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writes:Well, The day before my gf was talking about cuddling with me and then yesterday she didn't want to do anything with me, not even talk. I asked her why she didn't want to talk, she said because she was talking to her friends. I was wondering why she couldn't talk to me and them at the same time. When I was talking to one of my friends about it and I said she probably hates me, she came up from behind me and hugged me.She said that my mood swings were pissing her off. She was also saying that she never loved me even though she would tell me she did and she let me feel her heart beat and it would beat really fast. She was the one that asked me out. Even before we dated. she would hold my hand and show strong signs that she liked me.She said that I'm needy even though she was the one that said wanted to do all that and then decides not to. She said that her interest in me was fading and I said "You know what, your right. I've been thinking about this for a while now. This is probably for the best."She said: "Ok then, I guess we're over." I think she has mixed feelings for me and doesn't know what she wants and/or she is on her period.Well, I think that agreeing with the breakup is the first step. Maybe we should just take time apart. I thought about staying away from her for a while and getting my friends and her friends to talk about me and all the good and funny things that I did. Everyone was saying how me and her make a good couple.Maybe if I pretend that it doesn't bother me and make improvements, she will be crawling back to me.What do you guys think?Is there anything else I should do?Is there something that I should do instead of anything that I listed above?Is there something I should NOT do?Thanks in advance!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI thought about doing this:
Getting one of mine/her friends to be a messenger for us and make it seem like the messenger is asking me questions. For example:
Do you still have feelings for her?
My answer: Of course I do but I'm tired of fighting and I want her to be happy.
Are you happy?
Should I just say yes or say I don't know?
I don't want to seem desperate but I don't want to seem like a jerk that just doesn't care.
If she were to ask me if I still want to be friends what should I do? I want to be more then friends and I don't want to be stuck in the friend zone.
Should I say: "I guess..." or "Sorry, I don't like being friends with my exes?"
I have also thought about picking on her in a good way. I remember about a day or two before we dated I would pick on her a little bit and I could tell she liked it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): i think you should stay away but at times go see around her, but i wouldn't say much to her, just hi and bye. I would also agree with you and say act like you don't care much, because if you act like you don't care and you DO improve on what she felt you lacked, then she would feel you're a diff person and pretty much crawl back as you stated, but also at times show a little interest in her still don't make her think you completely lost interest in her. I mean it worked for me when i was in this situation, i improved and didn't say much i showed little interest AT TIMES, and she fell for me like it was the first time. Good luck to you!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (28 March 2010):
 The words 'love' and 'breakup' are not to be taken lightly. It doesn't matter if you have mood swings or if you had a period, once someone utters my love for you is fading, it's enough to tell them bye, see you next life. I assume that she's the same age as yours but she definitely does not communicate herself in an effective way. She has issues herself, and cannot see you for who you are. It's not like you don't allow her to go out with friends. I get the feeling that her friends are of a different league and you just can't fit in that group, and she thought if you don't like her friends, you won't like her either. Whenever I see people breaking up for no reason, I start to suspect there isn't really a deep relationship going on. Sorry I don't like this girl. She makes a woman look bad. We are not that fickle.
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