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Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 23 February 2015: To female anon,
You are trying to disagree that women are attracted to alpha males and only marry average ones by using your example.
There are cerebral alpha males, there are physical alpha males and then a lot of alpha male wannabes. The majority... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 22 February 2015: It sounds like casual sex, promiscuity, past boyfriends are lumped in the same pile again.
If men think women should not lie about who they were with and who they find attractive or unattractive, men should also not lie about how much they hate... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 20 February 2015: Okay that makes sense. Women should totally deny their casual sexual wants so the average male do not feel contempt for us. It's immoral to make an average male angry so we should live our lives according to how they feel.
Up until recently, wome... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 19 February 2015: I think what's immoral is not the fact that a woman decides to have casual sex, but rather, she settles for a husband and pretends she is attracted to him when he's not. Some women can pull through it and enjoy the sex but many can't. Primal ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 19 February 2015: I don't know either. So if a young girl is super attracted to a hot guy and has sex with him, then the next day she got hit by a truck and died. Is what she did immoral? Kind of like the man talking in the forest and no one listened metaphor. Is she ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 18 February 2015: The "ugly guy, hot wife" is probably why married men (good guys) are having jealousy that their wives have had sex with hotter guys. Women can be choosy about looks when going to pubs but settle for a husband. It's usually husbands that let ... (read in full...)
If he upsets me he leaves me alone
Q. Is it odd the way my boyfriend reacts to upsetting me? Whenever he does something that upsets me, whether it be something big or small, he's usually perfectly fine. He says sorry for what he does, but he gets into a sort of mood where he's like, ...
A. 17 February 2015: He's taking you for granted. You had done enough for this relationship. it's time to sit back and watch whether he will make effort to connect. He doesn't want it to end but he doesn't want to do the things to keep you either. You don't have to ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 16 February 2015: I have a feeling OP is asking this because his wife said she regretted it but he didn't believe it. If that's true your wife wants to appear apologetic so you would let the issue go away. So the majority of women don't regret it. There are indeed ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 16 February 2015: All interesting answers. Perhaps touched people's wrong buttons.
I guess I would say I wish my husband met me sooner but I won't regret dating losers. Not dating losers doesn't mean I would meet my husband the first time. I can't make a good man ... (read in full...)
If he upsets me he leaves me alone
Q. Is it odd the way my boyfriend reacts to upsetting me? Whenever he does something that upsets me, whether it be something big or small, he's usually perfectly fine. He says sorry for what he does, but he gets into a sort of mood where he's like, ...
A. 16 February 2015: I sometimes feel the stress that I have to be this giggly barbie doll to keep things normal. No, a boyfriend should want to cheer you up and listen to you, be with you through ups and downs.
I am questioning if he's intentionally upsetting you,... (read in full...)
Young male, older female, advice for breaking news of relationship to her kids
Q. Hey! I'll get right to it... I'm in a relationship with a woman in her 50s and im in my 20s (male). I started it since i fell in love with who she is after knowing her for a few years and the love is mutual. I just need advice on how to tell...
A. 16 February 2015: If it's indeed true that her son would physically assault you then as a mother she has duty to protect you, disown him if she has to. I know you want your relationship to be public. If her son gets violent that a younger man is with his mother then ... (read in full...)
How become less needy and less emotional/sensitive??
Q. Hi everyone! F, 23. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now and I'm starting to lose him. I have become needy and too sensitive/emotional. I've always been sensitive and emotional but it has really gone over the edge lately. I ...
A. 16 February 2015: You are doing many things at the same time. Going to school, working and looking for a place to live while he's more relaxed about it. Right now it's a rewardless life for you. You put in all the hard work and get little from a relationship. I ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 16 February 2015: The only people who regret their past are ones who still bought into old values. Women born before 70's are like this but not today. I think as men get open minded so do women. No one goes to a night club, things get heated and think, "maybe I ... (read in full...)
Why won't he kiss me?
Q. Hello, I met a new guy almost two weeks ago. We've gone for coffee and talked for several hours, walked the dogs, had dinners, lunches, watched movies and have spent a lot of time together. We are both mid 40's. We get along well and definite...
A. 16 February 2015: He wants the physical side of things while you want a boyfriend. When he says "let's make out" in the V card I would think he's more interested in having sex than getting to know you. So not kissing you is to avoid that kind of emotional connection. ... (read in full...)
If he upsets me he leaves me alone
Q. Is it odd the way my boyfriend reacts to upsetting me? Whenever he does something that upsets me, whether it be something big or small, he's usually perfectly fine. He says sorry for what he does, but he gets into a sort of mood where he's like, ...
A. 16 February 2015: It's common that men don't want to deal with women crying but to ask to make things better is not asking too much. I would suggest going for ice cream or watching comedies. You said he regularly does it but not now? Does that mean something changed ... (read in full...)
Everything seemed fine so why the playing hard to get?
Q. Hi Guys, I split up with my girlfriend of a few years abit back and had some time on my own.. I decided a couple of weeks ago to try meeting someone else, so I went on a dating site and messaged a girl, she messaged me back and we exchanged mobile ...
A. 16 February 2015: I would ask her out sometime again. If she meant yes then she would like to go out. Otherwise she might be saying yes just to avoid an awkward moment. I think playing hard to get is only suitable when one came on too strong at first and didn't want ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 15 February 2015: Cindycares, it's different because in general, men have a harder time getting laid. The ones who brag about sowing wild oats are probably like, 10% in society while the rest gets bitter about why it's not so easy for them. While women of average ... (read in full...)
I need help dealing with an obsessive lover
Q. I need help dealing with an obsessive lover. Here is some background info. Thank you all for taking the time to read. I teach at a University and very recently, we had a new colleague join the Department. He was a part of the Dept prior to my j...
A. 15 February 2015: I would tell him, just because he's deprived of a nurturing childhood, doesn't mean you have to compensate what he lacks. Tell him that being with him stresses you out because he will have to lean on you to deal with his anxieties. You don't like to ... (read in full...)
We keep talking about meeting up but nothing comes of it!
Q. I have been talking to this guy for a while and we always talk about metting up but nothing ever becomes of it. We go to different schools so I see him once a week in the bus and even at that he smiles and then sits with his friends. We talk all the ...
A. 15 February 2015: fgt can mean feeling great today. I say this to anyone. Sometimes people say it back, some feel awkward and just chuckled. It only has meaning when you say it to your significant other. There is a possibility that he wants to see your response to ... (read in full...)
Is it time to sever my long distance relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been in a long distance relationship for almost a year and a half. My boyfriend and I are perfectly made for each other: he's sweet, respectful, caring. We plan to see each other once every 3-4 months and aspire to be in the sam...
A. 15 February 2015: The times that you met, are fewer than what you can count on your hands. The risk is you may never know the true person he is until you lived with him for some time. You need a strong foundation because you are sacrificing your family and friends to ... (read in full...)
Is there any point in me telling him how much I love and admire him?
Q. If you like/love someone, should you tell them how you feel even if you KNOW 100% that nothing will happen between you? Like is there any point? Only asking because I have feelings for someone and the only reason I want to tell them is because I ...
A. 15 February 2015: You can tell him he's amazing and inspirational. Telling you have feelings for him prompts him to reciprocate and he would feel bad being not able to. You could at first say you are not looking for anything from him, but just to express that the ... (read in full...)
I believe he is sorry, am I crazy to trust him?
Q. I'm 18 and have been friends with a guy from school for four years , he has an older brother who is 21, he has always been friendly but nothing major. When he was in high school he was a complete player dating lots of girls, after high school h...
A. 15 February 2015: He didn't do anything wrong. It's his friend being the jerk. If he's sorry it's for the humiliating situation he put you through and not knowing his friend couldn't keep his mouth shut. He did the right thing by leaving. It shows that he's mature ... (read in full...)
My husband wont stand up for me with his family, he doesn't wont the confrontation!
Q. Hello. I have been very happily married for 12 1/2 years. We have three beautiful children. Two have ADHD and one is Autistic, not high functioning. My husbands family pretends that they accept me. I say pretends because there is always something ...
A. 15 February 2015: His family does not sound like the nicest people but it sounds like his sister is the only one attacking you. She is a drama queen. I can understand why your husband doesn't want to confront. It only adds fire and unnecessary tension, to basically ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 15 February 2015: I've had my share of losers in the past but they did not affect my marriage. So sexual past has never been my issue. My husband does not ask about it. None of my past boyfriends made it an issue either. I don't think about ex lovers, don't make ... (read in full...)
Does his habit of disrespectful language mean the relationship is doomed?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for 3 months. He tells me he loves me, is caring and helps me out. He has been very romantic organising trips away and I genuinely believe he loves me. However he uses very inappropriate language and has a frankly vulgar...
A. 8 February 2015: This is the Italian guy you are talking about, who also comments on beautiful women too much to your taste. I have a feeling he is either trying too hard to be British and he has being jittery doesn't help when he has limited word choice. Or, it's ... (read in full...)
I was there for him and he still chose another girl
Q. Hi, So I've been dating this guy for a couple months. We made the offical date Nov 20 but its more like Dec 18. We had a thing going on between us (just making out and holding hands) but he never formally asked me out and I told him we aren't to...
A. 8 February 2015: I think the rule about being official is a good one but a bad one at the same time. I really hope there is also a rule which says while we are deciding to be official that you and the guy just concentrate on each other. Guys who freak out because of ... (read in full...)
I love this man and would like to think that he will change!
Q. Ive never been so confused in my life. i got into a relationship with a man who i had the slight knowledge of him being a bit of a problem. he was a party animal! but he wowed me, he was amazing! so passionate and caring and i had never been treated ...
A. 4 February 2015: It depends on what your life goals are. If in a few years you would like to get married and have babies then I would not take the risk. If you have all the time in the world and could love him like you love the rest for the humanity then there is no ... (read in full...)
Six months into the relationship I find out she lied. How do we move on from this?
Q. Just looking for opinions what other guys would do in my position. Basically me and my girlfriend have been together 6 months, in the early stages of the relationship there was rumours had she sent pics of herself in underwear to a guy she had be...
A. 4 February 2015: She did this before you were exclusive. I guess you were angry because she didn't make you feel special. You were just one of the two (or more) guys. Also the fact that there are rumours around your circle and you would seem like a mug to forgive a ... (read in full...)
How important is the online photo?
Q. been single for 5 years and now making a big effort to find someone. I have hated the idea of online dating and had some rubbish experiences 4 years ago, but now I am trying it out with a different perspective. I am a very private person and don'...
A. 4 February 2015: There are two options.
One is to not put up a picture and explain in the profile your personal reasons. Then describe your features. Most men would feel okay with an average build. Then tell the men you would include a picture in the email if you ... (read in full...)
He said he'd stop making comments about other women, but I'm afraid my trust is already damaged
Q. I've been dating an incredible man for the last two months who is thoughtful and kind, caring and loving, he's super sweet and considerate. The way he treats me is great. He is always reliable and consistent, things like offering to drive me home ...
A. 4 February 2015: I am an admirer of beauty myself. I like looking at women and I do find what he was doing to be distasteful. I am not a model, and I am not insecure. What I would be upset about is not that I won't be the best looking thing in the world for my ... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another woman and I'm very confused and afraid
Q. HUSBAND LEFT ME TO LIVE WITH ANOTHER WOMAN Married for 16 Years to a man I thought was my prince charming. We are both drinkers in fact he didn't drink when we first met I did. We were both married but we both got divorced and remarried before t...
A. 3 February 2015: I think he will run back and forth between you two. He's trying to quit alcohol so he doesn't lose her. Then when they have arguments he runs back to you drinking. Because of him you lost contact with your children. Now he wants you to give up ... (read in full...)
How could we have become so close and now we are so distant?
Q. Hi Cupid I think I need some advice regarding my situation and I wonder why people do that? I met a girl over a beach and we connected amazingly and it felt great. We had great time, shared our secrets and it seemed great! We talked about ou...
A. 3 February 2015: It's easy to open up to strangers (I say strangers even when you aren't) because they are less likely to judge. Your mistake was creating a different persona even when she showed that she liked the real you?
Chalk it up to inexperience. You've been... (read in full...)
I would like some attention but don't want him to think I'm a princess
Q. My boyfriend of 8 years and I have just moved in together and he lives away moday-Friday. I am concerned on what role I play and need someones advice. I know it may sound really stupid, but his mum has always done everything for him so he has never ...
A. 2 February 2015: Your role right now is a house sitter from Monday to Friday and you are taking over his mom's duties. Does he go away for work? This is a burden when you are not married to him. Has he mentioned marriage? I would be calculative here. For example, ... (read in full...)
I can't stand him but I still need him for some things. Should I break things off?
Q. I am currently in a reaionship which is due to be a year this february. I do not and can never like him. We women date for two reasons, either for love or because we need something from the guy. Yes I needed something from the guy and i know he ...
A. 2 February 2015: Relationships are in a way a transaction of services, with or without love. You are not the first one to stay beyond the expiry date, and won't be the last. It depends on what you need from him. I had done it before because I needed someone to watch ... (read in full...)
How can someone who loves you, move on so fast?
Q. Hi there? I was in a very happy relationship for about 4 years, with the men I thought to be my soul mate. Somebody who I deeply believed was in love with me, and wanted to be with me forever. We was supposed to get married this year, and he ask...
A. 2 February 2015: Some people can only love when there is no stress and responsibilities in the relationship. Think of how he left his family when the daughter was only two. Now he feels history is repeating when your child is barely 3 weeks old. His daughter sounds ... (read in full...)
My was my FWB. Since we broke up he's still friends with other women. So why does he treat me as if I'm ''Not Good enough'' for him?
Q. Hi. I've never written to a site like this before but i feel like i can't really tell anyone how i'm feeling. I had a casual sexual relationship with a guy a few years ago, which i very much regret as it's not something i'd ever done before and ...
A. 1 February 2015: You think to be friends means regular contact and be there to support each other. There is no nice word for f buddy so that's why he called you friend. Other people say lady friend.
"Be friends" has two meaning depending on context. The first one ... (read in full...)
He asks too many questions, is he having second thoughts or jealous?
Q. Dear Cupids, I was on a one night stand with a guy last couple months. Since then , we have been friends .. sorta. Occasionally we met up and have steamy sex .. His relationship is on the rocks and I am single. Recently, I met a guy. We went on ...
A. 1 February 2015: He wants to be sure you are committed so he won't bother you again, as it's inappropriate. His relationship is a mess but at least he knows that other people have boundaries. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend, his spoiled child and the psychotic ex. Am I even ready for what I'm getting into?
Q. Should I break up with my boyfriend because he has a child? We're bo in our late twenties, and he had a child with his ex 7 years ago. He absolutely adores his child, and he's a great father, but unfortunately, due to difficult circumstances he...
A. 1 February 2015: You are not getting into anything, just yet. The future is so unclear. You don't know if you would be in the same city. You don't know if his degree would land him a stable job. His aspirations to get married is to keep the child's mom out of your ... (read in full...)
His extreme jealousy is straining our relationship
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and everything between us is great apart from the fact whenever I am near another guy, he goes off on one and tells the guy to save anyway from me. It doesn't happen all the time, but in the past ...
A. 31 January 2015: He has issues with attachment, probably stemming from bad childhood or being the neglected, unfavored sibling. He feels his world would crumble apart if he loses you to all kinds of threat he imagines in the outside world. You can't reason with him. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I need to choose between my boyfriend and my family
Q. Ok so i am 21 years old, a junior in college. i have been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years now. my boyfriend is also in college, and is a senior. he also has a job and pays for his whatever he needs. in the beginning, we were still in high school, ...
A. 31 January 2015: Your boyfriend has to work with your parents. If you feel you can only be happy maintaining close relationship with your parents, the miami trip can wait. Did he get travel insurance? Your parents won't ever hate you. Your boyfriend has to remember ... (read in full...)
Why are single men generally more bitter than single women?
Q. I find it bizarre. All my male acquaintances seem to be so bleak about their dating lives. I don't really understand why they are like this. I don't find that most long term single women display man-hating attributes. Yet, long term single men ...
A. 31 January 2015: Women generally demand more in a relationship than men. For most men, companionship and sex would satisfy while women want men with money, masculinity at the same time knowing how to emotionally connect. Most men don't have all three. I don't think ... (read in full...)
Can our relationship survive his family crisis?
Q. Hi everyone. I need some advice on my selfish personality traits. My partner has a very large family and whilst I get on with them I wouldnt say I was extremely close to anyone but his mother. I wouldn't exactly say they were a close family but...
A. 27 January 2015: I don't think so because this relationship is one sided. He has a tight knit family so it's not just his dad. Anytime there is a family emergency this is what happens. And for his family to treat you as an outsider after a 5 year relationship, no ... (read in full...)
Who should be her priority, her husband or her adult child?
Q. I have a question and I desperately need an answer. My wife and I have been married for almost 22 years. She has a son approaching 29 years of age from her first marriage. He lives with his father. Her ex suffered a heart attack a few years ago, a...
A. 27 January 2015: You may feel you are sucking it up because you have always been the generous one while they take advantage of it. If the situation is reversed they would not be that nice to you. For example, if your sister needs a place to stay your wife would ... (read in full...)
How do I tell if he isn't talking to me because he is being responsible and realistic or because it was a short romance in his eyes?
Q. I,23 female,have moved far away for 6 months from a man, 31, who I fell in love with. We spent only 3 days together but I got this feeling he loved me by the way he acted and looked T me. Firstly, can I trust this feeling? Could I be deluded bec...
A. 27 January 2015: People can be romantic and realistic at the same time. Romantic during a condensed, limited time phrase and realistic when faced with distance. You two never talked about what would come out of this so I guess the two variables of what he's thinking ... (read in full...)
Who should be her priority, her husband or her adult child?
Q. I have a question and I desperately need an answer. My wife and I have been married for almost 22 years. She has a son approaching 29 years of age from her first marriage. He lives with his father. Her ex suffered a heart attack a few years ago, a...
A. 27 January 2015: Will he be living with you forever or until he feels better and moves on from the loss? As he's a person who doesn't like being told what to do, is that his wish to live with you too, because it seems like there is some animosity between you two.
I... (read in full...)
Is my 61-year-old husband fooling around inside the health club? Or am I just paranoid?
Q. My 61 year-old-husband has a health club membership to use the sauna/shower/steam room. He does not go there to exercise. He is there a few times a week to shower after work before coming home. Is there cause for me to be concerned?? Is it p...
A. 26 January 2015: I think a health club is different from a bathhouse. If there are masseuse therapists there, they are professional and would quickly decline extra offers. People with lewd conduct would be kicked out. Maybe you don't understand what's the appeal to ... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong for us to date?
Q. Hi, I would like to know if this man likes me, he is older than myself I'm 26 and he is 50. I know him from Church and he has always been really lovely to me when we speak he always strokes my back or arm at some point. I have caught him staring at ...
A. 26 January 2015: He met you when you were 19 and him, 43. It still doesn't sound right for me. You haven't had sex but he had been having a fantasy of starting a new life with you long time ago.
If he has applied to a divorce, it will be final after one year even... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong for us to date?
Q. Hi, I would like to know if this man likes me, he is older than myself I'm 26 and he is 50. I know him from Church and he has always been really lovely to me when we speak he always strokes my back or arm at some point. I have caught him staring at ...
A. 25 January 2015: Yes it would be wrong. Some couples spend their separation weighing the pros and cons of staying married versus being single. The old man wants to test his marketability to see if there's a soft cushion to land on if he gets a divorce. If he finds ... (read in full...)
I'd like to date this girl but she wants either fwb or just being friends
Q. Hey guys, Thanks for taking the time out to read this... Basically about 3 months ago, I found myself in a situation where a girl I know was coming to the end of a relationship with her boyfriend. We used to speak to each other every night ...
A. 25 January 2015: If you started out with blurred boundaries, then it will keep it that way. Sure some fwbs would turn into relationships but I won't bank my luck on that. The only difference between fwbs and serious relationship is that when you sleep with someone ... (read in full...)
Why is he sort of giving me the cold shoulder now?
Q. This guy and I were kind of seeing each other for about 3 months. He introduced me to his family and friends. We used to speak every day, and he would also call. He would ask to see me basically every weekend and invite me to events. Due to my busy ...
A. 25 January 2015: He is moving faster than you are, and would like to see you more often than you are available. He was close to asking you to be a girlfriend with teasing and hinting. He didn't know if you felt the same. Either you are really a busy person, lots of ... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into his slow responses?
Q. Hi thanks for reading. I recently went on pof and have started texting this guy for about s a week, but for past few days it takes him ages to reply. ( like 4 hours) But when he does they are nice messages and I reading too much into it or is he ge...
A. 19 January 2015: When you date online and see someone you really like, always aim to get off the site and exchange email and phone within a week. Some guys are nervous, shy, some are players while the others are time wasters. When you take charge of how you want to ... (read in full...)
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