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*renda the undecided
writes:My life has changed since i started to go out with him, and i knew this would happen some day. When I started to go out with my boyfriend two years ago, I thought about not being with him more than three months because i knew that it will hurt me just like other broke ups i've had. Since he was very popular in school because he was an athlete, I kind of knew that I would have problems with other girls that liked him. Actually I have had several problems because girs have tried to kiss him, bite him, and others make like if they were his friends but there were actually my friends trying to hit on him as my "best" cousin did. Anyways, the jealousness has increased in me as this situations ocurred.During the first year he was very jealous and we broke up for a day because I felt that he didn't let me breathe. My discomfort disapeared within some weeks and I never cheated on him nor changed my feelings. Atually about a month or two months ago he started to tell me that he was annoyed by my jealousness and that he hated when i tried to check his cellphone. I got histerical about checking his phone for a particular reason. Six months ago we broke up for three days because he hanged up the phone on me after telling me "Vete a la verga, ya no tes fregando!" Which in English means "Go to the "dick" and stop anoying me!Anyways I got very upset and the next day i told him not to pick me up to go to school because i was gonna go in the bus. In the morning he came and i just went straight and got in the bus while he was in the drive way waiting for me, he got mad and didn't do the bus stop and just passed very fast. He embarrased me and the bus driver was screaming like crazy. When we went back after he cried and cried I told him to lend me his phone. He didn't want to and when i tried to get he got it and started to laugh like stupid while i hustled to take the phone away from him. I started to cry because i was tired and mad because he just kept laughing. I slapped him and finally he stopped laughing. "Give me the f...... phone!" I screamed to him, and he finally gave it to me. When I checked the phone he had more than five names of girs that he was messaging with and a lot more in his conctacts. He told me that they were his friends and that he was gonna erase them and other more lies. I got off the car and went exausted to into my house. Now he has been real different since like two months ago. He got in choir and has a lot of girlfriends there but I am in cosmetology and I don't talk to any guys there or in my English class. Now he is doing a play in which the drill all the Fine Arts classes will participate and he talks to very pretty girls which I know should like him, well he has been very drastic when i tell him anything about a girl. He immediatelly gets mad and tells me to stop being so jealous because i am destroying what he feels for me, that hurts me a lot because I love him and I cannot stop asking questions about the girls with which he dances in the play. Today he told me that he feels diffrent and that he doesn't know what to do with the relationship because we both have damaged it and there is no fix to be seen.I told him that I love him and that if we hadn't cheated in each other was beccause we cared and loved each other and after that he started to cry and hugged me. I asked him what was wrong but he only told me "I don't know" I just stayed as sad as I had ben for the lasts weeks and let him go because the bell had rang already. What should I do? Should I check his phone to see if he is talking to somebody else? Should I give him time?Should I broke up with him? Shoul I have guy friend so he ca know what I feel? Please help me and give me a clue because Im totally lost, Prom is around the corner and I don't wanna have a bad memory if we ever get back. I wanna breakup but i cant and i dont really have good friends with who i can lean in the mean time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): If I may make a suggestion, don't date anyone else with ideas of ending it before it gets serious.
Wise up and don't start doomed relationships. That's kind of like deciding to do heroin and telling yourself that you'll just stop before you get addicted. Yeah right. Every addict starts out like that.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 I think you should break up not because he did anything particularly wrong, but because you are bringing the worst out of each other. If you go to prom with him, I can just imagine you staring at his face all the time to check if he's looking at other girls, or get red faced when he talks to another girl. If you can't find things to do with him rather than checking his phone and arguing, I would say get out and find someone else you can be comfortable with.
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