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writes:My friend is making me very insecure. She's a very attractive model and tells me because of her "looks, boobs and personality" her boyfriends have never looked at other women, at porn, cheated on her or even thought about other women (how could she know that?!). She's starting to give me doubts because my boyfriend is pretty normal in the sense that he looks at other women and probably fantasizes about other women and she told me that if I got plastic surgery like larger breasts I would be nearly perfect and he would never leave me and she's constantly giving me "advice" about my looks, hair and clothes. I usually have pretty good self-esteem but being picked at everytime I see her is starting to wear me down. I wrote last week and showed her some replies about it being impossible that her boyfriends would be so completely centered on her but she laughed it off. I don't know if I can put up with her as a friend but she has some emotional issues and I would feel guilty about dumping her. She can be nice and riot to hang out with but should I be friends with someone who is so full of herself? Or is she right about what she's saying so I should give her the benefit of the doubt and try and stick with the friendship (and get new boobs)?
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reader, BeHereNow +, writes (25 June 2007):
BeHereNow is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for your comments - you're right, she definitely has some bad issues. I'm just not going to listen to her anymore. I guess I would feel guilty dumping her as a friend because she has no other female friends...gee, I wonder why!!!
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 Jealousy, thats how it comes accross to me you are happy with your body, your life and your boyfriend.
Yes it is perfectly normal for your boyfreind to look at other women in fact i would say there was something wrong with him if he did not it is nature for us all to look at the other sex and if she honestly believes that no one has done that to her she is living in fantasy land.
If you still want to be friends with her then obviously that your choice but what i will say is that if she carries on with what she is doing ahe will only continue to make you feel bad about yourself and give you insecurities.
Friends are supposed to be supportive of you and not put you down to make themselves feel better, i personally would not want to be friends with anyone that treated me in this way even if they had emotional issues.
Take care.xx.
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reader, myp +, writes (24 June 2007):
 Shes got problems. Real problems. Any girl thats that cocky is trying to cover up for something. Insecurities maybe? not maybe, for damn sure. Anyway, theres no way all of her boyfriends are completely centered on her...NO WAYbecause men just dont operate that way and just because shes attractive doesnt mean that shes what makes the exception. She sounds supremely artificial, selfish and bimbo-esque but hey who am i to judge? =)haha. Friends should make other friends feel good about themselves if she makes you feel bad than dont associate with her. Shes a big girl, she can handle her own problems but if shes creating problems and self-esteem issues for you then shes not the kind of friend you need. As for the boob thing, you dont need bigger boobs, bigger breasts might be attractive to some men but theyre not a deciding factor in a relationship. You are. Plastic surgery is just a physical way to fix an insecurity. Either your man likes you or he doesnt, if he didnt like you then he wouldnt be with you. As for men liking her for her looks, boobs and personality, she doesnt sound like she has a whole lot of personality from what im reading, and she doesnt sound like she has any meaningful relationships which really sucks for her.best of luckmessage me if you want to talk =)-Myesha
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