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Guys! Does the head of your penis feel uncomfortable when touched?
Q. Question for the guys: I know that the head of a penis is very sensitive. But, when touched, rubbed, licked, or otherwise, does anybody else feel an uncomfortable sensation? Last night when my partner performed oral sex on me, the "head" area felt...
A. 17 August 2008: A few men have a specific "spot" usually near the head of their penis that contains almost all of their sensitive nerves. It is somewhat an abnormality, and according to my readings, fairly rare. But since you report that your difficulty has never ... (read in full...)
Masturbation: There's got to be more to it than this!
Q. I need a bit of advice regarding masturbation. I stared masturbating about 5 years ago, and I do not have a problem in reaching a climax. However, when I reach that point when my body starts shaking and my toes tingling, I don't know what ...
A. 17 August 2008: Soekie, as an older man you may or may not regard my input, but years of experience with women may mean something. There is some confusion in that you say, "I do not have a problem in reaching a climax," then you say, "I would usually just quit and ... (read in full...)
Do I ride out the storm of this sexless relationship or do I finish it?
Q. ok, I have been in the same relationship for nearly 10 years and have been completely faithful throughout. My problem is, my partner and i have not had sex for nearly 6 months she is under a lot of pressure from work and with ill parents. I ...
A. 17 August 2008: People go through tough times. You both are going through tough times now, but you apparently have all those years invested and will only lose if it ends. In my opinion, both "superbunny" and "Jen86" provided excellent insight. As Jen said, support ... (read in full...)
I'm down about not having much of a sex life recently...any suggestions?
Q. Okay, this is probably going to sound ridiculous.. But I keep getting really down about the fact I've not had much of a sex life recently. I last had sex/got intimate with someone in March, and last had sex with someone I loved a year ago.. And...
A. 17 August 2008: I'm afraid that I'll just sound like some old fuddy-duddy who just says, "Get over it." But you are way too young to be depressed at this point. I'd really like to know what is going on in the Kingdom where it seems that every young girl is fucking ... (read in full...)
Are there men out there who are okay with girls who don't wax their pubes?
Q. just a question for men: Are there men out there who are ok with girls who don't wax their pubes? I waxed and it was so painful that I decided never again! Also, as alternative, I tried Veet, but that gives me rash, and makes me feel itchy. ...
A. 17 August 2008: A woman with pubic hair is perfectly acceptable to any man, young or older, worth his britches. Of course, I'm the older man, but I do not comprehend this apparent trend for bare pussies. I will agree that big, bushy pubic areas on a woman could be ... (read in full...)
I want to try doggie style but I don't want him to see my butt hole!
Q. so my boyfriend and i have been going out for 1 and 1/2 years now. were pretty sexually active, but not too much. when we do things in bed, i want them to be good for him, and me too. dont get me wrong, they are good. theyre great. but i just wonder ...
A. 17 August 2008: In my opinion, you should not be ashamed about any part of your body. You may be too young to be doing any of this, but heck, so was I active at your age. Anyway, he also has a butthole and we have all seen one or more. The one solution is to simply ... (read in full...)
Does a blow job involve blowing? I'm confused....
Q. This may sound stupid but what's a blowjob and how do i do it? I have sucked my man and had him cum in my mouth,is a blow job different? Does it involve blowing? Im so confused! X...
A. 17 August 2008: There is absolutely no "blowing" involved with a blow job, and I'm unsure how the term originated. I'll agree with "Uncle Phil" to some degree, that a woman basically allows a man's erect penis to penetrate her mouth as if having intercourse, except ... (read in full...)
Even though he's really good, it's very rare for me to climax, why?
Q. Here's the thing. My boyfriend and I please each other with foreplay and dry humping. I've gone down on him, he's gone down on me. Stuff like that. What I've noticed is even though he's really good, it's very rare for me to climax, and I don't know ...
A. 16 August 2008: Typically - and that means more often than not - a woman not climaxing during sex is due to inadequate foreplay prior to intercourse. The Masters & Johnson studies, as well as others, proved it. You said that you and your guy dry-hump and include ... (read in full...)
Am I being irrational thinking I may have gotten my one night stand pregnant? We didn't use protection!
Q. Hi. I had a one night stand last night. We didn't use protection and now I find that I am unable to sleep because I'm worried that their may be consequences for my foolish actions. I met a woman in a club, we danced and had a great time. When...
A. 16 August 2008: Well, you must not obsess over it, But I understand madness (lust). The truth is that attaining pregnancy is often difficult for many couples, but like me during my youth, you were probably rather bold and risky. Perhaps I was fortunate to ... (read in full...)
I always stop before I cum when masturbating, anyone else have this?
Q. I'm 16, i'm a virgin and I like to masturbate, I know theres nothing wrong with it. But I just used my hands because I dont have toys. I usually dont finger myself, I jus rub my clit slowly and gently and mostly when watching porn, because I get ho...
A. 16 August 2008: From a man's perspective, if you would consider, it is perfectly natural
to masturbate as you acknowledge. At some point, hopefully in a few years, you will experience sexual satisfaction with a man, but based on your description you are very clos... (read in full...)
I thought he was rude to ask me to swallow so soon!
Q. i just started dating this 23 year old guy about a month ago..I'm 20..we became physical fairly quickly, but no sex...however the 2nd time i gave him oral sex he asked me to swallow...i thought that was very rude and being a big mouthed girl i ...
A. 16 August 2008: Well, as an older guy who has enjoyed such pleasures since forever, I'll nevertheless side with you that his request is a bit hasty. But the main question I offer is: Does he give as well as want to receive? Good oral must always be mutual, in my ... (read in full...)
Every time my girlfriend tries to give me a blowjob I feel sick!
Q. hi , everytime my girlfriends goes to give me a bj i feel sick. Other things we do im fine i have slept with her and i feel comfortable. she really wants to do it but i cant because i feel sick can anyone tell me why or help me ???...
A. 16 August 2008: What do you mean by the term, "I feel sick?" Do you think that she is doing something wrong? Too nasty? Too personal? Guess I'll stick my neck out and suggest that religious or other influences earlier in your life may have instilled some kind of ... (read in full...)
Guys! Does the head of your penis feel uncomfortable when touched?
Q. Question for the guys: I know that the head of a penis is very sensitive. But, when touched, rubbed, licked, or otherwise, does anybody else feel an uncomfortable sensation? Last night when my partner performed oral sex on me, the "head" area felt...
A. 16 August 2008: Never been a problem for me, thank goodness. I'm confused how penile attention could feel anything less than desirable stimulation with only a bit of a tickling sensation. ... (read in full...)
I get upset when my husband masturbates without me. Am I over-reacting?
Q. I Have been Married for going on 3 years i am 20 years old my husband is a few months younger than me. I love to watch him masturbate but when he does it with out me i get so so mad i feel like he doesnt need me or i am not satisfying him i have ...
A. 15 August 2008: Here's the fact: Even the most macho guy, and most beautiful woman, are about 95 percent or better likely to masturbate at least on occasion. I would suggest that as proven in many studies, beginning with Masters & Johnson, that most of us take the ... (read in full...)
If a guy had cum on his fingers and he fingers a girl, could she become pregnant?
Q. hi i just wondernding if you could help me when a boy fingeres a girl and he had cum on his fingers would the girl feel this? im so worried im pregnant even tho i aint due till next week please help x...
A. 15 August 2008: Yes it is possible, and "Tisha-1" provided excellent information, but that does not mean certain pregnancy. Remember that many couples have to try for years to procreate, but if you play it risky you may have to make difficult decisions. ... (read in full...)
I mean do all guys do this, and it's no big deal, or is it totally sleazy?
Q. I sent a very pretty girlfriend of mine to go work at my boyfriend's office as his secretary. She's 21, cute and little. At the time I didn't think much of it, I just knew he needed help. I can't work there b/c I have a FT job, and I was proud to be ...
A. 14 August 2008: I don't think that you should worry about this situation so much, and just keep pleasing your man as long as he is lso pleasing you. If that changes, then worry a bit more.... (read in full...)
Does my vagina smell fishy because I eat lots of fish?
Q. Dear ? I am wondering why my vagina smells? My boyfriend says it is because i eat lots of fish and I would like to know if this is true?? In anticiapaitonm, T...
A. 14 August 2008: In due respect to my female aunties answering, it is quite possible that a heavy diet of fish can result in a fairly strong "fishy smell" which is not all that unusual in the vagina of many women, regardless of diet. My personal experience includes ... (read in full...)
I met this cute, smart guy, had an encounter, a lot of fun and went on my way without a number or any way to contact him, he is constanly on my mind, what do I do to remove these thoughts?
Q. I met this great guy by total chance, and we hit it off right away. He was cute, built, and smart. We talked for hours and ended up doing more than just talking, if you catch my drift. I took off without catching his number or giving him mine, like ...
A. 14 August 2008: Next time you meet a mate like that, get the number.... (read in full...)
He goes to sleep after oral sex and leaves me all worked up!
Q. My boyfriend gets so tired after I give him oral sex to a point that he actually goes right to sleep. Although I am pleased at the fact that I do this to him, I get really turned on when I do it and have to go to sleep all worked up. Is th...
A. 14 August 2008: Right on, Yos ! The very best way to keep a gal in the crib is to take good care of her first . . . every time. My fairly good instructions for cunnilingus are still here on DearCupid by searching that word above. A good woman needs a lot of ... (read in full...)
He tells me how much he misses me over the phone, but never makes time to see me.
Q. My boyfriend of two months talks to me constantly on the phone and we live literally five minutes away from each other, but he just never has time to actually see me, but he tells me how much he misses me and wants to see me but we just never do. t...
A. 14 August 2008: In my opinion, you are being played like a rubber ball.... (read in full...)
I'm not physically attracted my boyfriend. I feel so shallow!
Q. My boyfriend is the sweetest man, he protects me,is loving, caring, and the perfect person for me. We have the most incredible sex life i could ever ask for and gives me everything i need BUT... i do not find him physically attractive! I feel ...
A. 14 August 2008: So . . . your boyfriend is an eight or nine out of 10? Perhaps not very good-looking? All I could suggest is that you have a better deal than many young women these days, but if you value a "pretty face" above all those other qualities, you may ... (read in full...)
He goes to sleep after oral sex and leaves me all worked up!
Q. My boyfriend gets so tired after I give him oral sex to a point that he actually goes right to sleep. Although I am pleased at the fact that I do this to him, I get really turned on when I do it and have to go to sleep all worked up. Is th...
A. 14 August 2008: In my opinion, oral sex is and should usually be a two-way activity and he should be giving you one or more orgasms via cunnilingus (oral stimulation of the clitoris and more), followed by a good 10 minutes or more of woman-on-top humping for ... (read in full...)
How does a woman know when a man is in love with her?
Q. I have a question for a male. How does a woman know when a man is in love with her? Thank u. ...
A. 14 August 2008: A few suggestions . . .
When he contacts you daily. When he holds your hand walking around most anywhere together. When he puts his arms around you while sleeping. When he kisses you at almost every meeting, especially on the neck too. When he most... (read in full...)
I need tips on positions to spice up our sex life.
Q. I want to try new sexual positions with my boyfriend. Does anyone have any suggestions that have worked out well with your own partners? Please no links to websites, etc. I just want suggestions. ...
A. 14 August 2008: It would help if we knew what you have tried and enjoyed. You've got your cowgirl ride (front or backwards), your doggie style, the side-by-side, the stand up, 69er, the squat, the sitting deep-style and of course man-on-top (missionary). Then you ... (read in full...)
I've never been a needy person, so I'm not expecting him to spend every minute with me...
Q. Hello I need some help here, I have been dating this guy for almost 6 months, we are exclusive to eachother and we have strong feelings for each other. we live one hour and a half appart in train so that's why we will see eachother normally 2 times ...
A. 14 August 2008: So . . . what is the question? That being closer is something that he would not like? It should be fine unless he is servicing other girlfriends.... (read in full...)
I mean do all guys do this, and it's no big deal, or is it totally sleazy?
Q. I sent a very pretty girlfriend of mine to go work at my boyfriend's office as his secretary. She's 21, cute and little. At the time I didn't think much of it, I just knew he needed help. I can't work there b/c I have a FT job, and I was proud to be ...
A. 14 August 2008: Duh ! If he is a normal heterosexual male and his heart is still beating, it will likely beat a bit faster when your pretty, petite girlfriend is nearby. What would you expect? You know him, and we do not, so whether he would make an advance or ... (read in full...)
How do you keep your man sexually interested so he does not wander "too much"?
Q. I want to know how do you keep your man sexually interested in you in the bedroom so he doesn't wander too much...
A. 13 August 2008: As usual, "Annalisa" and "baby duck" offer excellent advice, but I'm astounded by your statement, "so he doesn't wander too much." If you are in a loving and caring relationship, I would think that even one time is much too much.... (read in full...)
The first time he penetrated me I never bled, so now I'm scared he's going to think I was faking my virginity.
Q. Hi there! I've been with this guy for about a year and everything seems right. I was with him a couple of weeks back and we were discovering each other. He didnt go inside me, but by the time we finished, i was on my way home i was bleeding...
A. 13 August 2008: Your little bit of bleeding is probably the last thing on his mind.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to bleed the first couple of times you have sex?
Q. Ive had sex with my boyfriend twice.I've bled here and there both times and my vagina seems to be really tight.We both decided to lose our virginity to each other and we trust one another. What should I do about my vagina being so tight and is ...
A. 13 August 2008: Yes, a small to moderate amount of bleeding is perfectly normal when and after first sexual intercourse. Did you not learn this in school or elsewhere?... (read in full...)
Should I participate in an orgy with my boyfriend and his 2 best friends?
Q. well i recently turned 16, so i wouldnt be doin anything illegal, and ive been sexually active with my boyfriend for over a year now, so i have nothing to lose, exept my pride? maybe? i just dunno!! my boyfriends friends and me were out in town on ...
A. 13 August 2008: In my opinion, hell no.... (read in full...)
Do guys ever have sex with girls they aren't attracted to?
Q. Like if a really unattractive girl offered them sex, would they say no? Or will they have sex with just about anyone? Not counting if they are drunk of course....
A. 13 August 2008: This is a much older man's opinion, so take it for what it's worth. Beauty is much more than physical attraction. So yes, quite a few times in my life I have gladly and gratefully made love to women who were far less attractive in the face or body ... (read in full...)
5 questions for the guys!
Q. Hey guys I have got few questions for you. I want this to be answered preferably by men; 1) Why men ask or demand sex whether they are committed to you or not. 2) If a man loves a woman he wants sex and even if he is not in love he still wants s...
A. 12 August 2008: 1. It comes naturally, and it is a natural, healthy bodily process. If men (and women) did not enjoy and desire each other, none of us would be here.
2. Lust almost always precedes love, and if all goes well, develops into love.
3. You will kno... (read in full...)
I met this married man, who lives far away from me, we e-mail each other, and joke back and forth, he talks to me about his family, there is no romance, is this what people would call an emotional affair?
Q. I've being email keeping contact with this guy for a year and a half. we are friends, but our emails are friendly ones. He talks about his family and likes to update me of things going on with his life. We have share pics, jokes and thoughts. ...
A. 12 August 2008: Hmmm. Sounds like the beginning of a problem relationship in which you become the single mistress to a married man who wants extra sex on the side - in other words - Why don't you spend your time and effort cultivating relationships with available ... (read in full...)
Are there any other couples still using condoms after getting married?
Q. My husband and I are married less than a year and we're still using condoms just to play safe. We've tried without once or twice but are too scared. Just want to know if there are any couples who are still using condoms after getting married. Or...
A. 12 August 2008: Once married and reasonably certain that no sexually transmitted diseases are possible, it would seem a shame that a couple must continue the use of condoms - but I'm in America. We hear that birthrates are an issue in China, so is this the concern? ... (read in full...)
Problems with my sex life have completely destroyed my self-confidence!
Q. hi im not really sure if this is the right place to be asking this im 26 years old i have never been one for sleeping around but in my last sexual relationship a couple of years ago i couldnt get an erection i really liked this girl through my own ...
A. 11 August 2008: You should not be worrying about any of this, especially about "not being very big until erect." It is only the state of erection that counts, if at all. Just keep meeting the gals, ask them out and all will be well. Some will not and some will, and ... (read in full...)
Is it true that larger girls are better in bed that skinny girls?
Q. A friend of mine (male) told me tonight that larger ladies are really good in bed, i've always been big and it's kinda made me feel good, haha.. His girlfriend is a larger girl although she is absolutly beautiful, he says they have the best sex life...
A. 10 August 2008: Your question is: "Is it true that larger girls are better in bed that skinny girls?" My answer would have to be: Sometimes, but not necessarily. The most important thing is attitude - along with cleanliness, eagerness and humor.... (read in full...)
Why would he rather wack off than have sex with the girl that's right there?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for one year. I like to have sex regularly but I'm not a fiend or anything. He's a normal red blooded male, I know he looks at porn although it's not something we discuss, and I know he pleasures himself when ...
A. 10 August 2008: Well, this may not really be a big deal. That is up to you to decide after you have assessed what is actually going on with your lover. I'm no longer confident that you gave us an accurate description of this situation. ... (read in full...)
Why would he rather wack off than have sex with the girl that's right there?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for one year. I like to have sex regularly but I'm not a fiend or anything. He's a normal red blooded male, I know he looks at porn although it's not something we discuss, and I know he pleasures himself when ...
A. 10 August 2008: Are you saying that your boyfriend spends either more or equal time sexually releasing himself to mostly PG-13 magazine photographs of pretty girls than when he has an opportunity of having sex with you?... (read in full...)
Why are guys so sex obsessed?!
Q. I mean its fun and feels really good but girls can live without it. Girls like it a lot too but dont want to sleep with almost ever guy they see, unlike guys. I really dont understand why a guy will also lie or do anything just to get sex. I heard ...
A. 10 August 2008: By the way, for my friend "troubledtoomuch" and any others of more advanced age, I would like to offer my five reasons why the "older" folks among us, married or not, still get horny even though the obvious physiological main purpose is to encourage ... (read in full...)
A golden shower? Is this normal?
Q. My partner wants me to urninate on him while we are having sex. He also wants me to urinate on him. What does this mean? Is this normal? I have never heard of this activity? sincerely...
A. 10 August 2008: Yeah, I've heard of it. Saw it once in a naughty movie. It would not be a sexual stimulus for me or any woman I've ever known (to my knowledge), but to each their own . . .... (read in full...)
Did I ruin my chances by jumping into bed with my online lover?
Q. ok so i decided to try internet dating about 3 months ago, after coming out of a long term relationship which ended very badly (a year ago). anyway i've met this guy who i really like.. the problem is i cant tell how much he likes me. at the begi...
A. 10 August 2008: Well, from the American point of view (LOL), this does not seem all that unusual. It would not seem that some casual sexual activity at your age could be a disaster unless it results in unwanted pregnancy, disease or mental/physical harm. But you ... (read in full...)
Why are guys so sex obsessed?!
Q. I mean its fun and feels really good but girls can live without it. Girls like it a lot too but dont want to sleep with almost ever guy they see, unlike guys. I really dont understand why a guy will also lie or do anything just to get sex. I heard ...
A. 10 August 2008: The "anonymous" reader below offers some perceptive insight, although I disagree with some of it. Perhaps I can add some degree of understanding from the male point of view. While I am much older than many who ask questions on DearCupid, I well ... (read in full...)
Why would he rather wack off than have sex with the girl that's right there?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for one year. I like to have sex regularly but I'm not a fiend or anything. He's a normal red blooded male, I know he looks at porn although it's not something we discuss, and I know he pleasures himself when ...
A. 10 August 2008: You seem like a great girl and girlfriend to your man, and yes, we are trying to help you "wrap your head around this." I'm an older man (60 years), but allow me to suggest some explanation and perspective.
Twenty or 30 years ago, maybe even less... (read in full...)
Why would he rather wack off than have sex with the girl that's right there?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for one year. I like to have sex regularly but I'm not a fiend or anything. He's a normal red blooded male, I know he looks at porn although it's not something we discuss, and I know he pleasures himself when ...
A. 2 August 2008: Too much porn, or in the case of some guys, any amount of porn reduces the urge to be intimate with his woman. Every man is his own, but I can assure you that a good release with a woman is much better than a hand, at least in my case. ... (read in full...)
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