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writes:We have a two year old daughter..a bit minnxy..but very independent. trouble is, my wife would like another and although I'm quite keen, my wife does suffer terrible mood swings through period and did suffer extremely when pregnant before and I'm not sure i can or indeed want to cope, It's the unpredictablility thats depressing..if i come home in a good mood.. you can guarantee that she will be in vile mood where everything appears to be my fault. I really don't know what to do and am on the verge of leaving.
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reader, rosey3564  +, writes (11 March 2011):
My fiance got a vesectomy behind my back , knowing I wanted another child , but he did it anyway , now I am on the verge of leaving him , we have a 1 yr old . He was a miricle child . We are going to try marraige counseling but I am emotionally severed from him . Try counseling or she may need meds . Get her help if you love her , If you can't work it out then don't lead her on to believe otherwise . Be staight foward , and leave her the choice to stay or go if she can't live with it . But the wrost thing is to lead a woman on or betray her trust. Can't turn back....
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks to all
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMany thanks to all who responded. to the first person, I'd like to ssay that I do love my wife very much and do want to give her the gift but that gift needs to be shared its a huge responsiblity. To others, my wife and I do go out about once a month together but the bigger picture is being missed by some and I think the last response has touched base, she may sail through the next pregnancy and all may be well...I guess we need to wait and see.. tings are a little better today. I will keep you all informed.
again, many many thanks for the responses
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2010): I hope she has sought medical care for her wild mood swings especially since it seems they are hormonally based. A good doctor can help her with that.
And as far as having another baby, I think you may be using her mood swings as an excuse not to have one.
If you really really loved your wife, you would want to give her this gift and share in the joy of another child.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (26 March 2010):
 Sounds a bit like me and my ex - tho I am not prone to mood swings.
He would not agree to a second child, ..and that was definately high up the list of why I just left him instead.
I may never have another child, but at least it is a possibility when with my ex it wasn't.
So think carefully about your refusal, ..and even decietful suggestions like secret vasectomy's (wtf?) coz you might be sealing the deal on your wife leaving you.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 I don't think having any child would do you and her any good. It will just add to her stress. She is not fulfilled inside. It's not sensible to think that having a baby will fill that void, and a baby will not save a marriage. If I were you I would secretly get a vasectomy.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Convince her to see her doctor I hope she realizes her mood swings can be from hormonal imbalance. Does she even realize she has these mood swings? As far as another baby, each pregnancy is different, she may skate through the next one.
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