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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Am I reading too much into his slow responses?
Q. Hi thanks for reading. I recently went on pof and have started texting this guy for about s a week, but for past few days it takes him ages to reply. ( like 4 hours) But when he does they are nice messages and I reading too much into it or is he ge...
A. 19 January 2015: When you date online and see someone you really like, always aim to get off the site and exchange email and phone within a week. Some guys are nervous, shy, some are players while the others are time wasters. When you take charge of how you want to ... (read in full...)
What is "smothering" and how do you not do it in a relationship?
Q. Hey there My question is divided into 4 parts. I was wondering what actually is smothering your partner? Why it is bad and how to differentiate between smothering and being available for her? Also, I understand that still most women wait on...
A. 19 January 2015: Smothering means too much talking or spending time with your partner and not allowing them alone time or time with family and friends. It depends on the person. I myself like a smothering relationship. I also like discussing feelings and where we ... (read in full...)
My ex of 3 years has replaced me within 6 weeks
Q. After 3 years of being with my boyfriend from age 16-19 he told me suddenly that he doesn't love me as much as he used to and ended the relationship, he said he wanted to stay friends but I said I would rather not as it would play with my emotions ...
A. 19 January 2015: The one who ends the relationship sees the end faster than the other one. He already prepared for the break up while to you it came as a shock. People change a lot in their teen years and sometimes people grow in different directions. I think it's a ... (read in full...)
I went to club to just have a good time, still guys look at me wrongly.
Q. I went to a nightclub last night. I had a really awesome time with my girl friends. But all of a sudden our enjoyment got lessend due to guys coming and approching us. The guy who approched me took me to his circle of friends and it was three guy...
A. 19 January 2015: What are going to say to a guy who's so persistent? Sing a song like dragonette's "I just came to say hello. I'm not the kind of girl to mess up with you, hello! Don't get too excited cause that's all you get from me...."
The strongest message of n... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend pretending to be single again?
Q. My long distance boyfriend got really distant for weeks until lately, we have talked about it and everything is back to normal. However, few things changed. He doesn't post anything about us on instagram like he used to, he just posts random things ...
A. 19 January 2015: What he was doing online is not enough to say he's pretending to be single. I am not familiar with instagram. Unless there is a status change from "in a relationship" to "single". He called you happy birthday at least. I think you have quite a ... (read in full...)
Is it worth trying again or should I just let my head rule my heart?
Q. I'm really confused right and now and need some advice please! So background : I was with my ex for 5 months when he asked me to move in with him. I know it was too soon but I was stupid and said yes. We lived together happily for over a year...
A. 18 January 2015: It has been 3 weeks since boxing day. You don't know what broke you up and why he'd want to take you back. Your head should say why give him another chance if he doesn't communicate properly. If you try to link the miscarriage with the break up, ... (read in full...)
Great opportunity if we move, but it would take me away from family
Q. What would you do? My husband has the opportunity to make an extra 35 grand. However, to do this we'd need to move across the country and away from my extended family. Our money situation is good at the moment. He makes 70 grand. But we still ...
A. 17 January 2015: My answer is short and sweet. Move! Your husband and your future kids will be the most important in your life, not your extended family that you don't get along with.... (read in full...)
She's completely undermined my sexual confidence with her comments about her ex
Q. Let me apologize in advance for another penis post . LOL I can relate to the commentS I have read about being rejected and worrying my penis is inadequate. I am average but thick. 6" long and 6" around and she still tries to make me feel goo...
A. 17 January 2015: In this case she, and your ex lovers were comparing you to their bigger exes. You have rotten luck with women. Some women do talk about big dicks to make a man feel insecure but it sounds like they did enjoy bigger dicks better. Or that she's not ... (read in full...)
Should I suggest we move in together?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are in a sort of a long distance relationship. He lives with his parents, but also keeps a flat in the city where his university is. Lucky for me, I'm living in the middle, so when he goes home or back, he spends some time with ...
A. 17 January 2015: I think it's a good idea to suggest if you've had talked about marriage before. Being best buddies and familiar with each other does not guarantee that he wants to marry you in the future. Your feelings have to be the same so that you can be assured ... (read in full...)
Is there a way for the kids to be in our lives despite his ex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years and for the past year and a half his ex has been a complete nightmare. He has 2 children with her 7 and 3. The 7 year old has Autism. The first incident was when we met. She insisted on meeting me ...
A. 17 January 2015: There is a way, but not now and not when she still has 100% custody. She barely knows you, so what she hates is the idea that she would be replaced as a mother if the kids spend time at your place. It's not you as a person but the feeling that the ... (read in full...)
I'm already shaky and nervous about meeting his family, shouId I tell him I can't go or push myself to get over my nerves?
Q. My boyfriends sister and I have never got on. We knew each other at school and we just never clicked. I have known her since I was about 6-7 so I know that we won't just become best friends suddenly. I have accepted how close she is to my boyfriend, ...
A. 16 January 2015: Panic attacks can vary anywhere from heart palpitating fast, insomnia, to feeling like the world has come to end and fainting. Does your boyfriend know the severity of your attacks? Are you being treated for it? If no then you should not push ... (read in full...)
How do I get my wife to forgive me for cheating with a coworker?
Q. I have been married for 2 1/2 years. 2 months ago, my wife and I welcomed our first child, a girl. Over the last 6 months, however, my wife and I have disconnected. We fought, argued, and argued while fighting consistently during this time. ...
A. 16 January 2015: First you have to be clear with what you are fighting about. Knowing you just had a 2 month old baby, the most common frustration that husbands face is that they feel unimportant, sex is non existent. The mother child bond is so strong that it ... (read in full...)
I don't know if this guy likes me, yet we are basically dating.
Q. I have been casually dating this guy who i met about 8 months ago but we don't really discuss whether we are dating or not. In the beginning he seemed to be a lot more into me romantically but he would in front of my face tell people no, she's not ...
A. 14 January 2015: He has been getting the best of both worlds, a stable pseudo relationship and also having to explore other options which sadly, was within his rights. This is specially why you have to make things clear in terms because if things are vague, guys ... (read in full...)
I broke up with her then find out she's pregnant
Q. Hi iv got myself into a situation.. iv been dating my girlfriend for near 7 years now and I felt our time was up.. I then had another girl flirting with me constant at work and over Christmas I let sometin happen with her.. I felt so bad that it had ...
A. 14 January 2015: First I would find out if she's really pregnant or using a common lie to reel you back in. I would look at positive pregnancy tests. You might even doubt the baby is yours so if you feel there's a possibility she slept with someone else you have to ... (read in full...)
I don't know if this guy likes me, yet we are basically dating.
Q. I have been casually dating this guy who i met about 8 months ago but we don't really discuss whether we are dating or not. In the beginning he seemed to be a lot more into me romantically but he would in front of my face tell people no, she's not ...
A. 14 January 2015: It has gone on for this long because you are afraid to discuss things. That's both of you too. He's afraid of losing the safe sex and you are afraid of losing a safe friendship. The way he talks to you also shows that he enjoys the upper hand. He ... (read in full...)
I cannot compromise my morals for this man but we have about 90% of things in common. What do I do?
Q. I met a guy 5yrs ago and we became almost best friends for about 6mths. We went out one night with mutual friends, got very drunk after everyone else left and kissed. This happened one or two more times. Shortly after this I went abroad for a couple ...
A. 14 January 2015: It's hard for me to understand how in your first paragraphs you talked about how much you are different and then in summary you have 90% of things in common. The things you talked about are alarming differences and yet you just dismissed those as ... (read in full...)
When is it OK to have sex with your ex?
Q. When is it ok to have sex with your ex? I (25/f) dumped my ex (30/m) 6 weeks ago. He' s recently offered me a plane ticket to see him to catch up, check in on each other, and have a last time go in bed. Initially we were both excited, as I'd already ...
A. 13 January 2015: I think the only time it's okay is when you having nothing to look forward in life anymore. Even when the sky falls you don't care. Yes you should turn him down. If you had not had sex for 6 weeks you are going to miss it but I don't know why it ... (read in full...)
Will I always regret not sleeping with someone else if we do marry?
Q. I was brought up in quite a religious family and was taught not to have sex before marriage. While all my friends were having a varied sex life during uni I was with another guy who had similar values. We broke up and I have now been with my cur...
A. 12 January 2015: My sexual partner count is close to 20 but I still say the grass is not always greener. I did not do it out of rebellion. I wanted the experience, to explore then found out they were not needed. All I needed was someone I loved. I experienced the ... (read in full...)
Why is my Bf's best friend so possesive towards my Bf? Why is he so moved to be so divisive?.
Q. My boyfriend's best mate is very possessive over him and it seems to be negatively affecting our relationship. What should I do? I'd be happy to have him around all the time because I know him and my boyfriend are very close but he's not very ni...
A. 12 January 2015: The one who has to do more is your boyfriend. If there's something you can do is that you move away and find your ideal job in a different city then invite your boyfriend to come along. The other thing is actually a non doing. Not being angry, not ... (read in full...)
Advice please. Has anyone ever stayed in a long term relationship due to the SEX being out of this world?
Q. What do you do when you and your boyfriend have this crazy, intense, over the top physical, sexual chemistry that neither of you has ever experienced with anyone else? And it seems to sometimes take on a life of its own? I find it gets in the way ...
A. 12 January 2015: Having the ability to endure powerful sex is important for both women and men. Also think part of what makes the sex good, is that you never know what's going to happen with the relationship. You never know if something small is going to break up ... (read in full...)
Recently broke up. He has health issues. He's retreating more into his "man cave". Any suggestions on what to do?
Q. Hi there, my ex boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up with me for the second time. We were in an overly committed relationship. He has a couple of mental conditions on his hands that he hasn't dealt with before the start of our relationship tha...
A. 12 January 2015: You may have different visions in life and he put more of a priority towards relationships because perhaps he's never had love in his life. However I don't see that if one person is not putting as much effort then it's a deal breaker. At your age ... (read in full...)
Recently broke up. He has health issues. He's retreating more into his "man cave". Any suggestions on what to do?
Q. Hi there, my ex boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up with me for the second time. We were in an overly committed relationship. He has a couple of mental conditions on his hands that he hasn't dealt with before the start of our relationship tha...
A. 11 January 2015: I think you have done enough. He's the one giving you a hard time. He's the one giving up and when you gave him space he responded to that with "the degree of caring you showed him was not there." It's like no matter what you do you can't satisfy ... (read in full...)
Do you think I might have hurt his feelings? I think of his as my FWB
Q. Dear Cupid, I am currently in a "relationship" with this guy named X. We must be FWB's because we've agreed that we aren't calling each other bf/gf. My question could be complicated for some, mostly because I don't know how to ask it. But I was...
A. 11 January 2015: You get over the past relationships by having a "relationship" as you say, with this guy. If you are happy with each other, that's what it counts. He is taking a risk with you when you are unsure. Every relationship has its risks but more so when ... (read in full...)
Torn between taking him back, and questioning whether anything's going to change
Q. Hello aunts and uncles. I am looking for some advice please because I'm so confused at the moment. Basically, I had been with my now ex boyfriend for over 5 years. We have always had our own lives and interests outside of the relationship, bu...
A. 10 January 2015: I've seen this before. I think your boyfriend is 27. To be with each other means different things to you two because you are at different stages. He thinks because he spares two days a week with you he's committed while you are ready to get married. ... (read in full...)
Confusion as to what "dating" means??
Q. Hi I'm just wondering what dating means to people in this situation, if a guy "dates" a girl and sees her every week is that just exclusive dating between them or does "dating" mean he's seeing other girls too , there's a guy I know and said he's ...
A. 9 January 2015: Dating can mean different things to people. There are people who do one on one from the start. There are others who date around. There are those who tolerate the other one dating others if it's still early. There are also people who would not bother ... (read in full...)
What's going on in his head ?
Q. I met a guy and became friends we decided to date and he took himself off the dating site as I did too , we came friends on facebook then after a mis understanding he unfriended me he doesn't know I know this as he knows I would question things like ...
A. 9 January 2015: The only way to know is to ask him but if you did he could always deny his true intention. If he literally said this and that I am afraid he's looking at this as casual and he hopes you would put out but can't be too explicit to scare you off. He ... (read in full...)
Split with nasty ex and met great new guy, but feel sorry and sad about the loss of my ex and can't move on totally.
Q. Dear all. I am on my way out of a horrible turbulent relatiinship and the last time I had sex with him I felt dirty and yucky. He knows it is over, and most of me is relieved. It lasted four long years. He is really sorry now, and bought me gifts ...
A. 9 January 2015: In time you will move on, but only if you block him out of your life. That means no phone calls or receiving gifts from him. It is when that spot in your heart is empty you can mourn for the loss. You have to let your ex do the same so the pain ... (read in full...)
How should I come clean about my feelings? And should I be worrying about the long haul?
Q. Quick question(s): I've been getting to know this girl for about two months now. The first half of that time primarily consisted of us meeting up for drinks with our mutual friends. Then we started texting, then we met up for drinks in a much...
A. 23 December 2014: I would think hard about number 2 before what to do with your feelings (number 1). I would have to consider how poor that diet is. Some people live a long life even with junk food, some have healthy babies even when smoking and drinking. I would not ... (read in full...)
How long to wait before having sex with a guy? Not sure what to do
Q. How long should you wait before having sex with a guy? Ok, I met this lovely guy in September, we've been on 5 dates, third date he kissed me and stayed at mine, fourth date same and fifth date same too. He lives out of London, so we usually go ou...
A. 23 December 2014: It's a gentleman thing to talk about what he's expecting when the sex subject comes up. Such as, he's looking for a serious relationship, or no he's not ready for a relationship. For men who are not upfront because they are shy, new to this, being ... (read in full...)
How do I get over being wrongly accused of cheating?
Q. Greetings fellow souls, Recently, I was broken up with by my boyfriend of around 9 months because he thought I cheated on him. The only problem is that I didn't, nothing. No flirting with intention, kissing, touching, etc. nothing. Just so...
A. 22 December 2014: It's very unnerving when you can't get a person to trust you and when he creates reality and makes it so. I think you want to know why he's this way to understand, to get closure but to give him excuses. Also what to do if you run into men like ... (read in full...)
He is dwelling in the past when we need to move forward!
Q. Hi everyone.. I am quite in a pickle at the moment and i urgently need some advice... So about a week ago, my boyfriend and I were in an argument and things got pretty bad. And we were both invited to the same party. At that party I was feel...
A. 22 December 2014: I know what past there is to speak of. You were just experimenting on drinks. It's not like the alcohol made you frisky and you were flirting with other guys. Your boyfriend is controlling. Maybe it's religion that prohibits you from drinking. If he ... (read in full...)
Together 18 years, yet sexually it could be better. Emotionally we have issues. How can this situation be improved?
Q. My husband and I dated for three years and were sexually active. When we got married, I just stopped wanting sex at all, but I did continue to masturbate. I dreaded sex and just had no interest. And when I say dreaded I mean I would just pray ...
A. 22 December 2014: I believe you married your husband because you have some kind of attraction to him. Years later, a child came along and you have less free time and privacy so sex was the least priority. You got stuck in that mode for a long time and didn't know how ... (read in full...)
Together 18 years, yet sexually it could be better. Emotionally we have issues. How can this situation be improved?
Q. My husband and I dated for three years and were sexually active. When we got married, I just stopped wanting sex at all, but I did continue to masturbate. I dreaded sex and just had no interest. And when I say dreaded I mean I would just pray ...
A. 21 December 2014: I need to be clear about one thing. Did the sexual problems happen because throughout the time he had been hounding you questions about your past, or you didn't like sex, the idea of it, with him, or just in general? Did he become unattractive to ... (read in full...)
He changed his mind about marrying me but still expects me to stay
Q. I've been living with my boyfriend for a year ... we've been together about a year and a half now. We're both in our 40s and divorced with adult children. He asked me to marry him last year and over the last several months, he has seemed to be ve...
A. 21 December 2014: I understand how frustrating it is to be lied to and strung along. It insults your intelligence. In your post though, I hearing nothing positive about him or the relationship. It's like the mention of marriage is tied to insurance and retirement ... (read in full...)
My family seems disinterested in my upcoming wedding
Q. I'm with my finacee 2 years and we are getting married in 2016. I'm 20 and my sisters are 32 and 40. My fiancee is 30 and i love him so much and we get on incredibly. Since I got engaged both of them have changed it is like they don't want to ...
A. 21 December 2014: What I would do is just invite his side of family and hope they understand. This is your day so you need to be happy that day. There is no point stressing over people not showing up. If the fiancee is the one for you he will look past this and ... (read in full...)
Not sure what he feels for me
Q. i have been with my bf for a year now and i can honestly say i love him. although i am confused and feel that he does not love me. so far we havent said the "i love you". i can honestly say i am afraid and i feel like he doesn't. in the beginin...
A. 21 December 2014: There are people who say "I love you" without planning for the future. Love is just an expression for them, when they feel like it at that moment. I don't know why he can't say he misses you. I would just take that as he doesn't really miss you.
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My boyfriend's mother won't let go
Q. Sorry that this is pretty long! Hope this doesn’t sound selfish, but she’s driving me crazy! I kind of feel like this may be too soon to address this issue in the relationship, since we have only been dating for a short while (9 more days until ...
A. 20 December 2014: I agree she is no monster in law. She had been abandoned by his dad so he does not want his son to ever suffer from bad girlfriends. She was testing your character but didn't know she came off as petty and challenging, all because she was too ... (read in full...)
We've got back together but the breakup has destroyed me!
Q. I recently got back together with my then ex-boyfriend. We dated for 3 years before he decided to call it quits saying that he had fallen out of love with me.It was a real nasty break up and he was horrible and nasty to me I hardly recognized him. I ...
A. 20 December 2014: No break up reasons are the same. Some people break up because they fight too much. The break up allowed them time to cool down and realize their mistakes. His reasons for breaking up was because he fell out of love. Instead of putting more effort ... (read in full...)
I want to let him know I have feelings for him, without scaring him off!
Q. I am dating a wonderful man an it's going so so well, but I really am developing feelings for him. We have been dating around 2 months now and see each other at least once or twice and week and talk every day on the phone and via texts. He ha...
A. 20 December 2014: Say you get butterflies and warm rushes because when you tell someone you have feelings it makes people assume your interest level in them is perceived as higher than theirs. It gives them the pressure that they have to do something, and their ... (read in full...)
Is my mother cheating on my father?
Q. I have known for a while that my mother talks regularly to another man, other than my father, and although I don't like it I've found that it's only ever been friendly. However, I recently found out that my mother has been talking to this same man ...
A. 20 December 2014: If that happened to me, first i would save that text or forward that to my phone so there is no way your mom could deny it should it comes to the confrontation stage. I would ask how's her relationship with dad, how are they getting along. If she ... (read in full...)
He's neglecting me... Just want someone to talk to
Q. I'm 32 and my bf is 36. We've been together for over 5 years. We broke up for about 6 months due to him neglecting me. During our BU, he contacted me EVERY week, the entire 6 months.... EVERY week for 6 MONTHS! Now you'd think in that time he'd have ...
A. 20 December 2014: I understand not being able to express love, as an emotional zombie. If you equate love to music, he's totally tone deaf. However, give and take is just something intellectually easy to understand. A person can go through the motions only for so ... (read in full...)
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