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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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My dad told my fiancé he can cheat on me!
Q. I don't know what to think of my dad anymore. my fiance works for him, and my dad tells him dont tell my wife or daughter but if my wife gains anymore weight i wont be attracted to her and tell her im gonna sleep with other woman id understand if ...
A. 10 October 2014: JFK's dad would say something similar and cheating was forgiven in his era. Right now I don't think so. My dad is 67, probably much older than your dad and I can't imagine any man today saying this to betray his daughter like that. If you feel angry ... (read in full...)
I don't think I am that much in love with him. Is it key to a happy marriage to be absolutely in love with your future spouse?
Q. The story of my life is that never ever a man who I was in love with and adored was in love with me back. Every time something starts and I feel incredibly in love, after awhile an interest in me fades. My boyfriend is a very nice man. He has...
A. 10 October 2014: If I were your boyfriend I would be worried hearing that you are not that much in love with him, and also this is your first serious long term relationship. You have nothing to compare it to, and you are still curious about the field and what's out ... (read in full...)
I think I made a mistake in ending the LDR. Should I try to get back with her?
Q. I have split up with my ex last year due to various reasons. The main one being the long distant which caused so many arguments. But the last year I have had some nagging feeling that is was a mistake. We have been brilliant friends this las...
A. 9 October 2014: You may work as friends but not romantic partners because we demand more in serious relationships. When you were her boyfriend, you were not constantly doing stuff with her for some reason. It's in my assumption that men need a space to breathe in a ... (read in full...)
I don't think I am that much in love with him. Is it key to a happy marriage to be absolutely in love with your future spouse?
Q. The story of my life is that never ever a man who I was in love with and adored was in love with me back. Every time something starts and I feel incredibly in love, after awhile an interest in me fades. My boyfriend is a very nice man. He has...
A. 9 October 2014: You said every time something starts and you feel incredibly in love and then it fades. Does it include your current boyfriend? Or does the in love feeling fade only when a long term is established? You have good sex. So it's not like you can't ... (read in full...)
She's exactly my type and we have had fun talking about stuff and joking around, but I can't help feeling like she's not all that into it. What do I do?
Q. I recently moved to a nee city and a new country. Since I don't know many people here, I decided to give online dating a try. I didn't have a lot of success at first but about 10 days ago I came across the profile of an absolutely gorgeous girl who ...
A. 9 October 2014: You've been talking for 10 days. That should be enough time to venture on a date. I never stay on a dating site for more than a week. I know there are profiles that are forever there, but I feel people are missing it's purpose by not actively dating ... (read in full...)
Why would he hide this friendship with this 21 year old?
Q. My boyfriend of 45 unbeknown to me has befriended his neighbours granddaughter of 21 as she has been helping out there with the grand parents who have been unwell. He works from home and she is next door helping every day as she is unemployed. ...
A. 9 October 2014: He would never date a 21 year old, but he is flattered and wants to keep that attention as she makes him feel good. This is disrespectful to you. As soon as she texted him kisses he should have cut her off. For a girlfriend he likes a woman close to ... (read in full...)
It seems that feeling left out has become a self-fulfilling prophesy, any suggestions?
Q. Dear Cupid I feel sad as I haven't got very many friends or people to connect with and share my feelings to. You know how women have a support network and they share things amongst one another, like they might have girly chats on the phone an...
A. 9 October 2014: I am the one who feel left out in my family. For my solitary life it can be contributed to both nature and nurture reasons. My personality makes it hard for me to relate to other people and share their feelings. I like to be left alone. So my ... (read in full...)
I don't think I am that much in love with him. Is it key to a happy marriage to be absolutely in love with your future spouse?
Q. The story of my life is that never ever a man who I was in love with and adored was in love with me back. Every time something starts and I feel incredibly in love, after awhile an interest in me fades. My boyfriend is a very nice man. He has...
A. 9 October 2014: A key to a happy marriage is be kind to each other and be supportive. Also finding a balance between passion and rationality. People have definitions of what in love means. Some people feel that in love means the strong chemicals in the brain that ... (read in full...)
Seeing my ex has brought up all these feelings of being an oddity, help?
Q. Its probably a bad idea to ask for advice on this subject but I'll give it a go. I know its silly but I would like some opinions. I am going to be 18 in a couple of months and about 3 weeks a go something really weird ha...
A. 7 October 2014: I am different from you in that whenever a relationship ends I feel like it's because I am an oddity. Not when I want to start a new relationship. I've ever dated or interested in men who are not neuro-typical. Like having ADHD, anxiety, ... (read in full...)
I'm still thinking of my ex even as I'm worried about developing feelings for my potential FWB! Advice?
Q. Hi! :) hey... I really need your advise on something that's been bothering me almost this whole year...I've asked people but most of them just brush my issue away,and advise me to just move on..but its not an easy thing to do...so please do help me ...
A. 7 October 2014: If you go ahead with the FWB, then in the future you will be transferring feelings of attachment from your ex to this new guy. At first it will be like casual, a distraction from your ex and fun and games. Later you will wonder if there's something ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend breaks up with me, over and over and over again!
Q. okay I'm really confused on this one. I am 47 my girlfriend 45. Will be going out for 6 months and ever since day one she continually breaks up with me.I mean literally she can break up with me more than once in a week and then she comes running ...
A. 7 October 2014: I think she's using her ex for money. She doesn't love him but feels guilty being with you so the solution is to break up but can't stay broken up. She does not have a fear of abandonment. She is half abandoning her ex and playing with both men.
I... (read in full...)
Do I have a problem, and should I confront my husband about it? Am suspicions that he's cheating, but have no proof.
Q. A few months ago I posted about my husband coming home from a branch office visit for day (the branch was closing down) and I saw long scratch marks down his arms and small bruises around his wrists. They scabbed over and the marks were there for ...
A. 7 October 2014: I searched on the internet on ghost scratches and found 50000 results. They consist of pictures and people telling stories and not knowing how the scratches occurred. I don't think all of the stories could be made up or written by paranoid ... (read in full...)
They all lose interest after I sleep with them
Q. I have been trying to meet someone to have a relationship with for quite a while now. I don't have any problems meeting men both online and in real time; however when ever I do start seeing someone I find attractive and seem to get on well with it ...
A. 7 October 2014: You mention the technical details of the date. Yes they went well, the were decent men. I wonder if there's any passion, the feeling of "I am really curious to find out what he's about." The selection of a mate, and the decision takes place in a ... (read in full...)
Does it make me a bad wife to exclude my husband from my social life and travelings?
Q. Doesn't make a bad wife that I don't want to travel with my husband anymore, and more...I don't really want to involve Him in my socialiZing anymore also. We are married for 23 years. I married very very young right after high school, had a ch...
A. 7 October 2014: Do you really have to remind me about our trip to Spain with my parents this summer? My dad was carrying thousand dollars worth of camera, two lens too. My mom carried one and they went separate ways and got lost. My son was complaining the whole ... (read in full...)
Engaged for a year. Yet he's rarely in the mood for sex. Has our relationship run it's course?
Q. I have been engaged to my man for almost a year. We dont go out anymore and sex that only happens when i throw a fit. He always says his back hurts but when it's work he is out the door no problem. So all im good for is to wash his clothes and...
A. 7 October 2014: When a man says his back hurts it's not anything to dismiss like a simple headache or just being tired. He could have a herniated disc but too afraid to see a doctor and get a surgery. A declining in health is also a shame to manhood and makes him ... (read in full...)
Is there something hypocritical about this relationship?
Q. How should I understand this situation? History of a relationship 1. Been dating someone for 2 years. 2. We have had some arguments and she says we are through. Has been like 4 times and we don't speak for a few weeks then everything goes back to ...
A. 6 October 2014: She is hypercritical in the relationship. If you are talking about hypocritical, it could be you think that Christians are kind, gentle, and forgiving. That way she's not. Anybody can all themselves Christian and use the religion to shame and ... (read in full...)
Would like to find some genuine age-gap dating sites but don't want any scam sites. How do I attract women 10-15 years younger than myself?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 35 year old male who lives in the UK. I prefer younger women aged between 20 and 30 and would like some suggestions for genuine age gap dating sites. Before anyone asks: no, I am not looking for a notch on my bedpost or '...
A. 6 October 2014: I think the most popular dating sites like plenty of fish would work best because decent people who pay for other sites like Match are also on POF. You talk to a girl you like then ask if you are in her age bracket. It works best if she likes you ... (read in full...)
Am I being too persnickety? Should I see this man again?
Q. With a track record of attracting and dating emotionally unavailable men, I've been working on trying to be more open and emotionally available myself, and dating more men, basically accepting most dates from men who ask online. I've been on t...
A. 6 October 2014: If I were you, I would be blunt and tell him he talks too much and that he should relax because you are more able to observe a person in silence.
I had a date like that, asking questions all the time. I just said to him, "I am just enjoying the ... (read in full...)
Have I ruined things for him?
Q. What do I make of this? I've been with my partner for 5 years we had a son together. He had to move for work and things got rocky with the distance and he eventually told me he had met someone and had been seeing her for a few months without tell...
A. 6 October 2014: If he's not happy with you it doesn't matter if their relationship is ruined. Would you want to be with a man who is already lining up a woman before your break up then staying with you out of guilt? They were only happy because the woman is only ... (read in full...)
How do I stop crushing on my boss and acting like such a schoolgirl around him? And how do I stop having so many sexual thoughts about him?
Q. Hello, how do I stop crushing on my boss? Every time I am around him, he says funny things and I feel like a giggly schoolgirl! I have sexial dreams about him often and can't wait for the weekend to end so that I can be around him again. Although ...
A. 6 October 2014: What your boss has that your boyfriend doesn't is his authority position. He has power and shows alpha tendencies. I don't know many men in their 30's who have everything that you want. It's harder these days to climb to the top. People are ... (read in full...)
Does there come a point when you think there is more bad than good in a marriage? Can things actually turn around when one person is adamant that he is always right and blameless?
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles, I guess I am scratching my head with my situation and really could do with some objective input. I'm married to a guy who is 13 years my senior. We have been together for 10 years and are complete opposites. When thi...
A. 5 October 2014: He's older than you so it's very unlikely that he would take your considerations and different opinion on board. The only kind of women that would work for him is the submissive kind and letting him make all the decisions. It also means you have to ... (read in full...)
I love my partner's kids, but it breaks my heart to watch them walking on eggshells so they don't upset their mummy!
Q. Hi Basically I am due to be getting married next year to my wonderful partner of 3 years. He has 2 kids from a previous relationship (we met 2 years after the break up) and we are all close. I love his children to bits. When he proposed, immedi...
A. 5 October 2014: The daughter is 7 years old so the most she can do is be a flower girl. You tell her a bridesmaid has to be an adult. This is your wedding so you pick who you want to be there. No one has to tell the mom what went on at the wedding. If she ... (read in full...)
He says I am not his girlfriend, but that he loves me, I am so confused!
Q. Okay, so I met this guy back in June ( he was a friend of a very good friend of mine) and we seemed to really hit it off. Well we got caught up in the moment and we had THE BEST SEX. And afterwards we chilled and talked til early in the morning. He ...
A. 5 October 2014: He's only telling you what you want to hear but not the real truth. If he can't open up to you then you are not real friends. Maybe he likes the feeling of being able to help you out and listen to you, being your hero.
Is it possible you are unwi... (read in full...)
My Husband sent a text to another girl in the middle of the night ...
Q. I have a very simple question. Should I be worried? I got off work today to find a fb message from a girl my husband used to be friends with. It had a picture of a iPhone convo and her message to me read "this is not the first time your husban...
A. 5 October 2014: I think the girl sent you the text to let you know she has no intentions of wrecking a marriage and she did not do anything to cause your husband's out of line behavior. He may not have cheated but he sure likes to solicit females. At midnight he ... (read in full...)
He says I am not his girlfriend, but that he loves me, I am so confused!
Q. Okay, so I met this guy back in June ( he was a friend of a very good friend of mine) and we seemed to really hit it off. Well we got caught up in the moment and we had THE BEST SEX. And afterwards we chilled and talked til early in the morning. He ...
A. 5 October 2014: The biggest problem here is that neither of you have a car. When you can't see each other you don't have a relationship. Maybe that's also why he will be teased. It's like, "yes so what you had sex but what next? What do you have to offer her?" You ... (read in full...)
I love my partner's kids, but it breaks my heart to watch them walking on eggshells so they don't upset their mummy!
Q. Hi Basically I am due to be getting married next year to my wonderful partner of 3 years. He has 2 kids from a previous relationship (we met 2 years after the break up) and we are all close. I love his children to bits. When he proposed, immedi...
A. 5 October 2014: After you get married you are a legal guardian of his children. You don't have to tell his kids what to do. If they are able to lie to mommy while in secret being very loving to you, then it would be their decision. Their minds are growing and will ... (read in full...)
Should I wait, or should I have some one night stands?
Q. Hi, this is a slightly embarrassing question and I know there's no one correct answer. I just want some opinions/advice/comments from those who have been in a similar situation. I'm female, nineteen, in my second year of university, and ...
A. 5 October 2014: I was an international student so I never knew where I would end up in my 20's and so on. I was still a horny person but I made up my mind that the person I lost my virginity to was my boyfriend. I got a boyfriend who was actually gay. I didn't care ... (read in full...)
I have mixed feelings about my husband's ex girlfriend
Q. Hi there, I was raised with the values of compassion.Long story short I got married to a guy who was with other girl for 6 years before plunging in love with me.They were in constant fighting/breakup mode during the last two years of it that is ...
A. 4 October 2014: I think your compassion may be misplaced here. She is responsible with her happiness. It takes two to break up. A man should not stay with a woman out of duty and pity. I understand that there is an overlap in the two relationships and you will ... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend can only become aroused by blowjobs
Q. My new man will not get hard for me. After making out, kissing, touching...nothing. I did a sexy dance for him and thought it was working when I spotted something in his pants...but after finishing, I realised it was only my imagination! He was not ...
A. 4 October 2014: Having a desire for sex or release in the mind is separate from getting an erection. A teen virgin boy having anticipations of meeting a date the first time can get hard just by holding hands. Same as a 30 year old man who has been single for years ... (read in full...)
My cheating married lover has grown cold
Q. I got involved with a married man and quickly felt like we had incredibly chemistry. He kept telling me that he feels so connected to me. We met twice , had sex. That part was understood. But now the chase is over. After the second time, he seems ...
A. 26 September 2014: No hate here. You are in a situation no one wishes to be in and for some reason you decide to stick with the one who can't satisfy you sexually.
Your married lover has gone cold and you have taken it too personally. You may have thought he got what... (read in full...)
I'm a crossdresser with a girlfriend relationship problem
Q. So I am a crossdresser and I really love doing it. I have a nice collection of clothes and shoes, etc. Mostly I have done it at home when nobody is around. My girlfriend whom I live with knows about it, and is very supportive of this whih makes my ...
A. 25 September 2014: She may feel that crossdressing is okay for other people but not her boyfriend. Too close for comfort. For me, if I have a reason to be bothered by it, it's because instead of creativity, freedom of expression, wanting to meld into the other gender, ... (read in full...)
What "red flags" am I missing here and how do I stop them without being an jerk?
Q. I have only had a few girlfriends in my life and the ones I have dump me all the time with no reason other than "I just want to be friends" or "it's not working out" or "I don't want a boyfriend". They say these things after we're already dating or ...
A. 25 September 2014: You don't seem assertive. Don't listen to what your female friends tell you. Getting a number and talking to a girl is the only way to ask a girl out. I don't get why you have to invite a girl and then three of her friends. If you are interested in ... (read in full...)
"Just friends" became more, which is a problem since I have a gf
Q. I have so many questions: am I having an affair? Am I doing the right thing? Does she think I'm using her? I should probably start with a bit of background. I've known this girl for years, always fancied her, had a mess about when we were younger ...
A. 25 September 2014: It might be comforting to know that someone is waiting for you while you end the relationship. The most probably thing that would happen is that you won't feel comfortable being in a relationship with the friend because there is a trust issue.
L... (read in full...)
My FWB guy said I love you..was it just post sex emotion?
Q. 4 years ago I had a brief fling with a guy. It didn't work out but it was good while it lasted. About 6 months ago we bumped into each other after a night out and exchanged numbers. Since then we've had a fwb situation going on. We spoke about it ...
A. 24 September 2014: I would have asked him if he loved you since the first day how come he was okay with no relationship. Some fwbs are strictly monogamous while others have sex with others. When people say nothing they would just assume that he's not the only lover. ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to commit to my boyfriend
Q. I love my boyfriend, dearly. I pounce on the phone whenever he texts or calls me (we do not live together and live in different cities) and could talk to him all day if I could. I'm alway eager to text him, my parents know about him, etc etc. We've ...
A. 24 September 2014: You have reasons to guard your heart. If cultural reasons are why your boyfriend would not introduce you to his family, you have a right to know if he would marry you when that time comes, so you can choose accordingly whether to just end it now. ... (read in full...)
Do many people have one night stands?
Q. I am single 29 years old now. 3 years ago, i joined filipinocupid site because of curiosity. I uploaded my photo and i got many interest from different men so it excites me and started exchanging messages to those guys i got interest with. After 3 ...
A. 23 September 2014: I would not believe anyone who says they love me or want to marry me without knowing me much. Maybe they think filipinos are naive. A lot of transient, travelling business people go to those sites disguised as looking for dates. They think if they ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is always breaking his promises to me
Q. So my boyfriend and I are expecting our first child together at the end of next month. I've had a hard preganncy and am currently on early maternity leave my doctor ordered because I am at risk of going into labor preterm. It hasn't even been a week ...
A. 23 September 2014: I understand being stressed about being a father and wanting to spend his last days of freedom, however his actions are showing you that either he does not want this pregnancy or this relationship. It sounds like the house his yours and he's helping ... (read in full...)
I think I need to leave him, but I also want him to see that he's wrong about me!
Q. Ive written here before, and I know I think I am looking for an answer that doesn't exist. I've been with a man for over 3 1/2 years. We got engaged last year and broke off the engagement about 6 weeks before the wedding. Every time I get upse...
A. 22 September 2014: I remember you saying at the restaurant he would check out hockey scores. Sounds like he just doesn't know what to do or say on a date. He thinks that a ring would make a woman happy forever. He has anxiety about dates so he would purposefully call ... (read in full...)
Need help on how to handle my Bf's mixed feelings. What should I do?
Q. This is basically about my ex-boyfriend. Recently I had came in contact with my ex-boyfriend The reason we broke up before is because he moved back to his hometown, and I didn't think a long distance relationship would have been fair. We were ...
A. 22 September 2014: Yep I missed that part about you and your boyfriend breaking up. I think he basically told you what's in his head. You are friends just catching up after a long time but because you had a romantic history a lot of emotions caught up. There is always ... (read in full...)
If I resume with my original BF (who cut contact for months) will he be able to tell that I had sex with a bigger guy?
Q. I have a boyfriend but he went abroad in jan 2014 and he hasn't contacted me anymore. After 4 months, I called him and asked if we're still together, he said yes. So i still hope that we will still continue to communicate but he never chatted ...
A. 21 September 2014: No he won't be. Our genitals don't stay the same shape and size all the time. When girls are aroused they open up. When guys have a lot of blood flow down there they get bigger. When they are tired or stress they are smaller down there.
Now, 'we ... (read in full...)
Need help on how to handle my Bf's mixed feelings. What should I do?
Q. This is basically about my ex-boyfriend. Recently I had came in contact with my ex-boyfriend The reason we broke up before is because he moved back to his hometown, and I didn't think a long distance relationship would have been fair. We were ...
A. 21 September 2014: Telling an ex you have a boyfriend should be enough to stop this silliness. For some people though, they like to challenge and find out if they could steer you away from the present boyfriend, especially if the break up didn't happen long ago. A ... (read in full...)
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