've been dating my girlfriend for just 4.5 months now. We are in love and talk about how we're definitely going to marry each other all the time. She asked me if I wanted the relationship originally. my g...
A. 29 November 2014: She could be saying she gave exes oral just to get off the case so she didn't have to explain to you why she has hang ups about it. She might even be insecure about her ability in bed so she told you what she could do, not knowing that only caused ... (read in full...)
It felt like he was trying too hard and I didn't enjoy it
Q. Sex life has beeen a bit up and down with my boyfriend lately for a variety of reasons - stress, tired, diet, living at home with his parents, masturbation lol. So we had a talk about putting more effort in (mostly from his part). last night we had ...
A. 29 November 2014: Breast size is affected by your monthly cycle. Maybe you lost weight due to diet? There are times you may feel like nothing is right however your boyfriend wants to be appreciated by his effort even when you are not feeling 100%. You should let go ... (read in full...)
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