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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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To date or break up because of his unworthy friends?
Q. Hi friends, I am here to know the opinion about how I am feeling is co-related in any manner with any one of you or am I the only person feeling this way. So I'm dating a guy who is 8 years elder to me and it's only beem 6 months to this relation...
A. 28 March 2015: I would not have dated a person who works during the day then "work" at night too. There would be no relationship. I don't think you would be top priority after one year or 5 years. I put a lot of importance in the courting stage. If does not care ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a 'fat' fetish. Why?
Q. I think my boyfriend has a 'fat' fetish. I am a very pretty girl, I am not overweight, and have never had a problem getting guys. I'm a petite brunette. I've always had a good sex life with my boyfriend's, always felt wanted and like they are 1000% ...
A. 26 March 2015: There are different theories like Freudian, infancy, of how people develop fetishes but it doesn't matter. In your post it sounds like his fetish is a life long one, not just some fleeting fancy. I believe he committed to you because he knows that a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I'm lying and hiding things from her about the past and I'm not!
Q. Hi there everyone. Thanks for checking out my post. I really appreciate it. So rightt. To the question. So me and my girlfriend are kind of being silent from each other. All of this is just too confusing so bear with me. She was an ex of...
A. 25 March 2015: It would be hard to believe for 4 years you didn't date anyone, but she's being unreasonable. It's possible that she didn't mean it literally and she's feeling guilty because while she's trying to get over you, you loved her all that time. So she's ... (read in full...)
My partner had an affair. Should I share the details with other husband?
Q. My long term partner (Me: 29F and Him: 32M) had an affair with a recently married woman, lasting about a month that I am aware of. They were family friends, I bartended her brother's wedding, etc. She and I were "friends". Long story short: I had a ...
A. 25 March 2015: I suppose in the recording there were either sexual noises or plans to do it. I would not share because the husband chooses not to know. There are people who are in the category of "if you cheated don't ever let me know." He has to deal with the ... (read in full...)
My old fantasies don't turn me on anymore
Q. Help, I can't fantasise anymore. My husband makes me climax evertime during sex using his tongue, hands and also through penetration alone. It's mindblowing and I couldn't ask for more. However, I used to be able to imagine all sort...
A. 25 March 2015: It happens to people when the effort to have an orgasm is not worth it. Naturally people just stop it and wait until they miss sex one day. A ritual is what one does every day without fail. Sex is one of those things where people have to dial up the ... (read in full...)
He thinks that someone who is bisexual can't be faithful. Do I tell him I'm bisexual?
Q. Hi all, So, I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years. He's wonderful, and I wouldn't change a thing about our relationship but there's one thing he doesn't know about me: I'm bisexual. I've known since I was fourteen, but it just has...
A. 25 March 2015: Maybe a "practicing" bisexual can't be faithful. A lot of people are bisexual but choose to have a heterosexual life. Sociology experts say there are spectrums of sexuality. On one end is 100% straight and the other 100% gay. The majority fall in ... (read in full...)
Is there anything we can buy from the health food store that will help maintain an errection?
Q. What can you take from the health food store that can help a man part stay hard . Can you gave me some names to try that will fix the problem . Hope so. ...
A. 24 March 2015: Clove oil (diluted), horny goat weed, arginine, ginseng, ginger. If you go into an Asian store they have something specific for that too... (read in full...)
About Pornography: are my thoughts about women who like pornography accurate? Or simplistic generalizations? Or incorrect assumption?
Q. This is just a general question about something I've wondered about. Its safe to say that men who like porn come from all walks of life. But what kind of woman likes it or at least accepts it within a relationship? Often I'll read commen...
A. 24 March 2015: I used to watch porn when I was single. Now that I am married a second time I have no need for it. The kinds of porn I watched were mainstream excluding gangbang and anal. The description above does not fit me. I am actually a very boring person. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm always in the wrong with my boyfriend!
Q. Dear Cupid Hi all where do i begin . Well ive been with my boyfriend 10years and I do love very much . Im preganant due date very soon all is very exciting . My boyfriend is a very loverble man but im starting to question his love for me alot...
A. 24 March 2015: You are hoping that you would become one happy family and are waiting for him to get a job while he feels like his life is ruined because a baby means no freedom for him. As due date is approaching it means he has to think about how to pay for ... (read in full...)
I'm too nervous to speak to the older man that I have a crush on
Q. Hi, I have a massive crush on an older man. When I say older he's in his 40s and am in my 20s. I can't avoid him as he works local and I'm a stay at home mum so guaranteed to bump into him daily. When I see him I do get all nervous and awakered...
A. 24 March 2015: If you are married then do nothing. If you are divorced or a single mum and he's single too, then you decide if you want to see what he's about. A lot of crushes are toned down once you see him as like any other guy, nothing special. When you get to ... (read in full...)
What percentage of women think about another man or an ex partner while having sex with their husband
Q. What percentage of women think about another man or an ex partner why having sex with there husband...
A. 24 March 2015: It's impossible to gather information from the whole world on any given day and I would not trust any studies or statistics I find online. I always think about my husband and nobody else even though my husband wants to spice things up. He asks me to ... (read in full...)
The girl I have been chatting with slept with someone else
Q. I have been chatting with a girl for over a year. Lately she has been getting very sexual in her comments, even saying we should meet for sex. I am not necessarily the type to want to meet a woman for sex (only) so I laugh her comments off. ...
A. 23 March 2015: I guess she divides men into two types, just like certain types of men who sleep with "sluts", toss them like trash and then get married to a woman arranged by their parents. There is a strong divide between casual and husband/wife material. Then ... (read in full...)
Which is more important - love or compatibility?
Q. This is so difficult. How important is compatibility in a relationship? We met online (not dating site). Neither of us were looking for a relationship at the time. We chatted, we clicked. He came to visit me. Being with him in person was the exact ...
A. 21 March 2015: In your case compatibility. You've been with him over a year and you have yet to ask him what his goals are? I see you are a fork road and you are deciding whether to move in together or part ways. At your age I think it's a safer bet to end it and ... (read in full...)
Could she be interested in me or is she just keeping her options open?
Q. Hi there, I got some confusion going on with a girl I met last night. I started to talk with her and we danced together for over an hour and she also asked me if I wanted a drink and I declined then we talked some more for a while and then she ask...
A. 21 March 2015: I think she was initially interested in you but she was used to guys more aggressive. To be honest you didn't show keen interest either. You only showed interest (jealousy) when she looked for another guy. I don't know what you are looking for here. ... (read in full...)
My partner puts his ex and a child that isn't his before our family and I'm feeling resentful about it!
Q. I'd like some advice on how to stop feeling so negative towards a child. I know im a horrible person for feeling this way, honestly you have no idea how low I'm feeling so I'm not looking for insults or negative comments regarding this, I'm coming ...
A. 21 March 2015: No, don't hate the girl. She's all innocent. I believe he and his ex are still playing games. He doesn't like that her new boyfriend is playing new dad so he is reasserting his territory by going over there. It is less about putting kids first but ... (read in full...)
A girl I like had sex with someone else while we were talking.
Q. Hey, a little back story first: I recently began going to college. During the first few weeks I met this girl that I instantly clicked with. We began hanging out and making out and what not but never anything more because I am a virgin and want ...
A. 21 March 2015: I also agree you should let her go because you two have different mindsets. Nowadays many girls look at boys who wait for sex as non-sexual entities and therefore friendzone them. Unless she is the conservative type, guys like you don't catch her ... (read in full...)
After 4 years together, why does he need time away from me?
Q. Hi DC community, My bf and I are going through some problems in the relationship and have decided to work through them. The main issue is that he is working on himself so he can be better for me, but in the mean time he doesn't want to sleep in...
A. 19 March 2015: Sorry, I can't deal with this bullshit of loving you but not wanting to get intimate with you. If I have to guess, he is going to tell his friends he's trapped in a relationship but can't make you move out because you have nowhere else to go. You ... (read in full...)
Why are men's sexual needs considered more important than a woman's emotional needs?
Q. Another woman here who had found out her husband who claimed to Not use porn had been jerking off to women online. I've read and read and whilst the experts seem to point out the dangers , the general advice from people online is that it's just a n...
A. 19 March 2015: This might be a drastic thing to say, but many men don't look at women's needs as real concerns. Women who complain at home when they have female friends are whiny ninnines. Only priviledged women, well fed women care about them while the rest of ... (read in full...)
Why are men's sexual needs considered more important than a woman's emotional needs?
Q. Another woman here who had found out her husband who claimed to Not use porn had been jerking off to women online. I've read and read and whilst the experts seem to point out the dangers , the general advice from people online is that it's just a n...
A. 18 March 2015: Men's sexual needs are not more important than women's emotional needs. It's that emotional needs are hard to define, not as straight forward as just allowing sex to happen. Every woman is different. Some women think it's listening about her day, ... (read in full...)
Because of her I doubt he wants me
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months, he really is great, he works hard and is genuinely a good person. I struggle with jealously issues though, he works with a girl he used to like but she was a bit of a player and went with loads of guys so he ...
A. 18 March 2015: He needs to be explained why you are jealous. Some men really think that as long as they are officially calling you girlfriend then they can do anything outside as long as it doesn't involve physical cheating. In some conservative cultures there ... (read in full...)
How can we make things fun again?
Q. Hi Everyone, My BF and I have been together for 3 years, and the last year has been an LDR (I live on the West Coast, he lives on the East Coast; this happened for work reasons, but we're both hoping he can move here within the next year). ...
A. 17 March 2015: It's not about what you do, it's your attitude. If boring is in you, then you would bring boring into your job, household chores, everything. Just seeing him should be fun. Remember what you love about him. He is a unique person. Ask him what he ... (read in full...)
How do I get past this? I keep thinking about the other guys she saw.
Q. Help me please.... what should i do.. . im a guy that has spent 4 and half years with a girl . we were engaged, but had problems with drinking and fighting,issues from past and her 22 year old kid that has caused so much trouble in the family thtat ...
A. 16 March 2015: The heart does not care about the technicalities of what constitutes cheating. She did have the freedom to do what she wanted. What you have to worry about is the intention of taking you back. Is it because you accept her and her daughter because no ... (read in full...)
I'd like to live alone but I'm afraid as well ...
Q. Is living alone at age 21 a bad decision? Basically I'm living in an apartment with my roommate but during the last semester of our senior year at college, she will most likely (if she is accepted) be studying in another state, meaning I will h...
A. 15 March 2015: I feel like you do, but only on certain hormonal days of the month or when I am about to get a flu virus. You have a roommate right now and you are still feeling like this, and your new roommate isn't necessarily going to play the therapist role. ... (read in full...)
How to give and get independence in a relationship?
Q. Hi all, Recently dodged a breakup through communication and found that we both lost ourselves in the relationship. He would like some independence back and I would like to not be so dependent on him emotionally. My question is after 3 years...
A. 15 March 2015: I wished there were advice sites like this in my 20's. I think I went through life like a blur and just got on with it. I am not really a person to ask for help either.
What I realized was that when people ask for space it's not because they don'... (read in full...)
Odd Description of Past Boyfriends
Q. My wife and I had been talking about our past including some of the boyfriends/girlfriends which we had sex with and we are cool about it i.e. no jealousy. In our discussion fell upon at least 3 of her boyfriends/flings cheating on her. Her reaction ...
A. 15 March 2015: Being cheated on was not a mistake, and you only realize you made a wrong choice in a partner after they cheated. There was nothing to be ashamed of, not being able to predict who's going to cheat. She had thought they were nice and sweet but got ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my sexual insecurities about the other guy she had sex with? we are back together after a break and I do love her
Q. Hello ! I really need help with this question, because I'm really starting to feel as if I'm falling apart and can't calm myself. I have been with my fiancee for about 5 years, 9 months ago we broke up when I went to work in another town and we d...
A. 15 March 2015: If I had to guess, the pain of not being hung enough and break a hymen is greater than the pain of break up due to moving away because while girlfriends come and go your penis stays with you forever. You deal with this self imposed problem with any ... (read in full...)
He accuses me of cheating, yet I wonder if he's cheating. What can I do about this relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating almost a year. We finally met each others parents. We don't hangout that much cause he works al the time the only day we WOULD have to ourselves is Sunday. But when he has free time he rather spend it with hi...
A. 15 March 2015: I hear about the theory that people who accuse are the ones who are doing it. But some guys accuse just to see your reaction because they desperately want to know and they stupidly think the only way to know is to accuse. It's wrong but the message ... (read in full...)
My wife is my sole sexual partner to date. would having sex with friends be a good or bad idea?
Q. I'm writing for the first time on DearCupid and my name pretty much speaks for itself. Now I'm not the curious as in the same sex, but the curious type that wonders what it is like to be with another woman. Since I was 17 I have been with only t...
A. 15 March 2015: There will be several outcomes due to what you decide.
You say no to the idea, you are glad you didn't try.
You say no to the idea, then for years and years it bugs why you didn't have the guts to try. Especially when wife has kids and all you do i... (read in full...)
It was pre-arranged. So why would my FWB come to my house to tell me "no" to having sex that evening?
Q. Thanks for taking the time to read this question. Basically, my fwb came around the other day and after we had gotten into bed and started kissing and what not she told me we wouldn't be having sex that evening. Obviously I was kinda like wha...
A. 15 March 2015: She was still thinking about her ex bf and she was worried that by being intimate thoughts of him would come back. That's what happened to me. She wants to move on from him by getting with someone new but just lying in bed was all she could handle ... (read in full...)
Do other people have rows and can't seem to stop thinking about things said in anger?
Q. A massive row between my boyfriend and I began when I left a pub we were in when he kept flirting with other girls. It may sound stupid but he kept putting his arms around them and kissing their cheeks, complimenting them on their outfits.... I knew...
A. 15 March 2015: It does not sound stupid. To do it in front of you is plain disrespectful. If you knew he would go that far when you first met him you wouldn't have continued dating him. I know he's going to say something like at the end of the night he comes home ... (read in full...)
Is a baby ultimatum a bad idea?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. I am 30 and he is 41. I love him and want us to be together for the rest of our lives. I have mentioned marriage before to which he has said he doesn't believe in. Sure I'm disappointed, but he assures me ...
A. 15 March 2015: I do think if a man says he doesn't believe in marriage it means he loves you less than a man who does but that's just me. He may mean his feelings towards you now is not less than when you first met. What he's saying is that love does not last ... (read in full...)
Why do girls always look at me weirdly?
Q. I'll start by saying whenever I'm at school all I do is sit by myself and listen to music the whole school day. People constantly tell me I look depressed including my sister who is two years younger than me. I am pretty depressed if you ask me, and ...
A. 15 March 2015: Because everybody should be happy, energized and aspire to go to their favorite college while you are the cynical person with deep philosophical thoughts, pondering on the point of existence? You are different so you have low confidence. The world ... (read in full...)
What can I do to encourage him to be interested in what I am saying?
Q. My boyfriend can talk a lot to me about the guys at work, his interests, and things he wants to do. I listen and ask him questions when he does I truly want to know about his life. But when I want to talk about people I go to school with, my ...
A. 14 March 2015: I don't know about his mom here. Maybe he inherited his mom's need to talk but inherited his dad's poor listening skills. Sibling order somehow has an effect on how you treat others. The oldest one is usually the talkative one. The youngest one gets ... (read in full...)
He says I have a lack of emotion??
Q. I started talking to this guy on a dating site in September we've been talking everyday since on what's app . we had our first date in November . he's been in my life for 6 months but I've been his gf for 3. I thought everything was going fine u...
A. 14 March 2015: He feels that if you really have feelings for him you would not be following men on instagram. He was wrong to upload his pictures on his dating site as a reaction. He should have talked to you first to see where you stand instead of just assuming ... (read in full...)
I asked my wife to stop contacting her old boyfriend but she didn't
Q. A few years ago my wife got in touch with an old boyfriend through the wonders of Facebook. Actually, he sought her out. There some some contact through Facebook which led to e-mail which led to phone calls (always from him but my wife gave him...
A. 14 March 2015: He is married so even he knows she is married, he has loose boundaries and may not care about either of them cheating. At this point it's all about who's willing. Until you have concrete proof of them physically cheating (penis in vagina), they will ... (read in full...)
My new gf's daughter flirts with me
Q. I recently started dating a really great 49 year old woman who has been divorced a long time. Things have been going so well that I spend a lot of nights at her house. She has a 19 year old (almost 20) daughter who goes to college and lives at ...
A. 14 March 2015: If they are both so open with each other then telling her about this would not be so shocking. She understands her daughter better. It's possible that comment meant "you are hot, lucky you," or she would want sex if you were not taken. At first you ... (read in full...)
My bf is acting weirder around me...idk why
Q. Im starting to feel like my boyfriend doesn't like me anymore. We've been together for almost ten months now, and like we just don't really hang out that much. My friends are always on my case, saying that Im never the one to go over to him..but he ...
A. 14 March 2015: You didn't do anything wrong and it might not have anything to do with ex crushes. I can see that your feelings for him haven't changed. Ask to see him more often and if he can't, then ask him if he's still happy in the relationship and then you can ... (read in full...)
I may as well be a single parent!
Q. Hi hope someone can help me as I feel so down I've been with my boyfriend for 19 month we have a 4 month old daughter I know it happened quick we have a good relationship we never argue always laughing but I feel like a single parent he has not done ...
A. 14 March 2015: He comes and goes as he wishes because you never complain. You have a good friendship but the romance is lacking right from the beginning. If he doesn't love you then sex is meaningless. You only see what he's doing when you don't get enough help ... (read in full...)
I love him, but is that enough?
Q. Hello, My partner of 5 years found God 6 months ago and is now a born again Christian. I did post on here a while ago. It was the only thing that stopped him drinking and I'm happy about that. We have not been living together due to his previ...
A. 14 March 2015: My first thought when I hear about "born again Christians" was yuck. I don't know when I would be able to accept the belief that God sent his own son as a sacrificial lamb because he loves us. At the same time, the irrational is the mystery and ... (read in full...)
Should I stop having a FWB relationship? Or go with the flow?
Q. I've only been in two serious relationships... One ended because my ex forced me to give him head a few times and told me he was using me for sex. The other guy was recent, he was my everything, but I go to college out of state and it ruined us. He ...
A. 13 March 2015: I have not encountered any FWB guys who hold such contempt with women. I would view these guys as trash also. Who wants to have sex with anyone who hates us so much, Eww? I don't doubt that there are men who have hatred against women because they ... (read in full...)
Why is he waiting to get physical?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for over 2 months. During the past 2 months we have text eachother quite a lot every single day and we see eachother at least twice a week for nights/days out and in. The relationship is going very well, we respect eacho...
A. 13 March 2015: Adding to Sage's list would be he's a virgin and feels uncomfortable with the sex subject. He has ED. He is living with parents or roommates. He has deep scars below his belt that he's too embarrassed or self conscious to share. He has a phobia with ... (read in full...)
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