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writes:My husband is impotent and feels it's ruining our marriage, we are sleeping separate 'cos of his disabillity. My question is that i've tried so hard to try different things, but he doesn't seem interested. I feel useless. Can marriage survive without intercouse ever again? Reply to this Question
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters  +, writes (31 December 2011):
 Work with him on it. If he is willing to work with you on it. If he is saying that he wants to try viagra, he wants to try cialis, etc., then DO IT.
If, on the other hand, he can't do those things, because he had a heart attack or whatever, he should reverse his health.
My dad is impotent, for example because he had a minor heart attack that was actually just a artery blockage that they did an emergency angioplasty on within an hour. I don't think there was even any muscle damage. However, he is on beta blockers. What does he do instead of working out and eating healthy?
Drinking and eating red meats. He works and what not, but he does not really work on his marriage in the bedroom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): Is he roughly the same age as you or many years older.
Even if impotent, I don't see why you sleep in separate rooms. THat simply breeds more distancing between you.
Your real question-can or will the marriage survive. I doubt it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): Be supportive - but he needs to find out the cause. Its vital as it could demonstrate more serious conditions underlying. Perhaps this could be the catalyst. Its not about the sex etc. Take the pressure of him. He must be feeling inadequate and low about himself. Don't give up yet :-)
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reader, yoginipirate +, writes (12 April 2008):
 Get him to get checked. Viagra, anyone. It's not a difficult problem to solve if it's due to natural aging. That's why that drug created such a sensation; It works!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): His impotence could be due to a serious health problem like heart disease or diabetes....don't take it lightly, urge him to get a complete physical.
There are medications obviously that can help him, you don't have to suffer through this, find out the cause and fix it whether it be drugs, alchoholism or a physical or psychological condition, they all can be treated.
Don't ask if your marriage can survive, of course it can, but you need to seek the proper help for him, this could be a medical issue, a lot of men are not aware that this is sometimes a symptom of an illness or condition other than the dysfunction itself....see a doctor first.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (12 April 2008):
 What is the apparent nature of the impotence? Lack of any erection at all? Inability to maintain erection? Inability to ejaculate? There are several possible causes and symptoms, some of which are fairly easily handled. Some are more complicated and psychological, but more information about the nature of difficulty would help.
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