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*on_bon
writes:Hi thereI have a serious issue here. i've just started seeing someone new and i cant seem to make him cum when i give him a blow job. I've never had this problem before... (Infact past partners have usually cum quite quickly). Its reached a point now where its become quite embarrassing for me. Any tips and advice will be greatly appreciated. i KNOW my partner will.PLEASE HELP
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reader, bon_bon +, writes (14 April 2008):
bon_bon is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey all and thanks for the response.
You've all given me some food for thought. i'll keep you updated
thanks
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Many women are able to provide more sensory feeling to the penis with their mouth, lips and tongue than can be experienced with vaginal intercourse, which is one major reason why men typically enjoy blow-jobs, in my opinion. It simply FEELS great. The sucking sensation that some women provide during arousal and ejaculation greatly increases the intensity and release in most cases, as opposed to a vagina which usually offers little or nothing of the intense feeling.
If your man does not respond completely to what you are doing orally, he may possibly have an aversion to releasing in this manner for a variety of possible reasons. Some guys believe that it is a dirty or nasty thing to do - some may even have a religious or social objection to a form of intercourse that is not considered mainstream.
It is very possible that your new boyfriend has been a major practitioner of masturbation, which often or generally provides more physical stimulation than most any form of intercourse, oral or otherwise.
If he has no objection to releasing for you orally, a few techniques may help to prompt ejaculation if you have not tried them before. Basic considerations include sucking and licking the testicles, licking the perineum area (below the testicles), massaging the perineum while sucking, massaging the anal area, stroking with a firm grip while sucking, pressing a fingertip or thumb on the frenulum (the spot just under the tip) while sucking the tip very vigorously, popping the tip with the lips in a sideways motion and deep-throating.
The ultimate is a prostate rub, which few men could endure without releasing. This requires insertion of a finger (lubricated and perhaps rubber-gloved) up the rectum with a "come hither motion just prior to his maximum arousal. If that does not cause ejaculation, then he is a specimen for scientific study.
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reader, pyan +, writes (13 April 2008):
hi
from a guy point it easyer to hold back during a blow job than any other way. so tray playing with in and then do that. if you sqeeze his balls you may cause pain so that may slow the process down. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): Iv had this problem too, maybe hes nerveious if yous have only recently got together, for now find other things that can turn him on and enjoy those, then once the worry and the pressures gone yous will both feel more relaxed and into it and hel get alot more excited if hes had to wait a while for that kind of stimulation.
Ask him if its a problem hes had before, such as during mastubation, rather than asking about his past relationships.
It turned out with my boyfriedn he thought he couldnt, due to costatnt washing from his OCD, i managed to convince him to stop thinking he couldnt and to just enjoy himself.
Try different angles or different techniques ^^ im sure itl all work out keep trying, dont feel embarrased, try and make friendly jokes, or laugh it off when you do come across problems, itl take the pressure off as much as it will obviously be frustrating.
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reader, carlyuk  +, writes (13 April 2008):
 I have exactly the same problem wiv my bf.
Me and my bf comprimise- i give him a blow job for a while and then if he isn't close to coming he starts to masterbate till he gets him self close then i take over and i can then make him cum more easily and most of all more quickly not sure if this will work for you and him but this works for us. But it isn't just u hunni, i know exactly how you feel. please send me a message if you need anymore help. Hope i helped.
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reader, lyd_foster +, writes (13 April 2008):
 I went through thi problem with my boyfriend and he didnt seem to do it anymore.
i think once you make it a problem and you think its is there then it will never fix
For him to cum you both have to be relaxed and enjoying your selfs
if it is rushed then sometimes it just dosnt happen
have you taked to him about this?
maby he is doing this on purpsoe 'holding it back to make it last longer'
you can look on the internet for all sorts of tips and tricks
ask him what he likes best and hopefully that could wrok
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