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writes:My boyfriend has children from a previous relationship. I am fine with that. However, his babymother keeps calling him for for so-called rides. He is a Sedan driver. The first incident I was fine with it because she was drunk and stranded with their child. The very next day she calls and asks for a ride. He tells me that she said she was bringing all of her 6 kids and that I could not go (I usually go out with him on calls to be his GPS). I am left alone in the house. The very next day he once again receives another phone call about a ride, but this time it is her trying to get him to ride her son around. I express to him that I am uncomfortable with this situation and I would better appreciate it if she only would contact him about their child. He says ok and that his babymother only calls about their daughter or a ride so he doesn't need to say anything. I reiterate that she only should be calling about their daughter. He says ok. 2 weeks pass and she is still calling but I was not there for any of the phone calls so I am not sure if the conversation is about their daughter or something else. At 12 midnight he gets a phone call asking for yet another ride. He proceeds to the door to go pick her up. I am furious and arguing because in the whole two weeks he has not done what he said he would do. Then due to my yelling he calls her back and says "Look! I cant drive you around because my girl is uncomfortable with it!" I ask is something going on he says no but that I cant tell him how to solve a problem as long as gets solved. He also will not tell the girl to only call him about their child because he says she will take him to child support and he says he will look dumb because they were just cordial and now all of a sudden I want him to tell her only to call in reference to their child. I am hurt because I expressed to him my feelings and he doesnt care. Truthfully he is more concerned with her getting mad at him than me being hurt and feeling sad. I feel the relationship he has with her is more important than our own. I just want to add that we too have a son together. If you were me in this situation... how would you feel?...am I being immature...selfish? I feel like i should kick him to the curb...what do you think. This is our only issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): He could turn his phone off, use caller ID or change his phone number - maybe she'd get the hint if he stopped picking up the phone or offered up an email address as means of contact instead etc.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 I would feel sorry for your chaffeur boyfriend on call for 24 hours. It takes an angel to love him and to accept his baggage. There is nothing he can do. Can't really complain about that to the family services. You don't have to worry about him going back to her. It won't be easier for him. It seems like all that the babymama is doing is take. She's spiteful and wants you to break up over this. As a mother she could use whatever reason to request for a ride, for the sake of her children. You would feel more equal if your guy has only one kid, instead of six. Feeling sorry for leaving him is not a good reason to stay though. You have to be sure about what you love about him, aside from being a father of seven kids.
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