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writes:okay... so i was reading about some size questions because i was overweight and only 5.1 inches, so then decided to lose weight, but i only gain .3 inches, and i kept on reading about the "not the size of the boat, motion of the ocean stuff..." blah blahand so then i started to accept it because i was reading that its average and alot of girls would like me provided that i could use it rightbut yesterday, i found out i was measuring myself wrong, and im really 3, so i was about 2.8, and i went to 3.3, the worse part is, im 19 and starting college soon... so ive been thinking of killing myself, which brings me to my questionwhy do you doctors and researchers tell all the people that the universe hates, that "its not the size of the boat, motion of the ocean" bullcrap, and "its not how big it is, its how you use it"my favorite part is when you ladies tell some of us men that you have husbands who are 5 or less and are happy, or have been with 5 and prefer them to an 8 because the 5 knows what he is doingwhy do you do this? isn't it kinda cruel to try and cheer people up by lieing?, i mean, im 3.3 and unfortunately, i guess i accept the fact that i will die a virgin, but thats just me... so, my questions???
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): Look honey, you've got to stop all this unnecessary worrying because you're size is FINE. Really. As, I have a feeling, some aunts will already have pointed out, have you forgotten oral?! Have you forgotten foreplay?! Have you forgotten boobs??! There are so so many other ways you can please a woman if you don't feel comfortable about your penis. Although let me tell you this, your size is absolutely fine. To be quite honest with you, it really hurts me if it's over about 7 inches.
The fact is, you're getting this impression from porn. PORN. Porn is not reality. It's acting - and they use bigger cocks or dildos because it's different from normal. It's unusual, it's exciting. Otherwise porn would just be like watching your neighbours have sex. What's the difference? Porn is not reality! So honey, stop all this worrying and get your head straight. I swear to you, I'm not lying, you would please a woman fine. And being a woman, I should know! Good luck :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): Look, a woman WILL overlook your penis size IF you have other developed skills in the bedroom. My boyfriend is 8 inches long, and he's pretty thick, so he is a well endowed man. BUT it is not his penis that makes me want to fool around with him- it is his SKILLS and his eagerness to please me. He can make me come with his hands and his mouth, no problem at all. That is what a woman wants- a man who can make her come. It doesn't matter if you use your dick or your hands, or your mouth, as long as you have some skills, any woman will want to be with you. Practice makes perfect, so don't delay, get out there and play the field.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (22 April 2008):
 There is a helluva lot more to being a man and a good lover than a bigger dick. Drive your lovers up the wall with your tongue and she/they will not give a damn if you even have a pecker.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): HEY! Stop being a idiot! I'm 48 y/o and am a size of 3 1/4"
YES!....only 3 1/4 inches! NO! I'm not happy with it, but I realize that I had to play with the hand I was dealt with!
But guess what....I've been with over 800 women in my life.
I have had 7 long-term relation ships (over 2 years) and am currently in a long term relationship now (12 years)and have 4 outside girlfriends whom I've been seeing for over 3 years. Don't fret over the small stuff. Yes I would like a good 7 or 8 incher and then I would be on top of the world, but guess what....I haven't done too bad in the woman department, so stop taking pity on yourself and go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): Most girls care a lot more about a guy's personality and character. Learn how to be a man, and these other things will fall into place. Message me if you want some more specific guidance on this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): You're not a virgin because of penis size. A woman can't really tell your penis size until the moment you undress to have sex. You don't go telling them your penis size.
You just haven't met the right girl. I was a virgin until I was 18. All my friends had already had sex at like 16, and I was sad. I thought it was because of me being ugly. I don't think it was that. It was the fact that I had low self esteem and couldn't appreciate myself enough to approach guys.
I've only had sex with one guy, so regarding penis size, I have no clue if there are differences. I knowt that big penises can hurt more than please though... I think it's a myth that "bigger is better", just as it happens with boobs.
I understand that it makes you self conscious and you feel that it's the reason because you're still a virgin. but hey, you're young! I've known guys who have lost it way past their 20s. In college you'll meet different kinds of girls, so you'll probably get a girlfriend soon. Don't feel discouraged.
I hope that the suicde talk was just from the heat of the moment though. If you're depressed about this, go see a counsellor. Most likely, you aren't really depressed about this, but maybe there's a deeper reason and you don't know, and that might also be affecting your confidence. Sometimes we have deep issues, but we place them on the most superficial things, when they actually have nothing to do.
Don't be discouraged though, you'll find a great girl! Or do you think that every guy out there who has a girlfriend has a big penis? I don't think so, so please, try to look beyond that, I'm sure you're a lovely boy, don't worry!
Oh, what vsnod said is also true, not all girls get off from intercourse (regardless of penis size), most of us enjoy oral sex much better!
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reader, Suonarelamusica +, writes (22 April 2008):
Please talk to someone professional if you are thinking about killing yourself. You sound like you might have an underlying depression and there are loads of options that would make you feel better.
I'm a female and I can tell you that if you love him the size of his "manhood" doesn't matter. If you really hate your size, you could talk to a urologist or a plastic surgeon about surgery, I'm not sure what options there are. But if you love yourself, make yourself an interesting person (I'm not saying you're uninteresting), be romantic, then size is arbitrary. Don't be depressed,change what you can- lose weight if you need to, get a makeover, new hairstyle and wardrobe, even plastic surgery if that's what you want. Life was supposed to be enjoyed.
The most potent sex organ is the BRAIN. I know you've probably heard that cliche but it's cliche because it's TRUE!!! The sexiest thing in the world is a man who knows how to listen and who understands feelings and knows how to talk about feelings. I'm a woman. Trust me. If I met a guy with that ability, his penis could be an half an inch long and I would still love him to pieces.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): To tell you the honest truth I hate penises over 7 inches because they hurt...ask my boyfriend, lol. He a 9 inches and we've been going out for a year and a half and on average we have sex maybe once every 2 or 3 weeks cause it hurts too much for me. Maybe I'm just weird, i dunno, lol, but it just goes in too far and i can feel pain in my belly. I used to enjoy sex with my ex who was only 5 inches without a problem so the only thing i can attribute it to is the size variance. Some girls may lie and say size doesn't matter, but I say size doesn't matter and I'm not lying. I know this probably doesn't help you, but it's the truth. Not all girls like long ones.
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reader, vsnod +, writes (22 April 2008):
 I think you are already putting too much pressure on yourself! Look, you can still pleasure a girl even if you are 3.3 inches (the G Spot is just inside the opening of the vagina, towards the front of the body) Another option is oral sex, most girls REALLY love that. Also, please don't say things like you want to kill yourself! If you are that depressed, please talk to someone about it!
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