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How do I give my ex boyfriend head?
Q. Hiaa.. Well my problem is that i'm really close with my ex-ex-ex boyfriend we havent been together for ages and we have both had a fe relationships since but we have still talked to eachother and anythig we are single at the same time we have ...
A. 13 September 2008: I think that "bibsy" wrote just about the BEST instructions that I have ever read on this subject, and can only wish . . . ... (read in full...)
How can I meet a girl at a t a club?
Q. i'm goin clubbing tomorrow night. All my friends always get girls etc. How can i also find a girl have some fun? Any tips. Any experiences you lot had? Good? bad?...
A. 13 September 2008: You could try an attitude that I used many many years ago, and still do for that matter. If you are with one or more friends it helps - but "act" like the life of the party and be smiling and funny - having a good time. Also be (or act) VERY ... (read in full...)
How many sex partners is too many??
Q. I guess what I want to know is what is the average number of people someone my age (22) has been with? I know its different for everyone and Ill get answers saying whatever is right for me. Im just curious is all. I've been with 12, which I ...
A. 13 September 2008: When I was your age it was a very different time. That was about 38 years ago and America was emerging from the 60s into the 70s. It was a wild and crazy time, long before HIV and Aids, and still in the midst of the so-called sexual revolution. ... (read in full...)
I feel bad because my husband is frustrated as his orgasms are not as long and pleasurable! What's wrong?
Q. my husband and i have had great sex for 3years this past year when we have sex he gets frusterated because his orgasm isn't long and pleasurable and i feel bad and sometimes i don't even get satisfied he says it's not me oh and he used to have ...
A. 12 September 2008: Not much information offered, but all of us go through phases. At his probable age, any long-term result of this nature should be short-lived if he is healthy and has not lost interest in the relationship. One suggestion might be to spice things up ... (read in full...)
He ejaculated in my eye, now I'm having problems seeing with it.
Q. I have a really embarrassing problem so i thought i'd ask here where i can remain anonimous. I don't want to go to my doctor because im embarrassed by it. I was giving my boyfriend a blowjob a couple of days ago and something happened. Normally he t...
A. 12 September 2008: One fairly significant ingredient is salt, which is not good in the eyes. It should clear up eventually and the suggestion to keep rinsing by "sexseahot" is a good idea.... (read in full...)
With a pending election, my girlfriend is totally involved in the political scene, and I am feeling neglected, as she has little time for me, how can I talk to her about what I feel, in a positive way?
Q. Hi everyone. With the election going on, my gf is obsessed with it. Participating online discussion, watching news all the time. I tried not to talk politics with her because that will only lead to more argument. However, now she to...
A. 11 September 2008: Just be her respite from it all whenever she needs to take a break for awhile, but let her do her thing. Be considerate and understanding and she will appreciate you. ... (read in full...)
My mom turned forty-eight today, and it frightened me, she is not sick or anything, but I worry that my parents are getting older, and they will die, how do I stop worrying about that and enjoy them while we are all still here?
Q. My mom turned 48 today, and it scared me. Lately I've been worrying about my parents growing old and dying. Not that they're in bad health but it always happens eventually. And it just makes me so sad to see them get older. So how can I get over ...
A. 11 September 2008: Good grief girl ! Age 48 is a young person today. You are fretting over nothing, unless your parents lead an excessively dangerous or destructive lifestyle. Please relax and enjoy your folks all you can while they are so young. Hell, I woke up one ... (read in full...)
Could he have mistaken thrush for chlamydia?
Q. a guy i had slept with accused me of giving him chlamydia when we had sex last week. he told me he had been checked up and had it..so i went to get checked out, but am still awaiting the results. he told another guy i had slept with that he should ...
A. 11 September 2008: Great news girl! And "Tisha-1" has a good suggestion to steer clear of that guy and others who may have spread rumors about you. Best wishes.... (read in full...)
I believe this much older guy will only use my friend!
Q. Hi all. Just a curious question. I have a friend whos 20 dating a 42 year old man with a 15 year old kid.......am i wrong for thinking he's a freak? And now she ses she has feelings for him! Its like dude where do u think this is gonna go? I tell ...
A. 10 September 2008: Ok, so I would certainly be an old guy - in your opinion - but I think that you are quite immature and very judgmental. In these times when it seems that every prior taboo about relationships have vanished - such as interracial for just one - then ... (read in full...)
Where exactly is my G-spot and what can I do with it?
Q. This is such an embarrassing question... where is my G-spot and how do I use it?...
A. 10 September 2008: The so-called G-spot is generally located two to three inches inside on the vaginal wall toward the front. It may feel like a small bump or slight mound on some women, or it sometimes feels like a small area with a different texture but little or no ... (read in full...)
Porn and sex, not so black and white...
Q. Married for two yrs, one child. My husband and I have sex daily. He orgasms at least twice a day by sex, oral, and you name it, i'm game. Yet he still looks at porn. One, i am completely amazed he has it in him, and two it hurts that despite my best ...
A. 9 September 2008: Allow me to attempt some kind of perspective as an older man who has enjoyed watching a fair amountl of pornography in the past 15 years or so (partly blamed on being totally alone in an extreme rural location for eight years), but I also admit ... (read in full...)
Our attempt at having sex failed because I was too tight and he was too big. What can I do about this?
Q. umm ok so me and my bf are really really close. and we've done just about everything...except sex. we tried the other nite and...hes huge...and i think i was to tight. both of us r virgings...i dont kno what to do. it was really emabrass...
A. 9 September 2008: To be truthful, you two are mainly just too inexperienced, not to mention legally too young. But I understand - abstinence is nothing more than wishful thinking by adults 90 percent of the time. It meant nothing to me either - beginning about 45 ... (read in full...)
How can I talk other women knowing I'll never pleasure them sexually?
Q. hi, i dont know where to start, i am married with four grown up children, ok here we go, my youngest is 27 she has a girl 8 years old and a boy 3 years old. she was on heroin and me and my wife went through hell with her, we got her of it eventua...
A. 9 September 2008: Erectile dysfunction in most cases is treatable or can be helped to some degree, but I'm sure you know that. If your situation is not treatable, the the anonymous reader's suggestion to seek a woman for companionship "only" is a good one. Try online ... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for me to get her back or have I been put in the friend zone?
Q. Long story short, I went out with this girl for a month, and eventually she broke it off stating she liked me more as a friend and she wasn't ready for a serious relationship. A couple of months pass and we stay friends. And she starts behaving ...
A. 8 September 2008: Try to remember this throughout your life: Most women will end up hurting you. If you are normal, however, you cannot do without a woman at least occasionally. Just learn to walk away as easily as they will dump you.... (read in full...)
She was giving me a blow job but... nothing came out!
Q. Question is quite simple. I received a blowjob from my new girlfriend for the first time today and I just...didn't get off. She was going at it for at least 10 or 15 minutes and still nothing (although I have to admit it felt greattttt). Is this...
A. 7 September 2008: Was it just the first time with this girlfriend, or was it YOUR first fellatio (blow-job)? If you have never received a blow-job, then the new experience may simply have been too unusual for you to relax and release. In either case, and if she is ... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex last week. So after 7 days into it... would she be showing signs already that she might be pregnant??
Q. Hello, so, I am engaged, with a woman that I absolutely love, care for, and means the world to me. Randomly today she told me she was going to take a pregnancy test, she said it was nothing and no reason why... well I finally got it out of her. ...
A. 7 September 2008: Pregnancy is possible at anytime you near an excited penis into very close proximity to any fertile woman's pubic area of interest. It really depends on some degree to the particular person's menstrual cycle.
In truth, and based upon some expe... (read in full...)
Pre-cum plus underwear. Is she pregnant? Advice!!
Q. Can a girl get pregnant from from pre-cum if both of us were wearing underwear?? ok me and my girlfriend were doing stuff, n we started striping each other. well i had pre-cum not semen on my underwear and were both were just in underwear only a...
A. 7 September 2008: You are venturing dangerously. ... (read in full...)
My roomate's womanizing habits are affecting me!
Q. I am a freshmen in college and my roommate is a womanizer. Within the past two weeks he has walked in the room with 6 different girls. I feel like this is going to be a problem later on in the year. I feel strangely guilty that I know he is going ...
A. 6 September 2008: Agreeing with "q1605" to some degree - you may learn some useful techniques from close proximity, or possibly more valuable, end up with one or more worthwhile girlfriends on the bounce. Perhaps one or more are not just sluts. Example: MANY years ... (read in full...)
Is it considered cheating if I masturbate to porn?
Q. I have a question for the aunts and uncles of DearCupid. I'm a 18 year old male starting university in a few weeks. I have a girlfriend, the same age as me, who is also going to uni, but its a 3 hour distance and i wont get to see her as much. The...
A. 6 September 2008: It is quite normal unless it begins to replace intimate relationships with your mate, girlfriend, wife - whatever.... (read in full...)
Cosmo says sex should last 45 minutes. What do you do all that time?
Q. Hi I have a question about sex. Basically, I just read in cosmopolitan that 34% of a poll of men thought the best length of time to spend having sex was 45 minutes. As a virgin, I was just wondering how you have sex for a length of tim eth...
A. 5 September 2008: I'm very surprised that such an answer came from men rather than women. LOL ! We usually hear more that women are unsatisfied due to the "quick sex" that a majority of men reportedly provide and possibly prefer. But in a perfect woman's world, men ... (read in full...)
Do guys care how a vagina looks like?
Q. okay so ive just been watchin this documentry called the perfect vagina and baslicly its a woman makin a documenntry goin round and explorin vaginas lol, shes been askin men if the way a vagina looks puts them off sex and the amount that have said ...
A. 4 September 2008: My friend "baby duck," I believe that you understand that I'm not at all thin-skinned about anything, so I absolutely do not feel that you was criticizing my thought rather than simply offering your own valued opinion. I highly respect all your ... (read in full...)
I failed again in a relaionship and I feel like one because of that...
Q. I hate myself so much most of the time. I am not happy with myself. I feel like a failaure 'cause for the second time that I try a relationship it is not working. I've been crying a lot lately... I don't know what to do... I am depress 'cause my ...
A. 4 September 2008: As an anonymous reader your age is undisclosed, but at any age all of us should remain optimistic in life. Especially if you are young, there is simply way too much future ahead to even think of things like desperation or giving-up. You will ... (read in full...)
Do guys care how a vagina looks like?
Q. okay so ive just been watchin this documentry called the perfect vagina and baslicly its a woman makin a documenntry goin round and explorin vaginas lol, shes been askin men if the way a vagina looks puts them off sex and the amount that have said ...
A. 4 September 2008: Ok, well my friend and the eminent advisor "baby duck" may somewhat take me to task for using the term "vulva" rather than vagina for the overall visual look of a woman's sexual apparatus. It's just much more accurate - although snatch, muff, box, ... (read in full...)
Do guys care how a vagina looks like?
Q. okay so ive just been watchin this documentry called the perfect vagina and baslicly its a woman makin a documenntry goin round and explorin vaginas lol, shes been askin men if the way a vagina looks puts them off sex and the amount that have said ...
A. 4 September 2008: Most of the general population of men rarely see an actual vagina, which medically is the canal beyond the "vaginal opening" that forms a primary portion of a woman's reproductive system. Generally speaking , it requires the special spreading tools ... (read in full...)
What can I do to have an orgasm?
Q. my name is fanny, my question is: i never feel a orgasm before, just if i do it myself.what i can do? i really want to know how that feels?i take birth control pills do you think this is why i cant feel one? i love my husband and i tell him ...
A. 2 September 2008: You are not alone. According to many surveys and studies, a majority of the women worldwide are less than fully satisfied with the typical sexual lifestyle provided by their mates. The problem originates in part from ignorance on the part of most ... (read in full...)
Why do women bring such sentiment and emotion into the bedroom? Why can't they just leave it at the door?...
Q. with most of the girls ive been with, after i slept with them they developed intense emotional feelings even when we weren't close to intimate prior to the events. so my question is this, why do women bring such sentiment and emotion into the ...
A. 2 September 2008: I'll agree completely with "Aunty Em." When a girl allows you to enjoy her intimacy, she is giving a lot to you. It is, or should be, an emotional and meaningful experience for both partners. If you find a female who feels absolutely no sentiment ... (read in full...)
My husband watches porn, but won't have sex with me.
Q. My husband is not interested in sex with me, no matter what I do, and, believe me, I have tried everything. He prefers unusual porn sites (women trampling men, women smothering men) and I have offered to do these things to him but he says he does ...
A. 1 September 2008: Although I firmly support and agree with the freedom of expression in America and most of the Western World, pornography is insidious and addictive. Under certain circumstances, it can change relationships and alter a person's behavior. This is ... (read in full...)
How can I suggest to my girlfriend that she shaves down there?
Q. Dear Cupid... Me and my girlfriend have just started having full sex, but before we started having full sex, i used to give her oral sex and she really enjoys it. The problem with the oral sex, is that she has NEVER shaved down there, and its...
A. 31 August 2008: In my opinion, "babewithnrains" and "Mushgirl" offered a basically good idea - trim yourself a bit and see what she thinks. Or suggest a bit of trimming as a mutual activity. On a personal note, my preference is not a "shaved" pubic area on a woman, ... (read in full...)
How do I attract the women I actually fancy?
Q. Hi. Some women I genuinely feel are intimidated by me. Others find me rather personable. Why is this? Guess which ones I fancy (the former!). How do I attract the ones I really fancy, then? Thanks and bye for now! ...
A. 31 August 2008: Well, allow me to offer my personal observation. Most of my adult life has been as a married man (23 years or so). Otherwise, I have always responded to the women who took notice of me, and have spent thousands of nights in bed with them. Maybe they ... (read in full...)
I don't stay erect for too long during sex
Q. i seem not to be able to stay erect very long during sex, i only last for about 5 minutes or less, when i dont have sex i masterbate at least 3 times a day, what could the problem be??...
A. 31 August 2008: You are possibly masturbating a bit too much, based on your own admission that you indulge "at least 3 times a day." It tends to diminish your sensitivity. In my experience, which is all I have to offer, I usually quit any such activity when I have ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's past is causing me pain!
Q. I'm currently involved in a serious relationship with someone.. I just can't seem to get over her past. It bothers me even more that i know every guy she's been with and see them around my town every once in a while.. It eats away at me and i'm not ...
A. 30 August 2008: If your girlfriend has a storied past with multiple partners, and you encounter her previous lovers frequently, then you would seem to be setting yourself up for constant pain as you say. In these times, perhaps many young women sport more ... (read in full...)
Do guys prefer anal sex over vaginal sex?
Q. Last night my husband and I were drunk, and we did anal sex. He seemed to really get into it, he came in less than a minute. It didn't hurt because I was drunk but I don't want to do it again. My butt is bleeding a little too. My fear is that now he ...
A. 30 August 2008: As an older man, I used to be considered quite progressive with sex, such as being rather promiscuous, using many positions in many places and engaging in oral activities beginning 45 years ago. Guess that times and ways have changed, because in all ... (read in full...)
What can I do to have better orgasms?
Q. When i sleep with my girl she gets this fullfilling orgasm HUGE BLAST of an Orgasm!!! and she even had a liquid come out of her too. she starts screaming very hard. and i ask her if it pleasurable and she said yes but i am afraid to tell her that i ...
A. 29 August 2008: One more note here. After providing your partner the "great pleasure" mentioned, ask her to suck you off if she is willing. If you have not experienced this ultimate kind of release, it may be the passage to a new sexual realm for you. If that does ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if you are going to urinate or ejaculate?
Q. How can you tell if you are going th ouinate or ejaculate?...
A. 28 August 2008: When erect and sexually stimulated, a sphincter valve shuts off the urethra tube and only semen can pass through. You cannot do either, so do not worry about it. ... (read in full...)
What can I do to have better orgasms?
Q. When i sleep with my girl she gets this fullfilling orgasm HUGE BLAST of an Orgasm!!! and she even had a liquid come out of her too. she starts screaming very hard. and i ask her if it pleasurable and she said yes but i am afraid to tell her that i ...
A. 28 August 2008: This situation as described seems very unusual to me. You do not even reveal if you ejaculate. A "little urge to go pee" is hardly a normal release for a man. If you are a healthy dude, then any lack of the ability to finish is certainly suspect and ... (read in full...)
I don't want to have sex ever, which is making her mad at me!
Q. I've been with her for 4 years already, and I'm 29, and she's 27. She and I love each other really really much. She's mad at me for not making love with her. She thinks she's not beautiful for me. I keep on telling her she's the most beautiful and ...
A. 28 August 2008: Well, to each their own. In your case, I think that you will mostly be alone, but you every right in the free world to live your private life as you wish.... (read in full...)
Have I sold myself cheap? Have I spoilt what could have been a 'proper' relationship by having sex with my co-worker and friend?
Q. I'm just following up on a question I posed on 12 August, which explained how I had sex with someone I have worked with and been friends with for nearly 3 years. (We are late 30s/early 40s and both fairly recently single after long-term ...
A. 27 August 2008: Sounds like a good sign, and that you are "playing your cards" right. In my opinion, you should still let him lead the way. Stay friendly but do not make any moves until he begins chasing you. Generally, men like at least a bit of a challenge, ... (read in full...)
I can't feel when I'm cumming or not.
Q. Carnal knowledge is one of our recreational activities. We're soo active when comes to this. my problem was, I can't feel if I'm coming or not. I just knew that I'm wet. In short, I'm not satisfied. Not with the performance of my boyfrien...
A. 27 August 2008: Getting "wet" during sexual activity is a good start, but most women require quite an bit more than that to experience orgasm. In my opinion, when you actually experience "cumming" you will certainly know it. Based on the very limited information ... (read in full...)
I've become increasingly bored with our relationship and with my boyfriend, but I still love him. Please help.
Q. I love my boyfriend. He is extremely sweet and kind and we have been dating for more than three years. However lately I have become increasingly bored with our relationship and with him. I keep having these crazy thoughts like he's not good-looking ...
A. 26 August 2008: There is no perfect relationship match. Happiness is contentment, achieved by having worked at it.... (read in full...)
Is there a man alive who's ever satisfied with the woman he has, at least visually?
Q. Is it possible that a man would not be intererested in other women once he is in love?? for example my desire for other men completely ceased when I met my husband, but it seems he still has a roaming eye. Once I bought my house I lost interest in t...
A. 26 August 2008: It seems to me that you would require a man not to be a man. In my opinion, your question is a trap. To clarify, I would say that a man can be perfectly happy with his bride, but that does not mean he cannot appreciate the appearance of another ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dumped me to go find himself. How could he just walk away so easily?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend of fours recently dumped me two weeks ago. He said he needed to find himself, although he is 22 years old. Our relationship was a on and off one but this has been the longest time within the four years that we have not...
A. 25 August 2008: In my opinion, the most difficult part of a break-up (and I have experienced some big ones over my 40 adult years) for a man is thinking that the female partner is ok with it. There must have been some situation with the relationship that triggered ... (read in full...)
Have I sold myself cheap? Have I spoilt what could have been a 'proper' relationship by having sex with my co-worker and friend?
Q. I'm just following up on a question I posed on 12 August, which explained how I had sex with someone I have worked with and been friends with for nearly 3 years. (We are late 30s/early 40s and both fairly recently single after long-term ...
A. 25 August 2008: Ummm. Well, I'm not him. Only he is him, but in my opinion, the first moment you see him again you should be friendly but cool, until you can assess his response to you. It's not "as if nothing happened," but the ball in his court, so to speak. If ... (read in full...)
Could he have mistaken thrush for chlamydia?
Q. a guy i had slept with accused me of giving him chlamydia when we had sex last week. he told me he had been checked up and had it..so i went to get checked out, but am still awaiting the results. he told another guy i had slept with that he should ...
A. 23 August 2008: Although I have never contracted chlamydia, I know that the symptoms rarely show up before a week, usually longer. Some discharge is often the first symptom for both genders, then additional things like pain may occur. Some folks have no obvious ... (read in full...)
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