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writes:Well i'm going to start off at my cousin's house. One night me and him began doing sexual things to each other, i know it's gross but i was scared to tell him "no". When he comes around like at family get together's - i feel nervous when he even decides to sit by me. He is cute and he is my COUSIN, and me and him have been doing sexual things to each other for about 3 or 4 years now but we have never had intercourse. I enjoy doing sexual things to him but i want him to stop so i can live a normal life. I mean i love him becuz he is my cousin but i don't know how i would react around the rest of the family if we were to go beyond just oral sex together. If anyone could give me some helpful tips to get me to tell him this? Like i said, i know that this is DOUBLE GROSS but i do want this to end!!!!!!
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reader, erin1045 +, writes (13 August 2010):
If he really cares for you and it's not just about sex for him, I think you should at least try to see if you can be together. My cousin and I have had sex 4 times and it was the most amazing connection to ANY guy I've ever felt. He recently decided he won't do that kind of thing with me anymore, and he's avoiding me, and I've never wanted to die so badly in my entire life. So, if he really loves you, maybe you should give him a chance. It's the worst feeling in the world to think you have a connection like that with your cousin, just to find out later that it was just about sex for the other person, so I know how he feels. If you're going to end it anyway, be sure you let him down gently, and it's probably going to take a long time for things to be "normal" between you again. My cousin ended things with me April 30th 2010, and I still cry EVERY DAY because I know I'll never have that feeling with anyone else and I want him to change his mind. If you think you would make each other truly happy, don't let anyone stop you from being together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): be honest, this shouldn't be happening if he is understanding he will respect your wishes
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reader, kizzy +, writes (23 April 2008):
kizzy is verified as being by the original poster of the question hi, you guys i have told him what i think and how i feel but he stills tries making a move on me. i told him i have a boyfriend and that made him more mad. so that quite didn't go as planned he continues to feel on me and push me into the bathroom and other empty rooms. i tried to avoid him at family get togethers by not looking or even talking to him but he still finds a way to get me out of my pants and must i remind you all i know its gross but i just love SEX!!!!. if anyone can give me bigger hints or ideas to telling him that i do want it to stop what he is doing so he'll actually believe me?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (22 April 2008):
 I must agree with the Agony Aunts and Uncle below, but offer one additional idea. Tell him that you now have a great boyfriend (whether you do or not). That may help him lose interest and go looking elsewhere, but the main thing is like you indicate: It is wrong. Just end it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2008): It is easy....tell him "NO MORE"! Tell him that wht happened in the past/before....ends now! tell him that it is over.
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (21 April 2008):
 well hun just be honest with him..tell him that whatever u guys did was wrong and u want to put an end to it..u have to talk to him,he cant read your mind right..u have to be bold enough now..since the relationship u had with him was a mutual one,i am sure he will understand this too..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2008): It's very simple, you tell your cousin 'I want the sex to stop'.
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reader, Saz  +, writes (21 April 2008):
Have you just simply told him how you feel, how uneasy it is making you, just come out and tell him it has to stop.
If he doesn't listen then try to keep your distance from him until he gets the message. Hope this helps.
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