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My wife misled me with her sexual past
Q. We got married 16 years ago and i had to ask her parents for permission to marry her since we were both brought up the old fashioned way, so at that time we got to know each other for about a year before we got married. before I met her I had two ...
A. 2 March 2015: I know from another forum that a guy had married two virgins and they both cheated on him while the experienced non pure one fulfilled her duty as a third wife. Not made up. You could look it up if you researched by I don't want to redirect readers ... (read in full...)
My wife misled me with her sexual past
Q. We got married 16 years ago and i had to ask her parents for permission to marry her since we were both brought up the old fashioned way, so at that time we got to know each other for about a year before we got married. before I met her I had two ...
A. 2 March 2015: I know there are women who fake innocence as entry to marriage then fake being sorry as the exit. They do that (drop the bomb) when kids turn 18, after their parents die, after christmas, and conveniently before Valentine's day. Those are the ones ... (read in full...)
My wife misled me with her sexual past
Q. We got married 16 years ago and i had to ask her parents for permission to marry her since we were both brought up the old fashioned way, so at that time we got to know each other for about a year before we got married. before I met her I had two ...
A. 1 March 2015: I was born too late so I probably shouldn't be here. I don't equate love same as desiring that she's never slept with anyone else. Just because people don't care to know about pasts doesn't mean they don't love their partner. I certainly get why you ... (read in full...)
My wife misled me with her sexual past
Q. We got married 16 years ago and i had to ask her parents for permission to marry her since we were both brought up the old fashioned way, so at that time we got to know each other for about a year before we got married. before I met her I had two ...
A. 1 March 2015: Maybe it's the fear that all white women secretly love black men more and only marry white ones because of their parents. The assumption that blacks are sexier and whites are representable in public. I can assure you that's not true. There are many ... (read in full...)
Why does my bf try to make me feel jealous? He implies that I can't do any better
Q. I've been with my bf for almost 5 years. Things have been so rocky the last month we're hardly communicating. Last night we talked for almost 3 hours, over facebook, about our issues and how we can't seem to make it work. As the conversation wen...
A. 1 March 2015: Just ignore him when he talks about other women. It's him who is insecure. He is always worried that you would break up with him and feel like a loser so he is constantly consoling himself that there would be another woman lined up for him. He ... (read in full...)
Is this man capable of being faithful? Should I trust him?
Q. I've been with a lovely man for 2 years who has been wonderful to me, including inviting my criminal son to stay with him when he was released from prison. Even when my son stole from him he didn't reject me ( but did quite rightly kick my son out)...
A. 1 March 2015: Being unfaithful is a choice although it is up to debate. When he told you he was unfaithful before anyone would take it as alarm bells unless he explained how he had changed and why he does not feel a need to cheat anymore. Also what he would do ... (read in full...)
My wife misled me with her sexual past
Q. We got married 16 years ago and i had to ask her parents for permission to marry her since we were both brought up the old fashioned way, so at that time we got to know each other for about a year before we got married. before I met her I had two ...
A. 28 February 2015: You are stronger than your images. They will fade in time. You can create good memories in the present instead. ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to name our first child after his father, and for him it is not negotiable!
Q. I am pregnant and I found out that my husband and I will be having a boy. I am not excited because my husband wants to name our son after his father's name. It is a Lebanese tradition that the eldest son of the family must name his future son's name ...
A. 28 February 2015: Your son will be the one choosing what to do with his name. If he likes it then great. It is not uncommon for people to either legally change their names when they grow up or tell people they go by another name. I am sure Lebanese people have pride ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a lying husband?
Q. i'd honestly never thought to see myself on one of these websites.. i'm 5 months pregnant and been married for a little over a month now. ive been with him for only 6 months. which i know sounds horrible, but my parents are old fashion and the...
A. 27 February 2015: Your husband has a sexual addiction. When you confront his computer use it does nothing but push him to do more because it's forbidden fruit. You could turn a blind eye on it but that doesn't help with your needs to be loved. You would say getting ... (read in full...)
I feel like my fiance is giving up on me. Will I ever be loved?
Q. I feel like my fiancé is giving up on our relationship. I'm the only one that works and drives. Its a struggle because I work eight hours everyday and when I come home, I'm hoping the house is clean at least and that our daughter is fed and taking ...
A. 27 February 2015: You have to love yourself first. When you rely on outside sources for love you can't make good choices in your relationship. It is easy to say he is freeloading and not doing much. It is also good to look for alternative childcare options. I know ... (read in full...)
My wife misled me with her sexual past
Q. We got married 16 years ago and i had to ask her parents for permission to marry her since we were both brought up the old fashioned way, so at that time we got to know each other for about a year before we got married. before I met her I had two ...
A. 27 February 2015: I assume you are both white. I am not going to pretend I don't know of negative stereotypes against black people and that race is just a skin color. I think her telling you this is more than letting guilt of her chest. Why, one day out of the blue ... (read in full...)
Week of partying while telling me he's done with it all.
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles ... Would anyone be ok with their 47 year old boyfriend of 3 Years going out 6 nights in one week. One night was with me, another was at a local pool hall , other nights were clubs. 2 of those nights were 6AM nights ! I ange...
A. 25 February 2015: He's an alcoholic and would use anything as a reason to drink. I would not last 3 years with him. Don't have any children with him. They might get his alcoholic gene and unlike his old age and would pass away sooner, you would be stuck with children ... (read in full...)
I am worried my friend wants to be with me, because I don't want a relationship! Help?
Q. There is a guy that I like but not enough to try to go anywhere other than hanging out at his house every once in a while. I think he thinks I want a relationship but I want to get the point across that I don't want to be a date. I like his company ...
A. 25 February 2015: Maybe you have to be like a Christian Grey (in fifty shades of grey). Say dinner and movies are not my thing. Until then you don't have to say anything. I think you are what many men are looking for. You haven't had sex yet, just cuddling. Maybe he ... (read in full...)
We were dating exclusively... then I found out he slept with someone else?????
Q. I've been dating a guy for a few months now. We said both agreed that we are seeing each other exclusively (as i don't like rushing into relationships but also liked him enough to only be interested in him) But I've just found out he slept with ...
A. 25 February 2015: You were not putting off a serious relationship by waiting to have sex. Obviously he has a different idea. He feels a relationship is not serious until you have sex. Did you find out he had sex or did he admit it? I think taking it slow means you ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my girlfriend of 6 years?
Q. Hi, I just wanted to get some advice on my relationship as probably I could do with it. I'm 33 and my girlfriend is five years younger than me. We have been going out for 6-7 years. I’m not sure if I should stay with her. When she has no problem ...
A. 24 February 2015: You don't have to wait for her admission of cheating to leave. Your girlfriend is horrible and have no respect for life. She must be so beautiful that you tolerated this for 6 years. "When things are good..." is the most common excuse to stay in a ... (read in full...)
How could I go about asking her out but at the same time help her feel comfortable?
Q. A girl who I like and want to ask out has just revealed to me today that she has Social Anxiety really badly. As much as I want to ask her out, I don't want to make anything uncomfortable for her. Over text she can talk for hours but to my face ...
A. 24 February 2015: You can ask her where she feels comfortable meeting you. In the public she feels on the spot. In private she worries your intention is to get physical. You can give it more time and try to understand what it means to have social anxiety as it can be ... (read in full...)
How do you know when it's the right time to move in with your partner?
Q. Recently my boyfriend has mentioned me moving in with him, he wants me to and when he mentioned it I didn't think 'no it's too soon' or 'wow you're moving too fast' however I've mentioned it to a couple of friends and these were there responses. "...
A. 24 February 2015: Here's when long term plans come into place. What are your goals in the next 5, 10 years? Do you see yourself getting married and have kids? Is living together a preparation for this or are you just living day to day? I don't think 2 years is too ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 23 February 2015: To female anon,
You are trying to disagree that women are attracted to alpha males and only marry average ones by using your example.
There are cerebral alpha males, there are physical alpha males and then a lot of alpha male wannabes. The majority... (read in full...)
I'm in a bit of a predicament ......
Q. Ok so I'm in a little bit of a predicament. I really like this guy that works down the street from me at this food place and we do text each other and tease one another playfully when we see each other around town. Hes ridiculously shy and has told ...
A. 22 February 2015: Even if you have nothing to tell him that's fine. The suspense is what draws him to you. He would get it if that's your intention. He would just assume that the thing you wanted to ask him was to ask him out. He already asked you to dinner. He read ... (read in full...)
Husband has apologised and wants me back, but I haven't changed since I left him.
Q. I left my husband because he had a problem with my body and would make comments. Mainly about loose skin ( dr says its as good as it will ever be again short of surgery which I'm not doing ) from babies and my breasts sagging , the general aging ...
A. 22 February 2015: Your husband is not going to marry a porn star so he realizes how stupid it was to comment on something you won't change. I think it's his man language to express he has been having erection problems and instead of admitting this to you he blamed it ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 22 February 2015: It sounds like casual sex, promiscuity, past boyfriends are lumped in the same pile again.
If men think women should not lie about who they were with and who they find attractive or unattractive, men should also not lie about how much they hate... (read in full...)
He gets mad over the small things?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. I love him dearly but I'm starting to get fed up.. I go home a lot near tears or just in disarray because of his yelling and stuff. An example of this is when he had locked himself in his ...
A. 21 February 2015: Your boyfriend feels his personal space is violated and didn't know how to communicate that. Yelling and locking his door was effective at that time although that hurt your feelings. You might be missing the connection you had when you first got ... (read in full...)
Orgasm clarification please!
Q. I'm not sure if I've ever had an orgasm. Everything I read and everyone I talk to always says "you'll just know if you have one." I'm sick of hearing that because it doesn't help me at all. I'd like to know for sure if I'm having one. I'm genuinely ...
A. 21 February 2015: For men, orgasms are straightforward and the same every time. They can achieve orgasm too by way of prostate massage. For women, there are different degrees of orgasm you can rate from 1-10. I honestly don't care about it. Orgasms can be pleasurable ... (read in full...)
Help me, I think he's cheating? Am I being irrational?
Q. Hi, I'm 21 dating a 32 year old man. I've had some reservations, fears and worries about this relationship but I really love him. We haven't been having sex for over a month because he has been having trouble getting it up. Recently, I had ...
A. 21 February 2015: Maybe he had been trying the viagra and it didn't work. So you are at his flat and you haven't confronted about this yet? You should hear about what he says before reacting.
Cheating is bad whatever the reason. If he did cheat it's because he is i... (read in full...)
How can I get over my current beliefs and accept my partner's past?
Q. Hey guys, I am in a relationship with someone of "20...30... i lost count" sexual partners and past bursts of casual sex with a casual view on sex, in comparison to my 4 partners, including her and conservative values. I love this person and thin...
A. 21 February 2015: You are very hard on yourself. You have a problem with having had casual sex. You have a problem with not being able to accept a partner's past. You even thought her son would beat you up for loving the mother. You no doubt have a keen interest in ... (read in full...)
How do I let him know of my needs? I do worry about him flirting with other girls. And it does upset me that he doesn't compliment me as often as I would like.
Q. How do I learn to trust my boyfriend? He does go out with his friends. But I'm just worried he is out flirting with women. Its frustrating that at his age he still loves going to clubs and he drinks a lot. I love him but wish he grows more m...
A. 21 February 2015: I wonder how, with 3 kids, in military, he still manages to go out, drink and flirt. Does he only get minimal child visitation? Or is he with you because you can be a babysitter? He goes out not because he is looking to replace you any one soon. As ... (read in full...)
33 years of amazing mariage but the spark has gone. How can I deal with my wish to leave my wife?
Q. I'm thinking of leaving my wife after 33yrs of an amazing marriage. It all began three years ago. I was let down badly by people I trusted (including my wife)I needed to feel valued again. I met someone and we began a relationship. I ...
A. 21 February 2015: You have to decide if you can forgive your wife for whatever she did to lose your trust. You met someone and there's this freshness and appreciation that you had forgotten what it felt like from your wife. The affair couldn't go anywhere deep unless ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 20 February 2015: Okay that makes sense. Women should totally deny their casual sexual wants so the average male do not feel contempt for us. It's immoral to make an average male angry so we should live our lives according to how they feel.
Up until recently, wome... (read in full...)
I looked for advice while we were on a break and she seems to resent it
Q. Hi, I was seeing a girl around the end of last year and things were going really well. We would spend a lot of time together and everything gelled really well. She had even said she loved me. Then suddenly within a 24 hour period she cooled off big ...
A. 20 February 2015: She is very high maintenance and has little consideration for your feelings. She responded to your upset, confusion to giving you more upset and confusion. She cares a lot about her image, too much that she has trouble listening to what you have to ... (read in full...)
How small is small for a man's penis if the man is 5 foot and 11 inches and 195 pounds?
Q. Hello everyone sorry to be the umpteenth guy asking this question but how small is small when it comes to penis size? Im 23 and have had sex with over 20 girls but its always been in the back of my head that I'm unproprtional and small. My size is ...
A. 20 February 2015: My husband is exactly like that, everything you described except age. He's the hottest guy I've ever met. 15 years ago I met a man who's 6'3" and his penis was barely 4 inches. I still found him hot.
I've been told I am attractive many times. Mayb... (read in full...)
He says he'll end it if I abort the pregnancy
Q. pls guys i need ur help, i am 23 nd my boyfrnd is 27 we have been dating for about 3yrs now, we love each other so much, he has promised to marry me nd we dont have any problem. He is into a very good biznes, nd i am currently working. We both ...
A. 19 February 2015: I am pro choice. I still think you should have this baby. Not because of religious reasons or even him. Very few people are actually ready to be parents. You are at your prime age. You don't know if you would get another chance to be pregnant again. ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 19 February 2015: I think what's immoral is not the fact that a woman decides to have casual sex, but rather, she settles for a husband and pretends she is attracted to him when he's not. Some women can pull through it and enjoy the sex but many can't. Primal ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 19 February 2015: I don't know either. So if a young girl is super attracted to a hot guy and has sex with him, then the next day she got hit by a truck and died. Is what she did immoral? Kind of like the man talking in the forest and no one listened metaphor. Is she ... (read in full...)
After these two incidents years apart, I'm not sure that my B/f's happy and committed. What do you guys think I should do?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years was sending flirty text messages with another woman, about how he was going to be in her area soon and how he wanted to see her in a bikini etc. She stopped responding after a few back and forths and so it fizzled out. ...
A. 18 February 2015: He may be happy with you as a life partner but he is not happy that he has not tasted other women and feels the fear of being stuck with one woman for the rest of his life. In my opinion, some men could only commit after they lived their boys's life ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 18 February 2015: The "ugly guy, hot wife" is probably why married men (good guys) are having jealousy that their wives have had sex with hotter guys. Women can be choosy about looks when going to pubs but settle for a husband. It's usually husbands that let ... (read in full...)
My friend and I are keen to have some fun with my fiancee!
Q. Hi there, i am in a long term, committed relationship and i love my fiance with all of my being. I have told him openly and honestly, regarding the fact that i would love for us to have a threesome, after we're married, not because he do...
A. 18 February 2015: My experience is that it didn't change my dynamics. For me, it wasn't because it was a turn on but because at that time my sex drive was zero and I didn't want my ex husband to be deprived. It was more like try it, see what that hype was and see if ... (read in full...)
We are separated but trying to work it out, I'm worried that he's not attracted to me or prefers to watch younger women in porn! Help?
Q. My husband and I have been seperated a year and living in different houses. We mainly seperated because we had drifted apart and I felt the love wasn't there or at least that he never expressed it. He has always had a major problem with e pressing ...
A. 18 February 2015: Perhaps he could only give all of himself to you physically when he feels the security within a marriage? What you are doing here is trial and error. He may feel that if there's a chance of a divorce, then he doesn't want to let go and enjoy ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my current beliefs and accept my partner's past?
Q. Hey guys, I am in a relationship with someone of "20...30... i lost count" sexual partners and past bursts of casual sex with a casual view on sex, in comparison to my 4 partners, including her and conservative values. I love this person and thin...
A. 18 February 2015: As you like philosophy I am sure you like spiritual stuff too. How about you practice just observing your thoughts and let it disappear like clouds passing by. The more you make it an issue, the bigger you grow. There is nothing to overcome. Like ... (read in full...)
If he upsets me he leaves me alone
Q. Is it odd the way my boyfriend reacts to upsetting me? Whenever he does something that upsets me, whether it be something big or small, he's usually perfectly fine. He says sorry for what he does, but he gets into a sort of mood where he's like, ...
A. 17 February 2015: He's taking you for granted. You had done enough for this relationship. it's time to sit back and watch whether he will make effort to connect. He doesn't want it to end but he doesn't want to do the things to keep you either. You don't have to ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my current beliefs and accept my partner's past?
Q. Hey guys, I am in a relationship with someone of "20...30... i lost count" sexual partners and past bursts of casual sex with a casual view on sex, in comparison to my 4 partners, including her and conservative values. I love this person and thin...
A. 16 February 2015: Value systems don't change overnight but when there is a will, there is a way. As survival tactic, we form profiles about people and put them into boxes. Maybe women with a past means she can't see you as special, she needs outside attention and ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 16 February 2015: I have a feeling OP is asking this because his wife said she regretted it but he didn't believe it. If that's true your wife wants to appear apologetic so you would let the issue go away. So the majority of women don't regret it. There are indeed ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 16 February 2015: All interesting answers. Perhaps touched people's wrong buttons.
I guess I would say I wish my husband met me sooner but I won't regret dating losers. Not dating losers doesn't mean I would meet my husband the first time. I can't make a good man ... (read in full...)
If he upsets me he leaves me alone
Q. Is it odd the way my boyfriend reacts to upsetting me? Whenever he does something that upsets me, whether it be something big or small, he's usually perfectly fine. He says sorry for what he does, but he gets into a sort of mood where he's like, ...
A. 16 February 2015: I sometimes feel the stress that I have to be this giggly barbie doll to keep things normal. No, a boyfriend should want to cheer you up and listen to you, be with you through ups and downs.
I am questioning if he's intentionally upsetting you,... (read in full...)
Young male, older female, advice for breaking news of relationship to her kids
Q. Hey! I'll get right to it... I'm in a relationship with a woman in her 50s and im in my 20s (male). I started it since i fell in love with who she is after knowing her for a few years and the love is mutual. I just need advice on how to tell...
A. 16 February 2015: If it's indeed true that her son would physically assault you then as a mother she has duty to protect you, disown him if she has to. I know you want your relationship to be public. If her son gets violent that a younger man is with his mother then ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 16 February 2015: The only people who regret their past are ones who still bought into old values. Women born before 70's are like this but not today. I think as men get open minded so do women. No one goes to a night club, things get heated and think, "maybe I ... (read in full...)
If he upsets me he leaves me alone
Q. Is it odd the way my boyfriend reacts to upsetting me? Whenever he does something that upsets me, whether it be something big or small, he's usually perfectly fine. He says sorry for what he does, but he gets into a sort of mood where he's like, ...
A. 16 February 2015: It's common that men don't want to deal with women crying but to ask to make things better is not asking too much. I would suggest going for ice cream or watching comedies. You said he regularly does it but not now? Does that mean something changed ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 15 February 2015: Cindycares, it's different because in general, men have a harder time getting laid. The ones who brag about sowing wild oats are probably like, 10% in society while the rest gets bitter about why it's not so easy for them. While women of average ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 15 February 2015: I've had my share of losers in the past but they did not affect my marriage. So sexual past has never been my issue. My husband does not ask about it. None of my past boyfriends made it an issue either. I don't think about ex lovers, don't make ... (read in full...)
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