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writes:So the other night this guy who I really like and me had sex for the first time. I was a little confused because I couldnt tell if he was enjoying it or not... it was hard to see any facial expressions in the dark but I could feel that he was starting to sweat. Did I do something wrong? He kept asking how close i was to coming and was bummed that i didn't. I'm worried that if he didnt enjoy it that it could hurt our chances for a budding relationship. What can I do to make it better if it wasnt good enough? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (30 March 2010):
 I'll bet he was just really focused (TOO focused, even), on making you happy and making you orgasm. So, he probably got so absorbed in giving you pleasure that he forgot to just relax and enjoy himself and not put pressure on the situation.
It's not your fault, not in any way! I think that you guys just need to relax. First time sex is often like this - him really trying to impress you and him putting way too much strain into trying to make you orgasm. Next time just tell him how much fun you have just being with him and try to just relax and enjoy the moment. And hey, once you guys get used to each other, you'll fall into a nice sexy groove and you'll know exactly how to pleasure each other and have fun.
And, of course, ALWAYS be safe. Good sex = safe sex. Good luck, relax and have fun sweetness!!
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (30 March 2010):
 It's rather difficult for women to escalate during sex without other stimulation. I've done it before a few times, it has to be very deep and I have to be on top, controlling what spot his tip hits. I guess there "size matters" comes in, because if it was too short I would never be able to finish during sex.
Sex really does need practice and take time. Don't beat yourself up over not cumming or him not jumping for joy after it was finished. It will take time for both of you to find your best positions and move the right way and learn how to make each other feel awesome. If he breaks up with you because the sex wasn't the epitomy of pleasure, then you're in the wrong relationship. Sex is important but shouldn't be the most dominating factor is decifering if a relationship is one that should go on.
Sex is sweaty. He was probably working hard, as he would be whether or not you finished and whether or not he finished.
He probably blames himself to some extent for your not cumming, so be sure that he knows that it's uncommon for a woman to do so. It's not his nor your fault.
Keep trying. It's possibly one of the most fun activities of which we can take advantage that "practice makes perfect."
Don't forget to use birth control. 90$ of girls who have sex without protection fall pregnant within the first year.
Take care!
~sy
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (30 March 2010):
 When a guy is about to come, he should stop and start again later instead of asking you, are you about to come? I smell impatience and pain here.
Oh, this question is about what you can do, right?
Get to know your body. Express your fantasies. Know where your G spot is. Give him blowjobs. And Never Never Never fake an orgasm. Enjoy the process. Have at least 20 minutes of foreplay. The pressure to come kills everything.
Guys always cum quickly the first time, but is there a possibility that he can't last long? He may be sweating because he's working so hard to hold his cum and it's becoming painful. You seem like a caring person. Women get the easier hand because they are the receptive ones, unless you are on top.
For future reference, never marry anyone you are not sexually compatible with.
This is only the first time. You have plenty of time to explore your bodies.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (30 March 2010):
 You will need to have more clitoral stimulation's in order to achieve orgasms..
You can go to this link to read more.Maybe, get him to read it too.
reference;-
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/menshealth/feature/helpwithorgasms.htm
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reader, sunnycomet +, writes (30 March 2010):
 You did nothing wrong. Usually when someone is on top they get more tired then the person on the bottom. He was only tired. :)
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