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writes: Hey everyone :) I really need some good advise here.. And tbh you all have given really good ones so far.. So here's my story.. It might be a little lengthy but I hope you'll take the time to read it and hopefully understand me :) I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. And even though we had a short break during the summer, we kept in contact and well nothing changed between us like we talked as if we were still together. We had a break because we had an argument and it was quite complicated but all of that have been solved and we got back together when school restarted. So this happened yesterday... He and I stayed back together after school as I had prefect duties and he had after school sports training so we had one hour to spend. So we hung out laughed a lot and talked! We were good! I was doing my prefect duty for an hour then I met him before his training. We were still good and fun and everything. After my duty I had to go to do volunteer work in the evening. After that, he texted me as his usual self and it was normal. Then he told me he'll talk to me when he gets home. But he didn't text me.So I decided to text him and he sounded mad and like really pissed off.. I don't know if he's pissed at me or at something else. And since it's almost the end of our school term, I asked him to stay back with me today so we can spend some time together before Xmas. He just responded in a really mean way and said like no I don't want to.. So I asked why and he just answered don't waste your time... I don't even know what's up... If it's family issues I can understand but still at least don't neglect me right?? And if it has to do with me then at least consult me about it. And btw I am positive I didn't do anything wrong.. So I don't think he can find fault with me.. But really I kinda need some advise on guys like these.. My guy doesn't really like talking about how he feels about stuff.. Stuff as in like if he's having problems or concerns.. So what I'm really asking is how do I handle this situation.. I really don't want my relationship to end.. I really love him and care about him.. He really means a lot to me.. We had so much memories together and we've been through a lot too. And tbh our feelings for each other are real like I feel it.. He proves his love for me too.. But right now I am so worried of the way he is reacting right now... So PLS help! I'll answer any questions you have... I know Im wordy but still.. I'm just scared. He's quite unpredictable tbh. Also, at this point in time, Idek what to feel.. Like I kinda feel like if I don't talk to him, he may not speak to me for like a few days.. And also if we were arguing face to face and I walked away, he wouldn't come after me.. That's how I feel right now... But idk maybe I'm overthinking? Help me plssssss... I feel like breakin down..
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (11 December 2014):
 No you are not overthinking things. He doesn't want to spend Christmas with you. This is not about him stressed out or needing space. Something about the relationship is not right and he'd rather not tell you directly. Some guys feel it's easier to do the disappearing act rather than have a long talk about reasons for break up. What you should do is forget about him for now and assume it's another break. If I am wrong and he's just being moody then you have to decide if you can tolerate this because it will happen from time to time. He can't put people on hold and then pick up where he left off.
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reader, Delirium  +, writes (11 December 2014):
 You are pretty young, you and your boyfriend are going through lot's of different emotions right now. School, family, friends, this relationship you have (which I'm guessing the whole relationship thing is relatively new for both of you). It sounds like he is upset over something, probably not something you did, and is being a typical teenage boy and getting overly worked up over it. You won't know what's going on until he is ready to talk to you. The best thing you can do is send a short text or message saying something like "You sound upset, if there is something that I can do to help let me know. I'll be here when you need me." Then just let him be. He will know you care, that you are ready to talk when he is, but you are not pestering him while he is angry (which may just frustrate him more).It's pretty rare for anyone's early relationships to go smoothly. No one starts out as a relationship expert, we have to learn through trial and error. Your guy sounds pretty normal for a teenager, not great at communicating what he's feeling, shutting out people when he's mad, etc. If you're lucky as time goes on and you both gain life experience he may blossom into your ideal man. But until then do the best you can. Good luck.
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