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Why can't I ejeculate with masturbation or handjobs
Q. why can't I cum when I masterbate Im not circumsized and I haven't ejeculated from masterbating or handjobs...
A. 28 December 2009: Guess it simply doesn't work for some guys. Find a girl willing to do oral, and if that doesn't do it, you may need to see a doctor. ... (read in full...)
What's the safest way to cum inside my girlfriend without getting her pregnant?
Q. My girlfriend really wants me to cum inside her, while yes this sounds very hot, Im at the same time very apprehensive to do it because i'm not ready for a kid, she said she is going to get on the pill so we'll wait 7 days before we have sex, but my ...
A. 28 December 2009: Yep, a vasectomy is safest, but often irreversible and then you can never father a child. If she is properly taking hormonal birth control (the pill) and you use a condom, that's about as safe as it gets. Of course, you are not really cumming inside ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband think showing me his flaccid penis is a turn on?
Q. Married 6 years and very happy. My husband is 15 years older than me but eveyone who knows would say I am the mature party in our relationship. We have a toddler and our sex life is gearing back up now that nights are less interrupted and back to ...
A. 28 December 2009: Hmmm. Well, you've been married to the guy six years and now with child, which in my mind means that you simply tell him whatever you think and feel! Wake the dude up! and tell him it's a big turn-off. You are his wife, damn it!... (read in full...)
Unsure about bringing another man into the marriage?
Q. I am confused as I said before I am married , and my husband has asked me several times about bringing another man into our bed. We even have named my dildo, at this point I am fine with the dildo in my mouth, or pussy while my husbands penis is i...
A. 28 December 2009: Would you like to have experience with another man? If not, then simply refuse to go along with the idea.... (read in full...)
Finding it hard to forgive and forget my partner's cheating..advice?
Q. I found out one month ago that my partner of 2 years has been cheating on me, by talking to girls online, on cam, swapping rude pics, flirting etc. I couldnt believe it... but I forgave him, for a few reasons. The first is that i love him. Secondly, ...
A. 28 December 2009: This is similar to the very prominent pornography problems we hear about so frequently. As wonderful as the new onlinr technology advances may be, there is a downside. For instance, pornography has become so easily attainable that many almost prefer ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to videotape me with two other girls!
Q. When my girlfriend and I began to date, she told me she wouldn't mind if I had "women on the side" as long as she was #1. I laughed and dismissed the idea as silly at the time. She is from Indonesia (very smart and a citizen of the U.S. now) and I ...
A. 28 December 2009: My question to her would be, "Who do you have in mind?" Does she have a couple of girlfriends who have agreed or expressed interest? And additionally, I would recommend that you tell her to keep your face out of the picture, and make sure of it in ... (read in full...)
Will sex affect my relationship with my best friend?
Q. So heres the situation: me[im male 18] and my best freind [female19] both virgins. best freinds for 4 years before we dated. been going out for nearly a year now. We are both close to ready to having sex. I want to do what i need t...
A. 28 December 2009: In my experience, for what it may be worth, sex is or can be the glue that binds your relationship as long as it is loving and meaningful. My women have always been my best friends, and learning to satisfy each other sexually was one of the best ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to videotape me with two other girls!
Q. When my girlfriend and I began to date, she told me she wouldn't mind if I had "women on the side" as long as she was #1. I laughed and dismissed the idea as silly at the time. She is from Indonesia (very smart and a citizen of the U.S. now) and I ...
A. 28 December 2009: Well first of all, you need not bring it up. You say that she has suggested this several times, so perhaps she will advance the matter again. If you wish to encourage her to suggest it, then the next time the two of you are doing something sexual, ... (read in full...)
Do some girls just not like oral sex?
Q. Hello, well i'm with my GF for 6 months, and we love and trust each other, maybe in 2-3 months she will move to my place.We're having sex really often each 2-3 days, but as i noticed she likes blowjobs but dislike when i'm performing it to her(oral ...
A. 27 December 2009: Many women will literally melt at the tip of your tongue if you are good at it. Fine cunnilingus is a matter of timing and technique, which I think most women greatly enjoy if performed well. But if you can otherwise first please your girlfriend, ... (read in full...)
I think I've desensetized my penis due to masturbating, if I stop this will it get better? How can I stop?
Q. Hi there. Im 20 years old and i have been masturbating since i was about 12-13, and problaby 2 a day since i was 15. Now when i was about 17 i started having sex and ever since that time i have had problems ejaculating. Recently this problem has ...
A. 27 December 2009: Well I agree that masturbation can desensitize to a degree, but it is not like some incurable disease. On the other hand (no pun intended), it is a 99 percent probability that you will occasionally masturbate throughout your life, as most of us do. ... (read in full...)
First time horror sex story--help!
Q. Hi all, Lets get right into it. So I've been playing around with a girl I'm dating for a few months. It comes down to us having sex and, a long story short, I couldn't maintain an erection (yes its all right to gasp, even smile a little. I did af...
A. 27 December 2009: Hey dude, not a big deal. That kind of thing happens to most of us at one time or another, especially in the early attempts. Yes, it's called performance anxiety. Allow me to relate a story:
Back when I was still very young, about 17 as I reca... (read in full...)
How long goes it take?
Q. What's the avarage time that it takes for a woman to reach orgasm?...
A. 27 December 2009: It depends on what you are doing with, for or to her. And it greatly depends upon what you have done in foreplay, if anything. I'm agreed that there is no average, but a basic range of about ten minutes to two hours seems about right. lol... (read in full...)
Unmanly stance of my penis
Q. Hi Everybody! Could anyone help me with this problem? When my penis is erect, it doesn't lie down on my tummy; it stands upright, pointing at the ceiling. Then when I stand up, the penis , if it is very hard and if I'm very aroused, simply keeps ...
A. 26 December 2009: Yes, you're normal now. Just begin to worry when you reach middle age or more and have trouble getting it up at all. ... (read in full...)
Trapped! How do I get out of this rut?
Q. I get that there are people worse off than me... but it just breaks my heart that i have hopes, dreams, and talents that are going to waste and my life is passing me by because I don´t have the money to fulfill my hopes and dreams. This sounds li...
A. 26 December 2009: Well, since you are apparently a young woman in America, you can be sure that the overall national economic situation is not going to improve under the currently elected government officials. All you can do is try to find the best possible use for ... (read in full...)
Friend having an affair, husband knows but doesn't do anything!
Q. guys can someone translate this please.. a married friend of mine is having an emotional affair with a married woman whose thier famillies are friends it is a common dilemma but the confusing part is her husband who knows what she is doing but ...
A. 26 December 2009: Following suggestions offered at the request of the poster:
While I have never had experience even similar to what you described, it is hard for me to understand myself. But I think that, for one thing, it is not really any of your business and ... (read in full...)
Suffering from retroactive jealousy! Any tips?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 6 months now. We have known each other through work for 3 years prior to getting together. We have an awesome relationship but there is something that still haunts me after 6 months, and that is the ...
A. 26 December 2009: Okay. Well, this is YOUR generation, dude. It is obvious that sexual freedom (or indiscretion) has reached a point that many of you may have to deal with this issue of young women who have already been extremely active.
Now in my 60s, I remain fore... (read in full...)
Am I just fooling him and myself?
Q. Ok so I've met a guy on some social networking site. We have corresponded over that SNS, then later we've moved onto the messenger. Since then, we've chatted almost everyday. Before I get to the gist of my narrative, I'll give you first a brief ba...
A. 25 December 2009: You are very young and, in my opinion, you should never consider any online relationship to mean being "in love" until there is a face-to-face meeting. Even then, love is something that takes time.... (read in full...)
Do other girls do this? He's changed things up in our sex life!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now and our sexlife is great, but the last month, he has been changing things around and I'm wondering if any other girls do this. He will start with vagina sex, then go to anal, then immediately after ...
A. 24 December 2009: After either vaginal or anal penetration, it only takes a couple minutes for a guy to step into the restroom and rinse off well before oral completion. That's what I've always done for my ladies. ... (read in full...)
No feeling during my first blowjob
Q. I just got my first blow job today, and for some reason when she went to do it i just couldn't feel it. it just felt like i was moving my wet hand on it. she wasn't sucking and she didn't want me to look the first time... could something be wrong ...
A. 23 December 2009: The art of fellatio (sucking dick), both giving and receiving, is not something that either partner excels at right away. As some others advise, it takes practice. She was probably a lot more nervous about it than you, and you are inexperienced. Do ... (read in full...)
Made to feel bad for not wanting anal sex??
Q. Hi there, I just wanted some advice! I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year. He's a gentleman, charming and does everything under the sun for me. There's just one thing that's concerning me. I first let me boyfriend try anal sex about ...
A. 23 December 2009: Be honest and tell him straight out that it's really not for you. Consider giving him head if you haven't already, which is better and more exciting (in my opinion).... (read in full...)
My husband says he watches porn because I don't look the same after having kids. Should I leave?
Q. I am thinking of leaving my husband, is this too extreme? When we met I made it very clear to him that I'm not intereted in being with someone who uses porn. I find it insulting and disrespectful. At the time he said this is fine as he is not inte...
A. 23 December 2009: Your husband's comment that you "dont look the same and he wants to see women who look like I did before having kids" is quite disturbing. You do not need to hear that kind of crap from your husband and father of two children. There is no way that I ... (read in full...)
Am I scared or just being smart?
Q. I met a wonderful guy about 3-wks ago and I feel that he is moving entirely too fast. He is about 9-yrs my senior. Has been married x 4 (now divorced 8-yrs). *He says he is crazy about me *He wants me to move with in with him *It seems he only...
A. 22 December 2009: There should be no big hurry, and his great haste signals potential problems. You are absolutely NOT being unreasonable and are wise to tread carefully here. ... (read in full...)
She is too tight, how can we solve this?
Q. me and my gf have tried intercourse 5-6 times. my penis is not circumcized and I am her first sexual partner. I have had sex before, but this girl is just too tight. my penis penetrates just about an inch inside her and my foreskin is pushed back ...
A. 22 December 2009: The only advice I can offer, based on some previous experience with very petite women, is to be very slow, very patient. After about a half hour of foreplay, including oral stimulation to her vagina and clitoris, during which she has hopefully ... (read in full...)
What's a good present for your friend-with-benefits?
Q. I met this guy at work during the summer and we've been in what could be considered a casual relationship for the past 5months, meaning that we have a sexual relationship but we also do just hang out and talk. It's very relaxed, no obligations. ...
A. 22 December 2009: A nice card and a great blow job would probably suffice, especially if the oral satisfaction is not already part of the repertoire. If it is, then do something a bit different this time. Perhaps add a bottle of wine or a case of beer. ... (read in full...)
Please don't lecture me, I need advice on what I should do next!
Q. i have recently had unprotected sex several times within the past month or two. lately i have been feeling nauseous, tired for no reason at all, having weird food cravings, going to the bathroom more, and my breasts have been sore. i have had what i ...
A. 22 December 2009: Just wait another few days and test again, then get on the pill. No lecture, just good advice. And most of us would strongly advise condoms these days, unless both participants have been thoroughly tested for sexually transmitted diseases. ... (read in full...)
Am I going to have to kiss him after he goes down on me?
Q. i want to get eaten out. but idk how it feels. or even if i should let my boyfriend do it. it doesn't bother me that he is licking and sucking my vagina. but im going to have to kiss him after. ....
A. 22 December 2009: For some 46 years of sexual activity, at least 41 years of which included girlfriends or wives swallowing my cum, they rarely wanted a kiss right away.
Typically, they had already enjoyed multiple orgasms, and we both pretty much expended. Perh... (read in full...)
18 year old boyfriend can't keep it up!
Q. Ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for three months and it is going really well. We have run into an issue while having sex. It is usually amazing but for some reason he can't keep it up. He's a healthy 18 yr. old so this is totally weird if ...
A. 22 December 2009: Are the governments putting something in the water? There seems to be an unexplained and increased issue with healthy young men unable to hold an erection. Extreme stress, worry or performance anxiety might affect the ability to remain erect for ... (read in full...)
Is This Unrequited Love?
Q. So first I'm married with three kids. Five years ago I joined a gym and, cutting it short, met a lady who I instantly fell in love with. It was two years before I spoke to her, I wasn't looking for an affair, but then we became very close and spent ...
A. 22 December 2009: Married with three children but in love with another woman with whom you have never made love? Maybe there are a lot of details missing here, but I think you just need to regroup in your mind. First of all, forget the other woman. ... (read in full...)
How can we sneak away or be quiet enough that no one knows what we are doing?
Q. Hi, I am 18 yrs old and have been dating my bf for 2 yrs he is 21. We are sexual activity and have a very good sex life. We haven't seen each other in a little over 6 weeks, and tomorrow I will be flying out to spend christmas with him and his ...
A. 22 December 2009: Well, I believe that is a problem that he needs to solve. If he is 21, he certainly has a car or driver's license.... (read in full...)
Is this wrong? That I asked her for a kiss?
Q. If you ask a girl if you could kiss her and see where it'd would go. Is that rude? I thought this girl was going to end up giving me another chance to be with her.. So when I dropped her home.. I gave her a hug, and very gentleman like, grabbed ...
A. 21 December 2009: If a woman turns away from me when I offer a kiss, she becomes history. ... (read in full...)
I have no answers to my emails from USA boyfriend
Q. last month i have met a guy from U.S, he is such a sweet guy to me, i confront that i like him so much, i love the way that he talk, i like the way that he smile at me,i think that i really fall in love with him and it seems to me that he also likes ...
A. 21 December 2009: Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but distance can make enduring love impossible. You may not be able to forget, nor is that necessary, but you must move on. Your future is waiting for you.... (read in full...)
How come they cant see past the little inperfections and see ME!
Q. Oh boy, I am lost. I'm 16 and have never had a boy friend nor have I ever been what the idiot guys at school call "Fuckable." Which is being #1 Skinny. #2 wear 3lbs of makeup that makes you look like some cliche teeny bopper popstar. and #3 have ...
A. 21 December 2009: Well, a few things are certain. You are clever, intelligent and have a great sense of humor. You may have a great future as a writer. And one other thing - you are still very young. Way too young to begin amassing kittens. Just hang in there girl, ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend worried about my reputation?
Q. what does it mean when your bf says he doesnt want u hanging out with certain people. mind u all of u grew up together and when i was wayyy younger i kissed one of them thats it. i am a virgin. does this mean he doesnt trust me ? worried about my ...
A. 21 December 2009: That could be a strong indication that he is a control freak. The problem is that he may become increasingly overbearing. ... (read in full...)
My husband keeps cheating so what do I do?
Q. My husband keeps cheating on me He gives me large amounts of money take care of his kids and pay all my bills we have been married for 5 years and have 3 beautiful girls ages 4, 3, 2, I'm 24 and he's 28 He's never home I'm gettng tired of this and ...
A. 21 December 2009: If not for your children, those innocent baby girls, my suggestion would be for you to exit the marriage. But the children are most important, although your husband is apparently a total jerk and cares little if what you say is certain.
It is said... (read in full...)
Why the reason for women marrying at a younger age?
Q. in our society, when there is age difference between husband and wife, i notice 99% time husband is older. Statistics also say that women generally get married at younger age than men throughout the world. what do you think the reason for that?...
A. 21 December 2009: It is tradition in most cultures that women marry or otherwise have relations with older men because the older men sometimes, but not always, know better how to please. I think that many younger women also equate older men paternally. ... (read in full...)
What did he mean? Is he just looking for more work, or does he want to see me personally?
Q. Hi, I am in need of some advice from a male perspective! I wont bore everyone with a long story so basically I met this guy the other day after he came round to my house to carry out some work. From the moment I opened the door I thought "wow"! We ...
A. 21 December 2009: To "rhythmandblues2" I just think that it may be a subtle hint. Generally it would not be wise to mix business with an obvious come on. That can get a person fired, but by leaving a phone number and a hint, it gives the woman an opportunity to later ... (read in full...)
Sex with 2 guys, messed up on b/c and now wondering if I could be pregnant?
Q. I'm so confused. I guess maybe I should be asking a dr this, but I just wanna kno if I'm bugging or what? I been on the pill for about six mnths now. I had unprotected sex with guy a on dec 6th nd again on dec 13th. He pulled out both times. The ...
A. 21 December 2009: If you are pregnant and the child is conceived, it may be obvious who the father is based on features and appearance. Of course, the father is responsible and you will likely need a paternity test to prove fatherhood and thereby receive assistance ... (read in full...)
Do women prefer leaner guys?
Q. just wondered if women like big muscualar lean guys, like body builder type guys or prefer the slimmer skinny build? i ask this as i dont get much attention from women and im hoping to slim down from 225 to 205 lbs. im a muscular guy and thought ...
A. 21 December 2009: As long as a guy is weighted in reasonable proportion, I think that most women consider brawn the least. Most women do seem to be more attracted to facial good looks, personality, sense of humor and confidence in a man.... (read in full...)
Would you still marry your spouse if you knew then what you know now?
Q. To all the married couples, ten years or more: 1. If you can go back in time knowing what you know now about your spouse, would you still marry him or her? 2. If you won a large jackpot lottery of millions, would you stay with your spouse?...
A. 21 December 2009: No, but it was not her past - it was who she became and what she did to me in divorce. So I no longer have a spouse, but can I still win the millions?... (read in full...)
Is it sex if you...?
Q. is it sex if you go through the motions of sex but don't do actual sex?...
A. 21 December 2009: It is sexual activity but it is not sexual intercourse.... (read in full...)
What did he mean? Is he just looking for more work, or does he want to see me personally?
Q. Hi, I am in need of some advice from a male perspective! I wont bore everyone with a long story so basically I met this guy the other day after he came round to my house to carry out some work. From the moment I opened the door I thought "wow"! We ...
A. 21 December 2009: It's man talk for 'I would like to get-it-on with you, call me if you also want to."... (read in full...)
Sex with 2 guys, messed up on b/c and now wondering if I could be pregnant?
Q. I'm so confused. I guess maybe I should be asking a dr this, but I just wanna kno if I'm bugging or what? I been on the pill for about six mnths now. I had unprotected sex with guy a on dec 6th nd again on dec 13th. He pulled out both times. The ...
A. 20 December 2009: Better to wait a week to ten days following last intercourse to test.... (read in full...)
Sex with 2 guys, messed up on b/c and now wondering if I could be pregnant?
Q. I'm so confused. I guess maybe I should be asking a dr this, but I just wanna kno if I'm bugging or what? I been on the pill for about six mnths now. I had unprotected sex with guy a on dec 6th nd again on dec 13th. He pulled out both times. The ...
A. 20 December 2009: Well, you need to develop some discipline regarding the pills, girl. Nothing wrong with the sex if that's what you want to do, but if you want to avoid unintended pregnancy, then adhere to schedule. Remember that anytime you allow an erect penis ... (read in full...)
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