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writes:I am a 28 year old female. I got sick of being a virgin, so recently I went on a few dates with an older man, and we had sex. It was great, I enjoyed our time together so much. It hurt the first time, but the next time was perfect. However, I dont want a relationship with him or anything, Im just happy I am not a virgin anymore. HOWEVER, I keep thinking about him, and wanting to have sex with him again. He is keen to see me too, but I dont want a relationship. What should I do? See him for sex, or just find someone else?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2015): if he doesn't have a problem with it and neither do you, then go for it!
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reader, lifesgreat +, writes (4 December 2014):
just let him know you are only looking for sex at the moment .
Be straight and upfront .
Tbf I don't feel there are many guys that will not be happy with that arrangement .
Just make sure he knows it is not a relationship
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (4 December 2014):
 If he wants a relationship then it's kinder to let him go. If he does not press for one then you can both enjoy yourselves. Also talk about what a relationship means because it can mean different things for two people. Being the older guy I doubt he's all zealous about family and kids. You can be mutually exclusive even if you don't go so intense about it, such as talking about marriage, in laws, meeting his friends and family, etc. He knows he's old and there's always a time that you would dump him because of his age and settle down with a younger guy in the future. If he catches strong feelings for you then it's his responsibility to handle his emotions should this relationship end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2014): Ofcourse you can just see him for sex - provided you're upfront that this is all you want.
Talk to him about what he wants, maybe all he wants is sex too!
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