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writes:I have become friends with a girl. And I mean like best friends. There's no like feelings for each other in that way, we just generally love each other as best friends. I'm going to stay with her in a few days and we have been talking about like hugging and stuff all night in the same bed. Her mum says we can't share a room/bed and now I am really upset. I'm going to stay with her for 15 days and it feels that what was going to be an integral part of an amazing holiday has been shattered, which could have adverse affects on the rest of the holiday. Her mum says we can't share a room/bed because her siblings had all been denied that privelage with their friends/partners etc. I'm not sure what to do and it really has hurt me deep down.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (29 July 2007):
 Glad you had a good holiday and you're relationship has stepped up.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have had this holiday. I spent 15 days with this girl and it turns out we are perfect for each other and are truly in love. We found this out after about 5 days when we kissed in her room. Ever since then, we had some fun (not sex) and have become more than just best friends. And we did sleep together for one night, so all is good. Thanks for your words of advice if you answered my earlier question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, I get that but it's what we want to do because it feels right, but we know we don't have feelings like that for each other, I think. Oh well. Im sure itll be fine. And I do respect her mother totally
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, I get that but it's what we want to do because it feels right, but we know we don't have feelings like that for each other, I think. Oh well. Im sure itll be fine. And I do respect her mother totally
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reader, DV1  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 All that you can do is respect her mother. If you two only care about each other as friends, you don't really need to hold each other and be anywhere near a bed...
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reader, FrustratedBoyfriend +, writes (23 June 2007):
Unfortunately staying under a parent's roof you have to accept and respect the decisions that they make. Why should this have an adverse affect on your holiday together, there will be nothing to stop you hugging in public, sat on the sofa watching the TV or anything like that. Unfortunately parents are very protective of their children, and although you are deemed to be of a sexualy mature age you need also to be man enough to understand a parents perspective of things, as has also being stated hormones can take control of you very easily under those sort of circumstances. If you are only friends and have no feelings in any other way then just take it with a pinch of salt and enjoy your holiday. :)
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (23 June 2007):
 She is just being protective as a parent. It may seem annoying to you but you have to see it as a sign of responsible parenting too. She thinks that teenage hormones may over-run in such a situation. It is right that if she stopped other siblings then she should apply the same rules to you.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (23 June 2007):
Hey you are just friends with no other feelings apart from that, so although you are annoyed about her mums decision i don't think it's all that bad, don't let such a minor issue spoil the time you are going to have together.
If you really think that it is such a major part of your holiday there is nothing to stop you cuddling any other time while you are there and just because you can't do it in bed at night it really should not have any adverse effects on the time you spend together unless of course you are not being true to yourself about the way you really feel about each other.
Take care.xx.
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