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writes:I recently gave my 1st blowjob to a guy I was dating. He wanted it so much and so I gave in. Although personally I felt the act demeaning, I didn't mind doing it as I was attracted to this guy so much. However when I asked him if he would return the favour by going down on me, he refused. I have to admit I was quite upset. Was he just not into me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): How long was it before you "gave in"? Because it sounds like you made him beg for it and now he wants you to do the begging.
Another possibility is that he is just selfish.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 April 2008):
 I think it could be his sexual inhibitions or his cultural
views of oral sex. He could be coming from a prudish society
where oral sex is frowned upon or against the law of the country.
Does he treat you good in the other departments?
That would tell if he is into you or not.
Some guys have an aversion of giving oral sex but do not mind receiving it.
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reader, clobear  +, writes (13 April 2008):
 well oral sex should work both ways, it can be amazing aslong as you trust each other and find out what each other likes, however if he turns you down, tell him no more for him. try 69, its not always one ontop of the other, try lying on your side with him going down on you and you doing the same to him, if you do it good to him he should do it good to you, also pay attention to how much he likes certain things, and him do the same to you. if he wont, then dont do for him and if he wants you to give him a blowjob so bad he will realise what he has to do.good luck girl, luv chloe x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): I would say he's kind of selfish, I mean if there to be oral sex it's best and both partners MUST engage in it, otherwise don't do it. What's the point of having sex when both partners don't really participate? I would suggest you talk to him about it and get an answer. Maybe he doesn't like giving oral sex. Talking is the answer really.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (13 April 2008):
 Oral sex provides exquisite pleasure and fantastic orgasms for both genders, and should always be mutual. You got the short end of the deal. No more for this jerk - he cannot be the only man you may be attracted to and there are certainly better men everywhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): I would suggest that you do not do that unless he goes down on you first - men expect women to do it, but have some issues about doing it for females. Any guy who asks you to do that and then wouldn't go down on you - stay away from them they are users. Dont put youself in that position - if he likes you he would do it too.
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reader, Smiffy  +, writes (13 April 2008):
 What a selfish bloke.....you have to be happy with giving a BJ...if the bloke doesnt accept you dont like giving them or wont return the favor...BIN him...
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (13 April 2008):
What a selfish pig.
Keep asking him for oral and refuse till he has returned the favour. If he doesn't give as much as he takes then move on and find a decent guy.
As for the not liking blow jobs and feeling a bit demeaned, don't worry about it too much. I'm not a big fan of giving them myself. It's not exactly a fun thing to do and can be really uncomfortable. But I'll do it every now and then for my husband because I know he loves it.
If you are in a relationship that is equal and loving but you are still put off it then try doing it as foreplay - that way you can stop as soon as your jaw starts hurting or you start feeling sick, and move on to the good stuff.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, madflash +, writes (13 April 2008):
 I think he's a fool.Personally, I love oral, but some guys hate it... giving it that is.He might be one of those guys. I never understood them, so I can't comment on why some guys don't like pleasuring a woman.The thing I find hard to believe is that you're as old as you are and haven't done that yet. Oral where I come from is basically foreplay and I've received it and given it with almost every woman I've ever been sexual with.I think you might be making too much of this. It's just a BJ. Lighten up. Why don't you ask him why he didn't do it? Are you close enough to him to have oral sex but not close enough to ask that question? You're a puzzle wrapped in an enigma if that is so. I'll never understand why I can't get laid with all my honesty and communication while sweet girls like you are giving out bj's to cold bastards like that...Ah, well... that's life.Next time get yours first and say no to him... or make it even steven and suggest a 69.
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