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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about two years now. He has a child and every other weekend he brings his kid to his parents house so they can see his child. Since I am in school and only see him on the weekends, I will normally visit his family and kid on those weekends. I have also gone camping with his family and had dinners.However, my boyfriend never seems to want to hang out with my family. He only sees them about 2-3 times a year. It's like pulling teeth to make him stop by and talk to my parents even though they are really nice to him and will even buy him gifts and invite him over for supper. He always seems to have an excuse as to why he can't hang out. If he does agree its always "I guess I'll come over if it makes you happy."I know it bothers my mom and I have brought it up to my boyfriend and asked if he doesn't like them. He says he likes all of my family very much. So how do I get him to want to hang out with them more often without it being a big ordeal?? I feel like I put in effort to know his family even though it makes me uncomfortable sometimes. Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (4 December 2014):
 I wonder if it bothers your mom because she is seeing the unfairness that you are working harder than he is in the relationship. Does your boyfriend has long term intentions? Maybe your mom sees that his unwillingness to visit her as a sign that he doesn't see her as a future mother in law. At the end this is between you and your boyfriend but your mom wants the best for you. I am guessing it's like pulling teeth because once your boyfriend and your mom establishes a close relationship, then there will be talks about when you will be getting married and he's not quite financially ready. His side of family though, welcomes you of course. Who doesn't want a loving figure for their son?
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