A
male
age
30-35,
*obby123
writes:I was in a long distance relationship with a girl I never physically met. We was going to meet but something always got in the way. Her mum is very protective of her because she got raped in the past and that's why we haven't met. Her mum says she likes me but can't allow me to see her daughter, so I broke up with her because we well never be together. I really want to met her I have strong feeling for her and she says she loves me. She couldn't stop crying when I broke up with her and she wants to be with me. I don't want her to disobey her mum so I said we could still be friends but I really want to be with her. Was I right to break up with her or should I still keep trying to be with her. Please help thanks
View related questions:
broke up, long distance Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Bobby123 +, writes (25 March 2010):
Bobby123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe 20
A
female
reader, janniepeg  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Her mother is being extra cautionary because she felt guilty she didn't protect her daughter before. You did the right thing. You didn't really have a relationship in a real sense so you couldn't really call that a break up. I think you went with your guts. There may be more to the girl only her mom knows. You are not in the position to help her in any way. She will move on in time. It's not a good idea to remain friends for now.
...............................
A
female
reader, Honest_Answers +, writes (25 March 2010):
 You've never met this girl? Have you talked over web-cam? If you didn't and it's all based on chat and you've never seen her she may be much younger than she is pretending to be and scared to meet you, or just plain leading you on. Stick to someone you know in real life, makes it much easier!
...............................
A
female
reader, Smellyellie +, writes (25 March 2010):
 no you shouldnot have broken up with her. if this girl says she loves you then she means it. all girls do. we dont just say i love you for the hell of it.
and mothers are always over protective but maybe you should go to her family home and meet all of them before you decide in a proper relationship. her mum is probably just being protective over the fac that she dosent want her daughter to go through the same thing again and she cant trust people. make yourself known to the family and everything will work out fine trust me..
hope this helps x
...............................
A
female
reader, Tasmanian devil +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Technically you could say, you weren't really in a relationship, and you couldn't just have a cyber relationship, maybe you could have stuck it out if you really wanted to be with her, it would have shown her mum you weren't just gonna give up. Her mum is just trying to protect her because she has been through a lot of psychological trauma, so if you try to be with her, i doubt her mum will agree unless you prove to her your not going to end up harming her daughter, you seem to really like her why not go for it again, shes obviously still on your mind and you didn't disobey her mum before, so that might help your case
...............................
A
female
reader, _Katy_Did_  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 I believe you did the right thing. There was no way you were going to be able to see each other and it would have been wrong to go against what her mom said, especially with what her daughter had gone through. I can't say I blame her mom for not wanting you to see her daughter and it was very good of you to know that you shouldn't cross that line. It's too bad for both of you, but you'll both move on.
...............................
A
female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 March 2010):
 How old is she?
...............................
|
