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writes:it might sound pointless writing a story like this on this site, but i have no one to turn to and really need some advice.im 18 years old, my boyfriend is 24. we been together a few years, my mum and dad are dead, my mum died of cancer then a year later my dad had a heart attack, my boyfriend was there for me, a shoulder to cry on. he promised me he would take care of me forever and that im safe with him, but over the months he has been hitting me, shouting at me... its got bad and i know what everyone is going to say "leave him" but its not that simple, he watches my everymove and i have no where else to go. i dont even have any friends anymore, im stuck in the house, cant remember the last time i had fresh air. he works through the week and saturdays but its only for 2 hours so its nice when hes away from me. im terrified of him, he even put his fag out all up my arms, i use to go to college to do dance and im good at it, but he didnt want me to go anymore because boys will look at me. my mum and dad use to be so proud of me now i feel like i have let them down, i really need them right now but they aint here and i cant bring them back, i cry all the time, i still havent grieved for them yet i aint had the chance because of the constant beatings i get from him. he never use to be like this, i dont know him anymore. it started as soon as my dad died. now i feel alone and trapped, wish i had a friend to talk to but i honestly have no one. do you have some advice...?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): Sweetheart, I know it's the most scary thing you can think of but you HAVE to leave this man. Next time he is out ring the women's refuge, they will help you.
He thinks he has got where he wants you. Prove him wrong leave him and start to live you life. If you stay with him things are only going to get worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): listen to laura and contact the helpline, they will find u an temporary accommodation to get u out of there and help u find a permanent place in the future, they will also probably help u and give u advice with government benefits which will financially help u until u have settled down and found a job. i feel so bad for u, but i know that if u keep strong and seek help u can get out of there and reclaim ur life. one of my closest friends was in an abusive relationship and the guy removed a lot out of her. she seemed so lifeless and drained and it took her time to recuperate, however now shes become a strong and independent woman. so please get away from him asap and i wish u the best of luck. keep strong
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 If you're living with a violent partner or ex-partner - Jekyll & Hyde nature, always controlling, abusive, compulsive liar, provocative, immature, aggressive, constantly criticizing, manipulative, deceptive, refuses to communicate and cooperate, charming when he or she needs to be , you are mentally , emotionally and psychologically abused.
You can contact women's aid org.
Contact the freephone 24 hour National Domestic Violence Helpline run in partnership between Women's Aid and Refuge
CALL: 0808 2000 247 0808 2000 247
reference;-
http://www.womensaid.org.uk/
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 I assumes he works during the day?
If I were you I would gather all my courage and leave him for the first and last time. Grab a few of your most valued belongings, ids, and run to a police station, the look on your face will tell them everything.
What about your relatives?
It's better to wait for a shelter then to be stuck in a house. You are basically a living dead. The weather is getting warmer so everything will be better. Run to a church, a crisis center, they have resources to help you rebuild your life.
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