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writes:Do people find love when they least expect it? How does that work? And DOES it work? I'd really love know this!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (24 March 2010):
pretty much... wanting it too hard can cause it to not happen as people sense the desperation.
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reader, Lexie88 +, writes (24 March 2010):
 I think that's true in a way. What it really is, is that when you stop looking and stop obsessing about it, it happens. I think that's because a carefree and happy person draws people to them...and might be lucky to draw someone to them who they eventually fall in love with.
My example? I had so many issues with 'men' and I was very frustrated. When I finally had enough and decided I didn't care anymore and didn't need a man...I met someone. I still didn't care, I didn't obsess...I took each day as it came...no worries, insecurities or overanalyzing. And guess what, the relationship took off and I'm still with him. I guess the fact that I wasn't too worried about things, that I was easy going and happy to enjoy the moment was part of what made it work out and what made him attracted to me.
So I guess that's what it is. Once you stop looking you find it. And not because you stop looking, but because when you stop looking you're carefree, you're truly yourself and you enjoy the day to day. And that is very attractive to both men and women I think.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (23 March 2010):
 When they least expect it does not mean you walk into a shopping mall, a library, a restaurant and there it is your soulmate. Rather it means when you don't demand it from your mate, by asking "how do we move forward" or "when will you marry me?". In otherwords be accepting that you don't know the definite answer to what's going to happen. Keep the mystery alive and be receptive, rather than aggressive about it. Also it's important to realize the love within and not look for it from the outside world. It's easier to find love when you have a relaxed, peaceful attitude.
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reader, Danny4361  +, writes (23 March 2010):
You can fall in love when you least expect it, sometimes you don't realise untill it's to late but sometimes you just no. you can't stop thinking about the and there all you ever talk about.
It CAN work but you both need to work at it, just like I realised the hard way, love isn't like it is in films you both have to want to make it work.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (23 March 2010):
Do you want me to give you the lotto numbers as well. my that is like asking for the secret of life. Gosh there sre so many issues that effect these things happening e.g.mind set, mood, emotions, family and friends chemistry, day of the week, where you are in life, your loaction, your attitude - the other persons attitude, appearance size and face, speech, humour bearing plus 100 other things.
I bet if i met you I would fall in love with you?
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